TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[crazymam]

Thats so sad, certainly puts everything into perspective doesnt it x

 

[josie1234]

Hi all, I am ok Garf, let's see how this month goes for us eh? Fingers crossed. Sorry it didn't go well at the school.

Left - sorry to hear about the AF coming, its rubbish eh? Onto the next cycle eh? Terrible news about what happened, really puts things into perspective. So sad.

Becks - glad things are going quick for you. Obv not meant to get that scan hun. Not long til 2 Apr though x

Crazy - good luck for the scan.

Lisa - great about hearing the heartbeat. Your mw sounds really good.

AFM - light bleeding today, think there will be nothing by tomorrow. Another shift at work, finished at 9, not many days left til I finish and DH is posted. He has managed to get day off on 28 Mar when he has to take sample in, lol, so that's good. Look forward to the updates tomorrow.

 

[Left wonderin]

Jo where is husband being posted to ? How long will he be gone ?

 

[josie1234]

High wycombe buckinghamshire. For about 3 years. Will stay there for his 4 days on shift then come home for his 4 days off and thats how it will be for the time he s there. Dreading it. Also makes ttc harder. Depressing

 

[Left wonderin]

It's an adjustment alright , but just thing of all the b,ding you will b e doing causes you will miss each other and so please to see each other .............. So I'm guessing four days of the week ya will be MIA on us . It's great he gets to come home

 

[josie1234]

Yeh it could be worse so once we settle in to it we will get used to i suppose.

 

[Oasis717]

Morning ladies, how is everyone today? Xxxxx

 

[Creative]

This month I DTD when I was supposed to, but just had that feeling that's been bugging me, that the miscarriage this month last year, knocked me into menoupause. I have been feeling very old and seem to be developing new wrinkles every day.
As someone who normally has about two glasses of wine a year, I've drunk more this last month. I really fancied a cider which led to DTD more relaxed then normal and then Ialso had a glass of wine on two weekends running.
I have been very down and felt that it would actually never be my time. I am a self employed creative designer and make CE certified sock monkeys and Keepsake teddy's and quilts, paintings, tiaras and jewellery, but it can be dreadfully lonely working in my work room all day long. I saw a job advertised at the local senior school for an art technician. it would have been perfect, but I only had half a day to apply before the applications shut. I filled in the application form and wizzed it down to school. I pinned all my hopes on it and I think that it made me realease all the pressure of trying to concieve and I was ready to move on. The interview date was supposed to be yesterday and when mon and tuesday came without hearing anything, I spiraled into a deep sadness. I was kept busy by a friend who's website I am just setting up, but by this morning which would be day 30 and so AF would be here, I did the POAS as is customary. Lets not waste the stick...... I then put it on the desk next to me and took a phone call from trading standards guy who was supposed to be coming out to approve my technical file today to cancel the appointment. and I forgot about the stick, put the phone down and turned around to find two lines. Not just a faint oe but a no mistake postive. A whole year after my MC I am finally pregnant. Old, wrinkly and pregnant and very very very shocked.

 

[garfie]

Congrats Creative - That's lovely news hope you are trying to relax now and take it easy - there are lots of lovely ladies on this thread that will help you get through the next few days, weeks, months

Don't be afraid to ask any questions or just vent if it makes you feel better - I for one (although not pg yet) have found this thread a source of great information

A H&H 9 months hun



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[crazymam]

congratulations Creative, I am so pleased for you
Now try and relax and enjoy, although that's easier said then done!
another bfp on the thread though
Have to admit was starting to feel quite emotional reading your post at first so I am so pleased it was a happy ending!!

 

[crazymam]

Josie - Just think on the positive side, he has 4 days for his little swimmers to rest up , ready and waiting for you! xx

 

[Oasis717]

Oh me too Creative, I was reading your post and felt so very sad, until I got to the end, I was absolutely over the moon to read you are expecting, a whole year, and here you are, that's fantastic news and must give the other ladies trying such hope that anything really is possible xxxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Thats great news. This is a lucky thread. Come on Garf, me and you next. Lets stay.positive xxx

 

[josie1234]

Creative - So pleased for you and quite emotional. Xx

 

[Oasis717]

You next ladies, Jo, Fiona and Regina, you're up next!!! xxxxxx

 

[Creative]

You next ladies, Jo, Fiona and Regina, you're up next!!! xxxxxx

yeh, no giving up!

 

[Left wonderin]

Giving up is not an option )) I'm here till BFP or menopause ! Lol

 

[Left wonderin]

Hello everyone . Hi creative don't think we have chated before AF in full swing here but am all geared up for next cycle . This month decided I'm going to try really hard not to get so wound up in the Tww as try relax , I drove myself bonkers obsessing ! But this month I'm going the whole hog , Opk teas , temping and charting . Also going to try SEMP method I love the fact that each month is a new slate feeling positive at the moment and know for sure that one day I'll get a rainbow baby ) until then ill keep smiling

I'm like a child waiting for the post at the moment , 40 cheapie o/v tests and basal themometer on their way lol.....

 

[Kat S]

This month I DTD when I was supposed to, but just had that feeling that's been bugging me, that the miscarriage this month last year, knocked me into menoupause. I have been feeling very old and seem to be developing new wrinkles every day.
As someone who normally has about two glasses of wine a year, I've drunk more this last month. I really fancied a cider which led to DTD more relaxed then normal and then Ialso had a glass of wine on two weekends running.
I have been very down and felt that it would actually never be my time. I am a self employed creative designer and make CE certified sock monkeys and Keepsake teddy's and quilts, paintings, tiaras and jewellery, but it can be dreadfully lonely working in my work room all day long. I saw a job advertised at the local senior school for an art technician. it would have been perfect, but I only had half a day to apply before the applications shut. I filled in the application form and wizzed it down to school. I pinned all my hopes on it and I think that it made me realease all the pressure of trying to concieve and I was ready to move on. The interview date was supposed to be yesterday and when mon and tuesday came without hearing anything, I spiraled into a deep sadness. I was kept busy by a friend who's website I am just setting up, but by this morning which would be day 30 and so AF would be here, I did the POAS as is customary. Lets not waste the stick...... I then put it on the desk next to me and took a phone call from trading standards guy who was supposed to be coming out to approve my technical file today to cancel the appointment. and I forgot about the stick, put the phone down and turned around to find two lines. Not just a faint oe but a no mistake postive. A whole year after my MC I am finally pregnant. Old, wrinkly and pregnant and very very very shocked.

!!! OMG, that is fantastic wonderful amazing and all the other happy adjectives!! Congratulations!! I hope you have a healthy, uneventful pregnancy!

 

[Kat S]

Sorry I've been away for so long. You guys might not even remember me. Being here was too painful for a while.

Long story short, I had my D&E Jan 23rd and have been waiting ever since for my hcg levels to go back down to zero. Not there yet, but I hope to be within another week or two.

The test results came back from the fetus. It was a girl. We wanted a girl, so that was hard to hear. She had no chromosomal abnormalities. Just gutted.

That piece of information prompted my doctors to look for another reason for my loss. They think it's possible that my slight double uterus might be the cause. There is a dip at the top of my uterus (picture a heart shape), and there is very little blood flow at that dip at the top, and if the embryo attached there, that might cause a miscarriage. They don't know where the embryo attached, so it's just a theory. They thought they trimmed that off during my first hysteroscopy back in September, but now they think they need to check it again and see if they got it all.

As soon as my hcg levels are zero, I can go in for another hysteroscopy where they'll check for any scarring or infection from the D&E as well as that dip at the top. If there is more left, they'll trim it off. I have a blood test tomorrow and hope for good news. I'm hoping my levels will be zero and they'll schedule the surgery for next week. I hope that after every weekly blood test!