Sorry it's not what you hoped for Dream. Seems like your little man is really meant to be a big brother to a little sister!
I remember you felt disappointed last time and I'm just going to copy those same pros and cons again this time, because it's still valid. In time you'll really feel better, I just know it, but today is not that day. Hang in there!
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Dream, ahhww!! How are you feeling today? Those first few days will be the hardest. So allow yourself to "grieve" a little. If it takes your DH a little longer, that's fine too! When you're ready (and I know that now may not be that time), here's why I think in a few months from now, you'll absolutely love having a girl.
- Soooo many clothes to choose from (and no, they don't have to be pink!). Any baby department carries like 10 million more girl clothes than boy clothes. And they're seriously beyond cute so just picking up one or two items and imagining a little girl in them will help!
- Your little man will be a big brother to a baby sister! How cool is that! He'll probably be overprotective and such like any big brother would be, but she'll love that about him too. And studies have shown that boys that grow up with a sister treat women (on average) better than those without.
- Your DH will be the center of this girl's world! It's sad but true for us mama's but there really seem to be a bias to many girls preferring their dad over mom. I was like nahhh not going to happen to us, I'm way too cool for that. But nope. My little girl is all about dad and I'm just an afterthought most days lol.
- People probably won't bug you asking when you'll plan to have a third baby to "try for a girl". Something Amber, Tb, and me can probably expect (Tb and me with a boy). No, we don't need to have at least one of each to have a happy family, is probably what we have to end up saying. But as most movies etc. tell the world; you already have that perfect ratio of boys/girls so you probably won't get that question!
- You get to teach her how to become a strong, independent woman! No one better to start that process than her own mama! And I'm sure you'll do an excellent job at that!
- I'm putting this in the + column too... but in a few years, you get to teach her all about her menstrual cycle and such
With all the stuff we know about TTC-related things, I kinda feel that we need to do something useful with that info. So what better way than to teach our girls all about our hormones, what symptoms they might experience when they ovulate, when to expect their periods... things that some other moms would probably shy away from leaving those poor girls to wonder what's going on with their bodies.
Anyway, girls are awesome. And I know this list may not be what you're looking for right now but I'm sure that the moment you hold her, your heart will melt and you can't even imagine wanting her to be a boy. Know that that time will come. But also allow yourself to just feel sad about not getting another boy right now. That's completely fine and normal too!! And hey, we're always here for you if you want to talk!
