TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

No please don't do that! It will upset me more honestly that wasn't my intention at all in anyway, I want you to be able to share! You have every right to do that and it would upset me greatly if you didn't so please don't, you've been through so very much and you so deserve this, please don't let my sadness inhibit your happiness in anyway which is another reason I wanted to stay away just for a little while. So please stay. I really have to go. Thank you so much for your support, I will be back I promise. I just really need some time. Loads love xxxxxxxx

 

[tillyttc]

xx

 

[Serenjay]

Becks I am in a few other rooms also... so I am really ok... and I can always pm the girls to annoy them.

I know you will need some time out...to heal and decide where to go from here... but I just want you to know we are all here for you when you just need that letting off steam or a giggle when your feeling it is time.

I hope the Dr's can help you.. can you ask about aspirin? folic acid 5mg? they are just basics.. hopefully Dr will say yes...

I think about you lots and as you know I somewhat know what you're feeling.. no one can ever say I know exactly how you're feeling as we all suffer differently.. you have a great husband there that will take care of you and hugs from your kids to make you smile when your upset.. Rest up sweetheart and pop back when you cant tolerate real life and want to come back to the page.. xxxxx

I did not plan to try anymore after the 7th loss in December.. I was planning to be steralised. And Bam... out of nowhere... we should never give up hope xx

 

[dancareoi]

Becks, I wish I could give you a proper hug xxxxxx

We are all here for you xx

 

[Alien73]

I am totally with SJ here, no need to worry about that, I totally understand how difficult it must be, as I was the one reading success stories that matched my dates, whether that was here or elsewhere. I am not on any due date thread as I am way to afraid to have to be taken off later on, and for the moment I cannot bring myself to get a ticker.

So please please do stay Becks, this should be a support thread (as the title actually says 'TTC' doesn't it?!?) and we all had our share of heartbreak to know how important this is! If you don't mind I will stick around to see how you Ladies are doing and if you can get some tests done.

What test exactly have you done so far? I remember we briefly talked about thyroid a while back, and whilst your Dr seemed to say it was ok, I think your numbers were a bit high? or the most important test results, the T3, missing? Please do dare to challenge some Dr, especially when it comes to thyroid!

Do question the Dr on the 'clear' tests! Before this recurrent miscarriage specialist, my previous Dr ran 'all the tests' (total BS!) after 3 mcs and released me saying all was fine! She had NOT done all the tests as I found out later, just some of the mainstream 'repeat miscarriages' ones, and said that the 2 results that were off were 'not the issue'.

Also, please do know that some Dr do think you can improve egg quality at our 'advanced maternal age', mainly through acupuncture and DHEA. Did you know that in Asian cultures, our age is totally acceptable, and the 3 TCM specialist I have seen never bat an eyelash (I was moving, so was in between 2 cities, hence the 3 different Dr, hope I don't sound too freakish)? They just all, independently said the exact same thing, that my energy was too low, especially in my kidneys, meaning my body cannot hold onto a pregnancy! They told me upfront that my last 2 CPs would not be able to stick and only right before this one said my body has been getting better. I was taking Chinese Herbs and was getting acupuncture for several months (and still do).


Please please do look into alternatives! You already know your body is able to carry a pregnancy to term, so you have a huge advantage.
There are some really cool books out there, one being 'Inconceivable' by Julia Indichova.

Hugs

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi everyone x I'm working late all week which is awful so only getting to check in now .
I'm sending a big hug to everyone as its tough for you all at the moment in different ways none the least Becks .

Kim and T I really really hope you guys enjoy every second of your pregnancies , as Becks said you both have been through SO SO much and such tough journeys to get here . You both deserve this . REJOICE in the fact your pregnant BECKS is truley happy for you guys , just sad for herself right now I'm sad for her too but that's ok . I know she is not ok right now but in time will be

I for one would like you ALL to stick around . In sickness and in health , good times and in bad ( or is that marriage ? ) I have every faith that Beck's will get her sticky beanie too in the not so distant future . I do understand Beck's you needing to take some time out , its raw right now and must be like salt in a wound I'm here for PM from whoever , well all I'm doing is WAITING anyhow so it will help me kill time

But I also do want to share in your journeys it gives us all hope

 

[Alien73]

In sickness and in health , good times and in bad It is, lol!

All I hope is that we all continue fighting for our rainbows. At our age, reality is that we probably can no longer sit around, wait for the big O day, hope to fall pregnant and carry to term without complications, but have to support our bodies in various ways to do so. Yes, there are a lucky few for whom this works but...think of it this way: Very few centuries ago we would have reached the end of our overall estimated lifespan before 40 (sounds lovely, doesn't it ) and here we are trying for babies today! Sorry if I sound like a total weirdo, but I truly believe that it IS a fight to get our rainbow. Yes, one thing is egg quality as we have a limited supply, but there is plenty to read on this on the web and many dr are positive you can influence this. But if you look at your overall body, some changes naturally occur with age, which can influence your chances to become and stay pregnant even with great egg quality:
some become estrogen or progesterone deficient, some develop thyroid issues (if they haven't been around and simply not treated, which is unfortunately a big issue) and some have or develop blood circulation issues. All of these can be easily fixed but it is up to each one of us to listen to our bodies to fix them first. Chances are a 20-year old won't have some of the age related challenges and fall and stay pregnant with an ok egg. But we at over 40 will very likely loose this egg as the rest of our body cannot sustain the pregnancy even if the egg itself was ok.

 

[crysshae]

This little guy is proof rainbows do exist, just like Caitlin, Brooklyn, and Sean.

Kim - I agree about egg quality and hormones. Along with lots of prayer I used OvaBoost and Vitex when trying for this beautiful boy.

Sayer Brecht arrived at 3:56 pm on 2/12, weighing 7 lb 10 oz and measuring 21 inches long. We are all so in love with him!

 

[Serenjay]

Oh Crystal he is absolutely beautiful!!!! Congratulations.. how are you both doing??? give him a kiss off his Aunts here in BnB xxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Cry !!! I knew you had gone quiet . CONGRATULATIONS just look at him !!!!! Wow !!!!
He is beautiful ! Welcome to the world Sayer Brecht

How is mammy doing ??? How was your birth experience ?? Another one to add to our list 8 rainbows now wow !!

 

[Left wonderin]

Oh and Kim I agree with you , no doubt my thyroid was what was preventing me from falling pg in the last 6 months . The year before I fell pg twice in 6 months so thinking its not my eggs .

 

[Serenjay]

I just agree with everyone as we are all old wise and great

 

[josie1234]

Wow amazing Crystal. He is beautiful. Looking forward to hearing your birth story.

Very interesting Kim and yes very true.

Becks thinking of you hun. Big hugs and totally understand that you need a break from this thread but you know we are here when you are ready. Xxx

I am doing ok. Tablets seem to be working as no tears/moods. Doctors appointment today as he wants to see how I am. My work and stress have reduced since giving up working at the other gym. I still have bits to keep me going but will look at alternatives venues for personal training to get more money coming in. Mum sister and niece are coming down sun - thurs and we are off to London and seeing a show which will be nice. Hope everyone has a good day xxxx

 

[Alien73]

Cry!!! CONGRATS Welcome Sayer! Soooo happy for you, hope all went well, enjoy your little rainbow, big hugs

 

[Alien73]

I just agree with everyone as we are all old wise and great

Lol, there has to be SOME advantage, right ?!

 

[tillyttc]

Xxxx

 

[Serenjay]

Jo im so glad you're feeling better...

Kim yup I can call us old as I am one of you all haha!

Crystal I forgot to add his name is beautiful xx

 

[crysshae]

Thanks everyone. We're doing well. He had a bit of jaundice but that's clearing as he started eating more so we should go home today.

 

[josie1234]

Hi all

Hope you are now home Crystal.

Still thinking of you Becks xx

How is everyone, hope you are having a good weekend. I have been awake hours, DS passed me his cold. He now has an ear infection. OH comes home later tonight and my mum sister and niece arriving for a few days this afternoon. I have booked flights to Australia 2-18 apr to visit our friends. I am so excited. Have a good day xxx

 

[Alien73]

Oh, exciting! I loooooove traveling. Where in Australia are you headed to? Enjoy the family visit in the meantime!