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TTC after miscarriage before AF
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Angel5000
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hi everyone. I was recommended to check out the Loss forums.
I went off BC in February and we've been trying ever since. This cycle I finally felt like we had a handle on things and did everything right. AF due Saturday (2 days ago), and I got a faint + on Friday on an IC HPT. I tested again Friday night and again, faint positive. Saturday morning I had a + on my IC but BFN on FRER. By Saturday afternoon I was spotting bright red, and by late Saturday night I was at a full flow. Sunday was a BFN on my IC's.
The faint + was faint, but pretty clear, especially on the invert. We had first thought the Fri one was an evap because I had forgotten about it when I got distracted and had come back later, but Fri night and Sat morning I made sure ot take a picture within the time frame. So I know those weren't Evaps. And, I pulled out all the ones I'd used from earlier in the cycle when I was testing (specifically for evaps) and those were stark white, no evap lines at all.
Everyone in my "cycle thread" was expecting a BFP from me this weekend, myself included, especially after the ICs.
I'm not sure how to feel. I mean, I feel guilty feeling so bad because I feel like I lost my peanut before I even had a chance to be pregnant. So part of me says to stop feeling bad. The other part of me is really just devastated.
I went off BC in February and we've been trying ever since. This cycle I finally felt like we had a handle on things and did everything right. AF due Saturday (2 days ago), and I got a faint + on Friday on an IC HPT. I tested again Friday night and again, faint positive. Saturday morning I had a + on my IC but BFN on FRER. By Saturday afternoon I was spotting bright red, and by late Saturday night I was at a full flow. Sunday was a BFN on my IC's.
The faint + was faint, but pretty clear, especially on the invert. We had first thought the Fri one was an evap because I had forgotten about it when I got distracted and had come back later, but Fri night and Sat morning I made sure ot take a picture within the time frame. So I know those weren't Evaps. And, I pulled out all the ones I'd used from earlier in the cycle when I was testing (specifically for evaps) and those were stark white, no evap lines at all.
Everyone in my "cycle thread" was expecting a BFP from me this weekend, myself included, especially after the ICs.
I'm not sure how to feel. I mean, I feel guilty feeling so bad because I feel like I lost my peanut before I even had a chance to be pregnant. So part of me says to stop feeling bad. The other part of me is really just devastated.
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Hey Ladies, feeling a bit down today, Its cd 10 and we Haven't been able to dtd yet as AF is hanging around, my boss is expecting his 4 child on 24th Sept, which is also my first edd from the cp in Jan, and my sil announced last night she's 10w pregnant, along with my slightly high FSH reading (10.5) just feeling like its never going to happen!!!! Sorry for ranting, just feeling sad 
Angel5000-sorry about your loss. It doesn't matter how early, after months of waiting and hoping, give yourself permission to be sad. But it did happen one time after not too long and you will get a sticky bean.
Babylove-
I know how you feel. I had to share a room with my boss who was pregnant on a business trip just after my first loss, and then I almost broke down around my EDD sobbing. Well, I found out I was pregnant two days later. So, life has a way of slapping you around, but also surprising you.
AFM- I have been focusing on losing some baby weight that hung around, and having a side project has been very helpful to staying in good spirits. I have lost 4 pounds so far. Another 2 and I'm back to my pre-pregnancy weight! CD 8 so far.
For you ladies that use OPKs, I have a question of when I should start. I usually O CD13/14, so I was thinking CD 10 or 11. I don't have that many left, but after my two ridiculous cycles, I don't want to miss the O and worry about it...
Babylove-
I know how you feel. I had to share a room with my boss who was pregnant on a business trip just after my first loss, and then I almost broke down around my EDD sobbing. Well, I found out I was pregnant two days later. So, life has a way of slapping you around, but also surprising you. AFM- I have been focusing on losing some baby weight that hung around, and having a side project has been very helpful to staying in good spirits. I have lost 4 pounds so far. Another 2 and I'm back to my pre-pregnancy weight! CD 8 so far.
For you ladies that use OPKs, I have a question of when I should start. I usually O CD13/14, so I was thinking CD 10 or 11. I don't have that many left, but after my two ridiculous cycles, I don't want to miss the O and worry about it...
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Angel5000 Im sorry to hear about your loss. Mine ahve been early, 5 and 6 weeks, but they still feel like losses, let yourself grieve and I hope you get your sticky bean soon!
Babylove do I understand you are still on your period after 10 days? My firstvperiod after my mc in June was 8 days, very long for me (Im usually 4 days) but ovulation happened at the normal time. I understand feeling a little down when people announce their pregnancies. I have two cousins due in January, my first edd. It can be rough but remember you will get your rainbow soon.
I am 8dpo today and took my first test with bfn (to be expected). My first pergnency I got my bfp in the evening of 8dpo and the second I got my bfp 9dpo. Hoping to find out soon. Not sure how I will feel about it tbh though. Two losses since Starting to try in May, I dont want to feel happy then crushed again...
Babylove do I understand you are still on your period after 10 days? My firstvperiod after my mc in June was 8 days, very long for me (Im usually 4 days) but ovulation happened at the normal time. I understand feeling a little down when people announce their pregnancies. I have two cousins due in January, my first edd. It can be rough but remember you will get your rainbow soon.
I am 8dpo today and took my first test with bfn (to be expected). My first pergnency I got my bfp in the evening of 8dpo and the second I got my bfp 9dpo. Hoping to find out soon. Not sure how I will feel about it tbh though. Two losses since Starting to try in May, I dont want to feel happy then crushed again...
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Well, apparently DH and I have really figured out this conceiving thing.... Faint BFP this morning. I think I'm 9 DPO, it's really faint, but probably the darkest I've had at 9 DPO so far. Doesn't feel any different than any of the other times, but I'm not sure if it is supposed to....
Debating getting betas done or just sticking to FRER progression like last time...
Here we go again.
But I guess each time gets us closer to a balanced healthy baby.
Debating getting betas done or just sticking to FRER progression like last time...
Here we go again.
But I guess each time gets us closer to a balanced healthy baby.
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Yay congrats TinyLynne!!! Got everything crossed for you that this is your rainbow!!
Yep laughing duck, I'm cd 10 today and still spotting/really light bleed. Very frustrating! With all 3 of my mc I had normal bleeds so I don't know why when I haven't mc i'd suddenly get AF a week early then it hang around for 10 days. The witch is being very rude this cycle!
Yep laughing duck, I'm cd 10 today and still spotting/really light bleed. Very frustrating! With all 3 of my mc I had normal bleeds so I don't know why when I haven't mc i'd suddenly get AF a week early then it hang around for 10 days. The witch is being very rude this cycle!
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hello everyone im sorry to see new losses and BFN, hang in there.
just an update today is day 21 after D&C still waiting for AF, I have bad headaches, nausea, breast tenderness but im absolutely to scared to test. I honestly don't know how to feel anymore these symptoms may be AF symptoms I think I will wait another week before testing.
just an update today is day 21 after D&C still waiting for AF, I have bad headaches, nausea, breast tenderness but im absolutely to scared to test. I honestly don't know how to feel anymore these symptoms may be AF symptoms I think I will wait another week before testing.
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Sorry it's so frustrating for you baby love
Yeah, they've been pretty strong for the last few days and I've had a flashing smiley since cd8. Hoping I can woo DH tonight regardless of spotting! Let see how much he really loves me
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have you ever had your progesterone checked?
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Congratulations TinyLynne. I hope this is the sticky balanced bean you deserve. Xx
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Babylove I'm sorry AF is dragging out. I hope it is over soon and ovulation stays on track.
AFM- I think my "pregnancy symptoms" were just AF symptoms. Which I never got before the Provera..But I am guessing it is just my new normal since the losses. I am sure AF is on the way. I check my Cervix last night and after being medium high soft-ish and closed all week it is now super low and feels open..at least I am pretty sure it is slightly open I have a retroverted cervix/uterus so when it is high I can't really feel the opening. I hope AF hurries up and gets here on it's own this time!
AFM- I think my "pregnancy symptoms" were just AF symptoms. Which I never got before the Provera..But I am guessing it is just my new normal since the losses. I am sure AF is on the way. I check my Cervix last night and after being medium high soft-ish and closed all week it is now super low and feels open..at least I am pretty sure it is slightly open I have a retroverted cervix/uterus so when it is high I can't really feel the opening. I hope AF hurries up and gets here on it's own this time!
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Thanks everyone for the kind words. I am doing better and ready to try again this cycle.
I'm a little confused though. I'm now CD3 and still bleeding off and on but it's light. From what I've read a chemical could result in a very light period (which I found odd and thought it would be the other way around), but my cervix is very high and soft which is incredibly odd for me during AF. It's usually low and very hard for several more days.
A couple days ago it was mid range and firm (not hard). Could I be getting ready to O already? or could it just be remnant from the chemical? Anyone have a chemical and have experience with this?
I'm a little confused though. I'm now CD3 and still bleeding off and on but it's light. From what I've read a chemical could result in a very light period (which I found odd and thought it would be the other way around), but my cervix is very high and soft which is incredibly odd for me during AF. It's usually low and very hard for several more days.
A couple days ago it was mid range and firm (not hard). Could I be getting ready to O already? or could it just be remnant from the chemical? Anyone have a chemical and have experience with this?
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I always bled like a normal, maybe slight heavier period. Have you had a day of full flow yet or just spotting? If you are just spotting then you maybe not be in the new cycle just yet. With my chemicals I spotted lightly for a few days and then AF came on full.
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Well I saw a super faint line yesterday afternoon and this morning. Like super super only see it if you turn it the right way type of faint. Hoping it darkens up a bit!
Congrats TinyLynne on your bfp. We are only one day apart in our cycles! Hoping we both get our sticky rainbows.
BabyLove is this your first period since your mc? My first period was super long, even though my miscarriages were like normal periods. I hope it ends soon and you can convince your man to dtd!
Congrats TinyLynne on your bfp. We are only one day apart in our cycles! Hoping we both get our sticky rainbows.
BabyLove is this your first period since your mc? My first period was super long, even though my miscarriages were like normal periods. I hope it ends soon and you can convince your man to dtd!
