TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

I feel your pain! I have to be so careful what I'm eating as so many things trigger off awful heartburn, mainly tomato based acidic meals like baked beans or tomato soup/sauce. I won't be sorry to see the back of heartburn that's for sure! Xxxx

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Creative, can't believe you are now an egg plant, time is flying. It is a nightmare having to watch what you eat and suffering with heart burn.

DS seems a lot better today, I was quite worried yesterday.

Quiet day today catching up on jobs.

 

[josie1234]

AF seems a bit scant - not much there overnight and today.

 

[Oasis717]

Well I'm so pleased I def have hospital phobia as my bp was completely normal at the mw's, I'm v lucky in that she's so lovely and made me laugh and put me at ease and it was fine heard baby's hb, urine ok and measuring 35 weeks not 33! V pleased xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

That's great Becks, blimey time is moving along so quick for you now eh? Such a relief for you.

 

[Oasis717]

I have to admit Jo I am v relieved, the last thing I wanted was to be taken in to hospital and I was 90 per cent sure it was just my hospital phobia, mw thinks I should have a home birth! Xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

That would be nice, your MW sounds lovely, are you thinking about it?

 

[Oasis717]

She really is lovely, she gave me a kiss and a cuddle when I left I'm really lucky to have her, I would like a home birth it's just the bad experience with Caseys birth that puts me off but I have all the way to the end to decide, she said even if I decide home birth I can still change my mind once I'm in labour, they have a birthing centre at the hospital which I'm also considering with lots of facilities and birthing pools etc xxxxx

 

[Oasis717]

The upside of a home birth is I'd most likely get my lovely midwife attending she said xxxx

 

[Creative]

The upside of a home birth is I'd most likely get my lovely midwife attending she said xxxx

There is a homebirth section on here and many of the girls are on a facebook group (private) https://www.facebook.com/groups/HomeBirthersAndHopefuls/566240953411816/?notif_t=group_comment_reply

I can recommend the book Homebirth by Sheila kitzenger. It's very helpful in its advice and even if you are only having a hospital birth, the passages on what happens to your body in labour are incredibly helpful. Fear is the biggest problem to women in labour and the more you can understand about what is happening to your body the smoother your labour will be. I can honestly say that birthing in your own home is an amazing and special thing. There is none of the travel, panic etc and then when it's all over the midwife clears up and leaves your happy little family in their own space enjoying the moment.


What went wrong with Caseys birth?

 

[Creative]

Hope you don't think I am pressuring you. The most important thing about birth is that you trust the people around you and that you relax. That can be in a home or in a hospital. You also need to have your OH on board (although not all women do!)

 

[Oasis717]

Oh no definitely not I really value your input as it helps me to decide! The thing I've felt most in each birth is fear and loss of control and I know from everything I've seen and read that staying calm and in control is massively important, I really want this birth to be different from the rest, with Casey I was induced 12 days over my due date, it was incredibly painful and I didn't have the best care from the midwives at the hospital, I ended up with a midwife that had me pushing for hours whilst I begged her to listen to me, that something was wrong, she didn't and just had me pushing and pushing in agony for hours, she even took my gas and air away at one point and told me I wasn't pushing properly, Casey was facing the wrong way and stuck fast, this wasn't discovered until a wonderful doctor came to my rescue after nearly 12 hours of pain and contractions with no pain relief and I ended up having emergency forceps, the midwife only called for help when Caseys heart rate dropped and he showed signs of serious distress. It was a terrible experience and took me a long time to get over, dh is worried about a home birth in case the same happens again xxxxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

I couldn't have home birth even if I wanted due to insulin dependent GD and previous section .

I love the feeling of safety and security the hospital offers.

As I've said a while ago, I was in for 5 days with DS and it was so nice. 3 meals a day brought to my bed and nothing to worry about except me and baby !

Whilst in labour this time I will be on an insulin and glucose drip and once baby is born we will remain in hospital for 24-48 hours as they need to moniter baby's sugar levels.

I'm hoping they keep me there for the 48 hours!

 

[josie1234]

Sounds really traumatising Becks, no wonder you are worried but I am sure with the MW that you have now, she will look after you and give you all the options. Like you said, if you have home birth, she will be around.

Well still no AF today, no spotting or anything so only had it yesterday for a day (if that). Didn't really get up to much today, lazy day. Had a fruit and veg box delivered today for first time so need to look up some recipes lol. Might take DS to cinema tomorrow. Hope you all have a lovely weekend, guess we won't be hearing much from Dawn (nudge nudge) xx

 

[Oasis717]

It was Jo, hopefully I won't have that experience again, I just looked at my ticker and it reminded me that in my scan Thursday the sonographer was showing us Brooklyns eyelashes which we couldn't believe we could see, he was facing us and as we were watching we saw him blink, I couldn't believe you could actually see that it was amazing, you could see his eyes open, eyelashes everything! Xxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

It was Jo, hopefully I won't have that experience again, I just looked at my ticker and it reminded me that in my scan Thursday the sonographer was showing us Brooklyns eyelashes which we couldn't believe we could see, he was facing us and as we were watching we saw him blink, I couldn't believe you could actually see that it was amazing, you could see his eyes open, eyelashes everything! Xxxxx

That sounds amazing.

Got my last scan next week and they'll also give me an induction date.

Well I can't quite believe it. I am on a thread for parl ladies, over the months lots of babies have been born and pictures posted. Me and one other lady are now the next ones due!

 

[Oasis717]

I know Lisa it just goes to show age definitely does not stop you and will happen for everyone xxxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Wow, amazing Lisa, won't be long hun xxx

 

[dancareoi]

How is everyone today. Another week over.

It will be Our wedding anniversary on Friday - 16 years

Also my birthday on 27th - 42nd!

A chance, I suppose, baby could come on one of those dates !

14 days to go.

 

[FindingKismet]

Hi guys, this morning I was on the B&B forum and one of the ladies posted a link to her TTC vlog on YouTube. I watched her videos and loved them! She was just chatting about OPKs and such, and it was so nice to see a face and hear a voice to go with the great support we find here on the forum.

I was inspired. She is very young (only 20) and I got to thinking I could do something similar for the over 40 crowd. I'm camera-shy and tend to get bogged down in planning/paranoia, so before I could psych myself out I just did it. I made a little outline, figured out how to record with my webcam, and posted my first vlog.

If you want to check it out, here's the link https://youtu.be/uGYhKkTRS7E

Let me know if you have any suggestions.