TTC and Beyond!

[asmcsm]

Kara, Julie was the first one to post about the us and canceling her Doppler order because of a documentary that she had seen and some stuff she had read. Then I had told her I'd seen some of the same stuff and was also going about things the way she is then it turned into this fiasco :/

 

[morganwhite7]

Well if you're SURE Ashlee, I can start being more active again. And talk about more than TTC.

I just didn't want any hurt feelings. I was meaning from my perspective, after just losing a son and being TTC again, the last thing I'd wanna see is 50 bean pictures reminding me mine was gone. And I know there are lots of delicate situations on there..

So I hope they don't mind, bc I am really proud and worry I'll be too proud one day and strike someone's bad nerve. Bc I remember how it feels to be a living zombie over TTC, I was miserable working for something I thought I'd never achieve.

 

[asmcsm]

I don't mind it on here, it's fb when I see the girls that are preggo and I know all their dirty secrets and it makes me mad . It's the way we've always done it. The girls before always still shared their u/s pictures and kept us up to date on their dr visits and how they were feeling. I feel like we've all just kinda been segregated and it just hurt the group dynamic.

 

[asmcsm]

Also, I get excited and tell hubby when one if the girls in here gets preggo, any time I see something on fb I always bitch to him instead. It's different here lol

 

[morganwhite7]

Awh well I apologize, I can see how it could have hurt the TTCers feelings when we all just left and made a new thread. Just know it was with the best intentions.

If anyone like really wants me to delete this thread, I wouldn't mind. For the sake of the girls, if it helps, I'd be willing.

Lol I hate FB... Yeah freakin fifty million newborns and broken families. Ten different babymommas. And I'm still too nervous to even announce on there for fears of people judging me... Hate how the world works lol.

 

[asmcsm]

Well it's not my call, obviously it's up to you preggos where you feel comfortable. I just know that I miss the group all being together in one spot and supporting each other and I'd hate to see everyone go. However I do vote to close the ttc thread after this month so that the group doesn't get even more huge and have the negativity get this bad again.

 

[morganwhite7]

IDEA!!!: Let's CLOSE the main thread to the 20 of us who are also listed on this thread (take a look on the 1st page). ONLY those girls.

That way we won't get Catfished or verbally abused lol. Anyone think that is ingenious?

I will have to post over there about it though too, and make sure everyone is okay with us preggos and w/ closing it. That may cause a stink too, but I'm good with words lol..

Anyone agree?

 

[morganwhite7]

Lmao Ashlee I just saw that's what you were trying to suggest also, I just read that post.

But yeah, FABULOUS idea. I think that will stop the drama.

 

[BubsMom17]

Ladies I just want to say I hope my comment about u/s's didn't offend anyone... I was just adding anecdotes to the discussion. I support everyone's decisions...

I am very sad this is happening.

Frankly I like this thread because I didn't feel ignored here. Often times I post in the other thread and it never gets aknowledged. There are girls in there I care about and to be ignored and passed over hurts. I know I am not TTC anymore and I am close to my due date. But to just feel like my words are irrelevant over there hurts.

I felt responded to here more so than the other thread...

I am crying right now (yes, I am hormonal, OK...) because it makes me sad that the girls I have been close with since December are fighting or leaving... I know if it causes stress people shouldn't stick around, but you girls are a part of my life and it makes me sad.

 

[asmcsm]

Emily, I'm sorry you felt like you were being passed over I hope I wasn't one of the people to make you feel that way. I felt like you weren't posting very much over there anymore, then this thread popped up some of you guys were posting here all the time and didn't pop in on the other thread as much anymore. I guess to me it seemed like some of you didn't really want to talk the the TTCers anymore. I tried to come over here so I could still keep up on what's going on with you guys but it seems like everything's gotten so separated like an us vs. them thing

 

[wavescrash]

I personally like this thread as a preggo thread because I'm ignored in my due date club thread and want other preggos to talk to about everything.

 

[Cowgirl07]

Hi ladies sorry I haven't been on the preggo thread lately, it has just been hard for me lately. I feel like I don't even sleep trying to get things ready for today. Its dh birthday and someone (me) decided to host a party. I love you and hope and pray for you and your beans and am so happy for you!! I agree with closing the thread and if you only want people that have been on since the beginning in it I understand.

 

[asmcsm]

I just feel like this thread has caused more separation and tension between everyone. Before people posted their scans and pictures and updates in the TTC thread and everything was fine and everyone was supportive and people would ask about how preggos were doing. I'm speaking as someone that was preggo on that board before. Even if I didn't get to the point of scans, I was able to share and never felt the tension that there is now. Most of the girls in the TTC board have been pregnant or experienced losses and know what it's like to be a preggo and have questions and want to talk about it which is why I think most of us don't mind having the updates there. If any TTcers that view this thread disagree feel free to correct me. But it seems like creating this thread just kinda divided everyone rather than keeping them together.

 

[BubsMom17]

Emily, I'm sorry you felt like you were being passed over I hope I wasn't one of the people to make you feel that way. I felt like you weren't posting very much over there anymore, then this thread popped up some of you guys were posting here all the time and didn't pop in on the other thread as much anymore. I guess to me it seemed like some of you didn't really want to talk the the TTCers anymore. I tried to come over here so I could still keep up on what's going on with you guys but it seems like everything's gotten so separated like an us vs. them thing

No Ashlee is wasn't you! I watch the thread because I wait patiently for all of you to test!!! It makes my day/week/whatever when I see those annoucements! I just don't want people to think I am some weird stalker... lol... Like so everyone knows I'm not like, Oh I'm pregnant, peace I'm out!

 

[BubsMom17]

Hi ladies sorry I haven't been on the preggo thread lately, it has just been hard for me lately. I feel like I don't even sleep trying to get things ready for today. Its dh birthday and someone (me) decided to host a party. I love you and hope and pray for you and your beans and am so happy for you!! I agree with closing the thread and if you only want people that have been on since the beginning in it I understand.

You're a permanent member now. You lost newbie status a while ago!

 

[BubsMom17]

I personally like this thread as a preggo thread because I'm ignored in my due date club thread and want other preggos to talk to about everything.

Why are you ignored in your due date club???

 

[asmcsm]

No Ashlee is wasn't you! I watch the thread because I wait patiently for all of you to test!!! It makes my day/week/whatever when I see those annoucements! I just don't want people to think I am some weird stalker... lol... Like so everyone knows I'm not like, Oh I'm pregnant, peace I'm out!

Hah! We like having you as our weird preggo stalker but you should definitely speak up more! We like to hear from you. Especially since you're so close to meeting your new little one!!

 

[wavescrash]

I think everyone's forgetting there are pregnant women with hormonal swings in here along with women whose emotions are high over their ttc struggles and some things may be taken out of context. I think all the hostility started when I made comment in the ttc thread about being offended by comments on those who got pregnant easily. But I apologized saying I was in a bad mood and took it the wrong way. I got over it but I feel like hositity from that convo never completely left. I know after that I felt ignored by several of you in the ttc thread and I could understand why so I just let it go. We're all going to go about ttc or our pregnancies in different ways based on research we've done and I don't think anyone is meaning to sound judgmental if we have a different view. I stated I had many scans with Hannah and she turned out fine but that doesn't mean I was suggesting those of you against many scans were wrong. I was just quickly adding my thoughts (since I was at work and didn't have time to make a full reply.) if people want to leave either thread, that's fine but I don't think anyone wants anyone to leave either place. I personally want to stay in a thread with the preggos from the ttc thread because I don't have anyone to talk to about this pregnancy and I'm ignored in my due date thread so I'd like to see this one stick around.

 

[brunettebimbo]

This makes me sad I know I haven't been part of your group long but I really do enjoy talking to you all whether it be pregnancy or TTC. I know how exciting/nerve wracking pregnant can be and I'm now learning how tough TTC can be but that doesn't mean for even for a split second that I don't want to hear your updates. I could have cried when AF arrived this month because I was really hopeful bit you girls kept me strong. I LOVE seeing all your scan and bump pictures. I think things went wrong when someone suggested a new thread. You should never have been made to feel that you couldn't talk about your pregnancies etc, that was YOUR group. The "originals"! If new TTCers don't like it then they should leave. I agree with making the TTC thread closed. It would probably solve the problem of mixed posts. It moves so quick that sometimes people's posts are missed but not purposely. Please don't kick me out though! I love you girls already

 

[jury3]

I definitely still read and comment on both. I just like having a place to talk preggo where it doesn't get lost. Like waves said, the preggo boards suck! Lol you guys are my friends. I think the other thread has maybe just gotten too large. Not that I don't like new people but it is easier to keep up with if its just us.

Emily-I wasn't offended by you at all.

Really I think it was Kara's post about why each individual girl on here gets so many u/s. I know it was really meant for mommy I guess, but it kind if made me feel like I should've kept my mouth shut. Plus, I felt bad for mommy bc I know she didn't mean anything by it. She was just trying to explain her logic. I know she didn't mean to tell anyone their baby could die. Of course no one needs to hear that. It just all got messed up and misunderstood.

I'm ok closing the thread from now on. I still like a place to talk preggo though. I will still share updates on both threads though. I'm just stressed bc I've been so sick and exhausted and the last thing I want is to come here and deal with drama. That's all. I'm putting yesterday's thread behind me and moving on...lets pretend it never happened.