TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Oasis717]

Temp took a huge nose dive just above coverline, sore bbs and twinges in my back looks like af on its way. Couldnt resist though and still took a test even though i knew it would be a bfn. Why do we do that?! Was a bit upset too as my friends are all telling me to stop trying as they think i am too old. So much for supportive friends x

You're not too old at all hunni, I think you're friends are trying to think of you and don't mean to upset you but that's definitely not what you need, you need lots of positive thoughts and that's where we come in dont give up, it will happen for youxxx

 

[Creative]

There is so much good news on this thread and I am so happy for all of you.

It's a year ago that I got my shock. I can't believe it hasn't happened for me and I am feeling super sorry for myself and need to snap out of it.

Shall I tell you all a completely unrelated story.
We moved in to our house in 1999. The house is in my childhood village and when my Gran died and left us some money, we decided to move up from London. I love it up here.
When we moved in, we gutted the house (infact we didn't move straight in as it was a wreck.) when we went up into the loft it was black with soot from the days of coal fires. The loft was completely empty except for one scrap of paper. The paper was black with soot too. My OH went to chuck it, but I rescued it and had a look at it. I could make out some penceil writing and so a few days later I got my paint brushes and brushed all the pages clean. it turned out to be a few pages from a childs diary from the summer of 1956. The entries were things such as the conquering of Everest, the wimbledon finals, the school trips and maypole dancing. Not personal reflections or anything deep, but very relevent to my village.
When my children studied village history at the school, they took the fragile pages in to use as a resource and the school made an effort to trace the owner, but failed.
I also tried tracing the owner, but had no luck. So last year after 13 years, I decided to publish the entries on my blog. I also said that if X wanted his diary back that he should contact me.
On Friday he finally did contact me. I have arranged to take his diary round to an address where it will be given back to him. I asked if he was happy for his diary to remain on my blog and sadly he said tthat although his family had been delighted to discover it, he was embarrassed by his childhood writing and would I remove it. He was awfully nice, but I now feel so emotional about these few scraps of paper and "my ownership of it."
I mentioned this on my other forum as many of the people on that had followed the discovery and publishing etc. I got so attacked by one of the members in a huge tirade of abuse. so I am really feeling so low this morning now.

 

[josie1234]

Temp took a huge nose dive just above coverline, sore bbs and twinges in my back looks like af on its way. Couldnt resist though and still took a test even though i knew it would be a bfn. Why do we do that?! Was a bit upset too as my friends are all telling me to stop trying as they think i am too old. So much for supportive friends x

Hope you are ok. I don't think they are trying to be mean, their intentions are good and they are probably thinking of you. But you know what you want and no matter what they say, you will do what you want to do. Big hugs, we are all here to keep those positive thoughts going xxxx

 

[crazymam]

Temps are looking good josie!
I am now wishing af would hurry up and start so we can start next cycle!
It usually always starts in the morning when i get dip but nothing yet! Frustrated now haha

 

[josie1234]

Temps are looking good josie!
I am now wishing af would hurry up and start so we can start next cycle!
It usually always starts in the morning when i get dip but nothing yet! Frustrated now haha

Thanks hope they stay up. Was expecting it to go down, always think the worst but got to stay positive. Slept a bit better last night so hopefully cold is going. Got nice spots on my face which I never get. Hope time hurries up for you, we are always wishing time away eh? Have a good day xx

 

[crazymam]

Thanks for the positive thoughts everyone feeling in a bit of a better mood now. Thinking i may ditch the temp charts and peesticks though. I seem to be like clockwork anyway. Maybe i am trying too hard perhaps but i am not giving up! X

 

[dancareoi]

Thanks for the positive thoughts everyone feeling in a bit of a better mood now. Thinking i may ditch the temp charts and peesticks though. I seem to be like clockwork anyway. Maybe i am trying too hard perhaps but i am not giving up! X

I found that when I got pg last year and again this time, we didn't DTD every day.in the past we used to DTD every day and always got PG but last year that didn't work.

DH will be 44 aug, so maybe his spermies needed more time to recoup! It worked for us then when we DTD every other day! Don't know if that will help at all!

 

[crazymam]

Thanks for the positive thoughts everyone feeling in a bit of a better mood now. Thinking i may ditch the temp charts and peesticks though. I seem to be like clockwork anyway. Maybe i am trying too hard perhaps but i am not giving up! X

I found that when I got pg last year and again this time, we didn't DTD every day.in the past we used to DTD every day and always got PG but last year that didn't work.

DH will be 44 aug, so maybe his spermies needed more time to recoup! It worked for us then when we DTD every other day! Don't know if that will help at all!

think maybe I should be letting him rest too and show some self control, it tends to be tgat insists thoygh and him being a man cant say no lol still no sign of af thpugh, which is very odd and my bbs are killing. They always do just before though and ease off as soon as it arrives. My body just isnt playing ball with me today! X

 

[Oasis717]

Jo I never suffer with spots yet had a few breakout the week I got my bfp really not been feeling good today, feel utterly wiped out and felt sick most of the day today, better when I lie down, worse when I get up, so all good, well not but you know what I mean. Have now gone off peanuts and are onto marmite lol. Gone off coffee and choc. Xxx

Crazymam that's really good that you are like clockwork my cycles were bang on 28/29 days always. Xx

 

[josie1234]

Trying not to get hopes up. But feeling really positive and in a good mood. Definately feeling better. Fx for tomirrows temp. Please please. Yes definately give the little swimmers a bit of a rest. Lol. Hope my one day Af last month is my body getting ready for a change. Trying not to get too excited but hoping this thread is giving us all good luck xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

My sickness was bad yesterday am and lasted all day. Heaved a little bit this morning and haven't felt as sick all day, but did a little bit this afternoon.

I am soooooo tired though, if possible I am more tired than I was before, I just want to go and lie down, but with 3 other kids of 11, 8 and 2 I'll have to wait til they're in bed.

Also had a pain in my back, on the low right hand side. Started yesterday and sort of comes and goes. I've had similar pains before and I think its something to do with bowels movements, or lack of them! I' ll keep an eye on it and see how it goes.

Going to sort my 2 year old out for bed now, so that'll be 1 down. Although the noise he's currently making, he doesn't sound very sleepy!

Jo we'll see what happens tomorrow with your temp!

 

[Oasis717]

I know how you feel Lisa my house is always full of life and noise and my four year old has endless energy, that's all I've wanted to do is sleep, so so tired. Night all xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

I know how you feel Lisa my house is always full of life and noise and my four year old has endless energy, that's all I've wanted to do is sleep, so so tired. Night all xxxx

Phew, that's him sorted, just the other two now! Hubby plays footie Monday night so down to me!

Get them to bed so we can settle down and watch the footie. Liverpool v WBA. No we are not WBA supporters even though we are in the midlands, we are Liverpool supporters!!,

Have a nice evening everyone. Speak to you tomorrow.

Jan and Jo, good luck for tomorrow temps etc

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Lisa. Hope you manage to get some rest. Hope you all manage to get a good nights sleep. See what tomorrow brings.

 

[josie1234]

Morning all. Not too confident today. Took temp but didnt seem to take a min for bleep to go, was really quick, temp was 36.3. Below coverline so took it again straight away and was still bit lower but stayed over cover line. So not feeling too positive. How are you all this morning. Jan any AF?

 

[crazymam]

Morning all. Not too confident today. Took temp but didnt seem to take a min for bleep to go, was really quick, temp was 36.3. Below coverline so took it again straight away and was still bit lower but stayed over cover line. So not feeling too positive. How are you all this morning. Jan any AF?

Af is here Josie, bang on time. On the positive though its start of a new cycle. I am off to buy evening primrose oil on way to work and got preseed ready, i dont think i need it but extea cm when i need it surely cant do any harm. Also hav docs appt for a referral altho not sure what actually happens? You could still be ok if it hasnt gone below coverline thoough x

L

 

[josie1234]

Well at least new cycle starts again eh? And you will get to know more when you see doc. Because it went below on first temp i took i am not too sure. Taking it as a bad sign but no point thinking too much until it is time for AF. See what happens then xx

 

[Oasis717]

Hi ladies, I just telephoned the doctors and my results were in, I was so nervous, but it was fantastic news, all of the tests were clear, no diabetes problems, no thyroid problems, no clotting disorders etc, no action required and my hcg was 7333 (range for 5 weeks 1 day is 3450 to 8450) so I'm in the upper range, and progesterone was 72 which is fantastic, I was praying for 16-18 as that is what is required for a healthy pregnancy. I cried with relief. That's that worry over xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Thats great news for you. What a relief. Xx

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Jo, really relieved and mega shocked about the progesterone, range for 1st trimester is 9 to 49. But it can be anywhere from 10 to 90. I'd managed to convince myself I mc due to low progesterone because I spot before AF and I spotted at 5, 8 and 11 weeks with first loss. No spotting at all so far as with my healthy pregnancies. I still think.your chart looks promising mine dipped up.and down til I got my bfp xxx