TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[dancareoi]

Just spoke to doctor and apparantely the receptionist was wrong. My hormones werent normal. Looks like i am not ovulating. Doc said they ate waiting for the testosterone results which should take 2 weeks. But to carry on as we are BD until then. Fed up. Dont get it particularly when i had pos opks last month. Well will carry on but feeling upset at the mo.

Don't be too down, I discussed this with my doc when I had progesterone levels checked(mine were ok) there are a number of options available, one of which s Clomid. So there will be something they can do.

Just because you get a positive opk doesn't mean you will OV as some months you may not.

As doc says, carry on as normal,,because you just never know!

 

[josie1234]

Turns out i have bacterial vaginosis but she said that doesnt affect me getting pregnant and didnt cause me to miscarry. I have no symptoms and she didnt seem overly concerned about that. Said not going to treat at the moment. More concerned about me not ovulating so got to wait for testosterone results. Really upset. DH is working nights. Darent tell him that bit as he doesnt really understand stuff.

 

[Oasis717]

Oh I am sorry Jo, it seems like it's all bad news but honestly bv is really common and as Lisa said there are lots that can be done if you aren't ovulating, I know its hard to not feel down about it but at least you will know and can get something done so try not to worry, I'm really glad you've got us, I'd hate to think of you not having anyone to share this with. I'm feeling down tonight too, ive felt absolutely fine all day, not a hint of nausea and my boobs don't hurt so much, I know I had that scan yest but the midwife started off by saying they don't normally scan again so soon unless there's heavy bleeding, I told her I was told to come in and I was more than happy not to be scanned and certainly didn't want to be if there were any risks, then she seemed to back track and said its fine, my paranoid head is telling me what if it wasn't fine, would she really have scanned me again if it wasn't ok? I felt so sick last night I was in tears, then today nothing, really worries me xxxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Oh I am sorry Jo, it seems like it's all bad news but honestly bv is really common and as Lisa said there are lots that can be done if you aren't ovulating, I know its hard to not feel down about it but at least you will know and can get something done so try not to worry, I'm really glad you've got us, I'd hate to think of you not having anyone to share this with. I'm feeling down tonight too, ive felt absolutely fine all day, not a hint of nausea and my boobs don't hurt so much, I know I had that scan yest but the midwife started off by saying they don't normally scan again so soon unless there's heavy bleeding, I told her I was told to come in and I was more than happy not to be scanned and certainly didn't want to be if there were any risks, then she seemed to back track and said its fine, my paranoid head is telling me what if it wasn't fine, would she really have scanned me again if it wasn't ok? I felt so sick last night I was in tears, then today nothing, really worries me xxxxx

Becks, MS comes and goes. Last sat I was all worried because I hardly felt sick all day, then sun and mon I was bad again.

Not too bad then we'd and yes am, so was bit worried, then yest pm and this morning felt bad again.

That old cliche, try not to worry, coupled with another old cliche, easier said than done.

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks hunni, hoping it comes back soon, I was saying yest I couldn't handle it it was so bad, today I'd give anything to feel so ill, I honestly hate the first trimester now, seems to be nothing but constant worry xxxx

 

[josie1234]

Yeh, not a good day today. Was starting to feel ok about things and then get knocked down. Lots of questions going on in my head, can you still get pregnant?, is it a major thing? Totally fed up. Hope tomorrow is a better day. Thank you for your kind words though. Hope you are ok Becks and can try not to worry, I know its hard, you have had the scans so please try not to think too much, keep busy and try to relax. So easy to say I know but try. xx

 

[Oasis717]

Thanks Jo, I honestly think everything will be ok for you, I.know it doesn't seem that way right now, but it will, there is so so much they can do these days and Clomid is really good for not ovulating, if you're not ovulating as you may still be, every woman is supposed to have one or two cycles a year without ovulating so I read, so there's every chance you may still be. I'm so glad you are getting this help, there's many that have problems and don't do anything about it but you're doing everything you can which is brilliant. Don't loose hope hunni, you will get there, lots luv xxxx

 

[josie1234]

Thank you Becks. See what tomorrow brings. Will try not to lose hope. Hey Lisa thanks for your comments. Will try to stay positive. Xx

 

[Left wonderin]

Hello all hope everyone having a Good Friday and looking forward to the weekend . Josie sorry you are feeling bad right now and crap they gave you the wrong information in the first place ! It's good you are getting it all sorted out finding out what is going on with you Beck's hugs for you and wishing lots of m/s your way tommrow xx

Me I got another bloody smiley face this morning , so far I've had three this cycle already cd 12 one cd9, gone morning cd10 back evening cd10 and one morning 12 ?????????

Funnily I'm not stressed out this month and am thinking if it happens it happens if it doesn't it doesn't guessing Tww starts tommrow but can't be sure ! OH has migraine all day day and in bed since 7 so no b'ding tonight . Will just have to wait till morning .

Love to all giraff I will be 41 in November so here is hoping for both of us a BFP by that milestone lol....

 

[Oasis717]

Thank you I'll be 42 in November! I used to get really annoyed with positive opk one min thinking I'd ovulated then a few days later, another, it was so confusing! That's what I love about charting you get to clearly see when you ovulate and takes all the wondering away! Xxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

I will definitely chart next month have just signed up to fertility friend and going out to buy a digital theometer this weekend . Should I wait till the beginning of next cycle to start temping ? Might need some help with the charting as it is new to me

 

[dancareoi]

I will definitely chart next month have just signed up to fertility friend and going out to buy a digital theometer this weekend . Should I wait till the beginning of next cycle to start temping ? Might need some help with the charting as it is new to me

I would start temping straight away and charting everything. i found FF very useful, from that i discovered i only had a 10 day LP.

Becks, how are you today, feeling i hope!

I had a real sicky incident when i got up, urrgghh. Trying to hide the sound of me wretching from the kids. My 8 years old DD is too smart by half and keeps asking if I`m having a baby! We don`t want to say anything for a long while yet!

 

[Xanth]

I agree with the charting. I thought it would be a right old faff but I learnt loads from it.

Oh Lisa I'm glad that mine are grown up lol. Well Brandons too small to know anything but the eldest boys are so good when I'm pregnant.

Oh and just to let everyone know. I had a great scan yesterday. Measuring exactly 9w1d which is exactly what I had. I cried my eyes up like an idiot when she showed me the heartbeat. It won't stop me worrying, but for now I'm feeling a bit better xx

 

[dancareoi]

I agree with the charting. I thought it would be a right old faff but I learnt loads from it.

Oh Lisa I'm glad that mine are grown up lol. Well Brandons too small to know anything but the eldest boys are so good when I'm pregnant.

Oh and just to let everyone know. I had a great scan yesterday. Measuring exactly 9w1d which is exactly what I had. I cried my eyes up like an idiot when she showed me the heartbeat. It won't stop me worrying, but for now I'm feeling a bit better xx

Sarah, we have to be so careful around our kids because we don`t want them knowing yet.

After my late loss last year and having to tell them the baby had died, was the worst thing we have ever had to do. they were only 10 & 7 at the time and you never really know how much they really understand.

In june last year, I spotted something my 10 year old DS had done at school, it was something about their best and worst experiences. On the worst part he had written `the loss of a sibling` , we don`t want to put them through that again.

They are now 11 and 8, but my youngest being 2 3/4 hasnt a clue!!!

I`m having to hide all the medication I`m on, have to check my blood and inject clexane when I know they`re not about. The insulin is done when they`re in bed. It gets quite tricky at times!

I`ve had a headache now for a week, but i do have a bit of a cold, but this has been such a busy week. DD had grommitt operation, finding out about DS secondary school offer and the scan, it has been quite stressful.

Hoping we can chill out a bit now, well at least until our dating scan next Friday!!!

 

[Xanth]

Lisa that must be so hard. If mine were that sort of age I wouldn't be telling them for a long time.

I bet they'll be so excited when you can tell them xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Hi all hows your morning going. I feel a bit better than yest. Will try not to let it get me down. Seriously yesterday i felt like giving up. I will post my opk in a bit which i have just taken. Got my digi ones in post today so will try one later. Xx

 

[dancareoi]

Lisa that must be so hard. If mine were that sort of age I wouldn't be telling them for a long time.

I bet they'll be so excited when you can tell them xxxxx

My DS who is now 11 will be worried, because he will be thinking of last time ( they do not know we lost one in sept as well)

My daughter who is 8 (going on 18 will be so excited and my youngest won't really understand what's going on.

 

[dancareoi]

Hi all hows your morning going. I feel a bit better than yest. Will try not to let it get me down. Seriously yesterday i felt like giving up. I will post my opk in a bit which i have just taken. Got my digi ones in post today so will try one later. Xx

Jo, is it getting to that time of the month already! Will be watching your OPK with interest!

 

[garfie]

Morning Ladies

Glad you are feeling more positive Josie - I found my second lot of results and they were a lot lower than yours were which is why I was a bit shocked when they said normal - on the positive you are on their radar now and there is a lot of help out there will be interesting to see what your prog level comes back at. Are they repeating the test?

My boys are 10 and 12 and are still fairly innocent - my youngest thinks the witch comes in the night and steals mummy's baby (AF) which is a cute way of looking at it he gets the tests out for me and says is it time yet - so my two are very involved with my testing and what happens next

I think whatever works for the family as a whole with us I brought the boys up on my own for a while so I think not being able to have ever had a bath without one of them coming into the bathroom - means to us we don't have to shield them from anything so long as its age appropriate

Dancar - I hope you have a much more quieter week this week for me I have a meeting with my sons SENCO (he has autism) on Monday which will be quite hard going. Then I have a parents evening on Wednesday (will have to check the calendar) then have to make a costume for world book day and somewhere in between test of course

Charting is an absolutely amazing way to find out what our bodies are doing after my first m/c (me have a m/c how did that happen?) and after I came out of denial I started charting and my did I learn a lot - and did I find lots of new friends on BNB

Xanth - So pleased your scan went well - now try and relax

Oasis - Hope you are well and your leg gets sorted soon - have they said what they are going to do yet?

Sorry ladies this post is random in places but you use your real names and I'm not sure who is who yet - I'm Fiona that much I do know

Hi to anyone I have missed out



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[josie1234]

I am cd 13 but looked like opk pos this morning. Not sure whether to do digi test today. Not sure if they will repeat test. I am there 7 mar for prog test so will ask then. Felt upset yesterday as felt like this is it for 2 weeks until i get testosterone results. Charting is good as i have learnt loads about what my body is doing.