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TTC 16 months awaiting referral

Hi all!!

just wanted to see how things are going with you both.. how is our pregnant partner vbm? and GG hows thing with you? any new developments? VBM how far are you?

my oh's SA appointment is on the 13th of dec which is a friday!! FRIDAY THE 13TH!!! but although my and my partner are quite superstitious i cannot bare to change the date again because we have waited long enough. my oh has also changed his attitude ... to begin with he wouldn't come the dr's because he was worried it was his 'fault' as he put it and then of course he has been careful with me after the possible early miscarriage and wont dtd around ov time for the past two witch seasons and he changed the date too.

but know he seems quite happy to go this time around and hes actually hoping that its something to do with him e.g vit & min deficiency etc something easily fixable so to speak because he read through the booklet and knows the process that i may have to go through.

so fingers crossed it goes quite well for us on the 13th of dec which is 10 days after my oh's 22nd birthday xx :hugs:
 
Good to hear from you! I'm not doing too bad, been and had my booking in appointment with my midwife today, I'm due 28th June and I will be 9 weeks tomorrow!! Suffering very badly with morning sickness though, it kicked in at about 5 and a half weeks, but it's all-day sickness :( Started to feel a little more human this last week as I've managed small bits of food! Got to wait for my appointment to come through for my 12 week scan now. Had a scan at 6 weeks and everything looked good, but I'm still a little anxious that something may go wrong after we've wanted this for so long! It just seems to good to be true!

That's great that you've got an appointment booked for SA again. Know what you mean about fri 13th though!! Every little detail seems to matter when it's something so important to you doesn't it?! Fab news that your OH has come round :D It is really hard, the whole process, especially contemplating the possibility that the problem lies with you. So by christmas you should have the results :D Are you any further forward with the fertility clinic doing any tests on yourself?
 
regarding myself the order of things to come are oh's SA appointment on the 13th and on the 19th december we get the results back from that and i have to be there as they will start my proceedings. I think by me (birmingham) they want to get oh out the way because if its an issue with him taking vits and possible medication thats a easy problem to solve and then they move onto me. after this initial session with results from the sa appt i don't think anything will happen until after christmas but at least the balls rolling by this point anyway.

I think any appointment i go to after the 19th will be on my own as i have no family to take (they don't know we are trying and they wont approve anyway) and oh wont be able to get every appointment off work as his boss can be an arse to put it politely haha.

what i am worried about is them asking me to step onto the scales and boom the whole fertility issue is because i weigh a lot, and i dont think it should be just based on how much i weigh as there is bigger women than myself than conceive and carry healthy children all the time. I currently weigh 19st 2 and while i did slimming world i got from 19.6 to 19.2 and cant seem to get past this point, i don't look big but ive read that some women on here have stil been given fertility help even though they are big ladies so there is some hope (i think)

9 weeks yay!! :) my friend who lost her baby last month has found out shes pregnant again so i do hope that things go better for her this time. i do believe we have lost Galaxy girl. how far did you get in fertility proceedings before you had your BFP?

also OV day is 4 days before SA appointment too so hopefully if everything runs smoothly and AF arrives on time we can DTD one last time unassisted by fertility aids before Oh's SA appointment!! here's hoping :) xx
 
Hi Ladies :wave:

Sorry for my lack of replies I have been super busy with work and parents evening! :dohh:

Good news I have my first FS appointment booked!!! 16th December I am so glad it is before Christmas!! :happydance:

Super Glad your OH is coming round with SA Jennifer. DH made out he was cool about it all until it got closer to his appointment then he began to panic as realisation kicked in that it could be down to him. Thankfully his results came back good.
Friday 13th is when I have a christmas party it's not to far away now! Is he producing the specimen on site?

VBM I am very excited for you. Glad the MS is easing slightly. Ive heard eating ginger biscuits help :shrug:

Well AF is due either today or tomorrow for me Had major cramping while at work today so immediatly took some ibroprofen thinking the witch had shown her face but all I have was brown spotting. Keep going to the loo to check :haha: Hoping I don't wake to the witch would rather she came tonight!!

Hope you're both well :hugs:
 
I'm so glad things are starting to move forward with you girls! :D Having appointments booked always makes you feel so much more positive!

Jenni what does your BMI work out at? I think as long as you're proving to them that you're trying to lose weight they will be more than happy to help! I was told Chlomid would be an option at a BMI of around 34 or less and IVF was lower at 30 or less. BUT as I've said before read up on the NICE guidelines and quote them at the hospital!! On there it says weight should be used as a guide and NOT a qualifier!! So be sure they know that you know this.

Hope you manage to get ur ov and DTD before SA :) Is it 3 days you can't have sex for before SA?

As far as my treatment went, I'd had my 5 & 21 day bloods done for 3 months, I had had my initial appointment at the fertility clinic and was booked in for a HSG to check my tubes and ovaries. Never made it for the HSG though. From my bloods it was showing that I wasn't ovulating, and for the cycle before my BFP i actually took soy isoflavones (natural chlomid) and I really believe that this contributed to my BFP as I think it kick started the ovulation process. Have you tried taking soy at all or researched them? May be worth a try? Also DH had been taking wellman conception for 4 months, and think this helped too as it takes 12 weeks for new sperm to regenerate, so they would have made a difference by then. So get him taking those too if he's not already, you need him to keep taking them religiously for at least 12 weeks.
 
BMI is currently around the 40 mark (cant exactly remember the number) and i am really trying to loose weight but im stuck at 19.2 and wont go any lower i don't have a clue what to do!!
Does NICE say that? i had a look but i didn't see that on there!! that will come in handy !!

4 days til OH SA appointment getting nervy now, oh seems to be quite relaxed about it which is a good thing of course :) and yes galaxy girl he is producing on site but ill be there with him (as he has requested) , sure i can give him some sort of inspiration ;) haha. VBM yes its 3 days no sex before SA but at the moment that wont be an issue.

Saying that though my last AF was oct 31st and cycle is around 36 days on average and after DTD on the 24th which according to ov calenders (multiple may i add) online i should have been 'fertile' between the 20-24th, i'm 11 days late and still awaiting AF!!

Not getting my hopes up and not testing either because i know full well my body hates me and af will arrive day after i test (happens every time!!) but it kills me not knowing if it actually worked this time or if its just my body messing around again so i dont know what to do, im 11 days late should i wait longer to see if AF shows?? AHHHH so confused.

we were both considering taking the well man/woman pills to see if there is any actual benefit to them for us i think we may start that after his SA and results now though.

Galaxy girl did you get AF? after spotting?
VBM i havn't looked into soy .. i will now though thanks!

Let me know how things are going and comments on all of the above is much appreciated xx:kiss:xx
 
Jenni I definitely read it in there! When I've got time I'll try and read through it all again and try and find which bit it was under. Try not to get too worked up about it though, they'll want to do all of your tests first before talking about any treatment, so that's even more time for you to keep working at it. I'd really suggest giving a youtube workout video a go, I know it might sound a bit naff but there's actually some really good ones on there and you can do it all in the comfort of your own home :)

Are you sure your dates right with last AF? If it was oct 31st and cycle is 36 days then that would only make you 5 days late as of today? Or am i getting confused? :wacko: Is it ever normal for you to be late? I myself am not an early tester either, had too many occasions of doing the test only to come on later that day!! Haha, we've all been there! However i would definitely test at the 2 week mark! Will have my fingers, well everything, crossed for you!!! xx

P.S. Good luck at SA :)
 
I found it its okay lol it says they advise to be under bmi of 30 not that you have too ... you were right :)

i think ive confused myself lol ive used AF calender app on my phone it says im 11 days late and its normally right im going to have to double check it!!

either way im late still lol .. erm no i dont normally miss, the first time anything had changed was when i was admitted to hospital for suspected mc which was a week before i was actually due. ill have to get back to you haha x
 
Right .. Now im 12 days late ive worked it out properly my average af is 30 days!! I was counting the last af at 36 days as how many this should be ! Haha derrr!! But yes today is 12 days past af and oh has his sa tomorrow!! Hes booked the day off work so he is 100% committed this time!! Hope all is well x
 
Glad you found the bit about BMI :) It's good to have all the info ready because the hospital would NOT tell you that, which is wrong!!

Ok well that would mean you're 13 days late today...... that's quite late Jenni!! I would be very tempted to do a test at 14 days, but thats up to you. Reeeeally hope it's a BFP for you!!! I feel a little bit excited for you! :D Although i know it's hard to get too excited when it's something you want so much, because you always expect to be disappointed. I'll be praying for you anyway!

Let me know how it went today with OH aswell xx
 
Ohhhh You need to get testing!!

I'm terrible If Im 2 days late im testing :haha:

My fingers are xd for you!!

Hope the SA went well for you :)

3 days until my appointment. Eeeeek

:hugs:
 
oh my godddd!!! SA was literally the most embarrasing thing of my life and it was just so damn awkward too!!:nope:
were in the waiting room with other couples and you just know they are all looking down their noses because we look younger than they did and probably wondering why we were there ... and this woman called my oh's name and then didn't say a word so me and oh had all these eyes on us as we went out the room and followed this woman down some winding corridors like sheep!! :haha:

then we got to these rooms she said 'the bells there you need to press it when your done so we can let you back out ... go in here and put sample in this and leave it in the room once youve finished. oh and lock the door after ive gone!!!':dohh:

me and oh (being nervous) sat on the sofa and on opposite ends not quite knowing what we were doing with ourselfs .. i felt so awkward that i was going to just tell him to forget the whole thing and leave i said do they have any mags and they had these folders with these images that are suppose to arrouse oh and i felt awkward because they were all these skinny girls and i'm not and then oh cracks a joke 'well we know why the pages are laminated!' :haha: we both burst out laughing and then sort of just got on with things.

i don't know how he felt because i was awkward!! :wacko: and then we left there wasnt much communication from any of the staff. the same woman came along and collected the sample and showed us to the lifts and that was it for us we were there for about 40 mins including the walking and talking and awkwardness.

but a week wait now until the result date and that's when they will move onto me :saywhat: but finally the first step is done!!!

i think i will test tomorrow just so i can stop thinking of the possibilities because i'm been driven crazy by my thoughts .. especially since we did some xmas shopping today for my friends baby!!! :baby:

galaxy girl i hope everything goes great for you!! :hugs: & vbm i hope babys being nice!!! xxx
 
Alas ladies at 21 & 22 years old we have been told we cant have children gl to you both in your journeys c
 
Alas ladies at 21 & 22 years old we have been told we cant have children gl to you both in your journeys c

Huh??

I had my FS appointment. Had to be tested for chlamydia and pelvic infections via giving a urine sample? Not sure how long I have to wait for the results but I am guessing they done the chlamydia test because of my age.
Anyway got to have CD 2-3 bloods done and CD21 bloods done. Ive already had CD21 bloods done but FS would like to see my levels from one cycle. Also got to have bloods done for Rubella??
Also waiting for an appointment to have the dye put through my tubes to check there is nothing wrong with them or any blockages - This is done by xray apparently.
Again it is a waiting game :dohh:
Oh and AF is due Christmas day :growlmad:


Hope you're both well?? :hugs:
 
Me and oh cant have children naturally galaxygirl and we have around a year or so before we cant gave children with help either
 
Me and oh cant have children naturally galaxygirl and we have around a year or so before we cant gave children with help either

Have you been told this by a FS? Have the results come back with OH SAs?
Sorry if I seem dumb I'm just interested to know how this come about?

Is the reason you can't get help for a year because of your age?
 
Jenni I am so sorry to hear this devastating news! Massive hugs to you!! What is the reason behind being told this?! Is it to do with the SA results? I know a year seems a long time but take this time to enjoy yourselves as a couple. The best thing sometimes is to just take time out and relax, before starting the stressful journey of fertility help.

Galaxy, yes! Looks like things are getting going! All those tests are perfectly normal, it's routine for everyone. The test for your tubes is a HSG, which is what I was booked in for when i got my BFP. Fingers crossed that all comes back clear for you.

I had my 12 week scan last week, and all is well :D Baby very wriggly and a good size. Due date spot on as 28th June 2014! Announced to everyone on Xmas Day :)
 
Jenni I am so sorry to hear this devastating news! Massive hugs to you!! What is the reason behind being told this?! Is it to do with the SA results? I know a year seems a long time but take this time to enjoy yourselves as a couple. The best thing sometimes is to just take time out and relax, before starting the stressful journey of fertility help.

Galaxy, yes! Looks like things are getting going! All those tests are perfectly normal, it's routine for everyone. The test for your tubes is a HSG, which is what I was booked in for when i got my BFP. Fingers crossed that all comes back clear for you.

I had my 12 week scan last week, and all is well :D Baby very wriggly and a good size. Due date spot on as 28th June 2014! Announced to everyone on Xmas Day :)

How exciting!! Well lets hope I get the same outcome Although I have a feeling Im in for a rough journey!!

Yayyy to your scan and baby looking well AND getting to announce on Christmas day!! :happydance:
 
hope you have both had a great christmas :)

glad you've finally been able to break the news VBM!!

Basically oh sa results came in and the FS said it would be impossible for us to conceive naturally and the only way would be ivf but to go through this option you have to be 23!!

so now we are researching into things to help boost oh v.low sa count because we cant afford £3000 to have ivf and i'm to young anyway im only 22 in april !!

we are officially stuck and in trouble and defeated x
 
Sorry to hear that Jennifer.
Yes do your research I am sure there is something out there that will boost your OHs levels. Im surprised the FS couldn't prescribe anything to help?

Stay strong and although you may be feeling down at the moment remember everything happens for a reason and perhaps the break from TTC is what is needed (yeah I bet you want to punch me in the face right now because your desperate for a baby but hold tight it WILL happen)
 

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