TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Left wonderin]

Jo fingers crossed for a temp rise tommrow Becks your the first person to reassure me about delivery with your post THANKYOU for that

 

[Oasis717]

I'm so pleased to have made you feel better, honestly even the contractions were manageable, painful yes, but a completely bearable pain, but the best advice I can give is this time I stayed completely calm, I felt in total control, it's really true the more calm you are the better it is. I honestly almost enjoyed the labour! Xxxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Regina, try not to worry about the birth, he's it may hurt but the reward at the end is sooooo worth it and I would do it again tomorrow if I could.

Caitlin seems to be in the mend. 11 weeks old today.

 

[Left wonderin]

Thanks girls I have only recently begun to even think about the labour .... Your reassurance will be required over the next 12 weeks as a newbie to this and a first timer lol... All advise welcome

 

[josie1234]

Lisa - I love the pics, always smiling. Bet you can't stop giving Caitlin lots of cuddles and kisses. Adorable.

Regina - you will be ok. By the end of pregnancy you are dying to see what your baby looks like in the flesh. Even if you have a birth plan, be flexible and keep calm. I am so excited for you.

 

[Oasis717]

My birth plan went out the window lol but yes keeping calm is the absolute key and strangely this time I found it easy to do that compared to my other labours, I think I just got myself in the right frame of mind and whilst contractions obviously are painful they were much much less painful this time compared to when I panicked. Every time I got one I went completely silent and concentrated on breathing, staying calm and getting through it, knowing it would soon pass. When it came to the end and the contractions were at their strongest, pushing really does relieve the pain. I really would love to do it again xxxxxxxx
Lisa she's SUCH a lil cutie. She's got the most beautiful smile. So pleased she's on the mend bless her xxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

5 mins after taking that she pewked everywhere.

She won't settle now and is hungry. Struggling with bottles for some reason

 

[Oasis717]

Oh no poor love, is her nose blocked Lisa? I remember dd having a terrible cold as a baby and struggling with feeding, saline drops before each feed were a godsend. It's such a shame. Xxxxxxxx

 

[Creative]

Thanks girls I have only recently begun to even think about the labour .... Your reassurance will be required over the next 12 weeks as a newbie to this and a first timer lol... All advise welcome

Birth is natural.
The pain is a means to an end.
Each wave of pain is getting you nearer to seeing the wonderful life you have created.
read as much as you can about the process. Information is a prescription against pain.
Picture in your mind your cervix opening up and your uterus lifting. Imagining what is happening whilst undergoing each pain means that you are actually helping your body to do it's job.
Fear is inhibitive to labour. It stops the process and makes your muscles tense.
Be as upright as possible. Gravity plays a huge part in easing a birth. Imagine trying to poo lying flat on your back, you'd have trouble. Imagine being constipated and lying on your back trying (that's even worse) Instead you are upright on a toilet with your muscles being supported and you can then do what you need to with good old gravity being given a helping hand. Birth is much the same. The babies head pressing down increases the pressure and moves the cervix quicker and more efficiently.
Practice listening to soothing music and relaxing into it with controlled breaths. Play the music over and over again in the run up to your birth and then when you are in the birth process play the same music. Your body will instinctively relax.

 

[josie1234]

Aw Lisa - hope she is ok, bless her. I really hope she manages to keep some milk down.

How is Brooklyn today Becks?

Chilled morning before I go to work at 1 pm. What are you all up to today?

 

[dancareoi]

Thanks girls I have only recently begun to even think about the labour .... Your reassurance will be required over the next 12 weeks as a newbie to this and a first timer lol... All advise welcome

Birth is natural.
The pain is a means to an end.
Each wave of pain is getting you nearer to seeing the wonderful life you have created.
read as much as you can about the process. Information is a prescription against pain.
Picture in your mind your cervix opening up and your uterus lifting. Imagining what is happening whilst undergoing each pain means that you are actually helping your body to do it's job.
Fear is inhibitive to labour. It stops the process and makes your muscles tense.
Be as upright as possible. Gravity plays a huge part in easing a birth. Imagine trying to poo lying flat on your back, you'd have trouble. Imagine being constipated and lying on your back trying (that's even worse) Instead you are upright on a toilet with your muscles being supported and you can then do what you need to with good old gravity being given a helping hand. Birth is much the same. The babies head pressing down increases the pressure and moves the cervix quicker and more efficiently.
Practice listening to soothing music and relaxing into it with controlled breaths. Play the music over and over again in the run up to your birth and then when you are in the birth process play the same music. Your body will instinctively relax.

Sounds excellent advice.

During my two labours the breathing really helped

 

[Oasis717]

Hi Jo, hope you're ok? Brooklyn is having an off day! Won't sleep longer than 20 mins and not happy when awake, hope he's not getting ill xxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Thanks girls I have only recently begun to even think about the labour .... Your reassurance will be required over the next 12 weeks as a newbie to this and a first timer lol... All advise welcome

Birth is natural.
The pain is a means to an end.
Each wave of pain is getting you nearer to seeing the wonderful life you have created.
read as much as you can about the process. Information is a prescription against pain.
Picture in your mind your cervix opening up and your uterus lifting. Imagining what is happening whilst undergoing each pain means that you are actually helping your body to do it's job.
Fear is inhibitive to labour. It stops the process and makes your muscles tense.
Be as upright as possible. Gravity plays a huge part in easing a birth. Imagine trying to poo lying flat on your back, you'd have trouble. Imagine being constipated and lying on your back trying (that's even worse) Instead you are upright on a toilet with your muscles being supported and you can then do what you need to with good old gravity being given a helping hand. Birth is much the same. The babies head pressing down increases the pressure and moves the cervix quicker and more efficiently.
Practice listening to soothing music and relaxing into it with controlled breaths. Play the music over and over again in the run up to your birth and then when you are in the birth process play the same music. Your body will instinctively relax.

Great advice thanks , ok from now on no negative thoughts about it only positive ones . Afterall it is a natural process and your right once I understand what is happening in my body there is nothing to be scared of )

 

[josie1234]

Hi Becks

Yes, I am ok, thanks for asking. Chilled morning, lounging about. Few hours working in gym reception this afternoon and then spin class at 7 pm.

 

[dancareoi]

Becks, cAitlkn was like that last Wednesday. She hasn't been sick today .

Regina , also another way to look at labour/birth - if it was that bad families would only have 1 child . Me, Becks , Karen and jan have about 15 between us!

Jo, will be watching your chart with interest.

Took this earlier, my favourite so far



Well, a line has been drawn under the baby making for good, DH had snip today. Has to take it easy for a couple of days. A tiny little red mark each side, I was like, is that it two little marks(seems a lot of fuss to me) told him I've been prodded and poked numerous times over the last 12 years and has my stomach cut open twice!

Felt really sad over the weekend as I didn't want the finality of it, but although I felt sad earlier, I also feel a weight has been lifted, knowing now that's it, we can now move onto the next chapter. To be thankful for what we do have and to enjoy it to the full.

 

[Creative]

Becks, cAitlkn was like that last Wednesday. She hasn't been sick today .

Regina , also another way to look at labour/birth - if it was that bad families would only have 1 child . Me, Becks , Karen and jan have about 15 between us!

Jo, will be watching your chart with interest.

Took this earlier, my favourite so far

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Well, a line has been drawn under the baby making for good, DH had snip today. Has to take it easy for a couple of days. A tiny little red mark each side, I was like, is that it two little marks(seems a lot of fuss to me) told him I've been prodded and poked numerous times over the last 12 years and has my stomach cut open twice!

Felt really sad over the weekend as I didn't want the finality of it, but although I felt sad earlier, I also feel a weight has been lifted, knowing now that's it, we can now move onto the next chapter. To be thankful for what we do have and to enjoy it to the full.

Now make sure you wait until the test have been done and come back clear!

 

[Left wonderin]

Awh dance she is growing cuter every day you must be sooooo in love . It is amazing how quickly they grow and change . Lots of best wishes for the next chapter in your families life )) xxxxxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Another great photo Lisa. You must be so proud. It must take the uncertainty and pressure out of the equation and now onto a new chapter in your life.

How are you feeling this morning Regina, are you sleeping ok?

 

[garfie]

Hi Ladies

I'm still around - still stalking, it's just that I've been at work a lot recently as the deadline draws nearer for the factory opening again

I keep popping in to see how you are all doing - and admire the beautiful photos - you mamas must be on and of course not forgetting the mamas to be - not long now ladies

Is their just me Josie and a few others left trying

AFM - I'm 12 DPFO (Days Past Fake Ovulation) but temps are on their way down - next cycle I have more blood tests and a pelvic exam but hoping I get my BFP instead - this morning I got a squinter and I mean a squinter on an IC (but I have been fooled by them before) so for now I'm calling it an evap



X

 

[dancareoi]

My first bfp was a squinter Fiona, if became Caitlin

Jo, temp on the up TWW I think!