TTC after miscarriage before AF

[SammyBat]

Hello all. I have found your thread to be very inspiring so I hoped to join in as well.

I too am currently having a miscarriage (bleeding officially started 4/4, but I felt something was up last week including my numbers only being at 209 last Thursday when I was supposed to be 5w 3d). We are trying to conceive #2 and have been at it for over 13 months. So was very thrilled with being pregnant and pretty heartbroken with the MC. Although I think reflecting back now, I never felt entirely pregnant (whatever that means) so that has helped a bit with the emotional coping.

I (I guess I should say we!) am (are) planning to try to start again as soon as possible, so I was really glad to find this thread. Given how low my numbers were last week already, I am hoping to get <5 pretty quickly (my doc is having me come in for bloodwork until I get there).

Thanks for sharing your journey! And thank you, thank you for opening it up for others to join in.

 

[happynewmom1]

Hello all. I have found your thread to be very inspiring so I hoped to join in as well.

I too am currently having a miscarriage (bleeding officially started 4/4, but I felt something was up last week including my numbers only being at 209 last Thursday when I was supposed to be 5w 3d). We are trying to conceive #2 and have been at it for over 13 months. So was very thrilled with being pregnant and pretty heartbroken with the MC. Although I think reflecting back now, I never felt entirely pregnant (whatever that means) so that has helped a bit with the emotional coping.

I (I guess I should say we!) am (are) planning to try to start again as soon as possible, so I was really glad to find this thread. Given how low my numbers were last week already, I am hoping to get <5 pretty quickly (my doc is having me come in for bloodwork until I get there).

Thanks for sharing your journey! And thank you, thank you for opening it up for others to join in.

Welcome although I'm sorry you need to be in this part of the forum I'm so sorry for what you are going through I hope you are able to get another bfp really quickly and get your rainbow baby we are here if you need support or just want to vent or chat about anything!

 

[Eclaire]

My test results are in. Weds my hcg was 521 and progesterone was 13.1. On Fri my hcg was 1245 and progesterone was 15. The progesterone was a little low so they are putting me on a supplement. Now I am waiting to hear when they want me to come in for a dating scan.

As a warning to all of us trying to conceive before the return of af keep notes. Jot down when you dtd as well as when you see possible fertility signs if you don't temp or use opks. It will hopefully help your doctor's figure out the dating sooner and save you a lot of frustration. Good luck to all of you. We can do it.

 

[SammyBat]

Question for you all - did you get an official "okay" from your doc to try again so soon? I spoke on the phone with mine today and she said she usually likes people to wait 2-3 months before trying again. It sounded like a big portion of it was due to the emotional aspects of dealing with a MC. And of course, I just "uh hummed" in agreement.

However, we are definitely interested in trying again now. My numbers today are already down to 32, so hoping that that piece wouldn't be an issue (in terms of remaining hormones influencing testing and such - I do use charting and OPKs).

Thoughts?

 

[happynewmom1]

Question for you all - did you get an official "okay" from your doc to try again so soon? I spoke on the phone with mine today and she said she usually likes people to wait 2-3 months before trying again. It sounded like a big portion of it was due to the emotional aspects of dealing with a MC. And of course, I just "uh hummed" in agreement.

However, we are definitely interested in trying again now. My numbers today are already down to 32, so hoping that that piece wouldn't be an issue (in terms of remaining hormones influencing testing and such - I do use charting and OPKs).

Thoughts?

Well I haven't seen a doctor yet at all. We were moving to a totally different state at the time of the miscarriage and haven't gotten a doctor. I know it was a miscarriage as all the bleeding, clotting, disappearance of symptoms and negative pregnancy tests. From everything I've read, they want one to wait so it's easier to know the due date and for the emotional side for the parents. If you feel good mentally about trying more quickly and keep track of when you bd and when you think you may ovulate (keep track of cm and when you get a positive opk and such. It will help them with dates this way), then I think it's fine to try more quickly. I might not rely on temping immediately. I've heard temps are a bit all over the place right after a miscarriage. I hope this helps a little. This was my first loss and I'm learning as I go.

 

[happynewmom1]

My test results are in. Weds my hcg was 521 and progesterone was 13.1. On Fri my hcg was 1245 and progesterone was 15. The progesterone was a little low so they are putting me on a supplement. Now I am waiting to hear when they want me to come in for a dating scan.

As a warning to all of us trying to conceive before the return of af keep notes. Jot down when you dtd as well as when you see possible fertility signs if you don't temp or use opks. It will hopefully help your doctor's figure out the dating sooner and save you a lot of frustration. Good luck to all of you. We can do it.

So happy to see your numbers are going up! And great advice! Will be sure to do that!

 

[Eclaire]

Sammy - Happynewmom is right. Most doctors tell you to wait for dating reasons. Other common excuses for waiting include: some women won't ovulate right after a mc, they want you to take the time to grieve and heal from the loss, they want to be sure you don't have any retained tissue, or they want your uterine lining to have time to rebuild (this is most common after a d&c).

That being said, if you are sure you are ready to move forward and feel like your body is too then I say go for it, but don't put too much pressure on yourself. I personally feel like the earlier the loss the quicker it is to move forward. It was easier for me to jump back in after my chemical than my mc. And about 10 days after my mc I thought I was doing great. (I even went to a baby shower.) A few days later my husband came home from drinks with a colleague and told me his wife was expecting their first right around my due date. Without even thinking I called this woman a bi**h. I don't know her and I truly don't wish her any ill will, but that was my gut reaction. I was angry and didn't realize how hurt I still was after my loss. The only reason I am telling you this is because I want you to understand that you are human and you have every right to hurt and have bad reactions when you hear of others successes. Don't be ashamed and do what is right for you and your family.

Also if you do become pregnant right away and your doctor makes your feel bad, or irresponsible, or admonishes you remember you can always find a more supportive doctor. I hope all of my meandering thoughts help.

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

Had my scan today, completed miscarriage . Just got home and took a pregnancy test which is negative so I'm now contemplating trying again. I have some ovulation tests but not sure when or if I will ovulate after miscarriage

 

[happynewmom1]

Had my scan today, completed miscarriage . Just got home and took a pregnancy test which is negative so I'm now contemplating trying again. I have some ovulation tests but not sure when or if I will ovulate after miscarriage

I'm so sorry, Tasha it's so hard and isn't fair. Maybe take a little while to decide. I've read some women do and some don't ovulate after a miscarriage and that most are more fertile the 3 months following a loss. I know I'm having a difficult time determining if I've ovulated or if I will this month so we are just trying to take a relaxed approach (difficult for me lol) and just bd often and see what happens. You just need to do what feels right for you. I know it's so hard emotionally for awhile.

 

[happynewmom1]

Well I got curious and took a test this morning and I definitely see the squinter of a line and it showed up within a couple minutes. I'm not getting excited yet.. I'll need to see it get darker first. According to my calendar.. I'd be like 8-9dpo MAYBE I made a note on March 31st I was having ovulation signs. Cramping, ewcm and a slightly open cervix but I've had ewcm since then too so who knows. We bd on the 29th,30th, and then April 2nd-6th. I guess we will see what happens. Would have been a quick ovulation I think..

 

[happynewmom1]

Here are a couple pictures.. Let me know honestly what you think. These are in the time limit - https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw...Everything/0407150935d-1_zpstus9eoun.jpg.html

https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw... Everything/0407150943-1_zps0me1yxfl.jpg.html

This one is dried maybe an hour or so after - https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw...Everything/0407151004b-1_zps2ldexgmo.jpg.html

 

[Babylove100]

Hey ladies mind if I join you? I'm still getting faint bfps after my mmc on 29th March but they are really faint so fx they go negative soon. Then I have my opks all ready to use! I couldn't possibly wait and not try until after first Af! When the doctor said it I just smiled sweetly and nodded, but inside I was like, yeah right you crazy man! As if that'll happen!!!

 

[happynewmom1]

Hey ladies mind if I join you? I'm still getting faint bfps after my mmc on 29th March but they are really faint so fx they go negative soon. Then I have my opks all ready to use! I couldn't possibly wait and not try until after first Af! When the doctor said it I just smiled sweetly and nodded, but inside I was like, yeah right you crazy man! As if that'll happen!!!

Welcome! I'm so so sorry for your loss I'm glad you decided to join us though. This is a great group of ladies here. I can't imagine waiting either. Guess it makes it easier for them if we wait but really not going to happen good luck to you! I hope you get your bfp really quickly!!

 

[Babylove100]

Thanks happynewmom! This hole ttc thing isn't easy so there's no way I'm skipping a month to make it easier for them!

I am so impatient tho, just want to get right back into it! I did take a opk with my hpt and the hpt was pos but the opk was neg so I think I may just take one everyday anyway, I mean why not right! I used to O around cd15-17 so that's only 5 days away so I'm keeping everything crossed my body gets it right!!

 

[Babylove100]

Here are a couple pictures.. Let me know honestly what you think. These are in the time limit - https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw...Everything/0407150935d-1_zpstus9eoun.jpg.html

https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw... Everything/0407150943-1_zps0me1yxfl.jpg.html

This one is dried maybe an hour or so after - https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw...Everything/0407151004b-1_zps2ldexgmo.jpg.html

There's def something catching my eye on your tests!! Fx for you!!!

 

[happynewmom1]

Thanks happynewmom! This hole ttc thing isn't easy so there's no way I'm skipping a month to make it easier for them!

I am so impatient tho, just want to get right back into it! I did take a opk with my hpt and the hpt was pos but the opk was neg so I think I may just take one everyday anyway, I mean why not right! I used to O around cd15-17 so that's only 5 days away so I'm keeping everything crossed my body gets it right!!

Haha I love your attitude on it! I say keep taking the opks if you want for sure! You really never know! fx your ovulate as normal! I keep hearing we are super fertile after a loss so I so hope we all are able to have our rainbow babies soon

 

[happynewmom1]

Here are a couple pictures.. Let me know honestly what you think. These are in the time limit - https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw...Everything/0407150935d-1_zpstus9eoun.jpg.html

https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw... Everything/0407150943-1_zps0me1yxfl.jpg.html

This one is dried maybe an hour or so after - https://s79.photobucket.com/user/sw...Everything/0407151004b-1_zps2ldexgmo.jpg.html

There's def something catching my eye on your tests!! Fx for you!!!

Thank you for looking! Wasn't sure if I'm going crazy or what. Glad if I am that I'm not the only one Hope they get darker if there is something there.

 

[Eclaire]

Oh babylove I am sorry you had another loss. I hope you get your sticky bean soon. Did you get pregnant this last time right away after another loss?

Happynewmom I am not sure what I see. I think I see a line but I am not 100%sure sure. If you can see it irl it is probably there. I can't wait to see more tests for a clear bfp.

 

[happynewmom1]

Oh babylove I am sorry you had another loss. I hope you get your sticky bean soon. Did you get pregnant this last time right away after another loss?

Happynewmom I am not sure what I see. I think I see a line but I am not 100%sure sure. If you can see it irl it is probably there. I can't wait to see more tests for a clear bfp.

Thanks. There is one but I'm not getting my hopes up.. I need to see nice dark lines to be convinced of anything

 

[Babylove100]

Oh babylove I am sorry you had another loss. I hope you get your sticky bean soon. Did you get pregnant this last time right away after another loss?

Happynewmom I am not sure what I see. I think I see a line but I am not 100%sure sure. If you can see it irl it is probably there. I can't wait to see more tests for a clear bfp.

Yep I had a cp in Jan, then got my next bfp 4 weeks later in Feb, but had a mmc on 29th March at 9+5, pretty pants really!