TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Left wonderin]

Nice temp rise Beck's and no spotting vie decided temping with a lo is next to IMPOSSIBLE !! Thats 3 days in a row I've not bothered as I was up every hour or so ! I so don't have my act together this month lol... Took opk last night forgot about it totally went back a couple hours laterite was positive, but saliva test this am zero ferns !! Who knows . Cd 11 today so gonna do our best ( sick baby allowing) to bd #2 today tomorrow and Wednesday . Feeling out already this month and I haven't even of yet !!!! Lo having a lo with a fever + no sleep = Regina feeling blah !

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Regina, I also have been waking up to Brooklyn as he's teething but I've found that as long as I don't get up it doesn't mess with my temps too much, its when he's up for an hour or so etc, he never did want to sleep in his cot so to get our bed back dh took the side off his cot and pushed it against our bed so now he's right next to me and I just cuddle him back to sleep, temp is up and no spotting so far today which is great but other than boobs were hot yest and a little sore today and mild cramps zero symptoms really and tbh I've given up expecting anything, I do though really need to go to the docs though I think I'm scared of the answer! I answered a thread yesterday about perimenopause and a lady that was concerned, I told her my story and some other person that didn't even come on to answer the op sent me a message saying I really have to watch now at my older age as I'm such a high risk of a disabled child and to get my levels checked instead of going no where month to month. I was appalled tbh, in the two years I've been on here nothing like that has ever happened to me and that someone could randomly message someone they've never spoken to before in that way is beyond me xxxx

 

[Soanxious]

Becks ignore her... we all have risks... I know a girl that was 18 having a child with what they class as what older parents would be at greater risk from having.. life is life no matter what age we are things happen at any age..

I am still around.. reading etc.. im just so upset at seeing all the baby bumps/scans that are around same age as some of my mc babies... and I need to take a step back from it.. and distract myself.

I sent back my paperwork (CB) The telephone interview today and My pack is being sent out to me tomorrow as I am close to AF day.. I done a SMU Frer and it was a BFN and FMU ic that had a shadow.. so im saying BFN.

Tilly I am so happy for you and hope baby stays n matures a while longer.. its lovely to see and hear off people it gives us hope but some days I can't face it so I just pop on on my strongest days to chat...

Good luck all xxxx

 

[Oasis717]

Maybe its my hormones but it really upset me that someone could message that to another person, I'm well aware of any risks but I don't dwell on that and certainly don't need to be told that I'm going nowhere month to month by some random, some people never think before speaking xxx

 

[Soanxious]

She's a bitter trout.. and you have a perfectly great baby there already to prove to her what "Older" women can have

I on the other hand was more or less told to leave the Medical profession alone and forget about ttc...

I am 41 and My GP said that he wouldn't ask my consultant to see me again(I asked if I could see her again so I could possibly have a scrape as it sometimes helps to get pregnant) and he said I was to Stop wasting her time, she does not need her time wasted by people of MY AGE that was it! He then just looked at me in a way to say Goodbye and leave now....

 

[Oasis717]

Omg Tanya that's absolutely disgraceful I'm so very sorry xxx

 

[josie1234]

Tanya, that is shocking. They need to take courses in patient skills!!! It makes me so mad. They told me that I wouldn't get referred due to my age so basically no hope as I am peri-menopausal.

Becks - that woman needs a slap! How dare she. Grrr, seriously, rise above it and ignore the bitch. Yes, I am angry - why do people feel the need to stick their nose in and say stuff, especially when they don't know you.

Sparkle lovely to hear from you and glad that you are still stalking. Of course, you are missed.

How is everyone else?
AFM - just finished PT session. Sooooo tired.

 

[Left wonderin]

Oooh lots to give out about here !!! So how DARE that doctor !!!! I had my LO at 41 !!! Imagine I'd just given up !! The cheek !!
Becks I'm sooooo sorry you had to come accross that bitch !!! She sounds veeeery bitter !! We all know there are risks !! But even at our age the risks are small ! A bit bigger than the average but still small . Its not what you needed when your already feeling vulnerable hope you know who she is so that WHEN you get your perfect bundle you can email / message her and say told you so !!!!!

AFM no idea what's going on got semi cross hair for ov cd11 !!!' Oh dear .... Wasn't planning for that , not enough b'ding .

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks ladies I knew I could rely on you to understand I thought it was dreadful of her and I wouldn't dream of thinking that let alone saying it!!! Xxxx
Regina hopefully you haven't o yet and you can get some more bd in! Xxx
Jo I don't know where you get the energy from no wonder you looked so good in your tattoo pics!! Xx

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all,

Tilly, can't believe you're nearly there!

Jenn and crystal, glad all is going well for you. Jenn, glad you are now experiencing the joys of pregnancy.

Becks, that woman sounds a right miserable old cow!

Regina, just so what you can, PMA

Tanya, big hugs xx

Hi Jo, tired just thinking about you exercising.

AFM, finished work last week. You may recall we sold our business to this guy who messed us about, well I have been working for him since 1st sept. I did 8 hours a week for £150. The guy doesn't have a clue what he's doing and his full time staff member, who we only took on in may as an assistant is now doing everything and he doesn't seem to be there very often.

He took a part timer on to do my job, she did it at another agents, but barely knows how to do it on the computer system.

I can see them doing things wrong and things they shouldn't do and can just see its going to go tits up! He wanted me to stay on to make sure they were doing everything right. I never got involved in the day to day running before. So I would be basically be dealing with all the cock ups! Not happening! So left last week. I've already seen an email he's sent someone about an issue that he's trying to blame me for! Glad now I left, let the lazy git do something!

Anyway, rant over! We're in Wales at moment but DS 4 not too well. He was sick Monday morning but was better yesterday and today, but now has m earache and is currently asleep next to me in bed.

Caitlin is walking most of the time, so need to get her some shoes, she loves it.



Caitlin in a ball pit earlier today

 

[Oasis717]

That must be hard though Lisa watching a business you worked so hard to build in the hands of someone like that! But yes you are definitely better off out of it I think! We must get Brooklyn shoes too as he now has stopped crawling altogether so pleased Caitlin is doing so well, beautiful pic of her she has the most gorgeous smile bless her, hope your son is better soon and no one else catches it. AFM I'm feeling out I think, no symptoms tonight now and even boobs are feeling better expecting a temp drop tomorrow then I think they'll see saw a bit til AF, when will I get my act together and change docs and get checked out!! Xx

 

[dancareoi]

Thanks Becks.

We built that business from scratch, into a profitable concern, with good customer service, so it is hard in a way to see what's happening. Must try and remember its not our concern. I still have emails on iPhone and can't help checking them.

Also my brother in law is seeing the lady who works there who was hired by my DH!

Becks, still early this month, but might be time for a change of docs .

Might be a shot in the dark, but again might be worth a try, emailing the consultant who I was under in the miscarriage clinic at Birmingham Heartlands. She may not be able to help over an email, but nothing to lose by giving it a shot.

[email protected] (Professor Quenby)

If you do contact her, keep us posted with any developments xx

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks so much Lisa I really appreciate that, I will definitely contact her and let you know if I hear anything, v v faint line on an ic tonight but I don't trust these ICS as you know having said that this is the second batch I've had with no evaps but I'm def not taking any notice unless I get any progression xxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Becks did you post at 1.45 am ?? Your as bad as me ! Well what did your temp do this am ? Ff changed my ov day so got some more b'ding in calling Friday 1dpo though as not sure as didn't temp this month , no point with LO teething and Chang ein clock I'm up all hours !! Ooh I'm hopefully for you Becks !

Lisa how hard for you , but sounds like you definetly did the right thing by getting out when you did . Will you be a full time SAHM now ? What was the buisness ? Maybe you will think of another idea ?? Caitlin is so beautifully , her hair is golden !

Jo how is life with you ? How has the tattoo healed ?

 

[crysshae]

Hey everyone! It's been awfully busy for me the last couple weeks.

Becks - What an awful person to say that to you. You got more ICs? I hope they are very accurate and get darker for you.

Tanya - Can you change doctors to one who understands your wishes better?

Lisa - I bet it is hard to let go completely. Hopefully it will come in time.

Regina - Good luck!

Jo - You are sure busy!

Jenn and Tilly - Glad you are both doing well.

 

[Oasis717]

I fell asleep Regina then was wide awake lol I can't seem to keep my eyes open lately! Thank you, one minute I'm hopeful the next I'm out lol, I dunno, I've had two days of ewmc mixed with (sorry I know its gross) green cm which a nurse told me was progesterone, I've also had that on non pregnant cycles about mid way through lp so..... Boobs continue to hurt with stabbing sensations although no burning or tingly like I had with Brooklyn or Casey, I usually dry up after o but never did this time, so I really dont know! BFN on two ICS today so boo to them rubbish tests, dh bought me two Superdrug Early tests but unless I really have strong symptoms I won't be testing xxx
Crystal I hope you're OK? We are always busy too never get a minute it seems lol xx

 

[crysshae]

I've heard yellow and green are progesterone too.

I'm doing well. Work has just been crazy.

 

[Oasis717]

Yes that's right, the nurse said yellow and green are both progesterone, gross! Lol. I hope you can relax in the evening xxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Cry hope your still making lots of time for rest !!! Its important think I'm offically 1dpo so that waiting begins . I seem to ov on a different day every month !! But thinking I'm gonna count Friday as 1dpo as then ill be sure I have Ovd . Not temping so can't confirm it .
Here we go again .......

 

[Left wonderin]

This will be my last chance to fall pg in my 41st year lol