TTC for 6+ months? *20 bfp's and counting!*

[cntrygrl]

Good Luck Kati FX'ed for you!

 

[Tarotempres]

Good Luck Kati

We have been trying for over a year. My husband's swimmers are fine I am the problem. My eggs are not a good quality and I don't produce many of them. I kind of did things a little backwards and did IVF before doing any IUI. My doctor doesn't think I will be successful with the IUI due to the lack of eggs I produce and our insurance covers two IVFs a lifetime. I have to wait a month before I can go back on any drugs and I have an appointment with my doctor at the end of the month to discuss what our options are. I would like to try at least two rounds of IUI now and see if the quality of my eggs gets any better. I have to ask him about some of the supplements I have heard that other girls are taking and see what he says about those. I don't want to use my last IVF yet because our last resort may be donor eggs. The thought of that does not make me happy but I have to stay positive that something will happen before that.

 

[cntrygrl]

Tarot if you don't mind me asking what insurance do you have? I have CDPHP and I've been meaning to see if IVF is covered through them.

 

[flou]

Welcome tarot. Sorry that your first go at ivf wasnt successful. Fxd for your second attempt!

Im onto month ttc number 19. Had through a letter from the fertility department at the hospital to let me know im now on the list for an appt with the specialist. Will prob take another few months before i get an appt as thats the nhs.

Felt quite down after last AF. Im feeling so frustrated at the mo. All the tests we have had done so far have come back fine. Good luck ladies with the hsgs, hopefully it will lead to some more bfps!

 

[Katikins612]

Hi tarot,

You might want to try an IUI cycle with you being on injectable medications. These are similar to those used in IVF (much stronger than clomid or femara). They can monitor your egg progress through the ultrasounds. You would do a trigger shot, then go for the IUI afterwards. It's worth trying a few times, considering its way cheaper than IVF. Wishing you lots of luck!

 

[Tarotempres]

Cntygrl - We have Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield. You may be better off calling the insurance company from the doctor's office. It is a lot easier to get a straight answer from them if the doctor gives you the insurance codes. Also check if the medications are covered. Do not assume because the procedure is covered that the medications are covered. Our insurance allows us unlimited IUI and two IVFs a lifetime but we only get $5,000 worth of medications covered and the medications are much more expensive than $5,000. I know my doctor did have medications that were donated hopefully your doctor has the same. Luckily my prescription company found a loopwhole in the insurance companies regulation because the medications were covered if they were delivered to the doctor's office because they assume the doctor is administering them. It was a weird loopwhole but I don't care because the one medication I needed was over $9,000.

Flou - I am so sorry it is hard for you to get an appointment and everything. I am not familiar with the healthcare system in England and I am sure it is a lot different than ours here in the states. I wish you the best of luck with everything.

Kat - I just hope my doctor will do it. He was really set against doing it from the begining but I am hoping because we were temporarily successful it will change his mind. If he won't do it I will try and find a doctor that will. Started accupuncture today and she says lets do this once a week and then around when everything starts up again we can adjust the schedule as needed. Hopefully that will help.

 

[dreaminghopin]

Hi ladies... Just wanted to let u know that I got my bfp!! Me and hubby have been ttc first baby since last oct and had a very early loss last dec. Its been 12 long cycles since loss in dec but here I am. Hubby had a few dodgy sperm results but after 9 months of cutting out caffiene and swallowing macca, zinc, vit c and wellmans everyday it's worked. Still trying to stay grounded as it's very early days xx

 

[sandoval_star]

Congrats Dreaming!!!! Amazing news xxx

Welcome Tarot :wave: x

 

[HopeforFuture]

Congrats dreaminghopin! There is hope out there for us!!!

Welcome Tarot xx

So sorry you have had such a rubbish experience with the NHS Flou - you should come and live by me - the waiting times haven't been too bad so far! I think its awful how the NHS trusts all work differently - as we all pay the same amount for them, the waiting and referral times should all be the same, in my opinion.

 

[cntrygrl]

Congrats Dreamin!!!!!!

Tarot-- I ended up calling the insurance company yesterday. My IUI's are covered, but IVF is not. I'm sure my Dr. will work with me though if we have to go that route. She has been so great and I'm glad I found her. Monday is my SIS and I think I may have O'ed on the 10th since my temp seems to be creeping up.

Flou-- I hope they get you in soon bloody specialists!

 

[sandoval_star]

Congrats dreaminghopin! There is hope out there for us!!!

Welcome Tarot xx

So sorry you have had such a rubbish experience with the NHS Flou - you should come and live by me - the waiting times haven't been too bad so far! I think its awful how the NHS trusts all work differently - as we all pay the same amount for them, the waiting and referral times should all be the same, in my opinion.

Couldn't have said it better Hope! The wait time to see the fertility clinic in my area (Glasgow) is 6 months and if they decide we need IVF (which has already been confirmed by the private clinic) we then have the pleasure of going on to the 2 YEAR waiting list. Total postcode lottery, as the neighbouring area, Lanarkshire (where I used to live grrr) has only a 9 month wait! I'm just hoping my attempt with the private clinic works and I won't have to even contemplate waiting that long. My doctor said the Govt is doing a new scheme to bring all areas into line with a guaranteed 1 year wait across Britain - don't see how they will manage this though x

 

[HopeforFuture]

I don't know Sandoval - maybe people will have to travel further for treatment, or areas will be redrawn to accommodate demand?

I have been very lucky. I waited 4 weeks to see the specialist following hitting the 12 month mark. I am booked in guaranteed for the HSG in the next 6 weeks (two cycles) and have a follow up appointment already booked for me in early January, in which I've been told I'll either be put on Clomid if the HSG didn't show anything abnormal, or referred for surgery to correct problems shown on the HSG. I think the IVF wait is still 2 years, like yours. We would go private if that was the option we wanted to take, although unless I'm told that's the only way we're ever going to have a bubba, we won't be going down that route.

I feel awful for people who have to wait until 18 months to be referred. I'd have been in a bad state by then.

 

[sandoval_star]

I know, waiting is no fun when after a year of trying it feels all you do is wait! It's also ironic that most fertility treatments are much more successful the younger the female is - not helped by the NHS! You seem to be moving forward with treatment, hopefully not too much longer until you get your bfp. And you're right - ivf isn't something to do if you don't have to! x

 

[luna_19]

congrats dreaming! were you on any meds or anything or did you just finally get lucky?

look on the bright side ladies, at least fertility treatments are covered where you live (despite the horrendous wait times), here fertility treatments are one of the few things that aren't covered and it costs about $10,000 to do ivf. My brother and sil went through this twice! so have spent at least $20,000 on their family

 

[sandoval_star]

I know Luna, we're definitely lucky it's covered but the wait times are just too long. That's why me and dh have had to go ahead and pay for the treatment; not something we can really afford as it's so expensive! And if it works this time I automatically am no longer eligible for any free treatment from the NHS in the future as I would have a child. If wait times were even just a year I think it would be more plausible to wait x

 

[luna_19]

that's crap that you can't get assistance once you have a child! You just can't win

 

[sandoval_star]

I know! I can see dh and I being £20,000 down over the next 10 years! x

 

[Tarotempres]

Congrats dreaming. I will keep you in my prayers that everything remains good!!

Cntry - I am glad your insurance at least covers the IUI at least it is something and it does help take a weight off of your shoulders.

The whole process of ttc and not being able to really stinks and having to wait I think makes things worse. I truly wish there was an easier way and more support for things like this. Most of my friends were able to conceive right away so they don't know how this all feels. Thank you ladies for being so open and honest about everything.

 

[flou]

Congratulations dreamin! Hope you have h & h 9 months.

 

[flou]

Congrats dreaming. I will keep you in my prayers that everything remains good!!

Cntry - I am glad your insurance at least covers the IUI at least it is something and it does help take a weight off of your shoulders.

The whole process of ttc and not being able to really stinks and having to wait I think makes things worse. I truly wish there was an easier way and more support for things like this. Most of my friends were able to conceive right away so they don't know how this all feels. Thank you ladies for being so open and honest about everything.

I know what you mean Tarot. Most of my friends and colleagues just have to look at their partners and they get pg! I think unless you have been through it you dont really understand what it is like. I have my good days and bad days. But the thing i hate the most is the frustration and the not being able to do anymore than we are currently doing. Im hoping that during the wait for a specialist we are able to conceive on our own.