ttc after a d&c

[mommylov]

OMG!! I cant believe you just said angel cards.... I just ordered a smaller set for my desk at work and a "bigger" set for home.. I LOVE them!!!!

Bethany, I feel the EXACT same way, its terrifying! But like Laura said, we gotta stay pos... and it WILL happen, its just a matter of WHEN not IF. I think by all of us being here and being strong for eachother when its hard to be strong for yourself is whats going to help us get through this. Do whatever you can to take away the stress doll. I was actually going to ask, did you ever go back to the gym after getting the membership? The days I get a good work out I find I sleep hard too... does it help you? Meditating is great too... I just get distracted so its hard for me sometimes to do and it seems like my mind never shuts off

 

[Storked]

I gain it easy but losing is hard. I will work out hard but I don't "diet", just try to eat better. No reason why I haven't lost weight since marriage though since I make my meals and know they are healthy. Ugh

 

[Storked]

I have been to the gym me and DH go at around 10 because it is empty. I like it!

 

[lilesMom]

i know its a horrible phrase isnt it, like its no big deal its not a baby, just a nonviable pregnancy , and the diff is .......... yucky yucky!!!! our doc that we had to talk to in d hosp after kept making jokes and waiting for us to laugh, um we werent in a very jokey mood surprisingly!!!

 

[mommylov]

I didnt have any bleeding so it was a real shock for me.. .I just feared it since my friend had gone through it earlier in the year and I guess just psyched myself out. She told me as hard as it is to stay busy and not let the idea of getting pregnant hinder you from your daily activities. Still stay healthy and take your vitamins but be zen.. as much as possible. Normally I would say thats easier said than done but since she went through the EXACT same thing and is now 5 months pg, shes gotta be on to something right?

 

[lilesMom]

amy i love angel cards, were u on here when i won nearly 1500 on lotto a little bit back, i fell asleep while doin angel cards and woke up with numbers in my head and wrote them down, i used um to do lotto and won 5 out of 6 nums

 

[mommylov]

i know its a horrible phrase isnt it, like its no big deal its not a baby, just a nonviable pregnancy , and the diff is .......... yucky yucky!!!! our doc that we had to talk to in d hosp after kept making jokes and waiting for us to laugh, um we werent in a very jokey mood surprisingly!!!

Same here! Well it was the guy hooking up my IV when I was going into surgery... he said "Show me your teeth". My mind was going a million miles a minute that I literally showed him my teeth as if I was at the dentist.. later I realized what he was trying to do. Ugh!

 

[lilesMom]

argh my likes gone again, like amy xxxxxxx
i had the tiniest bit of spotting which went away when i rested, iw as sure it was just one of those things and all was gonna be fine sadly no

 

[Storked]

Laura that is a horrible phrase. They try to invalidate our feelings toward our babies. Foster detachment. Don't work!
Amy, sounds like she is onto something! Easier said than done but my cat helps calm me because I snuggle him when my arms ache for a baby. After my loss I was really sad that I didn't have a doll that I could rock in my rocking chair. I thought I was going crazy. But lots of people cope in different ways and that is just me coping

 

[mommylov]

Oh wow!! No I wasnt here yet I dont think... thats amazing!!! Its done me wonders too.. Bethany, dont know if you are a big Amazon fan (I shop on there A LOT lol) but they have the angel cards I got for me and my bff... https://www.amazon.com/The-Original-Angel-Cards-Inspirational/dp/0934245509

I LOVE THEM!!! The other ones (the BIG ones) I got for home were Celestial Wisdom Cards: Guidance from the Angels by Juliet Hubbs

 

[lilesMom]

bethany i started sleeping with my childhood teddy when OH was in ur country after my loss i havent told anyone else that , im 31

 

[mommylov]

I used my boys too and held them like babies.. .I did that for the past 5 years we've had them but it was extra comforting after our loss

 

[Storked]

I don't know what Angel cards are hehe

 

[mommylov]

Laura, we are both turing 32 next month!!!!

 

[lilesMom]

i just needed cuddles from someone r something

 

[Storked]

Good to know I wasn't alone in the desire to just...hold on. It is comforting!

 

[lilesMom]

i typed in 32 by accident first and then thought hold up im still 31 for now
angel cards r speacail decks of cards u get with angel messages on them, u can get loads of dif types, go for ones u like and r drawn to, ayone can read um , no right r wrong way to do it , just go with ur gut with um x

 

[mommylov]

They are basically inspirational messages of guidance... you have cards with words on them like "Patience" and "Openness" and a book that comes with it that tells you messages related to the card you pull. Everyone may use them differently but what I do is if Im having a tough moment, I focus on what is giving me this feeling and I run my fingers throught the little cards in the box, pull out a card and look it up in the book. It has always been dead on in giving me great peace and advise.

 

[Storked]

Sounds good guys

 

[mommylov]

heheh Laura we wrote at the same time... we all are at this point LOL

Yes, they are really great. A small price to pay for some inspirational words