U.S. Mommies To Be

[JNA]

JNA- I started to feel LO moving around 14 and something weeks and they were more often at 15 weeks.

Is this your first?

 

[Chantibug]

Really? The only reason I want a water birth is so OH has something to do beside stand there and look at me like im stupid. It would suck if I convince him and it doesn't happen

Have you thought about going to a birthing center?

Im going to UNC birthing center because Duke is always crowded. Its very low key and homey looking. Worth the hour drive lol

tbh, I couldn't imagine if I had a water birth my DH getting in... guys get squemish (sp) easily, and if they consider they will be in the water where a baby was born and blood and bodily fluids are... well, I think that's why most opt out... If that's really the 'only' reason you want one, keep in mind that he will have plenty to stay busy with while you are pushing... he can be there for you to squeeze his hand and/or hold your leg up for you to push (my dh had to do this )

Also, are you being induced? an hour is a long way to go in labor.. my mom had to driv e an hour to have me but it was induced cause she was high risk.

There is no hospital closer than an hour that delivers so hopefully since its my first lo isnt in a rush to come out. OH will be behind me holding my hand pushing the pressure point our doula instructs him to ect. He wont get a great view of lo coming out but idk if he really wants to see all that lol. He is still unsure about cutting the umbilical cord. This is what I get for falling for the shy computer geek hehe

haha mine is the shy comp geek too!! LOL but he did SO well the first time around, i think our men can surprise us and themselves at this time in our lives... Mine said he wasnt thrilled with looking, but curiousity got the better of him! LOL... and he cut the cord which iw as amazed by because first FOB didnt with DS1. i told dh this time he does not have to feel compelled to look.. he said he will try not to

 

[MissFox]

yea. this is my first. I've been showing since 9 weeks and I'm the size my mom was full term with either of her children now. I think that has to do with why I was able to feel LO move so early. It wasn't bouncing off the walls or anything but by 17 weeks DH could feel her on the outside.

 

[lisaf]

I honestly could not stand to cut the cord if I were in DH's shoes... I cannot stand the crunch of bugs when you squish them with a tissue... I STILL shudder when I remember pulling out the mandible on a grasshopper in high school biology dissection. I just can't stand the sensation the scissors would make as they cut...

My mom told me how she had to share a room when she had my brother I guess... they both had the babies roomed in.. but the other woman wouldn't wake up when her baby cried so my mom had to go wake her up and got no sleep at all herself as a result.
I'm so glad my hospital has a strict limit of 2 visitors at a time, so there will never be huge crowds (we have super super super strict security after a baby got snatched 2 years ago or so).

 

[Chantibug]

I honestly could not stand to cut the cord if I were in DH's shoes... I cannot stand the crunch of bugs when you squish them with a tissue... I STILL shudder when I remember pulling out the mandible on a grasshopper in high school biology dissection. I just can't stand the sensation the scissors would make as they cut...

My mom told me how she had to share a room when she had my brother I guess... they both had the babies roomed in.. but the other woman wouldn't wake up when her baby cried so my mom had to go wake her up and got no sleep at all herself as a result.
I'm so glad my hospital has a strict limit of 2 visitors at a time, so there will never be huge crowds (we have super super super strict security after a baby got snatched 2 years ago or so).

I'm with you! I couldn't cut the cord! I had no idea what it was like though til DH told me (Dr. cut DS1 cord). yeck.

I wish the rule was more strict where I will be... I am going to have to be the 'stern' one though this time and request that ONLY my mom and sister, my kids, and my MIL/FIL and 2 SILs along with my DH grandparents (only 1 set) be allowed to visit. Last time we had my friends, his friends and his aunt/uncle and 9yr old cousin and it seemed all at once, it was just too much... Esp if I am to try Breatfeeding this time I dont need all the distractions.

My MIL and DH BOTH say "good luck" on keeping the visitor count down, like it's not going tohappen, but I plan to have a birth plan this time around... Anyone else doing one? This will be my first time...I've seen websites that help draft them, so I am going to check that out...

Ohh.. speaking of baby snatching - that SCARES me... Today in our department meeting (at hospital if I've not already said) we addressed "Patient Safety" and a big thing we focus on is "tailgating"... swiping our badges to go to part of the hospital and someone following behind us without permission... We're not even supposed to hold open the door for coworkers, everyone has to use their own badge... wEll, anyway, we were talking about some hospital here in central florida where a woman 'tailgated' an employee, changed in a bathroom into a nurse's uniform, went into a new mother's room and took the baby, saying it had to go for a hearing test or something, and apparently she put the baby in a TOTE BAG and tried to leave.. She didnt realize the hospital had a security system (mineh as it too) where the baby has a plastic ringthing on it's foot and if that is taken from the baby ward an alarm sounds, doors close, and "code pink" is called- where all hospital staff leave their position and go to the nearest exit and look for someone / anyone with a baby/suspisious package... the lady is now spending 30 years in jail..........

That was long and not to scare anyone, but just a reminder to check out the security feature sof the hospital AND to make sure if someone comes to take your baby for tests, bath, etc.. you see their badge and if possible have DH or yourself go with, or at least walk to the nursery....

 

[lisaf]

That is almost exactly how the baby got snatched from our hospital!! Baby put in a tote bag etc... ONLY reason they caught her is that someone noticed her getting in her car and thought something was funny and was able to remember some of the license details or something and they found her several hours away pretending the baby was hers. Took a day or two to catch her though! Totally scary!

NOW, anyone who wants to enter the hospital for any reason has to get a badge at the front desk that indicates the floors they are going to.. if they so much as want to go to the cafeteria, they have to get a badge for that! THEN when you get to the maternity floor, you get a 2nd badge with the details of who you are visiting. THAT is how they restrict the # of visitors.

The way to keep the visitors down is to be firm about it, and suggest they hang out in the lobby or cafeteria until they're called up by you guys!

If I get my way and have a doula, that will be when I draw up my birth plan... but I definitely intend to have one!

 

[lisaf]

oh.. they also have the baby lo-jack thing now at my hospital!

 

[MissFox]

That's just so scary! I don't know what the rules of the hospital I"m delivering at are but my plans for in the room so far are my DH and my mom. My BFF is supposed to be there also but her and DH are not getting along at all- she's hoping we break up. *sigh*

 

[lisaf]

one thing a lot of parents decide is that dad must go with the baby NO MATTER WHAT... so if they take the baby off to clean it.. dad goes.. if the baby has to go to NICU, the dad goes and leaves the mom etc...

 

[RosieCheeks]

We have a baby lo-jack thingy at all of our hospitals here so that a little relief.
The baby snatching thing is so scary. I think I would die god forbid something like that were to happen to me. I have already spoken to DH and he is not allowed to leave the baby's side, not even if he had to take a crap either.

DH and I have really large immediate families so I know that we will be getting plenty of visits. I really don't mind the company and the family support but I know but the end of the day I want everyone to leave so I can relax.

I so want to be like 8 months already. I am starting to get anxious and I just can't wait for everything to go down per se.

 

[Chantibug]

lisa, your hospital's 2nd badge system sounds great! Here, the guests just go to the reception and say "here to see so-and-so" and are ushered in......... so i will have to find out how to make sure the nurse's station checks that I want visitors... last time around i wanted everyone there, but this time i just want to get rest and like i said before, focus on learning to breastfeed....

 

[southerngal2]

I remember the last time I was in the hospital there was a code word to get everyone out of my room if I was tired or irritated and didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. All you had to do was ask for a Root Beer. Either ask a nurse or call the nurse's station and ask for a root beer and they would send someone down to your room and say they needed to do some tests and clear the room.
Sure hope they still do that! I bet everyone thought I was crazy "drinking" so much root beer.

 

[Chantibug]

that's awesome! I should inquire... and hope that i dont get a stupid nurse who brings me a can of soda............. lol

 

[MissFox]

OMG I'm gonna have to find out about that one! Have 2 different sodas for if I want everyone but DH gone and if I just want everyone gone! lol!

 

[Ashley2189]

The baby snatching thing is so scary! I live in central florida and now i'm scared! the hospital i'm delivering at has a 2-visitor limit while in the birthing room, in addition to one designated person that is allowed to stay with you 24/7. in the recovery room you get an additional 2. everyone must check in and security will take a form of ID from you and give you a visitor badge and the ID is only returned when you return the badge and leave. I'm not sure if they have the thing for the baby that makes an alarm go off, but from what i've heard that is becoming common practice for hospitals. i'll def be looking into that when i go for my tour.

also, i LOVE the code word idea! i'll have to remember that!!

 

[mommytwice]

I'm in Charlotte, NC... and due on 8/5. I am put on bedrest for sub. hemmorhage... I bleed every day and just pray that the baby stays and grows healthy.

 

[DarlingMe]

I'm in Charlotte, NC... and due on 8/5. I am put on bedrest for sub. hemmorhage... I bleed every day and just pray that the baby stays and grows healthy.

Welcome Mommy twice! I hope that you are handling your bedrest well and your baby is safe. I know I have seen a thread for subchorionic hemmorage somewhere also. I wish I could remember where. If I see it again I will let you know! How old is your LO?

 

[DarlingMe]

Anyone else using a midwife? I know overseas they seem pretty common but there is only one within an hour or so from us. I happened to see her a few years ago for a cervical cap. I was sick of the hormonal BC and I have a latex allergy. She was the only midwife/OB that would give me anything besides either the pill or shot!

Anyhow I was a little nervous, she is a certified nurse midwife and I have been asking around about her (without letting anyone know I am PG ). I have heard nothing but good things about her! I have a couple of friends that work on OB and another girl I work with said her granddaughter was just delivered by her and was raving about how wonderful she was. I am just wondering how epidurals, episiotomies, etc. are handled. I am assuming she can do everything a doc does but Idk? Isnt an episiotomy a minor surgery? Of course I dont want one but if it comes down to tearing or cutting is it an option? I am going to have so many questions for her next appt! Any experiences with a midwife in the US?

 

[Brieanna]

I am from Nacogdoches, Texas. I just graduated from S.F.A.S.U last spring and we decided to start a family. We had a miscarriage in June and got pregnant again almost immediately. This little one is doing great though! I love this site and I am excited that I found this area and will be able to talk to people here in the U.S.

We are not going to find out the sex of the baby until birth, anyone else on team yellow?

 

[MissFox]

Darling- the place I'm going to is two doctors and two CNMs. I have been seeing the CNMs but still will be having at least one visit with each of the Drs so I will have at least met them incase they are on call when the baby decides to come. I really hope that it's the one midwife I like and I've heard they are both great with delivery. But my birth will be in the hospital so I'm thinking that it would be the anesthesiologist who would do the epidural? IDK. I think they are certified to do most of the things related to birth.