TTC 16 months awaiting referral

[Galaxy Girl]

My DH had to produce his on site I shouldn't laugh really poor bloke.
He did get given a folder full of lovely pictures to look at though Not sure I approve with that though

I went with him to the hospital and they did ask me if I wanted to 'assist' him but I found it to cringey and said no and waited in the waiting area for him

Finally managed to get an appointment for my scan results Its on monday so I will be able to take DH SA results with me too and we will FINALLY be refered

Hope your all well

 

[VeryBigMelons]

Ooh thats good news Seems like we're all starting to move forward slowly! Fingers crossed it's all good news for us

 

[Galaxy Girl]

So got DHs SA results but his Dr had no idea what it all meant so i'm still non the wiser really
But from looking at it myself all seems pretty good
I have my appointment on monday so I will see if my DR can make sense of it any better

 

[VeryBigMelons]

Oh how annoying, at least Monday isn't too long way

I'm getting pretty anxious about my appointment on Weds, have no idea what to expect, anyone got any ideas?

Luckily I have found someone to talk to about everything, a friends sister has been down this route and ended up having IVF which resulted in 2 beautiful girls. I've asked her if we could have a chat about everything she went through (on the hush as i still don't want people knowing haha) Thought it would be good to get extra info on what to expect and get clued up on what to say and how to make things move faster! So meeting up with her next Saturday. I shall share any info that might be helpful to you girls too

The downer of next week for me is I actually have to work a shift with my boss It's inevitable that she's going to talk about being pregnant :/ I've yet to mention anything about it to her. I thought for now if I haven't got anything nice to say, don't say anything at all! Haha!

Galaxy have you had your results from your internal/external examination yet by the way?

 

[Galaxy Girl]

My scan results came back 'normal' that is the exact word my Dr used.

So what is wrong with me!?
DHs SA came back very good too!!

VBM yes please keep us updated on what your sisters friend says Im very interested to know what is to come!

Im now waiting for an appointment to come through to see the FS I hope its not to far away
I think the next will be the HSG test to check my tubes arent blocked

Hope your all well

 

[JenniferS92]

VBM Let us know how things go!!

Galaxy Girl at least you know there isn't any problems then, you should just do the deed a bit more ha ha sometimes it just takes time for the good people to have children whereas the people who don't deserve it as much e.g. the 14/15 year olds who have sex one time and pop out a child or the people who do it for benefits and a house like my neighbor across the road .. she's 40 odd and never worked a day in her life she just popped a child out and when that on was off to nursery or school along comes another! (went off on a tangent there!!) get it straight away and for all the wrong reasons!!

PLEASEEE let us know any useful tidbits you find!! i'm so anxious for November to come now!!! just want to get the ball rolling instead of all this wait!!

 

[JenniferS92]

Need to vent! I dont know how to feel! My best friends pregnant with number two she found out today im happy for her but im so damn jelous right now and i want to cry and scream whens it goin to be my turn!!!! My other two friends already have two each. And she will too and then ther is me and oh just like hey we have none

 

[VeryBigMelons]

oh Jenni! Sending you a big big hug!! It's an awful feeling being so jealous isn't it! I had a big cry the other week over my friend/boss, Libby, announcing her pregnancy. I just fell apart as I don't know how much more of this I can take, so many close people around me keeping announcing the BFP's. We just have to try and stay strong and believe that good things come to those that wait. Try not to stress about it too much as stress isn't good for us. At the moment I'm still not sure how to deal with Libby's pregnancy so I just make myself scarce when the subject comes up.

Anyway onto my appointment the other day. Was really just a case of sitting down and talking over all the details, again! She has booked me in for a HSG on 29th to check my tubes are all working ok, she said they can tell you the results there and then for that! If the results are all clear then apparently it's just a case of me not producing the correct hormones which means I'm not ovulating.

They can offer me drugs to stimulate ovulation but said I had to lose 3 more points off my BMI first. I've already lost 2 stone so was a bit annoyed at this. And according to NICE BMI's are advisable and shouldn't be used as a qualifier, so I need to bring this up with them. She also said that we would not be eligible for any IVF as I already have an 11 year old son. I was very disappointed at this and explained the fact that DH is not his biological father, but she said that didn't matter?! I find this incredibly unfair and really rather sexist! So basically she is saying that if DH wants children he should find a surrogate or break his marriage vows?! Having thought about this some more since Wednesday I am going to persue this and challenge it. I referred straight to the NICE guidelines when I got home but it fails to mention ANYWHERE about any previous children!

Do you UK ladies check the NICE guidelines? They are incredibly helpful, and I suggest at some point you have a read through. Also I find that you are taken more seriously if you know what you're entitled to and refer to NICE.

 

[JenniferS92]

Hiya quick message because im doing some course ill reply properly when i get in! My friends having a miscarrige now and i feel bad for being jelous in the begining x

 

[Galaxy Girl]

Sorry being really thick here ... What Is NICE?

 

[JenniferS92]

Galaxy girl; Nice ... www.nice.org.uk it's clinical standards, i'd tell you more but it wont let me on the page at the mo.

As i said i hate being so jealous, i feel even worse now that she has had a miscarriage but again she has made out like she is the only woman in the world who has been through it. I know its upsetting and damn painful because that is what the hosp thought was wrong with me when i was bleeding.

Unfortunately VBM i have come to realize most of the process is just sitting around and talking! glad to hear you have a HSG coming up that will rule any problems out in that area!

I'll be honest that i never even heard of the NICE until you mentioned it and i had a brief look but the web page is playing up now and wont let me have a look.

its the 18th now and i'm so anxious, it still feels like so long until our first appointment and i'm slightly stressing out because you mentioned BMI and i can seem to shift my weight no matter what i do! I don't know how to shift it i've tried weight watchers and slimming world but nothing seems to the job, i've tried just eating soup for a week (not exactly the tastiest diet as i only eat tomato!!)

It also doesn't help that OH has gone off sex full stop and i'm worried hes feeling the pressure as he is worried its all his fault, but i have reminded him of the hosp trip and the fact that it was a poss miscarriage so if it was that then were doing something right (would be the first sign of baby in 3 years)

 

[VeryBigMelons]

Hey Jenni, sorry to hear about your friend, I can imagine it being a rather awkward situation

It does sound like your OH may be succumbing to the pressure of it all. You do the right thing reminding him of your appointments, you have to try and stay positive! It always seems like such a long time when your waiting for something that's so important to you!

Do you know what your BMI is? They told me that it had to be under 30 for any IVF/Fertility drugs. I managed to lose 2 stone from doing exercise, didn't change my diet much, obviously cut out little treats but that was about it. I swam for an hour 3/4 times a week and then did a circuit training class once a week. However the last 3 months I've only been doing half of that as we moved house, and it's further away from everything, and we've been sorting stuff in the house DIY etc. I'm gonna start running soon though. So maybe if you can add some exercise into the mix aswell? There's actually some pretty good workout videos on YouTube that you can do at home

We've decided to try and take a step back to reduce stress, so I wont be using my CBFM for a while, and just DTD for fun it will be nice to try and focus on something else, as we've started to feel like the whole ttc malarky is taking over our lives, so we're gonna have some fun just being a young married couple for a bit. I think it will do us good all round

 

[VeryBigMelons]

Girls, I've had a crazy couple of days!!

was due on sat 19th but hadn't turned up by thurs 24th, and as I had my HSG booked for tues 29th I thought the stress of everything had made it late. You obviously can't have a HSG done if there's any chance you're pregnant so just following the advice I did a pregnancy on thurs. I got a I obviously didn't believe it so I got DH to bring back 2 more. Both of which came back positive too!!! I"m just so shocked because i really wasn't expecting it, and I was cramping as though af was on its way.

Went to the doctor this morning and because of my cramping/twinges being on one side she sent me to hospital, as that could be a sign of it being ectopic. Been prodded and probed all day, had a scan but it's too early on to see much, although she did tell me i have quite a few cysts on my right ovary. Got to go back in 2 weeks for another scan. I really hope I can hold on to it!!!

I know this news may be difficult for some of you, but I just want you to know that there is hope for us!!!! So hang on in there! Even if I don't manage to hold on to this little angel I can take it as a positive that my body has started working I'll keep you updated. Let me know how you're all getting on xx

 

[JenniferS92]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!
so happy for you & actually am not just saying it lol!
hope you hold on to the little angel and GL!!

We're currently 3 days away from OH's SA test and then 1 week 3 days to the results!! so nervous now but excited as well. my Af struck a week later than normal but glad to say that its a normal af and not one that puts me back in hospital, which just convinces me and oh that what happened last time was a early miscarriage, which surely means we both work right?!?!

i hope your feeling ok, hope you keep us updated on whatever happens!! x

 

[JenniferS92]

So oh has decided he cant do tuesday because his boss will moan and can he change it to end of month. Weve been waiting so long and now i have to see if they can change it for us im so upset i dont even know what to say to him

 

[Galaxy Girl]

CONGRATULATIONS VBM

VERY Happy for you. Hope baby sticks for you

 

[VeryBigMelons]

Thanks girls! So far so good. Not had anymore one-sided pain I'm back at the hospital this Friday though for a scan to check everything is ok and it's in the right place.

Jenni how annoying!! Can't believe he's done that to you after you've been waiting so long and how much it means to you both!! Bet you were well upset Do you think he's nervous about doing it? And nervous what the results might say? Maybe that's why he's trying to put it off?

 

[VeryBigMelons]

Been for my follow up scan and everything looks good and is in the right place

Jenni any updates?

 

[Galaxy Girl]

Fantastic news

 

[JenniferS92]

that is brill news

not really anything this end just rearranged the date so waiting till the 13th of dec of his sa apptment xx