TTC after miscarriage before AF

[elliecain]

Pinktree1981, so sorry for your loss.
I mc at 5+0 just over 2 weeks ago and I bled for 5 days then spotted for 2. I counted mc as day 1 and temped again quickly. FF says I ovulated cd14, same as always. It varies from person to person, but an earlier mc seems to mean your cycle is more likely to return to normal more quickly.
I didn't do opks this cycle, as I read they might not be reliable. I've been temping for a few months and this is the only method that confirms ovulation. My advice would be to take first day of mc as cd1 and assume usual ovulation until you get higher temps.
It's also worth doing an hpt when bleeding stops, to make sure your hcg levels have fallen again. Your cycle won't return if there is still hcg in your system.

Good luck!

 

[xanzaba]

Pinktree- early losses tend to affect you less. I was told to take the first day of no bleeding as day 1, but I was much further along. Temping was tough as I had wacko cycles (1st anovulatory/2nd really long- I'm usually regular), but it would have been tough either way, and having some hard facts to go on was reassuring.

Ooh mssk- I hope we're going to be bump buddies! I've never had such spiky temps and sore boobs. Must be the progesterone kicking into high gear.

Elliecain- I'm glad you have a silver lining around your loss. Next is the rainbow!

 

[pinktree1981]

Thanks elliecain, that's really helpful. Sorry for your loss. Sending you lots and lots of sticky baby dust for this month xx

 

[Aayla]

I counted my start of bleeding as cd1. I know my cycle may not be on point because it isn't a real cycle. That being said.... I have finally got a negative hpt and I got a positive opk last night. Right on schedule. What's wild though is that i don't ovulate on my own, I need femara and I have never had a positive opk in an an-ovulatory cycle.

But some women don't go back to normal for a cycle or two. It depends. I do wish I had been able to temp for the last few days. So I would suggest temping for sure. OPK's ideally when you have a negative hpt.

 

[pinktree1981]

Thank you xanzaba , and sorry for your loss. I've never done temping, how does that work if you don't mind me asking? Only used opks with this pregnancy

 

[elliecain]

Use a special thermometer (I bought mine on eBay, search for bbt) to take your temperature first thing in the morning at the same time every day, after at least 3 hours' sleep. Your temperature will drop in the first part of your cycle, then suddenly jump up the day after you ovulate. It is a very reliable way of knowing you have ovulated.
I track my temps and other things using Fertility Friend. It's a great app!

I got used to temping really quickly but it's taken 3 months for me to be able to rely entirely on them. The app learns your cycle and patterns. I am hooked on charting now... See my sig xx

 

[xanzaba]

Pinktree- usually using fertility friend is the easiest way to keep track. There is a free and a paid version. I think they give you a free trial of the paid version, but if not the free is good enough I think. There are a lot of tools there to get you started, but basically you take your temperature as soon as you wake up every morning. When you ovulate, your temperature will get higher, and when it's high for 3 days you get little crosshairs. You can also keep track of when you bd, symptom spot etc. It's easy to get obsessed with your chart though

 

[Aayla]

I paid for the vip version and you get it for a year for about $30 ish. I love it. It gives you a detailed interpretation of all of your stuff, it tells you if you are in a fertile zone and it will even tell you if you dtd enough.

 

[pinktree1981]

Thanks so much all for being so friendly and all the great advice. Everything feels really strange at the moment- I'm upset but ok with it all, some friends being really supportive but some ignoring me - I guess cos they don't know what to say. Weird how everyone's different.

I'll leave temping for this month I think but will get everything ready for next month. A badly sleeping toddler may make temping a bit difficult!

Hope you all get your sticky beans very soon ��

 

[Aayla]

and the symptom spotting has begun lol. At least for O. I am feeling all bloaty today and I am getting random twinges. Same as before. I have had headaches for the last few days which was a major sign for me. I'm thirsty all the time, I feel flushed a bit and I have to pee like crazy (probably due to the excess liquid from being thirsty). My boobs are also a bit tingly in the nipple area. I don't want to get my hopes up but it's all pointing in the same direction. Could I be this lucky? The next week will be long. I won't know for sure if I ovulated until I do the progesterone test. I am hoping the miscarriage doesn't mess up the numbers.

 

[Justme43]

and the symptom spotting has begun lol. At least for O. I am feeling all bloaty today and I am getting random twinges. Same as before. I have had headaches for the last few days which was a major sign for me. I'm thirsty all the time, I feel flushed a bit and I have to pee like crazy (probably due to the excess liquid from being thirsty). My boobs are also a bit tingly in the nipple area. I don't want to get my hopes up but it's all pointing in the same direction. Could I be this lucky? The next week will be long. I won't know for sure if I ovulated until I do the progesterone test. I am hoping the miscarriage doesn't mess up the numbers.

So excited for you. Fingers crossed xoxo

 

[Aayla]

Well I did not get a temp spike like last cycle. It went down .03 of a degree. So I'm not sure if I ovulated at all. I now wonder if there was enough hcg left in that one sample to cause the opk to go positive. Which is weird when no other opk was positive before or since and I had a negative pg test before and after.

The spotting has finally stopped. Woke up to nothing and nothing when I went to the bathroom.

While I didn't want to get my hopes up I have. The only way to confirm anything is to go for my progesterone test next monday.

 

[Justme43]

Well I did not get a temp spike like last cycle. It went down .03 of a degree. So I'm not sure if I ovulated at all. I now wonder if there was enough hcg left in that one sample to cause the opk to go positive. Which is weird when no other opk was positive before or since and I had a negative pg test before and after.

The spotting has finally stopped. Woke up to nothing and nothing when I went to the bathroom.

While I didn't want to get my hopes up I have. The only way to confirm anything is to go for my progesterone test next monday.

Sorry honey.. You okay?

 

[Aayla]

I think I'm doing okay. It would have been an astronomical chance for me to ovulate on my own. I may have surged and got the positive opk but nothing happened afterward. But I don't know anything for sure. We dtd the last 2 days and will do it again today (because hey why not right lol). If my progesterone test comes back that I didn't O then I will take another frer pg test to see if that finally goes negative.

i want to get into the docs as soon as possible. They are insisting on my taking a pg test 3 weeks after the bleeding started (which is roughly oct 2). But by the time I get in and get my biopsy done, I am so afraid of missing the first cycle. Although this is on the assumption it comes on time. lol Who knows what my body is going to do.

 

[xanzaba]

Aayla- don't count yourself out yet! You usually see a temp spike 1-3 days after a positive OPK. I have to say, OPKs are so much more frustrating than HPTs. You'd think they could have developed a better test by now.

 

[Aayla]

So true. Even hubby said maybe it can happen tomorrow. And he knows so little about all of this. He is slowly learning though. But you are right, and I need to take the advice i give out. You aren't out until af shows. (well for me I will know in my progesterone test).

Ok...so I have a temping question then.. For this morning I used the temp I got at 7:45am. (36.25 C) I had to get up to pee but before I did I took my temp. Went back to bed and got up around 11am. I took my temp again and it was 36.41 C (I was looking for anything higher than yesterdays of 36.28).

Both times are not the normal time I temp (8:30am). Should I take the time at 7:45 because it's closer and I didn't get up at during the night or take the other temp which was today's actually getting out of bed to do stuff time.

 

[Carlimar]

Hey ladies wanted to ask some more advice. So I counted CD1 as the day I first started bleeding with m/c, I didn't get a negative hpt till CD8 and am currently CD14 and got my first +ve opk smiley face today. Do you ladies think this is a good reading or false positive? I usually get first +ve opk around CD11 or 12 but am guessing because of the m/c it could have pushed it out a couple days. What do you girls think?

 

[elliecain]

Aayla, if I have to temp at a different time for some reason, I use this website to adjust my temps. It seems to work quite well if I'm a couple of hours out...
https://www.whenmybaby.com/basalbodytemperature.php

 

[Aayla]

Hey ladies wanted to ask some more advice. So I counted CD1 as the day I first started bleeding with m/c, I didn't get a negative hpt till CD8 and am currently CD14 and got my first +ve opk smiley face today. Do you ladies think this is a good reading or false positive? I usually get first +ve opk around CD11 or 12 but am guessing because of the m/c it could have pushed it out a couple days. What do you girls think?

I would say that it is likely a good positive. That's nearly a week from the negative test. My positve was only 3 days from a positive test and a day from a negative so I am more likely to have picked up hcg. And it's normal for the O day to be pushed back a few days.

 

[Aayla]

hmm. if I use the 7:45 test it would put it up to 36.33 (not a huge jump in temp but still up).