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[dawny690]

I know you are trying to make her feel better and its kind. Most women on here are seasoned pros at TTC as you know and Chemical pregnancies which you are referring to can be just as devastating as a 1st tri MC to some ladies.
Depending on beliefs when the egg is fertilised some women see that as pregnancy, the fact that it didnt implant doesnt make it any easier. Im not trying to suggest you thought it did it just seemed that way a bit.
My heart goes out to her in a massive way. Its so easy to say 'Im not testing til im late etc' but when youre so desperate that can seem impossible everyone has different control levels.

I couldnt see anything on IC's but can on the FRER and they arent known for falsies. I hope that they get her sorted soon so she can get home and rest, whatever the outcome she'll need to come here and read messages of support.

Thinking of you chick x

Thanks mmoon sure tara will appriciate your support x

 

[ProudMum]

What I said in my reply was not intended to offend anyone. We are ALL on here because we so desperately want a baby- I have suffered this particular situation twice and thought I would share it with y'all, but obviously its been seen as an offensive reply in some sort of way, so i'll just wish her all the best and leave it at that.
I am not a malicious sort of person, I was simply sharing my views.

All the best to her.

 

[mmoon1]

i know you werent trying to be offensive hun i could see what you were trying to do but like i say for some women ( me included, ast year i had 1 chemical and 2 loss') the chemical was just as painful and even knowing it didnt implant didnt stop the tears.
No one thinks you were trying to be offensive.
We all wish her well and at least they are looking into it for her xx

 

[dawny690]

Tara says thanks for all the support and she will update me as soon as she knows anything and then I will update you girls xx

 

[3 girlies]

i hope she is ok xx

 

[moomoo]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you hun, a chemical preg is still a loss regardless of who tells you otherwise. xx

Thinking of you honey xxx

 

[dawny690]

Update tara just text me to say doctors have confirmed early miscarriage just has to get her levels checked monday to make sure they are doing as they are ment to at the doctors but now she is bleeding really badly, Im so very sorry for you babe, I know how much you wanted this sending you loads of xx

 

[moomoo]

Im sorry honey, we are here for you if you need to chat, weve been there too xx

 

[little_angel]

Sending love and hugs to Tara - so sorry to hear your sad news hun xxxx

 

[princess_t]

Sorry for your loss hun.

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

im so sorry toots take some time for yourself chick
xx

 

[MrsR]

o toots i'm sooo sooo sorry to hear about what you've been through today my sweet xxxx as you know i have been following this since you posted your first test xxx i really really hope you are ok xxx

i'm soooo sorry this has happened to you xxxxx

sending BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG your way xxxxxxxx

 

[tootsy1987]

Hi Girls, Just got in.... thanks for all your support and kind wishes and thanks mmoon for your lovely, kind and understanding words! i have read through the messages and found a few a bit hurtful regarding testing early and chem is not a miscarriage and another that made me feel annoyed was the bit about them checking me over and 'bazarely, they didnt do that to someone else?'

I just wanted to write a little paragraph just to say how im feeling and what exactly happened. I got faint positives on pretty much all tests i done yesterday (faint being very faint i.e. the ones some people couldn't see) i then waited and done the one that showed the bfp thismorning, that was a positive and i was over the moon, i also done an ic which came out stronger... i went back to bed and fell asleep to be woken up about an hour later to feel like i had been hooofed in the stumach, i got up and ran to the toilet where blood just poured out (sorry if tmi for some people) i got a bit upset and took some pain killers. I then looked at the test again and it was still positive and pink so no evap. After a while the pain went and i stopped bleeding other than really dark brown discharge (all blood has been very dark) i still had sore bbs and started to think maybe bad inplantation or chem? i phoned nhs direct just for a bit of advice who said either to go to local hosp or they would get dr to phone me (as i was having tingles on my left side) so i waited for doc to phone (didn't phone for hours) i had a digi left, took it while on the break of bleeding and came out 'PREGNANT' i thought that i had better go to hospital now (in which time i had spoken to Dawny who also advised to go to hosp). So off we went, was seen straight away as they have a special gynae place there, they took water sample which showed faint pos, they then felt my stumach and said left side showed slightly harder and swollen to right side.... took bloods and said they would take it from there... bloods showed i had levels of 14, said if it was ectopic it would have showed higher (or something around that lines, i had switched off) said that i have to go to docs on monday to get levels checked but at this point i had started badly bleeding and clotting. They said that they are confident it is an early miscarriage but to get checked on monday just incase....

Regardless of whether u call that a chemical pregnancy or a miscarriage its still the loss of a little growing thing that was part of me and was inside me (regardless of how long) im fine though, coping better than i thought i would and i have soo much heartache for the people that have to go through this further along and i should be greatful it happened now if it wasn't meant to be but i really wanted this to work out and it hasn't and its kinda scared my 1st month.... but onwards and upwards whats meant to be is meant to be i suppose!!

Thanks again guys and i hope that all makes sense, i just really wanted to put it for my own reference and to send big huggs and kisses for the well wishes!

Here we go for start of cycle 2!! good luck and baby dust to everyone!!!

(may i also say a huge thanks and big kisses to Dawny690 and MOOMOO for being the bestest friends ever! love them to bits!!) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[MrsJD]

So sorry to hear this

XXXX

 

[dawny690]

Awwwww babe i love you too and im always here for you no matter what I have made a really good friend in you babe and that will never ever change, All my love sweetheart make sure you rest please babe xx

 

[JASMAK]

Whether you are pregnant for one second or 10 weeks, it is a loss all the same. I am sorry for your loss, and it sounds like a very emotional day to boot.

 

[tootsy1987]

Thankyou very much for your kind words JASMAK big huggs xxxxxxxxx

 

[3 girlies]

oh im so sorry, i was following your posts
i thought the comments from some people today were horrible, b&b is a great support, its a shame some people spoil it by being mean. i hope you feel better soon. xxxxxx

 

[tootsy1987]

Thankyou very much 2 girlies i know, there are some fantastic people on here and i have met some very very good friends, but i do also think there are some hurtful people on here that should choose not to say anything rather than say something hurtful... we especially liked the comment of one ladie asking me to chill out....! lol, wouldnt say that to anyone regardless of there problem but never mind ey!? thanks to all you good girlies on here, i duno where i'd be without you guys, love yas!! xxxxx

 

[Pippin]

So sorry to hear this hon. I've followed your story and hoped it was your month. Many to you. xxxx