ttc after a d&c

[mommylov]

Bethany,I love tv too!!! Nothing beats a nice cup of tea on a cold day/night with a blanket, my furry little babies and the tube! hehe We have to record most of our shows on DVR because I never get the chance to watch them on the night they come on but I love a lot of the shows mentioned!!!

Hiya Jen! Im ok dear, how are you? Glad to here it wasnt something serious and its indegestion... and that could be a great sign!! I started swimming at the gym last night but I think I caught a cold I was sneezing all morning yesterday and thought it was just allergies but then I had a hard time breathing right while swiiming and couldnt stop snezzing so I left early. Didnt want to get anyone else sick. Then came home and still had a hard time, took some meds and crashed. This morning I feel like crap but had to come into work since I have sooo much to do but soooo dont want to be here.

Laura, been thinking about you too ... hope everything is ok and let us know how youre doing dear!

Horseypants & Aaronsmom how are ya?

Cheryl, are you still on here?? Hows the pregnancy going?

Hope everyone else is doing well and have a great day!!!

 

[Storked]

WAH I miss tea. Ice cold tea. Mmmm.

 

[Storked]

Oh yeah I wish we had DVR! Maybe when we move I can get the hubby to switch to dish network

 

[mommylov]

awww sorry forgot about the tea If it makes you feel better.. I usually drink tea for the most part when Im sick...

Yes, we just got dish at the house and its been pretty nice so far. DH and I battle over shows all the time so now we can both record stuff and I can go upstairs and watch my recordings and he can watch his downstairs... its great! You'll love it!

Why oh why is it not friday yet?!?!! I took meds last night an dstill feel loopy from them... so want to go to sleep...Ahhhhhh... sleeeeppppp

 

[Storked]

I snuck some tea when I was pregnant. Felt so bad
Yes I need dish. Then I won't have to be committed to shows at a certain time- LOVE!
What meds are you taking? I hope you have a nice nap!

 

[lilesMom]

im catching up but in relation to people saying life changes when u have kids, we bloody know that and it changes for the better thats why we want um a**holes hope ye feeling better now girls, some people r so insensitive, had to answer that bit and now il read on, my brain is pure mush, i cant keep anything in my head for more than 3 secs, pure gold fish.
i was minding my sis kids over night yest ( bad timing being sick but had promised her for ages ) , but i was rocking the littlest girl to sleep last nt in my arms and it really hit me again, that should be me soon. no fair she is a little angel. i really want the ttc go ahead soon but im feeling worse and worse and dont think its likely.
they got second of 3 testd back and my copper levels r up, but they lost d results of the test that my doc thinks it is so i had to go back to docs office yest for more blood tests to redo, so at least another fortnight for more results.
il be grand again tomoro but i am so tired tonight that it seems worse. xxxx

 

[lilesMom]

Horseypants you and my husband would get along so well- he LOVES True Blood (I love the books so I have a hard time with the show lol)! We also started watching Game of Thrones/ I highly recommend
Oh and he watches The Office! I do occasionally
Deadly Women is about female murderers. My family loves watching stuff like that. Or medical shows. My husband not so much hehe.
Oh and Mad Men is good! Do you like Dexter and Sherlock?

ive read all the true blood books and wathced al series ove it, im reading game of thrones at d mo, goin on to book 2 now, great as books xx

 

[lilesMom]

girls fingers for ur bfps this month xxxxxx
and i could never be jealous of ur bfps cos we al in d came boat, i can only be jealous of those who dont appreciate it, xxxx
and yeah it makes me sick when people complain about being pregnant too, i didnt complain even though i had really bad nausea and food aversions when pregnant and i most def wont be complaining next time round when i hopefully get there.
a girl i know just announced preggers and she had just split up with her boyf and is still drinking while pregnant, and is saying to me sure il only have a few and il only drink wine i be grand, i feel like punching her life is totally unfair at times. il probably smother my kid too much after all this crap xxx

 

[lilesMom]

sorry billion posts laura strikes again, bethany tea is nothing sweetie, dont worry ur pretty head about it, it wont do any harm. people inject herione and have babies, im sure tea is fine xxxxx for some starnge reason we r just very unlucky and i dont mean that lightly xx

 

[aaronswoman79]

Hi everybody. I just went over the thread and read all of your responses to my story. You are the first women to really understand what I am going through,and it was very comforting to read your responses. Thank you so much for the condolences and well wishes. I really appreciate it. I normally never go onto forums or message boards. I have always been iffy because I am such a private person. Although I know I can be anonymous on the internet, I am still not use to making myself vulnerable and opening up. But I can say it has really helped coming on here. To everyone on here who has had a miscarriage, I can honestly say that having this miscarriage and all of the problems that came with my last pregnancy really helped me to understand what so many women go through just to bring their precious little baby into the world. I feel like I took for granted my last 2 pregnancies after I lost this one. What is weird is with this pregnancy from the beginning to the end (at 18.5 weeks), I was scared to death to lose the baby. And my worst fears came through. I hate that this had to happen at almost the half way point. But I know I can't do anything about it now. I had the d&c 3 weeks ago, and I feel scared to death that I will never get my period again (I know that may sound irrational). I am also scared to death that I will continue to have miscarriages. I live in the SF Bay Area and the doctors told me that the average first time mothers here are in their mid thirties, and that I am still young, but I am scared that my age 32 has something to do with my problems. Maybe I am just full of irrational fears. What also kills me is that me daughter who is almost 13 is now telling me that when she grows up, she is scared to ever get pregnant and have kids because of all the pain she saw me go through. I try not to show a lot in front of my daughters because I know they are affected. My 6 year old knows that her little brother went to Heaven, but she still thinks I am automatically pregnant again, and she still thinks the baby will be born at Christmas time. We keep telling her that people don't automatically get pregnant again, but I think she is confused and really wants a little brother or sister badly. What made me sad is during my pregnancy she only wanted me to have a little girl, and didn't like the idea about me having a boy. Now that I lost this little boy, she told me right after, "Mommy this time I don't care if you have a baby boy or girl, as long as the baby is healthy and doesn't die" I though it was so sweet, but it also broke my heart because now she is scared about this happening again.

 

[mommylov]

Bethany, taking good ol OTC NyQuil. It helps but I just hate bring sick

Laura, they lost the results?!?!? Wth!!! So sorry dear and sending you lots of hugs. You will get your bfp soon I just know it! Keep that head up!! When are you to expect these next results?

Aaronsmom, I totally understand. I too am a very private person. My friends sometimes think I'm overboard or too paranoid but the girls in here are just sweethearts and have given me so much peace. This is the first forum that I have ever joined and am so glad I picked this one! Don't lose faith, you will have your lo that you long for. I'm going to be 32 next month and have no children yet but I know it's going to happen for us all!!

 

[jen435]

Aw Amy wouldn't it be amazing if your bfp came just in time for your 32 bday! One can pray for that. I hope the nyquil helps any your feeling better fast!
Bethany must agree with Laura tea didn't harm your LO. I know lots of people that drank tea and soda the whole time they where pregnant and the baby's were fine. I just wouldn't do that now unless its decaffinated just because of what happened. So i understand.
Laura how on earth did the lose your results you waited forever for them I hope these come back quickly and you have your go ahead soon. So glad you where able to come on today! Hope your feeling 100% by tomorrow after a good nights sleep. You are right we will have our LOs and rocking them to sleep. I long for that moment. Never got to do that with a baby yet.
Arronswomen so glad you feel comfort here! Its so sweet for you daughter to say that! She is going to make such a great older sister and both your daughters will know how special a child is and how special their life is. it really does take time to heal you will always love your son but you must believe he wants you to be happy. Your so young and you will conceive again and have a healthy LO. I would try talking to your daughter maybe get their true feelings out. It may help you and the family heal together.
Horseypants how are you? Did you test today? Babydust to you! Don't lose hope you'll have your bfp soon!

 

[Storked]

Laura you are so right about people's mean comments! I am upset that they lost your results I hate that you have to wait! I will be so happy when you are cleared on TTC
Oh and the tea was just guilt because we don't drink it in my religion. I was being bad

Aaronswoman, I have never been into forums either but I absolutely had to find an outlet for what I was feeling after my loss. The only person who knew what I was experiencing was my only sister to miscarry- and she was heavily pregnant at the time so...she didn't want to talk to me about loss, ya know? I don't blame her because I didn't want to talk to pregnant people. I just felt isolated but this forum has made me feel so much more whole inside. It helped with the healing to have others to talk to and this board in particular is chalk full of wonderful ladies.

Oh Amy I love NyQuil and DayQuil! So awesome when sick and don't want to see the doctor

Jen, it is true I am also being so cautious this time around. If AF comes I will indulge in some energy drinks to drown my sorrows but aside from that...what won't you do for a healthy LO? I really hope that all of our sacrifices will pay off soon. That we will have our rainbows.

 

[horseypants]

Being bad reading while engineering an on air program

I have tested like mad all bfn. Thank u.

 

[Storked]

Aw holding out hope horseypants! Whatcha reading? I just went and bought some Nora Roberts books. I am in a romance book though I have to finish a travel book first. Dang book moods

 

[jen435]

Fxd horseypants. I couldnt get the nerve to test today my temps still down steady though. I actually feel so sick went to lay down and acid reflux started kicking in almost vomitted (sorry tmi). May test in am but so scared. Thinking my bodys playin tricks on me. I hope u get ur bfp! Your still testing early.

 

[Storked]

Prayers Jen

 

[lilesMom]

aarons woman glad ur back and are holding up as well as u can be under horrible circumstances. just being understood makes all the difference thats why i love here. and u dont have to be afraid to sound mental cos we all have the same sometimes depressing thoughts on it all, its part of the grieving process. i am petrified too but less so as time goes on i think. we just have to keep our fx that all goes well for us next time honey xxxx
ur kids will be ok too hon, its still fresh and raw for them too, give them time and they will be flying. xxx
il be 32 in sep and i dont worry about my age, i dont think it has anything to do with it hon, before 35 should make no difference at all they say. i have 36 nieces and nephews and lots of them were born to my siblings when much older. my mom had me at 40 and im perfect if i do say so myself xxx
it was just one of those horrible things that unfortunately happens in life sometimes.
i know what u mean though i will cherish my next pregnancy so much more than i would if i had no trouble this time. xxxxxxxxxxx
take care , big hugs and dont be a stranger, we r all here for u xxx

 

[lilesMom]

amy should be 2 weeks ish, thanks a mil xxx
u r a sweetheart and we r so glad u found us too xxxxxx
when is ur bday if u dont mind me asking , im gonna be 32 on 6 next month x

jen thanks hon i know they r useless here with stuff like that , so sloppy .
i rang the doc and she asked me to come in again today for another urine test, i slept 14.5 hrs last nt and im still tired i dont think infection is gone, she is gonna send sample to d lab, she is afraid to give me more antibs cos she thinks they may not be working for me. so at least i am getting the help i need now and i do feel a little better today so thats a plus xxx
oooohhh jen i just read more, i soo sooo hope u get ur bfp , soundng hopefull xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx fx fx fx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
it is the nicest feeling when a little baby trusts u so completly and falls asleep in ur arms playing with ur hair. they r just so innocent and trusting that u cant help wanting to look after um hope u get it for urself real soon xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

bethany thanks sweetie, it will pay off, i am a lot more optimistic today fx for u too babe. its gonna happen for u soon and we will all be jumping for joy with u
i dont think a little caffeine will hurt really chick, there r far worse things out there than caffeine having said that i stay away from it as much as i can cos of low thyroid but i do love red bull very occasionally, it makes me so hyper yummy

horseypants still early days isnt it? fx chick, i so hope it happens for u this time too, we need some exciting good news, no pressure though ha ha xxxxxx best o luck with more poas babe xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

Bethany, I am sooo over dr apts right now so NyQuil WAS the best option for me and a great way to avoid the dr right now .. you hit the nail right on the head! lol How are you books coming along? Hopefully some good reading. OH, and about the tea... dont feel bad. I know you feel guilty more so for religious reasons... Im sure you didnt intenionally try and do "harm" by having some and you will be forgiven. I grew up in a hindu house and both parents are very religious and my brother and I... not so much but coming from my extremely religious mother, she said all you can do is your best. Practice what you preach, treat others the way you would like to be treated and lead by example. She is a very wise woman hehe You have such a good heart!

Horseypants, fx for you hun. Keep testing and I second what Jen said... dont get down... is coming soon!!

Jen, thank you sweetie! Im feeling better today. Got lost of rest last night! Im not sure if DH tried to wake me up at some point. I know he does that to make me take my prenatal vitamin if I forget but I thought I was dreaming. Realized this morning that I didnt take it last night . How are you doing??

Laura, Im still in awe that they lost your test results and now you have to wait ANOTHER 2 weeks... grrrr Are you feeling any better? Im hoping you continue to rest and are getting better with each day. Oh, and my bday is on the 17th... yay virgos!!! heheh

Aaronsmom, how are you holding up doll? Hope youre ok!

Lots of love to you ladies!!