ttc after a d&c

[lilesMom]

oh no im gonna have to come over and gag colleaguzilla for u sweetie, it might take me awhile il have to come by boat xxxxxxxxx least il be there to give u real hugs then xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

You can take my yacht!

will u sail over and pick me up hee hee

 

[mommylov]

That totally makes sense Angel. I dont know if you remember but I found a fertility clinic that couldnt take me until dec 5. Well my dr explained to me the difference between them and her. She said they would take a more aggressive approach to our ttc situation and run all sorts of tests and even do biopsys and things that may not be nes for us whereas the drs office takes a more cycle by cycle aproach. DH and I went home and talked about it and although we want to conceive asap, I also dont want to do testing that may not be needed and that may do harm. Its just so hard. I was just talking with dh and told him that with not knowing what cycle day I am and possibly having to wait until my next cycle, this may get pushed back another month. He said that in the scheme of things, it might be worth it to wait another month if it means that we have more accurate test results and know whats going on. While that is a good point, my due date for our first was 2/13/13 so I think it would push it close to that date and I just dont know how I will be with that. Im already dreading it now and its only Nov. They are going to see what todays test results say and go from there. Seeing as how I had my show today, Im hoping that means that my levels will be back down to 0 soon.

 

[jen435]

Hey ladies!! Im on my break volunteering at the dental clinic for license ce hours. Yuck figured do it now bc it has to be done by march.

Im so sorry about all the ups and downs. I can relate to u laura as im in same exact situation (low income working one day week is prob like ur lowest pay) its so hard and on top we are taking care of their los men are bull headed but these great girls gave good advise! Im definately going to talk to dh too. As for bills I have sooo many dh doesnt help with come dec ill be short due to baby doctor visits. I also want to enjoy christmas shopping ill have to set a limit of 20 on everyone this year I guess.

Laura I completely understand about scan feeling so far away how are ur symptoms? If it helps any I get dull pains in my stomach often. Six monthes left feels like an eternity to meet bubs. I understand if u went for scan sat. Hugs do whats best for u! Sounds like u have a busy.day. A haircut sounds nice! I havemt had one in ages. enjoy ur day sweety! Positive thoughts on Lo!

Angel yay dh comes home tom!! Sorry u have to go grocery shopping but glad ur getting it outta the way! I hope ur hsg test goes well and isnt painful. Ill be thinkin of u!!!

Tash what a great dream! Praying it means Los will be on the way!

Jessica so glad ur taking baby asprin daily (that is a blood thiner) so ill be praying it keeps LO safe and nestled nicely with nutrients. lmk how u make out with obgyn.

Bethany thinking of u and ur angel today sweety!i hope u and dh are okay! miss and love you!

Amy so sorry about ur insensitive collaege. I want to play tricks on her like jim does to dwight un the office. Getting her to talk about new things that will make u smile. Hugs amy your a fighter ti be at work. im glad ur passing naturally and have doctors on ur side. We love you amy and want the world for u! Your next baby is yours.

Horsey im so so sorry for these rough roads of ttc. I pray u will make it through everything and have a beautiful baby to show forth it must happen. Its not impossible. Just heartbreaking trying n going thru it. We love you! We will always be here for u!



For anyone I missed im sorry!

 

[aaronswoman79]

Hola Ladies! Just went over the few pages of posts. A lot of things going on today.

Amy, I am very sorry for what you are going through today . I know its hard, but things are progressing for you. You are getting closer and closer to ttc, and I know your doctors sound amazing and they are going to do everything they can to help. I am so glad you found some caring docs . I hope the medicine is at least helping some for the physical pain. As for the colleaguezilla. She really sounds like a narcissist. I am pretty sure that 15 year old that lives with her has been manipulated to some degree. And I am sure her behavior has alienated plenty of her family. I don't think there is a cure for how she is. It sounds like she is and always will be a victim. This is exactly how my husbands mother is. I think the best thing you can do when she acts like this is not even reciprocate the conversation. Kind of just go back to yourself over and over again until she gets the hint. She has to learn that if she is going to act like this, nobody is going to make the time to hear about her life and problems. Or just plain ignore her, although this sounds hard since she is always in your face or right next to you.

Laura, I would say to follow your gut instinct about the scan. Sure, we are all a bit "paranoid" because of what we have gone through. But who can blame us. And the docs have to understand that you need reassurance. I would push for that scan, just to give you peace of mind. Although I am sure your LO is doing just fine. As for your partner. I don't know if things are done differently over there. Both of you may not be officially married, but have been together for many years, so its just the same right? When me and hubby got together our debts became each other's debts. You are doing the hardest job ever and carrying his and your LO. You shouldn't have to be worrying about all of these other things. Your main job should be to take care and worry about LO, you should tell him this. Men don't seem to get how hard it is to carry a child, and just because some women seem to do it with no problem, doesn't mean for others it is extremely hard. I have my share of issues with hubby, at times I feel we are from different planets.

Angel, so glad that your hubby is coming home soon. And like I told Laura about men in general being from different planets. You should ask hubby when he comes home, what was he thinking with the texts and stuff. He has to know it is hard for you hearing about that lady going into labor, when you yourself are trying very hard to get pregnant right now and have gone through losses. Obviously he didn't do it on purpose but just wasn't thinking. Men men men!

Jen, thanks again for the advice about what your doc told you!! Thanks a million! I am going to discuss all of these things when doc calls me. I am sure she will be against more blood thinners because of the baby aspirin, but doesn't hurt to talk to her about everything. And I will really tell her my concerns about the progesterone levels. Thanks again hon, oh just realized! You and Laura are almost to the end of your 1st trimester!! Yay!! Congratulations!!

Natasha, how is the ttc going. Did you get your + opk yet? I am so excited for you this month!! I hope this is the month for you and your dear fiance!! That way both of us will be really close with due dates. Can't wait!! fx for you this month.

Bethany!! I know you may not be reading this, but wanted you to know I think about you and miss you everyday! I know it must be hard for you today. I am so sorry hon. I wish I could go over there and spend time with you! If only life were that easy. I hope and pray you get your healthy LO in no time hon.

Lozzy, hope you are doing better and get your bfp soon enough.

Horsey I hope this are going better for you and that your df is taking good care of you!

Love all of you!!

 

[mommylov]

Just to give you guys an idea of how close I sit next to colleguezilla ...

 

[jen435]

U should sit in front of her!!! Argh!! Why must u be behind her. I secomd what jessica said!

 

[mommylov]

its kind of hard to see but we actually sit side by side next to a window.... and I was sitting at my desk looking over at hers when I took that pic. We have very high cubicles so its like we are the only two in our little section but we have people that sit over the wall from us (to the left of me and right of her) and then another girls site behind me. I was trying to show how our comps kind of face eachother so when I try and ignore her, it works sometimes but since we kind of face eachother its hard to ignore flaring arms. This pain is pretty intense DH told me that I should take more advil but I already took for this morning at 4 am and its noon here now. I told him Id rather take nothing until I get home and then take a vicodin since the advil doesnt seem to be cutting it.

 

[jen435]

Aww amy im so sorry I wish dh and u could be home together right now Please take it easy I hate that ur in so much pain. I wish I could hug u

 

[mommylov]

I just talked to him and he said he wished this happened this morning or tonight so that we can be at home so I know he hates this too... I hoping with everything just dumping out of me (Sorry tmi) that this goes quick. I was told the intense pain shouldve only lated for an hour but obvits been way longer than that. I just want to be done already

 

[xoxo4angel]

Amy ~ You can take the ibuprofen (anti inflammatory) and the vicodin (pain)...ibuprofen is every 6 hours, so why not pop 400mg-800mg now, then take a vicodin when you get home.

I was just thinking the way you guys are angled it is tough to pretend you don't see her! You poor thing!

My sister's Dr told me since I am over 35 I shouldn't mess around to go see the big dog, AKA a RE. She has not left a stone unturned...I'm game because time is not on my side, so bring on anything to increase my odds! It is also a smaller clinic, so I get plenty of 1 on 1 with the staff. As for your Dr, she sounds amazing and like she is going to take the least invasive approach to get you the best outcome!

Hi everyone! Going to go back and read through more carefully now.

 

[xoxo4angel]

I just talked to him and he said he wished this happened this morning or tonight so that we can be at home so I know he hates this too... I hoping with everything just dumping out of me (Sorry tmi) that this goes quick. I was told the intense pain shouldve only lated for an hour but obvits been way longer than that. I just want to be done already

My natural mc went on for about 6 hours....the most painful part went on for well over an hour, honestly I'd say it went on for 2+ hours. I am shocked you are at work going through this! I was doubled over with the heating pad on...you are Wonder Woman!

 

[TTCSecrets]

Laurai know what you mean laurs, its not money loving its just being independant, im the same, id rather know i have money in my bank for bills than to think someone else has to pay for them for me , its just knowing you can do stuff by yourself

Angel ive ran out of opks So no idea what to do!! My temp dropped today as u see, so thinking im either gonna o late or not o this cycle :/ maybe it will be cd17 like last month? Im on cd14 at the moment, very watery cm, to the point i feel like ive wet myself, tmi, but no ewcm yet :/ what cd are u on?? will look at your chart actually xxx I like having other tempers to help and observe

Amy as awful as it sounds.. im glad you are passing, sorry about all the pain and the uncomfort of it, but its going to end soon babes...So sorry about colleaguezilla, what a dingo ay!! How inconsiderate, i dont like people like that, she should have just said, at least, oh if u need anything uno where i am. im not being awful and i know people have bad afs, god knows i had my share before i got pg, but it is nothing compared to your mc.. i feel like you girls are truly my only friends too, you listen, give valuable advice, and even when we all vent and incorporate eachothers problems into our own but its in a valuable way!!
i have read and been told that CD1 is counted as the first day of full *flow* or gush, so i would say today is cd1.. xx

Jen hope youre okay!! How are you stranger?! xxx

Jess! Yeah i hope this is my month too, but ive got a feeling that i will be saying that for quite a few months to come yet Im on cd14.. Had a positive opk on cd10 i think it was but no temp spike since and no ewcm, no i dont know where im at this cycle :/


Horsey how are you xxx

The rest of you how are you?!?! xxxxxx

Update (sorry for long post )

I am on CD14, no more opks left to use, no temp spike, no ewcm, just lots of really watery cm.. High Soft Open cervix... Feel nauseous, probably other halfs cooking Work was unbearably crap! My tele has no signal, and im tired! No wait, im exhaustipated...

xxx

 

[aaronswoman79]

Amy . I wish we could find a way to take your pain away. I second what Angel said, alternating with vicodin and the advil. And if you feel the pain becomes very bad or unbearable it wouldn't hurt to call your doc, just to make sure everything is passing, and maybe she could prescribe a stronger pain med. Hope that this ordeal is soon to be over for you. Praying that you start feeling better.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Jen ~ Clever thinking to get your licensing hours out of the way now. Hopefully volunteering is more rewarding!

Tash ~ Any news on the Oing?

Laura ~ Hope you like your haircut! How convenient to have someone so close to you as a hairdresser!

Jess ~ You've summed things up well! Men! I can be stubborn at times and this is one of them...he prob doesn't even know I am ignoring him. He probably thinks I am busy! Funny how my passive aggressive tendencies back fire or are always a dud!

Amy ~ I meant to add that I agree with your DH...find out what some of the test say, so they can treat anything that needs to be treated. Its better to know what is going on with your cycles before you conceive because Lord knows we have had our share of loss! I wonder if the Dr is going to have you call in with your next CD1 or if she will count today and start tracking your ovulation in a couple of weeks?? {And a side note on the dreaded Would Have Been Due Date...I will not be pregnant by my first one and the only thought that comes to mind is "This Effing SUCKS!!" Sorry, I keep having these moments, but I'm human and just thought you'd like to know what to expect!}

 

[TTCSecrets]

Angel, ive no idea about O'ing.. Ive ran out of opks, had a temp spike and then a dip today....And i have no ewcm, just lots and lots of really watery thin stuff so dont think im near o yet I actually have no idea what im doing, cd 14, i had a positive opk on cd10 i think it was, but temps dont support this, i actually dont know xxx

 

[mommylov]

Amy ~ You can take the ibuprofen (anti inflammatory) and the vicodin (pain)...ibuprofen is every 6 hours, so why not pop 400mg-800mg now, then take a vicodin when you get home.

I was just thinking the way you guys are angled it is tough to pretend you don't see her! You poor thing!

My sister's Dr told me since I am over 35 I shouldn't mess around to go see the big dog, AKA a RE. She has not left a stone unturned...I'm game because time is not on my side, so bring on anything to increase my odds! It is also a smaller clinic, so I get plenty of 1 on 1 with the staff. As for your Dr, she sounds amazing and like she is going to take the least invasive approach to get you the best outcome!

Hi everyone! Going to go back and read through more carefully now.

Thanks Tash And Jess! I totally dont mean to be all about me. I truely do try and be a good friend and listener but I have my moments and this is one of them where I just cant be that person you vent to about things. Its different with you girls because I feel even though we are all venting about whats going on with us, we are all going through the same thing so its comforting (not to hear your pain but to know that you are amongst a group of girls that know EXACTLY what you are feeling and are feeling the same way or have). I get that she has her issues and wants a friend to talk to but I just think that there is a time and place. I have my headphones on low right now so I can still hear somethings around me and she is sitting at her desk iright now and someone walked up and is visiting with her. I guess she just got a call from her daughter and her daughters friend just passed away from cancer . I feel awful for her daughter's friend's family and my thoughts will be with them. I dont know them, dont even really know her daughter but Im pretty sure she would talk my ear off about that while Im toppled over my desk holding my stomach and thats what I mean. If something like that happened to me, I wouldnt go to someone who has thier own issues going on, I would talk to someone else and let them alone and then maybe tell them when they are better or something but she doesnt think like that. Maybe god knew I couldnt handle anymore right now and sent this other girl down here for her to talk to so she isnt bothering me for the moment.

Angel, thank you so much. Yes, because of the angle of our desk it makes it so hard. I ahev this great view of the Rocky mountians a lake so I love where I sit just hate that I have to deal with her sometimes.
Im so scared to take things and accidentally OD or something. I took 800mg this morning (4 advil) at 4 am. On the bottle it said not to take more that 6 in a day and I was like "Oh no! Ive already taken 4!". So I should be ok to say take 2 more now and then take vicodin when I get home?

You girls are the best, thank you loads!

 

[xoxo4angel]

Angel, ive no idea about O'ing.. Ive ran out of opks, had a temp spike and then a dip today....And i have no ewcm, just lots and lots of really watery thin stuff so dont think im near o yet I actually have no idea what im doing, cd 14, i had a positive opk on cd10 i think it was, but temps dont support this, i actually dont know xxx

I'm having trouble getting your chart to pull up...I click on it and it won't open? I thought it was my computer, but I opened Horsey's to test it out. Maybe another one of these ladies (Amy? Jess?) will click on it and let me know if it opens for them.

Odd you had +ve OPKs and your temp is still fluctuating...are you staying in bed, not talking or moving around and temping at the same time every morning? AND YIKES on running out of OPKs! Do they sell the IC's there?

 

[TTCSecrets]

They do but by the time they are delivered will probably be too late, and im not paying huge amounts of money for them from asda or tesco bugger that!!

Ill put a new link on my chart up one second

Well, at 7am every morning chris wakes me up by handing me the thermometer, so i take it at the same time every morning , i dont speak, dont move dont even breathe lol! Chris just hands it to me and i take temp and then get up and go downstairs so no idea why its fluctuating xxxxx

 

[mommylov]

Jen ~ Clever thinking to get your licensing hours out of the way now. Hopefully volunteering is more rewarding!

Tash ~ Any news on the Oing?

Laura ~ Hope you like your haircut! How convenient to have someone so close to you as a hairdresser!

Jess ~ You've summed things up well! Men! I can be stubborn at times and this is one of them...he prob doesn't even know I am ignoring him. He probably thinks I am busy! Funny how my passive aggressive tendencies back fire or are always a dud!

Amy ~ I meant to add that I agree with your DH...find out what some of the test say, so they can treat anything that needs to be treated. Its better to know what is going on with your cycles before you conceive because Lord knows we have had our share of loss! I wonder if the Dr is going to have you call in with your next CD1 or if she will count today and start tracking your ovulation in a couple of weeks?? {And a side note on the dreaded Would Have Been Due Date...I will not be pregnant by my first one and the only thought that comes to mind is "This Effing SUCKS!!" Sorry, I keep having these moments, but I'm human and just thought you'd like to know what to expect!}

Im not quite sure what she is going to want do. I talked to the nurse this morning and she said that she would ask her and get back to me so Ill find out. The nurse did say that its harder to know where exactly we are unless we wait to have one period so she thinks thats what the dr will say she wants to start testing. The dr did tell me at my last visit that the beauty of mc naturally is that you can try right away but what is the point if I can concieve easy but there is a problem either with the eggs or with my oven that needs meds, then I would like to know before so that we can prepare. Im so sorry that you have to go through the same thing with your due date. I just hope that we are able to cherish our little ones in our hearts and find peace with everything and go on. I guess the anticipation is what makes it worse too. Are you going to be going on your NY trip during that time? Hopefully the beautiful city and lights will distract you.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Amy prescription strength ibuprofen is 800mg...it says to take it every 6 hours. So you are MORE than fine to take 2 of the over the counter (200 mg) if you wanted to. There are people out there who abuse medications and because of them pharmaceutical companies have to put restrictions on EVERYTHING. Too much of anything is bad for you...