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[Titi]

Kristi keep some protection handy for the just incase, I would prob work out when Im due AF I would so laugh if you were late that would be so cool esp if it was for a good reason

ha ha thanks hun,,,that is what I was hoping-but I had to peak yesterday and am 14dpo today-af due tomorrow. I was surprised-didn't realize I was this far along, so it worked, but just wish I'd kept it up a little longer.

 

[Titi]

Sorry Lucky-I missed the post where you were asking about work & such. I do residential real estate appraisal. I have a family business with DH & my one normal brother!

Okay-off to read more posts quickly!!!!

 

[tryforbaby2]

Julia I am so glad you are starting to feel a little better and the bleeding is slowing down. Like mush said, perhaps a some counseling would be a good idea, but I would try to stay clear of meds if at all possible. While they can be a godsend, they can be so hard to come off once you are on them. As far as when to start ttc? Follow your instincts hun, they are rarely wrong

Moon, I have my fingers firmly crossed for you that the witch stays away! It is unlikely that your are pg with your timing, but not impossible!!! there is always hope until the b**** shows!

I haven't been posting much the last few days, I am sorry, it is because of my new job - which I LOVE by the way! I have to get up extra early to leave early because it is a bit of a drive and the traffic is shocking if I don't go early. The kids in year 6 are awesome. There is a few pooheads, but that is to be expected in any school and any class, but on the whole I think they are great. The yr6 team is great too. The ladies run a tight ship and I really like that. They are tough, but fair and are funny. I think I am going to fit right in. There are HEAPS in indigenous kids in the class, I find then really sweet and reserved. They have a different perspective on life that is refreshing. These kids don't have much and appreciate what you do for them so much more than some of the overly privileged kids in some of the coast schools I have been in. I think it is so important for our children to realise how good they have it and that they should experience poverty and how children in other parts of the world live. When we took our kids to Cambodia we hoped that they would have a life changing experience. Kai was deeply affected by it, he GOT it, whereas Jai didn't get it at all, which was a shame.

Errrrr Soph! I just love you so!!! I think I am going to go with my instincts! Sounds like a great career move! I would say that under priviledged children would possibly want to learn more and be more respectful since they may want to make something of themselves so they dont have to live under priviledged forever??...... Awww...poor Jai....Is there another way he can understand poverty and respect and gratitude for what we have?.....I would like pointers so that my daughter can understand also!

tryforbaby2- I'm so glad the bleeding is almost completely gone.

Thanks!!! Hey I havent seen you in here much, but I see alot of you in TTCAL. How are you holding up? Are you ttc again?......

I'm doing much better now. Thanks for asking. At first I was wanting to wait a few months before trying again, but, after talking to several couples who have gone through the same thing, DH and I felt it best to start trying again right away. I'm terrified that it will happen again. Not sure if that feeling will ever go away.

I'm so sorry for mentioning this, but how far along were you when you had 'that'? Was it natural or a D&C? If I am not mistaken you had your inlaws in or they were leaving..... It is so hard.

I dont think that feeling will EVER go away for any of us. When I moved over alittle to first tri, the posts scared the hell out of me and I tried to avoid it all. I think next time I get pg, and I will damnit, I will ONLY linger in the tthfutd thread......thats it....

Are you doing anything different TTC this cycle?

 

[parkgirl]

tryforbaby2- I'm so glad the bleeding is almost completely gone.

Thanks!!! Hey I havent seen you in here much, but I see alot of you in TTCAL. How are you holding up? Are you ttc again?......

I'm doing much better now. Thanks for asking. At first I was wanting to wait a few months before trying again, but, after talking to several couples who have gone through the same thing, DH and I felt it best to start trying again right away. I'm terrified that it will happen again. Not sure if that feeling will ever go away.

I'm so sorry for mentioning this, but how far along were you when you had 'that'? Was it natural or a D&C? If I am not mistaken you had your inlaws in or they were leaving..... It is so hard.

I dont think that feeling will EVER go away for any of us. When I moved over alittle to first tri, the posts scared the hell out of me and I tried to avoid it all. I think next time I get pg, and I will damnit, I will ONLY linger in the tthfutd thread......thats it....

Are you doing anything different TTC this cycle?

I was 5 weeks and it was natural. We did have family in town, but luckily they left the day before. Only thing I'm doing different now is charting my temps. When I get pregnant again, I am going to take it super slow. Not even sure I will tell DH until I make it to 6 or 7 weeks. He'll probably notice before then, but I don't want him to get excited again then have something happen so quick.

I agree that you will get pregnant again!! I hate that any of us have to go though this.

 

[LuckyD]

i had my exam yesterday, and i passed!! It was a multi choice one that you do on a pc so they can give you the results straight away. even though it was multi choice it was still really tough so im really pleased! Looks like the lucky bracelet works so far lol. I celebrated by eating some rocky road ice cream, then burning it off by riding the love stick!!!

urgh gotta go to work. have another exam in 2 weeks, no rest for the wicked!!

xxx

Congrats honey! Nice work on the exam. And also a very good way to celebrate - ice cream and love stick action!

Lucky D I say helping around the house and cooking will be great for your friend. holding the baby while she has a shower as well or dry her hair will help as well. your so good and I hope you find it ok as well, you will love spending time with a new born

Yeah, lots of cuddles with the baby for sure! I am sure it will be ok, it's just going to be intense baby time, which is so great in many ways. I have been through so much with my friend, we have been friends for almost 20 years and I love her heaps. It's just strange, everyone thought I'd be the first of out of the four of us to have kids, I have always really wanted them....and when she got pg me and OH were about to start trying, so I thought we would have children around the same age...and her she is, due tomorrow and I am still struggling along trying to make a baby. Ah well, it's all good really!

The other funny thing about how Bullet ripped up the carpet padding is that Bodhi ate some and it made him puke all over the house!!!

Oh no, pet vomit is the worse! These two sound like trouble together. Maybe they need to be seperated, like me and my naughty friends were when we were at school. Also, isn't Bodhi the name of Patrick Swayze's character in Point Break?

I think this is good news girls!

My bleeding is now very light to hardly at all! I amwondering when my doctor stuck his whole fist up there (ewww.....gross image but thats what it felt like!) I think I got cleaned out! He may have brought it all out with him!

Sorry for the disturbing images! (Is there a barf icon here somewhere?.......)

I also went and bought a new box of SOFTCUPS!!! I am getting prepared ladies, it is making a little happier thinking about TTC again!!!

This is such great news Julia, so happy that the bleeding has slowed right down! Thank goodness. And hurrah for the new box of softcups! I am using them these days too thanks to you. Glad that thinking about TTC is feeling positive to you

I haven't been posting much the last few days, I am sorry, it is because of my new job - which I LOVE by the way! I have to get up extra early to leave early because it is a bit of a drive and the traffic is shocking if I don't go early. The kids in year 6 are awesome. There is a few pooheads, but that is to be expected in any school and any class, but on the whole I think they are great. The yr6 team is great too. The ladies run a tight ship and I really like that. They are tough, but fair and are funny. I think I am going to fit right in. There are HEAPS in indigenous kids in the class, I find then really sweet and reserved. They have a different perspective on life that is refreshing. These kids don't have much and appreciate what you do for them so much more than some of the overly privileged kids in some of the coast schools I have been in. I think it is so important for our children to realise how good they have it and that they should experience poverty and how children in other parts of the world live. When we took our kids to Cambodia we hoped that they would have a life changing experience. Kai was deeply affected by it, he GOT it, whereas Jai didn't get it at all, which was a shame.

Love that the job is going so well Soph, and that you have such a good team - that makes so much difference, doesn't it. Working with young people who live with such big challenges every day is pretty inspiring I find - I am always amazed at how resilient and strong and optimistic people can be, even when they are living in such chaotic circumstances.

Sorry Lucky-I missed the post where you were asking about work & such. I do residential real estate appraisal. I have a family business with DH & my one normal brother!

Okay-off to read more posts quickly!!!!

Fun - you get to work with your DH! I love that you have your own business - it must get stressful at times - but no more dealing with annoying bosses! Sounds great. Me and my OH talk about setting up a business sometime - he is a psychologist and I am a counsellor (but been doing more social work stuff for last few years) so we could create some sort of awesome youth service! But then I wonder if I would find it hard not having any space from OH - how do you find it?


I am so grumpy tonight. I know that AF is about to arrive and it's annoying. Plus I am super hormonal. I had the stupidest argument with my OH all the way home from work about our internet deal - it was ridiculous! Had a pretty full-on day at work too.

Hope you are all doing ok

 

[Titi]

 

[tryforbaby2]

Luckyd, you can be grumpy all you want!!! I hope af stays away from you! Oh yea I didnt know you started using them; do you like them?

The softcups are a staple in my ttc, I have to have them. After I figured out how to scoop up the 'boys' as I put it in until it locked on my cervix I was amazed and loved them! I love there is no leakage and I leave them in for the full 12 hours! I ran right to the store and bought them! They are very hard to find here.

Parkgirl I bought a bbt but since my daughter sleeps until all different hours I wouldnt bother waking up at the same time every day to do it!

My all time favs are:

SOFTCUPS
DIGITAL OPK'S (used them one cycle....the cycle I feel pregnant)
RED RASPBERRY LEAF TEA

And I also am starting to make DH start his Vitamins and extra zinc again. He also started zinc the cycle before I got pregnant.
I take liquid gel prenatals + dha but when this bottle's gone I am going to switch back to tablets and buy extra folic acid. (after I do my research on them).

 

[tryforbaby2]

Damnit! I am sorry Titi, I am really sorry.

 

[tryforbaby2]

Kristi, I dont know if you had explained this on here yet before but have you ever went through fertility treatment? Has there been anything diagnosed? I am obviously not an expert but what 'normally' do you do to try? I know I have seen you on the softcups thread ages and ages ago.
My heart aches for you when af shows.

 

[Titi]

Kristi, I dont know if you had explained this on here yet before but have you ever went through fertility treatment? Has there been anything diagnosed? I am obviously not an expert but what 'normally' do you do to try? I know I have seen you on the softcups thread ages and ages ago.
My heart aches for you when af shows.

Thank you so much-my heart is aching too b/c this was the last cycle before we decided to take a break. As far as treatment goes-that is the other heartbreaking thing-my ob ran a few tests that all came back fine for me, dh has low motility-but she can't do anything else for us. She referred us to the FS and my insurance doesn't cover any of it. I called to set up the first apt. which is an exam with the nurse practicioner and discuss history and goals before you get to see the dr, and that alone is $600.00. Also-fertility drugs and AC are against my religion, so I feel like I am running out of options-will be 35 in a few months too.

 

[Jaimie2Eyes]

Titi Whenever this happens to any of my TTHF besties I want SO badly to visit and give you a big hug!!! The virtual condolences just aren't enough when the horrible witch shows. Has your DH gotten a second SA after all the herbal supplements both of you have been trying? I hope that your regular gynecologist can give you some testing that will either be covered or cheaper than the clinic, if that is what you choose to do.

Titi and I are both hoping that an HSG boosts our fertility and gets us pg this fall

Oh no, pet vomit is the worse! These two sound like trouble together. Maybe they need to be seperated, like me and my naughty friends were when we were at school. Also, isn't Bodhi the name of Patrick Swayze's character in Point Break?

I found another pile of puke in my sewing / meditation room this morning but I think it was from the other day. Watching this dog is alot of work! I keep Bodhi in a pen when I'm away but Bullet broke him out this morning while I was running. Yes, that is the same name as Swayze's character, but my boss' wife named him that as short for bodhisatvah, a buddhist in training. It really means puke machine!!!

 

[honeybee28]

titi im so so sorry, i was really rooting for you, totally hoping the laid back approach would do it for you.

jaimie!! that doggy is gross! yucky pet vom.

urgh im super tired today and studying tonight. jaimie i have one exam in two weeks, then one in sept and 2 in october. if i pass them all then i will be qualified to give financial advice. im not sure that i want to be an IFA just yet, but it gives me options, and means that they have to increase my salary for my current role. fun times.

i was thinking, i get drunk pretty regularly, i eat junk food, im working hard and studying hard, and having a fair amount of unprotected sex - makes me like a college student right!?!?! and don't they get knocked up super easily!? (im ignoring the fact that im over 10 years older than the average college student lol)

 

[honeybee28]

does anyone else have a husband that's reluctant to help around the house, and would rather go and get drunk than talk about problems!? seriously, MEN.x

 

[tryforbaby2]

Kristi, I dont know if you had explained this on here yet before but have you ever went through fertility treatment? Has there been anything diagnosed? I am obviously not an expert but what 'normally' do you do to try? I know I have seen you on the softcups thread ages and ages ago.
My heart aches for you when af shows.

Thank you so much-my heart is aching too b/c this was the last cycle before we decided to take a break. As far as treatment goes-that is the other heartbreaking thing-my ob ran a few tests that all came back fine for me, dh has low motility-but she can't do anything else for us. She referred us to the FS and my insurance doesn't cover any of it. I called to set up the first apt. which is an exam with the nurse practicioner and discuss history and goals before you get to see the dr, and that alone is $600.00. Also-fertility drugs and AC are against my religion, so I feel like I am running out of options-will be 35 in a few months too.

I have my husband take 300+ mg of zinc per day while we were ttc to boost his sperm motility and quality. I just started having him take it the end of March and I got pregnant the end of April. Not saying that was the magic cure but I like to think some of the things we did do did have a positive effect on our bfp. We also started seeing a RE in April (surprise before we got pregnant) and my insurance didntcover it either.Just for my pelvix exam and a consultation and for him to review my records was $376.00 and IF DH went for his SA that was another $210.00. Then I was supposed to start IUI, Clomid and get an HSG done to check my tubes and that was in the $1,000+ range for the month of May! It was hard to get my DH to 'make' time for his SA, but he lucked outfor awhile there and didnt have to do it because I got pregnant that cycle before I started any of my recommended treatment!!!
I dont want to sound stupid but what is AC?....(assisted conception?)
I know age is not on alot of women's sides It makes us allwonder why we decided to wait until we were ready? Maybe if we wouldve been super careless for the past few years then maybe.........thats the way it seems to happen anyhow. I am trying to think of think to suggest to try, but I am sure you tried what I am thinking. It is costly for RE's....grrr.....

Titi Whenever this happens to any of my TTHF besties I want SO badly to visit and give you a big hug!!! The virtual condolences just aren't enough when the horrible witch shows. Has your DH gotten a second SA after all the herbal supplements both of you have been trying? I hope that your regular gynecologist can give you some testing that will either be covered or cheaper than the clinic, if that is what you choose to do.

Titi and I are both hoping that an HSG boosts our fertility and gets us pg this fall

Oh no, pet vomit is the worse! These two sound like trouble together. Maybe they need to be seperated, like me and my naughty friends were when we were at school. Also, isn't Bodhi the name of Patrick Swayze's character in Point Break?

I found another pile of puke in my sewing / meditation room this morning but I think it was from the other day. Watching this dog is alot of work! I keep Bodhi in a pen when I'm away but Bullet broke him out this morning while I was running. Yes, that is the same name as Swayze's character, but my boss' wife named him that as short for bodhisatvah, a buddhist in training. It really means puke machine!!!

Ewwww Pet barf again!.......This remind me why I amNOT a pet person by far! Not even a goldfish....my husband is lucky I let him have the lab retriever! Ewwww

does anyone else have a husband that's reluctant to help around the house, and would rather go and get drunk than talk about problems!? seriously, MEN.x

Sorry mine actually grew up a bit the past few years.....thats men for ya..... Make him a fab dinner (like you always do Im sure) and have a nice relaxing convo over dinner and some booze! He'll stay if there's booze right?.....Then maybe rub his shoulder and talk some more......??.....or have him rub your lower back............

 

[honeybee28]

that's the thing, we both work full time and i normally do all the housework. but now im studying 2 hours a night, it would be nice if he could cook dinner here and there. but he decided to go out with his friends tonight, i think partially to get out of cooking lol. so i had ice cream for dinner while i studied. naughty me.

what's an HSG? is it the same as a lap and dye?

 

[tryforbaby2]

Yes i believe so....as that is what I called it months ago. They shot dye in my uterus and tubes so they can take a gander!

Damn Men Honey!! I'll tell you though, when I was working I used the crock pot/slow cooker whatever you guys call it and made dinners alot that way. Pea soup, clam chowder, pork roast, beef chuck roast, pulled chicken (like pulle dprok barbeque, etc etc .....You throw it all in the pot in the morning, takes 5 minutes (even he can do it!!) and turn it on low and in 8 hours....viola....dinners done!

 

[honeybee28]

bleurgh!! My doc wants me to have that done after dh has his SA. gross. but i have heard that a lot of women get preggo after having it done as it 'clears' their tubes.

i do have a slow cooker, i really should use it more. It's just right now, i dont even have time to think about cooking, i get to work for 8.15am to study before work, i study in my lunch break, and then study when i get home. it'll only be this crazy for another 2 weeks, would be nice if he could pick up the slack not moan because i havent done any ironing in weeks ya know. but that's just the way it is i guess. enough of my whinging.

do any of you read? im reading a james patterson book at the moment, i love it, ive read every book he's written!

 

[CelticNiamh]

Kristi, I dont know if you had explained this on here yet before but have you ever went through fertility treatment? Has there been anything diagnosed? I am obviously not an expert but what 'normally' do you do to try? I know I have seen you on the softcups thread ages and ages ago.
My heart aches for you when af shows.

Thank you so much-my heart is aching too b/c this was the last cycle before we decided to take a break. As far as treatment goes-that is the other heartbreaking thing-my ob ran a few tests that all came back fine for me, dh has low motility-but she can't do anything else for us. She referred us to the FS and my insurance doesn't cover any of it. I called to set up the first apt. which is an exam with the nurse practicioner and discuss history and goals before you get to see the dr, and that alone is $600.00. Also-fertility drugs and AC are against my religion, so I feel like I am running out of options-will be 35 in a few months too.

So sorry un AF got you I know how heart breaking it is

I meant to post this earlier but on the MACA thread some of the girls are LTTTC as well and are trying other stuff along with MACA to help the process along.

I thought ID share it in here in case it helps out my girls

Wild YAM 10 to 20 drops from CD1 to Ovulation is know to increase fertility, by rebalancing hormones.https://www.amazingpregnancy.com/pregnancy-articles/500.html
Soy I dont know much about soy and there is mixed information on it as in some say it can decrease fertility yet China has a high diet of Soy and we all know they do not have a problem with fertility in China LOL. some girls take is from cd3-7 Earlier is more eggs, later is better quality, so in-between should be best of both!

Here is a great article on Supplements for men to improve sperm count and mobility.https://www.babyhopes.com/articles/supplements-sperm-count.html

Kristi have you thought about acupuncture and seeing a herbalist for you and DH I think it would be really helpful you both and may be in line with your beliefs.


Honey make him go for a drive with you in the car, have a talk then. good luck studying for your exams

Jaimie Dog puke yuck! your boss owes you big time!! may eh pay ie days off

 

[CelticNiamh]

Information on Soy isoflavones https://fertility-challenged.blogspot.com/2008/07/soy-isoflavones-natural-clomid.html

why did I not know this ealier impressive ''What was interesting is that 75% of the women who tried Soy Isoflavones got a BFP in their FIRST cycle trying. I checked the survey more recently and the number has jumped to 77% since I took the screenshot.'' taken from above link

 

[Moondance]

Niamh, you were my first friend on BNB, I'm SO SO SO excited to see that you're preggers! Some of my all time fave people here are preggers.... CONGRATS SO HARDCORE!!! OMG!

Now my news?
I'm sick as a dog, runny nose, sore throat, can barely talk.... AND I'm a day late. My body is so mean! I know there isn't any way I could be, could there??? I'm not wanting to test, I just want to leave it and see if AF arrives... Coz I don't want to waste a test!

But super super congrats to preggers ladies! I love you all, you're my inspiration!

AHHH thanks Moon sorry your not feeling well hun when you going to test being late an all, ooh and I got pregnant on Eireann 5 days before OV and FF gave me a low chance this cycle for catching the egg delighted it all worked out and your horse is close to you, is he broken will you be able to ride him, I so miss horse ridding one day I want a nice stocky cob you know a steady guy who loves a hack out and a few jumps great way to keep fit and a very rewarding pass time. I still have my cob pony at home in my dads he is grey and lovely.

At the moment he isn't ridable, as he's been out of work for 2 years. We start putting him on the longe line in a couple days to start working up his fitness and muscle and getting him back in order. He is incredibly unfit right now (much like his owner)

Thanks Titi - I was just about to ask if you stop taking Maca at some point during your cycle. I'm doing a dropper full in the am and pm in some grape juice - I don't taste it one bit!

Nice Moon - I'm so glad you found a way to get your horse to that stable you like so much! Hope you feel better soon.

It's not a stable, I found a place mega mega close to my house, just up the road, where some guys are renting a property there. They have horses of their own and had some paddock to spare, so they put up a sign saying they had agistment available. I immediately went over and spoke to them, the two most adorable gay gentlemen on the planet.
He's not even 5 minutes drive from home, has other horses there as companions and I get to go spend time with him every day.

You have been wanting your horse next to you for quite some time! Finally!! Now you can see your horse whenever you want and not several hours away!!! Wahoo! BTW, how is the situation with your dad and his girlfriend coming along? Feel better soon!

Mush, I have concidered counceling for this and maybe some medication (and I am anti meds!). The depression is horrible and I cried to the nurse at the obgyn office yesterday that I know I feel so angry at the world and so resentful of some and I dont want to feel that way but I cant help it! Thats when she said that I am probably going to feel this way having been filled with pg hormones and then having it all go to 0 with a day from the d&c. I guess she is right, but I hate feeling so resentful with people and angry at the world. My husband is fabulous through this all and he is my shoulder. Great listener and great ethusiast! Just love him to bits! The doctor that performed the d&c said I will not get over this. I will not get over this until I am pregnant again and have bypassed the 12 week mark. Between my sisters getting pregnant too and due around my due date she totally understands my extra rage of hormones and resentment. But one day at a time I suppose. I am feeling much better!!! If you dont mind me asking, how long did you bleed for? and How many cycles did you wait before trying again? (If I am correct I think you waited one or two b/c of DH right?)

Sorry I am just looking for answers and some assistance! Thank You!

Dads girlfriend is getting way better, she's on new antidepressent meds now, but she's been messed up forever, so she NEEDS them. As much as some people say they help, I'll be anti-drug with you. I'm supposed to be on them, but I've been off Meds since January.
Sometimes it feels like you'll never get your answers, but I like to think all things happen for a reason, and the world is on track and where it's sposed to be, even if we don't like it or understand it. But I, having been on antidepressents in the past, do not recommend them, seriously!!

I think this is good news girls!

My bleeding is now very light to hardly at all! I amwondering when my doctor stuck his whole fist up there (ewww.....gross image but thats what it felt like!) I think I got cleaned out! He may have brought it all out with him!

Sorry for the disturbing images! (Is there a barf icon here somewhere?.......)

I also went and bought a new box of SOFTCUPS!!! I am getting prepared ladies, it is making a little happier thinking about TTC again!!!

Makes me happy to know that you're getting back in the vibe of TTC and trying to keep positive. I know what just happened really sucks, wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
And its not ultimately a gross visual, just a very disturbing one! LOL

Moon, I have my fingers firmly crossed for you that the witch stays away! It is unlikely that your are pg with your timing, but not impossible!!! there is always hope until the b**** shows!

And she hasn't yet. I'm now 3 days late. Not sure what is going on!

You know, I never realised just how different oral and vaginal temps could be til yesterday. I am normally an oral temp taker, but because I'm so heavily congested at the moment, I am forced to breathe through my mouth at night, yesterday morning I woke up and my tongue was all dried out from mouth breathing!!!! I took my temp and it was 35.61, I had a vague idea that a temp like that seemed awfully low and so took it vaginally and got a 36.22.
And today, a similiar situation but not as extreme as yesterday, oral temp was 36.07 and vaginal temp was 35.21 -- think I might stick to vaginal temps in future, they seem more reliable for me!