lori
Mom to Simon & Oliver
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To the OP: Much of what you wrote in your original post hurt me very much as a mom of two lovely boys, but I do understand feeling disappointed and feeling and saying all kinds of irrational things without necessarily meaning them. I've always wanted a daughter and I cried both times I heard "boy". When I found out that my second was another boy, I got hung up on all kinds of negative stereotypes and just couldn't see any version of the universe where my boys were going to be different. You've gotten some harsh replies, but I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt because it sounds like you're hurting and because you haven't had the opportunity to see how awesome boys can be.
It's going to be ok
You may have a hard time believing it when people tell you this (I know I did), but get ready to experience a whole new kind of love. Little boys are amazing and you're about to learn so much. I wish I could invite you to come have a coffee on my couch and watch my oldest son play. He would melt your heart. He's loving, affectionate, smart, and so funny. My youngest (almost 6 months) is a doll. Sometimes when I look at him I tear up wondering how I could have ever wished for anyone different to join our family. I still want a daughter very badly and I worry that I'll never get to experience it, but I've learned that sometimes the universe has a better plan for my life and family than I could have ever dreamed up on my own.
If my next baby is another boy, I'll be crushed. I will cry. I might even sink into another depression even though I should know better by now. Don't be too hard on yourself or take the replies you've received to heart. We're all hurting to some degree, that's why we're posting in this section.
I promise you that one day you're going to look back on this and marvel at how much more complete your life and your family feels with your little boy.
It's going to be ok
You may have a hard time believing it when people tell you this (I know I did), but get ready to experience a whole new kind of love. Little boys are amazing and you're about to learn so much. I wish I could invite you to come have a coffee on my couch and watch my oldest son play. He would melt your heart. He's loving, affectionate, smart, and so funny. My youngest (almost 6 months) is a doll. Sometimes when I look at him I tear up wondering how I could have ever wished for anyone different to join our family. I still want a daughter very badly and I worry that I'll never get to experience it, but I've learned that sometimes the universe has a better plan for my life and family than I could have ever dreamed up on my own.
If my next baby is another boy, I'll be crushed. I will cry. I might even sink into another depression even though I should know better by now. Don't be too hard on yourself or take the replies you've received to heart. We're all hurting to some degree, that's why we're posting in this section.
I promise you that one day you're going to look back on this and marvel at how much more complete your life and your family feels with your little boy.