Hi everyone,
My fiance and I have been back and forth for a few years now whether or not we want to have children. We have been together for 7 years and are getting married in May. My fiance said he is fine either way, with or without children. I am 50/50. I currently work from home with my own business (hours whenever I want). He works afternoon shift, 6:30pm to 2:30am. He is a manager and does not plan on changing careers. We both love this schedule. We are emotionally and financially ready for children. We have a large house with extra rooms, money saved in the bank, and a large support network (grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends all within 5 minutes). I love the thought of having a child, but I am not sure if the reality of it will be different. I realize that I will be the main figure in our child's life, as I will be doing everything in the evenings with him/her. We do not drink or party and I often stay inside most of the time, so we wouldn't be giving up a vibrant social life. I am just wondering if I would enjoy the day to day life of having a child? Our life is very good how it is right now. We travel around 3 weeks per year and have the freedom to do whatever we want, whenever we want. However, I often feel like *something* is missing. Our relationship is wonderful but I sometimes yearn to have a baby. Can anyone give any advice on how my life will change and how you decided to have children? I am very ready to make a choice one way or the other. We have been thinking about this for so many years and I cannot take birth control so we are only intimate 1/3 of the month, when I am sure I am not fertile. It is all so frustrating and confusing! I don't want to make a choice either way that we will come to regret in the future. Any input on this would be so appreciated. Thanks!!!
My fiance and I have been back and forth for a few years now whether or not we want to have children. We have been together for 7 years and are getting married in May. My fiance said he is fine either way, with or without children. I am 50/50. I currently work from home with my own business (hours whenever I want). He works afternoon shift, 6:30pm to 2:30am. He is a manager and does not plan on changing careers. We both love this schedule. We are emotionally and financially ready for children. We have a large house with extra rooms, money saved in the bank, and a large support network (grandparents, aunts, uncles, friends all within 5 minutes). I love the thought of having a child, but I am not sure if the reality of it will be different. I realize that I will be the main figure in our child's life, as I will be doing everything in the evenings with him/her. We do not drink or party and I often stay inside most of the time, so we wouldn't be giving up a vibrant social life. I am just wondering if I would enjoy the day to day life of having a child? Our life is very good how it is right now. We travel around 3 weeks per year and have the freedom to do whatever we want, whenever we want. However, I often feel like *something* is missing. Our relationship is wonderful but I sometimes yearn to have a baby. Can anyone give any advice on how my life will change and how you decided to have children? I am very ready to make a choice one way or the other. We have been thinking about this for so many years and I cannot take birth control so we are only intimate 1/3 of the month, when I am sure I am not fertile. It is all so frustrating and confusing! I don't want to make a choice either way that we will come to regret in the future. Any input on this would be so appreciated. Thanks!!!