TTC after loss - over 40 - any takers? Our lucky thread - 9 rainbows and 1 BFP

[josie1234]

So - sorry to hear this, it's so tough for you, hun. Big hugs. Can you not get bloods done again?

AFM - just had phonecall from doctor, going to do blood tests on Tuesday (only day I can do). But if FSH numbers are high (and apparantely they were before), then I could be ready for/going through menopause. Gutted!

 

[Soanxious]

Josie - Im going to start having my ovulation blood tests done again and redo my temp when I find thermometer after losing it in house move. I was using an app the last few times I got pregnant. it seems to be ok. I hope you're not going through menopause already and you get one last sticky bean

 

[josie1234]

So - thank you. Me too. They mentioned peri-menopause and could have menopause by 5 years. See what the numbers are. Really fed up. They never mentioned this before when I had blood tests. They write stuff down but don't tell you the full story. Can't remember exactly what they said as think I was in shock.

Hope you find your thermometer and get some answers with your bloods

 

[crysshae]

Doing okay, Fiona. Thanks for asking.

Jo - I hope that's not the case. I have seen talk of women with high FSH still getting pregnant. There are some on these boards. So once you find out all the info, if that is indeed the case, you might look to them if you'd like to try what they have tried that worked.

So - I'm sorry you are having to go through a loss again. I pray you have your rainbow baby soon.

 

[josie1234]

Thanks Crystal, my mind is a complete blur with info. P-d off that nothing was really said last year when I had my bloods done and then I could have been looking at trying to reduce FSH level. Fed up. I know that I may not be out and trying to keep hope. But feeling sad. Sorry for moaning.

How are you feeling? Did you take temp at different time? Still not out though!! Good luck hun xxx

 

[crysshae]

You moan all you want. You have every right. I would be complaining too.

I'm doing okay.

I took my temp at the same time, but I was up at 12:30, 3:00, 5:15 a.m., and awake at 6:00 a.m., so that probably didn't help matters any.

 

[josie1234]

Thanks hun. I am very crampy and had dry cm last 2 days. sorry if tmi.

Blimey bet you are tired today. Hope you have a better night tonight and temps stay up for you xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

Jo, hope that's not the case. See what the blood tests bring.

Becks, implantation dip?

Fi, what are you planning?

So, could you ask doc for a referral to see professor Quenby at heartlands hospital in Birmingham. I see you are near Cardiff so would be about 1 1/2 hour drive.

I saw her last year and she did a number of tests and put me on progesterone. I also had a uNK killer cell test done too. I could send you her email if you want And you could contact her direct.

The other thing you could do is see an acupuncturist, I did this last year too. He advised me on best foods to eat to improve my blood quality and he then concentrated on increasing blood flow to womb.

Here are some things to eat to help improve your blood quality

Kale, spinach, broccoli, beetroot, at least 2 eggs every day, good cut of steak, not overcooked and Kerry gold butter.

Most days for lunch I would do myself a spinach omelette

 

[Soanxious]

Doing okay, Fiona. Thanks for asking.

Jo - I hope that's not the case. I have seen talk of women with high FSH still getting pregnant. There are some on these boards. So once you find out all the info, if that is indeed the case, you might look to them if you'd like to try what they have tried that worked.

So - I'm sorry you are having to go through a loss again. I pray you have your rainbow baby soon.

Thank you.. really want another. This time my OH has not been scared of the thought of trying for another.. I hid my big emotions from him.. he wouldn't allow me to try again otherwise.. Lets hope Jo is one of those lucky women to get pregnant too...

 

[Soanxious]

Jo, hope that's not the case. See what the blood tests bring.

Becks, implantation dip?

Fi, what are you planning?

So, could you ask doc for a referral to see professor Quenby at heartlands hospital in Birmingham. I see you are near Cardiff so would be about 1 1/2 hour drive.

I saw her last year and she did a number of tests and put me on progesterone. I also had a uNK killer cell test done too. I could send you her email if you want And you could contact her direct.

The other thing you could do is see an acupuncturist, I did this last year too. He advised me on best foods to eat to improve my blood quality and he then concentrated on increasing blood flow to womb.

Here are some things to eat to help improve your blood quality

Kale, spinach, broccoli, beetroot, at least 2 eggs every day, good cut of steak, not overcooked and Kerry gold butter.

Most days for lunch I would do myself a spinach omelette

My Daughter lives in Birmingham, she moved up 2 years ago and had my granddaughter in Birmingham City hospital the weekend I MC in October. Im originally from Nuneaton but yeah now Nr Cardiff. I could find out if I could pay for a consultation if my gp wont do anything, we have really good Consultants in Cardiff university hospital but its just waiting to get there. We have not used contraception for over 2 years now so im going to use that as a reason to be bumped up the list along with 2 MC I want progesterone as I have heard its working for women, it just seems to be I can get pregnant but cant hold onto one. I never had problems when I was younger.

My gp also does acupuncture so I will ask, and I will deffo start eating some of the things you mentioned... I cant eat the meat or eggs though...never liked eggs and been a vegetarian since I was 11. so Kerry gold butter? thats an odd thing LOL.

 

[dancareoi]

Acupuncurist said butter from grass fed cows is what you should eat so Kerry gold is perfect!

 

[josie1234]

So - thanks. Good luck hun - I hope you get some answers, keep pushing and trying all avenues. You will get your sticky bean. This thread has shown that there is hope.

Thanks Lisa. See what happens. No point worrying before the test results (she says! easier said than done).

Awake at 4 am again this morning so eventually got up at 5 and done some ironing.

 

[Oasis717]

Lots of posts to catch up on for me temp rise this morn but v slight spotting and cramps so think af is coming. Will leave o day as ff puts it. Hopefully next cycle I can verify my luteal phase x. Xx

 

[dancareoi]

Becks. Could well be implantation. Any more poas?

I still think ff has wrong date. Should be 2 days later due to timing of positive OPK and temp drop!

 

[Oasis717]

Do you think I should leave the Manuel change on to 2 days later Lisa? Even if it leaves me with a short luteal phase? Thanks. I've never had implantation spotting. It was the tiniest bit. Guess we shall see tomorrow. I only have ics and they're all stark white! Xxxx

 

[dancareoi]

I do think 2 days later than ff. you wouldn't get a big temp drop like they after OV!

So you are only 8 dpo and I guess the ic's aren't very sensitive.

 

[Oasis717]

You never know but I've no symptoms like with Brooklyn but that's fine I just want a decent luteal phase xxxxx

 

[crysshae]

Becks - I never had implantation bleeding with any of mine, or never noticed it if I did. Last year, with my first pregnancy, TMI, I had a large glob of eggwhite CM that was tinged dark brown. With the 2nd pregnancy I had light brown creamy CM. Both on about 9 or 10 dpo.

 

[josie1234]

Crystal - temps looking good still. Any tests done yet?

Becks - I agree, still looking good, not out yet.

Looking forward to the updates. FX xxx

Fi - tried to get hold of teacher but no joy and then she tried to call me today but I was at work and busy so couldn't answer. Hopefully get to speak to them tomorrow but told them I couldn't see anything on their policies about damages and unless they prove it was him, I ain't paying! Thing is, he doesn't make things easy for himself, if he doesn't like the teacher then he doesn't make the effort. No matter what I say to him. With your DS, that's terrible, they should inform any new teachers/stand in's the situation. That's not the way to go about things eh? No wonder he walked out. There's ways of handling situations and surely they should be trained or at least briefed!

So - how are you today hun x

Lisa - Thanks, I know its best just to wait until bloods are done to see what the results are. Wondering whether to take Royal Jelly or something to lower FSH, just in case it is high. I am up and down with it all, one minute I think I am ok with things and the decision of ttc is taken from me so maybe no stress but on another vein, I am angry that I wasn't informed/updated earlier so I could have taken precautions/actions to improve the chances. No point thinking about it until I get the results but in a way I feel like it is all over.

 

[garfie]

Lisa - You want to know what I'm planning - well after 4 + years of trying and being together for 7 years I have to try and keep one step ahead - especially with him saying he's not sure

So I have tried the sexy undies, the phone calls, role play, mild submission/domination, accents etc so I have one more idea left - I sent him a text yesterday saying I had a sexy dream about him - I wrote a few lines and then today I wrote some more (last night he was begging me to tell him the rest) I said no I will tell you a little bit each day (actually it wasn't all that sexy but he doesn't need to know that )

Well last night we er.........early I know but if a few lines can get him going just imagine when I really get into the dream hopefully that will be around O time

So that's my plan - oh and just in case he was up for it I used a bit on the pre seed as well - not much as I want the major amount to be for the correct time

We were also discussing holidays and how (when I get to the gym) I will have a sexy beach body - I said what if I got pg before hand and this is where he confuses me - he said well you will have a sexy pg beach body

So I think I will carry on with my texting and using the pre seed.

Do feel free to share any other ideas you ladies may have - I may need some more next month

Becks - I had implantation bleeding with a few of my pregnancies - didn't know at the time that's what it was though good luck

Josie - I'm having major problems with my DS I think I'm going to have to go back to the specialist and adjust his medication he chased his brother with a knife this morning it was just a knife you use for your tea but all the same - he now has no internet (except for homework)

Lisa - So if Becks is 8DPO she had a dip yesterday right? - hows that gorgeous little girl of yours - hope she's letting you sleep more

So -

Cry - Where are you at in your cycle (sorry just stalking and then get distracted)

Regina - How long now? - any ideas on your birth plan? how you would like it to pan out

AFM - I'm not allowing hubby near me tonight - maybe tomorrow



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