If you have 3 or more children, and wouldn't mind answering some if not all of my questions I would appreciate it.
1) what age gaps do you have? Eldest is 4.5, Middle is 23m, Youngest is 8m.
2) how old are you? 30
3) what is your household income/disposable income (sorry! Understand if you miss this one!) - Not sure off the top of my head (complicated to figure out) but it's not a lot. We are entitled to A LOT so I'm guessing low. Disposible income - that's a tricky one. Technically nothing but we get grants and things through which allow us to get the things we need and I had a small inheritance last year which has helped us out.
4) do you work? If so what do you do about childcare? I don't work. I have tried to return multiple times but due to the fact that my qualifications are majorly out of date and I have little or no skills otherwise, I'm stuck on minimum wage jobs and that really doesn't cover childcare for my 3.
5) what car do you drive? We have a lovely new Vauxhall Zafira (inheritance paid for it). We needed a 7-seater as it's hell trying to fit the 3 boys in - we had a Volvo V40 previously and it wasn't happening. I do know that some cars can fit them easier (Citroen Picasso is one I know of) and in the new car we can manage to get them in a row (just) but it's handy to have the extra row of seats, especially for longer journeys etc.
Also, any info on having 3 generally really, what the jump from 2 to 3 has been like for you physically, eomotionally, financially.
My biggest concerns are money (we could "survive" but I would like more than that, holidays, treats etc), work: I love working but don't have any family nearby so am reliant on childcare, I'm worried about the logistics of working with 3 kids. And my own independence, I am quite an independent person, I enjoy working, I do things by myself, I just kinda imagine it being harder with 3 children...
Thanks!
I must say that in reality Charlie hasn't made a great deal of difference to our everyday life. I don't know whether that's down to the small age gap or the fact that he's so easy going, or the fact that I've been told on many an occasion that after 2 it makes no difference lol. There's 15m between him and Edward. We already had all the clothes, the car seat, the beds and blankets, even the weaning stuff as we found out about him when Edward was just 6m. It cost us very little - just a new set of bottles and a double buggy. Feeding them, ok they can eat a heck of a lot. Now they're all on 3 meals a day I find myself buying a whole trolley in Tesco's every 5 days or so. If I'm not careful it can become very expensive but I plan and I economise where I can and we make do.
Logistically we did have to get a new car, but apart from that life was pretty much the same. I still go most places on the bus, and Earl goes to pre-school etc. We're still in our 2-bed house, and plan on, if we don't move soon that is which may happen, swapping bedroom so the 3 kids are in the large bedroom and we're in the smaller one which atm is just Earl and Eddy.
It is a lot of work, but we're in a routine now and we just get on with it. There's a lot of washing, cooking, cleaning, and general running around which while there was a lot with 2, things seemed to have moved up a gear. The house is noisier too.....which is not always a nice thing! lol
We always said we wanted 3, and we're very lucky to have them, and Charlie has definitely brought more than he has taken away. The boys love their little brother, and they're a right little gang! I'm dreading it once Charlie can join in fully once he's up on his feet!
With regards to work, I don't know what I'm going to do if I'm honest. There's an argument for me returning to work just to get some social aspect back, if I could get a Saturday/Weekend/Evening job which would mean no childcare as the kids would be in bed/with hubby. However, our house works well with me home, and tbh I like being home too. I do hope to re-train still, or even go back to Uni and complete a Masters in the future, but right now, with 3 children under 5 and none of them in full time school I need to be realistic. It's going to have to wait for a while, at least until Edward gets his 15 hours so it's not going to break the bank to put 2 in nursery on top of wraparound for Earl if it's needed. I do have to consider though that soon my hubby will be completing his degree and moving on so who knows, we may be able to afford more soon.
HTH and feel free to ask me anything else.