TTC after miscarriage before AF

[ttcnumber2ky]

TinyLynne- i just researched this on the internet as well. I hope and pray a genetic counselor will have some answers for you and will be able to help you on the path to your rainbow baby. Hopefully now knowing your hurdle will help you overcome it. I hope while scary that this will help you on your journey as often not knowing can be almost as scary.

 

[mssk]

I have a question for you ladies. Do you ever have trouble tracking cm after you have been actively bedding? I don't mean to be gross but I am having trouble telling whether my cm is changing or "stuff" is just still coming back out. Not sure how normal ov will be this cycle being that it was a provera cycle. My ovulation calculator said fertile days from 14th-19th but we bed the 10th and plan on bedding 12th 14th 16th 18th 20th and 22nd just to give it our best shot.

 

[TinyLynne]

I had semen coming out 2 days later, I was sure it was ewcm, but it wasn't.

 

[xanzaba]

I've heard if it stretches between your fingers it is ewcm. This month with bd'ing anniversary style I didn't see any ewcm, but I felt o pains yesterday and my temps may be up.

 

[mssk]

It must have been semen. I honestly have never had it come out that long after. But, cm is starting to get a little thinner so hopefully I O this week. I have had some pains. Hopefully it happens soon.

 

[xanzaba]

Hi Ladies, hope you are all well and looking forward to the weekend.

Sorry if this question seems petty, but is anyone else struggling to lose the pregnancy weight? I was 14 weeks + so maybe it was worse, but I pretty much weigh as much as I did when I was pregnant and my stomach sticks out and looks like I could be pregnant. It is a sad reminder every time I catch a glance at myself, and I just started a new job and want to look nice in my clothes. But I just feel sloppy and, because nobody here knows I was pregnant,it makes me self conscious. On the positive side, I guess if I get pregnant again nobody will guess...

 

[mssk]

Oh yes especially between the two losses right in a row and the Provera. I have not been able to lose the weight. I am very thin so an extra 9-10 pounds is very noticeable. I seem to bloat easier and my whole body feels heavy. I hate it a constant reminder that I was pregnant. I just want to be pregnant again so that at least I can stop feeling self conscious. It is difficult seeing people who don't know. I always gain the weight faster during the first 8 weeks and lose it really fast like first 2 weeks after my two healthy babies were born. But, why I can't shed this weight I have no idea.

I am constantly afraid people are going to ask me if I am pregnant---I look it. But try not to feel self conscious. Remember you know what you have gone through and are going through. And you are beautiful and strong. No one else matters, I know it is easier said than done and I am trying to take that advice myself. But, keep you head up and even if it was only for 14 weeks your body did an amazing thing. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[mssk]

So cycle day 15 here and having some serious O pains...But, no EWCM?! I am not quite sure then what is going on can I still be ovulating? CM is in between not super dry but not super slippery either? But lots of pains in my left ovary?! Is this it? Could I maybe have a YI from the Provera that is keepin cm a little thicker. Hormones have made me prone to getting them in the past. Sorry for rambling just trying to figure it all out. But, I usually don't get super strong O pains so O can be hard to pin-point I usually just guess-timate the exact time around EWCM.

 

[xanzaba]

I have a second line! Very light, but it's there. My timing must be off, I was sure I was only 6 dpo but with traveling etc. my temps were erratic. Even DH sees the other line.

I guess this is why my clothes don't fit...

 

[mssk]

That's great news xanzaba! Congratulations. I'll keep a prayer put that this is your sticky baby. Do you have any pictures?

 

[xanzaba]

Thanks! I'll try to post a pic soon- I have in-laws here this morning, and I don't want to let the cat out of the bag considering the last two MCs.

 

[xanzaba]

Okay, here goes. I'm not sure if it'll come through in the photo though...

 

[tag74]

Xanzaba! Congrats! We are bump buddies!!!

 

[xanzaba]

Congrats to you too, Tag!!! I was just wondering how you were doing. When was your BFP?

I'm really confused about the timing because I thought I was only 6dpo, but then I had a huge dip (1 degree!) and some spotting/dried blood after bd'ing (I know, tmi). I guess I ovulated earlier than I thought.

 

[tag74]

Check my journal out for pics, but I got my bfp at 7dpo but I didn't believe it and 9dpo it was clearly there. I am 14dpo now.

I am very excited for you!!!

 

[laughingduck]

Hello ladies, I just had my second loss since starting ttc#2 in May. Both were in the 5-6 week range. I don't seem to have trouble getting pregnant (yay) but can't seem to hold onto them (boo). I have some autoimmune problems and wonder if that is contributing somehow. I am 34, DD was conceived when I was 29, so maybe being older is the contributing factor. There was one cycle between my losses (we tried but I'm pretty sure it was anovulatory). I never got my positive OPK but I did have a temp shift so I'm not sure. I am going to start trying again this month right away, and hope for my rainbow. Glad to have some women to chat with who know what I'm going through!

 

[xanzaba]

Laughing duck- sorry you find yourself in this situation, but this is a great place! So good to have women in common, especially when your friends and family offline don't get it.

 

[TinyLynne]

Yay xan! I totally see that line! Good luck to you!

So sorry duck. I thought that autoimmune issues were my problem too, I was convinced, but then learned a week ago that my hubby has a balanced translocation, and that is very likely the cause. Have you and hubby had any testing done yet?

 

[laughingduck]

Yay xan! I totally see that line! Good luck to you!

So sorry duck. I thought that autoimmune issues were my problem too, I was convinced, but then learned a week ago that my hubby has a balanced translocation, and that is very likely the cause. Have you and hubby had any testing done yet?

No we havent done testing yet, I see my doctor tomorrow. Not sure if she will make me wait for a third loss or not. Im not sure what a balanced translocation is. We have one daughter together though, would we have been able to have her if he did?
Is there treatment for your hubby? I hope you get to have your rainbow baby soon.

 

[TinyLynne]

A lot of Drs are doing testing after 2 now. I'd push for as much as you can. And yes, it is possible to have children with it, but the miscarriage rate is really high because of the chances of genetically abnormal embryos. There is no treatment for it unfortunately, it is what it is. But there are so many things that can cause recurrent miscarriage. I'd at least push your doctor for thyroid and lupus and blood clotting testing. Those are things that can change over time, especially the thyroid.