I can't think of anything more stressful for me personally than having anyone but hubby in the hospital with me! I love mine and his family and we are both really close to them but I need some space and would absolutely hate it if anyone else were in there! Because of the GD, they will keep baby and I in for 24 hours after birth, I've set the scene and told our families that I am looking forward to that time alone with Baby and hubby and that we will invite them over when we are ready.
I have to set boundaries as if I gave my parents a chance, they'd be there for the duration
that would just make me stressed out so I'm setting expectations up front.
Luckily both sets of parents are only 20 minutes away so I can have them over to help out and visit for an hour or so (or however long I need) then send them home again. I think those of you having people to stay are very brave! I might feel differently when she's here but I am looking forward to spending the 2 weeks that hubby has off, just the three of us and will be hinting to every visitor to go after about 30 mins
My husband didn't want a middle name but as he ended up sort of choosing the first name, she is having a middle name and I've chosen it.
I think with the names, you will end up agreeing eventually, whenever that is, if you can't agree at the moment then maybe it's just that you haven't found "the one"
I'd be stubborn and obtuse about the name too though, if the in laws were getting involved
I get a bit annoyed at how much of a 'right' grandparents seem to think they have to children. I know it varies and everyone is different but I do get annoyed that they are so entitled some times.
The best bit for me about picking our name was when we got to tell our families that they weren't going to know the name until she's here because we don't want their opinion! It was so satisfying!
I realise that I've made myself sound very anti family there
but seriously, this is a big thing for me because I am that person who ties herself in knots to make everyone else happy and worries about their feelings so much, that being strict and looking out for myself and my husband and what we want has been quite liberating for me! I think I am a slightly new woman!