ttc since January 2014, anyone to chat with me?

[lola33]

duckie, you're right, it's better to know asap and get thing done.. but I also get that your Dh is not really happy about doing that..
missi, same here, I don't want to hope too much, I afraid I will be even more sad if I do.
Tuesday, I hope you're ok and that your doctors will help you find a way to get that bfp.
Well doctor called me back, said I was fine. The 6cm fibrome is outside the uterus, so it should do anything. He told me to call back in september for more exams.. I hope I won't have to.

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

Don't be jealous duckie, being told IVF is your only option SUCKS.

He didn't have a choice, I was getting my stuff done, we're at a specialist. Plus he's that type of person, he's not going to put off our dream by being reluctant when I've already had internals, blood scans, an invasive operation....

 

[duckie4]

tuesday, i didn't mean to sound insensitive to your situation. i'm sorry if it sounded that way. certainly having a diagnosed problem is never easy to swallow and i would never pretend to be jealous of someone dealing with a medical diagnosis, especially one that cannot easily be fixed.

what i meant to say, is that knowing what the problem is *can* be as easy as a semen analysis (which is safe, cost effective, and easy to do)... vs me taking more prescriptions, having expensive ultrasounds, multiple doctors appointments, and 12 months of anguish just simply not knowing if there's even a problem at all! why can't he just go do the darn test!?

 

[lola33]

Duckie, well he has to do it, you're both in that journey. I guess you will have to talk and show him how important it is to you. You won't love him less if his swimmers aren't all good, and he won't be less of a man.

 

[Mrs W 11]

I think sometimes there can be a lot of fear behind that test for a man. Not having healthy sperm makes them feel less of a man if they can't get their woman pregnant if you see what I mean. Not true at all and I think for a girl we are upset but we want to do something about it and investigate the next option but a man wants to retreat to his man cave. Does that make any sense? My sisters husband took a very long time to get his sa and sadly it was him that was the issue, I think he knew deep down and didn't want to face it. It's just all so sad.

However there's lots that can be done now and although having ivf as your only option is very hard and makes for a really difficult journey, it is still possible to have babies and I guess some couples don't have even that option available so I'm keeping fingers and toes crossed that rainbow babies are not too far in the future for all of us here, ivf or not

 

[duckie4]

that is probably very true, mrs w. how insightful of you. perhaps that should be my empathetic approach with him, i hadn't considered his "man-hood" being so deeply vulnerable with getting an SA. i appreciate your perception on that!

 

[Mrs W 11]

Good luck duckie! I hope he goes for the test soon. X

 

[Mississippi03]

Mrsw is very right on that. Dh actually called me crazy to our dr is reference to my obsessiveness over trc. He had nothing to do with it until she basically said to him its a two way st and theres nothing they can do for me until he gets an sa. Hes been on board ever since. We go to dr tomorrow to get referral for sa.. And hes been icing his balls for three weeks trying to improve our odds lol.. Or his self confidence

 

[Mrs W 11]

Icing his balls sorry miss, that really made me chuckle. I know there isn't really much funny about ttc but if you don't laugh sometimes you'd cry!! X

 

[lola33]

haha that was a good one !
I hope you're all ok ! what's new for you girls?
I'm something DPO, like 7, I'm not paying much attention this month. I started the Procrea F my doctor told me to take.. maybe it will help some.. It's just vitamins, but you know...

 

[Mississippi03]

Just wanted to check in and see how everyone is

 

[lola33]

hi ! how are you missi? and you girls? any update?
waiting for Af here, as I feel like I'm out this month. Should be between today CD27 and CD30...

 

[Mississippi03]

Im confused this month, ran out of opks.. O came late, think it only happened today so that has thrown me off a bit.

Just realized this very well could be my last cyle ttc for the next three months as dh leaves on the 25th for 8 weeks only o be home weekend. Ff forecasts pretty well none of my fertile window any of those months to fall on a weekend. Crappy!

Was just thinking back to when you started this thread in MARCH!!!!!! Can you believe it? We were all only three cycles in. Now we are eight.. Never thought it would take me this long. Getting a little depressed about it.. I just feel like it is never going to happen. And any help happens on such a lengthy timeline.

Keeping my fx for you lola

 

[lola33]

Yeah I know.. I was thinking that too.. C8 probably soon for me too.. I have headhache, so AF is arriving very soon I guess.
It makes me a little sad too.. I was saying I would get really worried after 1 year trying.. I hope it won't happen.
I don't want to go through all the stuff.. I wanted that baby to arrive early in the year, so I could work easy next summer season, and now, it's not going to work as well..
I'm sorry next cycles won't be easy for you.. But if your O is near a weekend, you can always catch the egg, since the swimmers stay in there for a while!

 

[duckie4]

Nothing too exciting to report from my end of town... I'm in the middle of cycle #10 or 11 now, but I haven't temped or used bbt's for a couple cycles because like you said missi, it gets a little depressing

I start a new (hopefully far less stressful) job Monday, and I'm hoping that might improve my chances ttc. We're going to see how this cycle goes without any intervention; then we have a vacation planned for September, so if it hasn't happened by then, that will be our one year mark and DH will be going to get his SA done when we get home...

I also picked up some new prenatal vitamins this weekend, so maybe that will be a good thing too?!

 

[lola33]

duckie, glad you got a new job, I hope it will make you chill a little! yay for new vitamins, I have some new ones too, it's called Procrea F, It's for women who are trying to get pregnant. We'll see..
I'm out this month, AF arrived yesterday.

 

[duckie4]

drats! sorry lola

 

[lola33]

how's the new job duckie?
and how is everone else doing?

 

[MolGold]

Sorry for AF! With me AF is on the way out.. but I have an HSG tomorrow! I am going nuts in anticipation. Please pray all goes well!

 

[duckie4]

good luck, mol! let us know how you're feeling this weekend

so far, so good on the new job! thanks for asking, lola! hopefully that helps things along i'm somewhere in the middle of my tww, so FX!

whats everyone up to this weekend?