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[josie1234]

I think AF is due Weds so i will test then if it doesnt show. Dont know why AF changed on my chart as my cycles arent that long.

 

[Left wonderin]

Good morning everyone . Happy St Patricks day from Ireland . Well I tested this am and bfn, no sign of AF nothing which is unusual for me as I usually have spotting for a day or two before . Anyway thinking I'm not out just yet lol.... Went back to the calander and noticed I counted cd1 as first day of spotting not flow this month which would put me out by a few days . Also counted DPO from the day I got my last smiley face , o/v might not have happened till the following day or so . Also bit of a saga this am , OH took my car first thing with the tests in it so couldn't use fmu to test . Tested an hour after fmu to get bfn . Anyway the box says if you are anything before due date for period you must use fmu which I didn't . Grasping at straws I know !!!!!!!

Besides all that it was a huge relief to test , I didn't realise how wound up i was and how anxious I was . Even though bfn feel a weight has been lifted . So for me now just waiting for AF to arrive so i can start this process all over again lol.....

This month I will temp too so will be driving ye all mad with questions as it will be my first time . My first question being at what point in the cycle do I start temping ?

 

[dancareoi]

Good morning everyone . Happy St Patricks day from Ireland . Well I tested this am and bfn, no sign of AF nothing which is unusual for me as I usually have spotting for a day or two before . Anyway thinking I'm not out just yet lol.... Went back to the calander and noticed I counted cd1 as first day of spotting not flow this month which would put me out by a few days . Also counted DPO from the day I got my last smiley face , o/v might not have happened till the following day or so . Also bit of a saga this am , OH took my car first thing with the tests in it so couldn't use fmu to test . Tested an hour after fmu to get bfn . Anyway the box says if you are anything before due date for period you must use fmu which I didn't . Grasping at straws I know !!!!!!!

Besides all that it was a huge relief to test , I didn't realise how wound up i was and how anxious I was . Even though bfn feel a weight has been lifted . So for me now just waiting for AF to arrive so i can start this process all over again lol.....

This month I will temp too so will be driving ye all mad with questions as it will be my first time . My first question being at what point in the cycle do I start temping ?

Sorry you didn't get BFP, not out yet though.

I would start temping now, no time like the present.

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi Lisa now am I correct in thinking the idea is to temp,first thing in the am before you do anything else and it has to be the same time each day to be accurate? Is there also something about having to have the same amount of sleep each night ?

 

[garfie]

Left - Sorry you didn't get your BFP - still in though hun I agree with Lisa start now so you get yourself in a routine

Josie - Sometimes I wonder if FF is really my friend at all - but it can only go by the info we put in I guess at least it doesn't pretend to see something in our chart if it's not there just to make us feel better

Becks - How are you feeling today hun - notice my temps have dropped slightly anyway tomorrow I should get my results if they are not good and that was an evil evap then at least I only have a few more days until I can test again - how mad is that

Crazy - How are your symptoms today hun



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[dancareoi]

Hi Lisa now am I correct in thinking the idea is to temp,first thing in the am before you do anything else and it has to be the same time each day to be accurate? Is there also something about having to have the same amount of sleep each night ?

Try and take as soon as you wake in the morning before getting out of bed. It is better if yo have had 3 hours sleep before taking, but I wouldn't worry about that, it will still give you a good idea about what is going on

 

[Oasis717]

Regina I hope you're just out by a couple of days, I always spot two days before AF too and only when I started looking into temping etc did I realise you have to take the first day as a proper flow, plus you can ovulate anything from 12 to 36 hours after your positive opk and your lh surge, hoping you just need a couple more days xxxxx
Hope everyone else is ok, I'm only slightly sick at mo but from 5 yest I was terribly ill so I'm dreading later lol, I think I'm just starting to show xxxx

 

[crazymam]

I am very anxious as have no MS at all. had it first few days or week or so and noe nothing.
Still very tires, boobs still tender and strange taste comes and goes but not as intense. temp still very high though.
tried to eat a homemade curry last night though and couldn't as smell put me off.
trying to think back to all my previous pregnancies and to be honest never had any MS after first week really except when I miscarried.
dd1 I was ill first week but didn't realise I was pregnant until I was 2 months gone so no MS!
Next pregnancy ill right until 8 weeks then had a scan and was told baby had actually died at 6 weeks so had d and c
dd2 had ms one week, but tested negative went to docs 4 weeks later to get coil fitted only to find I had been pregnant all along, again no MS
then twins again very strong symptons for two weeks then nothing, just sore boobs and felt sleepy a lot!
two miscarriages last year felt sick right up until day before I miscarried both times plus I no longer' felt' pregnant either .
This time sickness has all gone, but temps are still high.
Maybe I am just fortunate that I don't get sick.
wondering if this is a going to be a girl and the others were boys and I simply cant carry boys?
Now I am clutching at straws.
I still' feel' pregnant though, if that doesn't sound odd

 

[crazymam]

forgot to add I am getting light headed in the afternoon which happens a lot when I am pregnant and in bed I was told its like sleeping with a hot water bottle! I feel very warm most of the time

 

[Oasis717]

Honestly please don't worry, I had the exact same worries as I had terrible ms with my three children, I was convinced something was wrong or I had another blighted ovum as the sickness didn't start til 5 weeks plus 4 and was very mild, it got bad at 7 plus 4, disappeared at 8 weeks, came back 3 days later and now comes and goes, this pregnancy has been completely different from my three children and according to scans all is going perfectly right now, I worried myself stupid for no reason for weeks! Xxxx

 

[crazymam]

I know I am being silly worrying over nothing, think we all do though once we have gone through miscarriages and we can hear our bodyclock ticking too

 

[Oasis717]

Your not being at all silly! I've worried my way through this whole pregnancy so far, once you've lost a baby or babies nothing can ever be the same again, it's such a shame, but hopefully knowing my sickness has been completely different this time might put your mind at ease a little bit, hope so hunni xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

No, you are not being silly. You and Becks are so right, once you have had a miscarriage, it is natural to be worried. The enjoyment of being pregnant is not the same again so we all totally understand how you feel and how you worry.

 

[josie1234]

Left - sooner you temp the better. I put my alarm on for same time every day and take temp before I move out of bed. Sorry about your BFN but as you say, you are not out yet and I think it can get confusing about the days. I get confused and I do temps and opk. lol. But keep hopeful and fingers crossed for you. Like hearing the updates on here and it does give me hope.

Garf - I know what you mean. Its good to have the chart to see what is happening but not so when its not showing you what you want to see! I am looking forward to seeing your chart and how your temps go.

Becks - how were you later today did the sickness return?

Crazy - wonder if you are going to have a girl. It is interesting how the pregnancies are different. Maybe the symptoms may be different as you get older, I wonder? Just a curious thought.

It is great to have such a website to sound off our thoughts/fears. I am interested to see how my temp is tomorrow but have a horrible feeling that it may go down again, boo hoo. See what happens. Got a bit of a tickly cough, hope my DH hasn't passed me his cold! I hope Weds come around quick so I know one way or another. DH's appointment to take sample in is 28 Mar so we are getting there. xx

 

[crazymam]

Its good to have somewhere to talk about our concerns and worries, sometimes I don't think men quite understand.
wish I could fast forward though so I can start enjoying pregnancy.
Interesting thought josie, it may be my age but I also have same symptoms as all my pregnancies and I had all girls too. I do have excessive tiredness though so thats good sign.
midwife apt Tuesday afternoon so going to try and be forceful and ask why I cant have an early scan as after all I am 43, have had two recent miscarriages and my last full term pregnancy resulted in maternal twins!
Our health trust is useless though. so may have to go private for an early scan for peace of mind..
but I think we have a lucky thread and wouldn't it be fantastic if we all have bfp's before the end of the year! and of course healthy pregnancies that go the full 9 months
now I ma off to bed early again as pooped xx

 

[josie1234]

Yeh Crazy, it would be good if this lucky thread helped us all with beautiful babies. I know what you mean about fast forwarding time. Good that the symptoms are the same as before. Off now so will catch everyone tomorrow x

 

[Oasis717]

Night allx Jo my sickness stayed away til 7.30 tonight just in time for me not to want my dinner lol. Hoping your temps stay up tomorrow, night xxxx

 

[josie1234]

Morning all. Felt really sick last night when i was laid in bed. You know when your mouth starts watering. Sorry if tmi. Still feel a bit this morning. Temp went up a bit this morning. Dont know what is happening. Determined to wait til Weds.

 

[Oasis717]

That's good news Jo, anything like that and a temp rise is promising, hoping they keep going up!! Xxx

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Becks, me too. Was really expecting it to go down. Feel really nauseas this morning. How you feeling this morning.