hi girls, this is my story. I'm 41, actually nearer 42 now! It's took me a while to meet Mr. Right and we've only been together for 3 years. We're both really desperate to have a baby, neither of us have children. There's been a lot of hitches along the way as I suffer from depression so it's been such a roller-coaster trying to get off medication. Even though the anti-depressants are not officially known to be harmful in pregnancy I just didn't feel right being on medication and TTC. I've had 2 pregnancies, one at 39 (ended in miscarriage in 11th week), one at 40 (ended in miscarriage in 8th week). The first miscarriage I had seen the baby's heartbeat and they said it was just bleeding from the cervix, but later that week I lost the baby. The post-mortem showed a chromosomal disorder called triploidy, where there are 3 sets of chromosomes instead of 2. The main reason this happens is that 2 sperm get in to fertilise the egg instead of one. The first miscarriage was Dec 08, the second was Dec 09, so it has kind of put a damper on Christmas. Still I finally managed to wean off the anti-depressant in August and we've tried since then, no luck. We saw a private fertility consultant in November who gave me the doom and gloom statistics about my age and 60% of my eggs are abnormal.
I cried after the appointment however I picked myself up when I read in the Guardian that pregnancies in women over 40 have reached a record high in the UK this year - 12% of all pregnancies are born to girls over 40! The thing is we conceived really quickly before, it only took 2 cycles each time. For each pregnancy we used the Clearblue OPK and made sure we bd'd on the smiley face day. I realised that all this year we've only been bd'ing once in my fertile week, so the concept of "relax and don't think about it" clearly wasn't working for us. So this month I decided we would go back to our winning formula and we really went for it, with Clearblue OPK, Preseed and a wing and a prayer. I'm also walking every day on top of the usual yoga at home in the evenings. We both take Pregnacare Conception Vitamins and Omega-3. My OH, after a lot of nagging on my part, finally cut back on alcohol, he used to drink a bottle of wine a night! He's even quit wearing boxers and going commando down there, so hopefully the bracing winter weather will be kicking in down there! We've decided to only give it 3 more cycles before going for IVF, but it's only got a 21% success rate. I'm in the nail-biting 2ww now and we're praying for a Christmas bfp...I am sending all you 40s girls babydust for Christmas.
I cried after the appointment however I picked myself up when I read in the Guardian that pregnancies in women over 40 have reached a record high in the UK this year - 12% of all pregnancies are born to girls over 40! The thing is we conceived really quickly before, it only took 2 cycles each time. For each pregnancy we used the Clearblue OPK and made sure we bd'd on the smiley face day. I realised that all this year we've only been bd'ing once in my fertile week, so the concept of "relax and don't think about it" clearly wasn't working for us. So this month I decided we would go back to our winning formula and we really went for it, with Clearblue OPK, Preseed and a wing and a prayer. I'm also walking every day on top of the usual yoga at home in the evenings. We both take Pregnacare Conception Vitamins and Omega-3. My OH, after a lot of nagging on my part, finally cut back on alcohol, he used to drink a bottle of wine a night! He's even quit wearing boxers and going commando down there, so hopefully the bracing winter weather will be kicking in down there! We've decided to only give it 3 more cycles before going for IVF, but it's only got a 21% success rate. I'm in the nail-biting 2ww now and we're praying for a Christmas bfp...I am sending all you 40s girls babydust for Christmas.
Sounds good to me, lol!
to everyone!
