TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[Left wonderin]

As you can imagine the vacuum cleaner is never off in our house lol........

 

[crazymam]

I love border collies, my friend has two.
Well my sickness is back, it always gets worse after 7pm, and right on time it came back ! well if I can get through the day until 7 that's good enough for me, just hope my vitamins don't make too ill to go to sleep though

 

[garfie]

Afternoon Ladies

Sorry I've not been around.............

Becks - Aw I hated it when my eldest had croup - I didn't know what the hell it was - no internet them days lol. I ran the shower and took some toys into the bathroom for him to play with and happily he sat playing but it is scary

Love to all the other ladies

AFM - I have had a bit of a tough week - I waited for the recurrent m/c nurse to call me back - bad news I have to wait until at least June before they will even consider testing me and then it could be a long old haul only to find out they can't fix it

All of the departments are in agreement as well - Blood, HSG and Ultrasound that I have to wait at least 2 cycles

So after a very tearful and heart searching few days with hubby we have made some decisions - we are going to carry on as normal (after all what do we have to lose?) apart from god forbid another baby

Time is ticking for us as a couple - hubby wanted to say enough was enough last year (but I fell pregnant) unfortunately we know how that story ended

So our time is coming to a close and if we wait around for tests it may never happen We have decided in June to decide if we want Sheffield to begin testing on me or just leave it up to nature

Also hubby has agreed to have a SA done (can you believe they have never tested him at all) This is a major step forward for us.

If we don't manage to get pregnant this year, the beginning of next hubby is going for the snip (that tells me it is final) as we have both agreed we didn't particularly need a baby to make our life complete but we both wanted one and now we have lost four - hubbys take is maybe it's not meant to be, my take is the odds have got to be in our favour soon

We also chatted about how he felt about the losses and how he dealt with them (he has also agreed to be there more for me) which is a bonus as every loss he has been around but not been there if that makes sense

I told him I thought a baby would bring us all closer as a unit (I have two boys already) and he said he realises now he needs to do more as a family and if we have a baby that would be a bonus.

We also agreed we need to make bd more fun as it has become all about timing and I even tried to explain my charts and said to him what if all the problem doesn't lie just with me? - yes I am older, but looking at our bd pattern it looks like you can crack the egg but can you fertilize it is your swimmers strong enough? - Never has he taken an interest in the charts, OPK etc preferring to say just show me if you get two lines.

Sorry this has turned into an essay - but now we have had "the chat" I feel a lot happier - obviously ask me again next year (snip time) and I might feel differently but for now we are both in a happier place which can't be bad can it?

to all of you and I'm glad you're all progressing nicely

to us still waiting



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[dancareoi]

Afternoon Ladies

Sorry I've not been around.............

Becks - Aw I hated it when my eldest had croup - I didn't know what the hell it was - no internet them days lol. I ran the shower and took some toys into the bathroom for him to play with and happily he sat playing but it is scary

Love to all the other ladies

AFM - I have had a bit of a tough week - I waited for the recurrent m/c nurse to call me back - bad news I have to wait until at least June before they will even consider testing me and then it could be a long old haul only to find out they can't fix it

All of the departments are in agreement as well - Blood, HSG and Ultrasound that I have to wait at least 2 cycles

So after a very tearful and heart searching few days with hubby we have made some decisions - we are going to carry on as normal (after all what do we have to lose?) apart from god forbid another baby

Time is ticking for us as a couple - hubby wanted to say enough was enough last year (but I fell pregnant) unfortunately we know how kthat story ended

So our time is coming to a close and if we wait around for tests it may never happen We have decided in June to decide if we want Sheffield to begin testing on me or just leave it up to nature

Also hubby has agreed to have a SA done (can you believe they have never tested him at all) This is a major step forward for us.

If we don't manage to get pregnant this year, the beginning of next hubby is going for the snip (that tells me it is final) as we have both agreed we didn't particularly need a baby to make our life complete but we both wanted one and now we have lost four - hubbys take is maybe it's not meant to be, my take is the odds have got to be in our favour soon

We also chatted about how he felt about the losses and how he dealt with them (he has also agreed to be there more for me) which is a bonus as every loss he has been around but not been there if that makes sense

I told him I thought a baby would bring us all closer as a unit (I have two boys already) and he said he realises now he needs to do more as a family and if we have a baby that would be a bonus.

We also agreed we need to make bd more fun as it has become all about timing and I even tried to explain my charts and said to him what if all the problem doesn't lie just with me? - yes I am older, but looking at our bd pattern it looks like you can crack the egg but can you fertilize it is your swimmers strong enough? - Never has he taken an interest in the charts, OPK etc preferring to say just show me if you get two lines.

Sorry this has turned into an essay - but now we have had "the chat" I feel a lot happier - obviously ask me again next year (snip time) and I might feel differently but for now we are both in a happier place which can't be bad can it?

to all of you and I'm glad you're all progressing nicely

to us still waiting



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Fiona, you have had a tough few days.

Have you considered acupuncture as an option? I see one who specialises in infertility and miscarriage. Over the last 3 years 200 of his patients have become pregnant!

It might be worth trying to find a local one, what have you got to lose?

Becks, how is your DS today.

Hi to everyone else!

 

[Creative]

Garfie that makes a really sad read, but a positive obne at the same time. I had really given up after a year of trying and then Bang, it just happened. Here wishing for some baby dust for you!

 

[Oasis717]

Sorry you're feeling down Fi, really hoping you won't need that specialist and it just happens for you xxxxx
Thanks for asking Lisa, he's much better, still coughing but no more noisy breathing, I think as he's got older he gets less severe outbreaks, I get worried as there's been a rise in whooping cough and due to problems with dd 12 he hasn't had vaccinations, so I always worry more. There's a thread on second trimester about all pregnant women being vaccinated against it after 28 weeks and apparently your midwife is supposed to tell you but I've never heard of it til now, I looked it up and it's true they're advising this it's after 14 newborns in 2012 died from it, but there's no safety trials been done on pregnant women, it's been safe for use in infants since 2004 but how can they advise pregnant women to have this jab without safety trials, another thing for me to worry about I guess xxxx on the 4th day of feeling sick after thinking it was gone for good, oh well!!! Xxxx

 

[crazymam]

I was told Monday about the new vaccination becks, but I always though our babies had our natural immunity for first few weeks anyway? I have had mumps, and bben vaacinated against measles and have rubella immunity so why do I need it?
My brother also has vaccine damage and when I told midwife this she didn't push this vaccination. I didn't realise it hasn't been tested either?
GARFIE - fingers crossed for you that it happens soon, try acupuncture like Lisa suggested, nothing to lose.
my iscjness is back with avengenance, it was just tricking me before I think haha x

 

[Left wonderin]

Fiona , sounds like you and hubby have done a lot of soul searching over the last feel days . Those type of " talks " always leave me feeling exhausted . From your post it sounds like you have worked some things out so that's good . So is the plan to keep trying now ? I'm so hopeful for a rainbow baby for you soon xxxx

Beck's uck to feeling sick again but wohooooo on 16 weeks

Hi everyone else hope you are all having a great weekend .

 

[Oasis717]

They tell you on the NHS website Jan, there have been no safety trials in pregnant women. The vaccine is called Repevax I think it's spelt, that they use and just that it's been used on infants since 2004, my dd was seriously ill for the first two years of her life after her baby vaccines and was left with a multitude of allergies and severe eczema which caused her to have one of the most severe cases of chickenpox my doctor had seen due to her damaged skin, at 12 she's outgrown a lot of the problems but she was terribly ill following the vaccinations, thankfully it never affected her developmentally just physically but it's left me with a total fear of vaccinations full stop, they are saying that the vaccine can wear of in most people around teenage years, which is why so many of the children/teenagers in the measles outbreak in London a few years back were among vaccinated children. Therefore by the time we have babies ourself we have no immunity to whooping cough and they are saying the vaccine crosses the placenta after 28 weeks and protects the baby from birth until they receive their first jab. I believe the vaccine is a dtp vaccine so won't only be against whooping cough, and as it says, there are no safety trials they are just going on the fact it's been in use in infants since 2004. I was made to feel like a terrible mother by my doctor for not vaccinating my son, I still have no idea what to do xxxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Mmm they are very serious decisions to make . Reading in the paper today that 54 confirmed cases of children developing narcalapasy after receiving the swine flu vaccine . Scary stuff alright .

 

[Oasis717]

I know Regina I feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't, my daughter 22 was also left with serious stomach damage after the mmr, something which has affected her her whole life, it's scary alright whichever way you look at it, I manage to push it to the back of my mind until I hear something on the news about some outbreak, then I worry xxxx
Dh has gone to Asda to get me some Ben and Jerrys ice cream, I have a hankering for it xxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Mmm sounds nice I love fairly nuts and cookie dough ! I'm endulging in a chilled glass of vino , one of the benefits of AF being around

 

[Oasis717]

Good god it's been a whole year now since I touched a drop of alcohol! Because of being pregnant or trying to get pregnant it's been forever, do I crave an ice cold rum and coke sometimes or what lol xxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

I know I'm being bold but that's what rules are for ..... To be broken lol..... After all its onlyv a small indulgence lol.. Plenty of time for tea total next week when the fun starts all over again

 

[Oasis717]

I'm jealous Regina lol xxxxx

 

[Left wonderin]

Hope you enjoyed your Ben and jerrys

 

[Oasis717]

Oh it was gorgeous! Not eaten ice cream for ages naughty but nice lol xxxx

 

[crazymam]

Becks none of my children have had whooping cough vaccine, I had grief off every doctor and health visitor but oddly enough every single one of them soon kept quiet when I pointed out there can be adverse affects as my brother actually has brain damage due to the whopping cough vaccine, yes he received compensation but only after my parents had to fight for it.
He has the mental age of an 8 year old and is 42 and no amount of money will ever compensate for that.
So for that reason alone my kids have never had it, but they had all the rest however.
I don't think I will be having this vaccine, only a fool would try something that hasn't been tested, I am not a guinea pig after all and neither is my baby.

 

[Oasis717]

Oh Jan I'm so sorry, that's terrible, it totally brings it home that my fears are very real and not as my doctor would put it "foolishness" I totally believe these vaccines are capable of real, life long problems as your dear brother shows. I'm so sorry that you and your family have to go through this, I'm with you, I doubt I will have this jab either, they have absolute no idea of the long term affects on the baby, no studies have been done whatsoever, how could they possibly say it's safe? In my area we aren't allowed single jabs if only I could choose xxxxx

 

[josie1234]

Hi all, how are you today?