TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Sparkle125]

Thanks Tanya! I'm EGGCITED too!!! Come on AF!

 

[crysshae]

That's wonderful Jenn! I'm curious... Did he come up on the clinic's look alike research you requested?

Jo - Good luck finding a new job. I hope you find something you really like.

Becks - Fingers crossed your O starts coming sooner.

Tanya - Your chart is looking great!

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Crystal I hope so too xxxx
Sparkle thats amazing. So exciting and 19 year old egg too. Yay! Xxxx

 

[Soanxious]

Thanks Crystal, not feeling any symptoms.. always the same when I feel so healthy... it's when im ill I fall pregnant x

 

[Sparkle125]

Crystal: They did my face match thing wrong. I made the decision long ago that I wanted to pick a sperm donor that was called "ID Option", meaning that the donor agrees to be contacted by the child when the child turns 18. I feel that this is the choice of the child and I did not want to take that choice away from the child. It does limit my donors, but I am happy with that decision. Funny though, none of the EGG donors are ID Option. They just don't offer that. Interesting. ANYway, when they did my face match, they did not limit it to ID Options donors and 5/6 where not ID Options. AND, the one that was ID Options was so unattractive and he SO did not look anything like me! I realized that this whole thing is very subjective. I even had my friends look at them and they laughed. I will never know if he would have popped up if they had actually stuck to ID Options, but oh well. I got super overwhelmed with the whole process at that point. I met my friend for drinks that day and she likened my anxiety to "over studying" for a test. It felt exactly like that! SO, I decided to go with my heart and ordered my donor the following day. Regardless, all of this gene stuff is all a crap shoot. You never know what the baby will look like. I will think he/she is the most beautiful baby on the planet and they will be the spirit and soul I am meant to have in my life. I reminded myself that I need to keep my eye on the prize: a healthy baby at home.

Everyone: I truly appreciate all of the support ladies. I know this is all very different from your situations, but I appreciate your open minds and kind hearts. You know, I've never ever posted on any blog before and after lurking for a while, I knew you ladies were special. Thank you so much for your kind words of support and encouragement. I am cheering you all on every day!!! Go Team Baby!!!

 

[Soanxious]

Aww Sparkle, you're such a lovely Lady, and I am so hoping that AF hurries up so you can get this underway and we see a BFP then a Scan then a Baby Photo of your little bundle of perfectness You deserve this.. and with this Donor it's extra special and just meant to be.. it keeps giving me goosebumps thinking about it.. its really exciting!!! xx

 

[Oasis717]

What lovely words Sparkle. Thank you. Wishing you so much luck and love xxxx

 

[crysshae]

Jenn - Going with your heart is probably the best choice anyway. I wonder if they don't give ID options for egg donors because you will be the mom...not the egg donor, but kids will automatically ask about dad. Congratulations on your choice and best of luck.

I know how you feel about never having written on a blog before - for a different reason though. When I was trying for DS5, I couldn't bring myself to write. When I would look for insight about being older on blogs and forums, I saw women who already had children getting bashed and torn apart for asking questions about trying for a baby at a later age, etc...because the other ladies on there were trying for the first. Lots of them were very rude. Since finding BnB this time, I have found so many who have made me feel welcome. Love this thread. These ladies are awesome!

 

[Soanxious]

People should never have a go at others over asking about how to conceive.. because things change in life.... I had 3 100% healthy pregnancies.. all overdue never worried.. I had 1 pregnancy test that said positive and that was it.. went to midwife at 8 weeks no worries.. scan at 12 weeks no worries.. but as you get older..our bodies change... and when I suffered my 1st mc last Oct I was in shock!

I had got my positive pregnancy test and to me that was it... then I have midwife appt at 8 weeks and scan at 12 weeks etc... but no.. I started suffering pain... then bleeding and more pain.. never in my life had I had that.... then to have another 3 after that has made me a total worrier.. someone completely different to say for instance the way of thinking I had before October last year...

We often need help with ttc..charting..support if you have suffered a mc or not getting pregnant again after many years.. so when people are nasty about it..it shows that they are not the kind of people to be around.. and that's why I too love B&B it has more mind like people here... and we offer and receive a lot of support.. most of the time more than we say or request from our partners.

I love this site

 

[crysshae]

I feel the same. DS5 was just as easy as all my others had been. I was 34 when I got pregnant and 35 when I had him.

Then 4 years later, when I started trying last year, got my BFP and had my first miscarriage, everything changed.

 

[Left wonderin]

I think a mc is something that happens to " other people " don't think anyone ever expects it until you are in the middle of the knightmere ! Shock is the right word to put on it . I think it also changes how you view ttc and pregnancy forever . The innocence is gone .

In better news I'm off to Italy tommrow for 11 days . Sean's first holiday and packing was a nightmere !! Here is the man himself 11 weeks tommrow .

 

[Soanxious]

Yeah you're so right Regina... I see Sean is in Australia? (pic upside down) haha!

He is a handsome chappie... he looks so much older than 11 weeks.. and that has gone so fast.. still remember you telling us you were going into hospital and us all waiting for the 1st message and photo afterwards!!!

Wow Italy? I am SOOOOO Jealous!!!! Have a lovely time!!

 

[Left wonderin]

Thanks So I'm hoping for lots of great news when I get a chance to check in

 

[Soanxious]

That would be great... but not from me you won't unless I win lottery then I can get me a Doc that can sort my eggs and womb out

 

[Oasis717]

Totally agree, never had a problem conceiving or anything pregnancy related untill 2012 and always thought mc happened to other people not me. It really does change ttc forever, such a shame xxxx
Regina he looks so grown up he's gorgeous! Have a fantastic time xxx
Tanya any symptoms? Im stalking your chart! Xx

 

[Soanxious]

Becks I have zero pregnancy symptoms so im totally out this cycle.. so much so I have not even wanted to use a test... as it would be a complete waste of time.. AF due around Thursday....

I have really bad PMT and myself n OH have argued.. im now in house alone enjoying the peace from hiding away from the world.. DS has gone out for day with his Grandparents. x

 

[Oasis717]

Oh no hunni I am sorry! I totally get how you feel! Xxxx

 

[Oasis717]

Having said that pregnancy symptoms mimic really bad pmt! Plus your temps are great, im not loosing hope yet xxx

 

[Soanxious]

Having said that pregnancy symptoms mimic really bad pmt! Plus your temps are great, im not loosing hope yet xxx

Hmm!!! You have a lot to answer for young lady!! I just POAS! x

Starts to wait the 3 mins... x

 

[Soanxious]

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