1) what age gaps do you have?
2) how old are you?
3) what is your household income/disposable income (sorry! Understand if you miss this one!)
4) do you work? If so what do you do about childcare?
5) what car do you drive?
Also, any info on having 3 generally really, what the jump from 2 to 3 has been like for you physically, eomotionally, financially.
1) 22 months between DD and DS1
25 months between DS1 and DS2
3 years 9 months between DS2 and DS3
2) I had my DD at 21
I had DS1 at 23
I had DS2 at 25
I had DS3 at 29
I'm now 30
3) N/A
4) I'm a carer for DH, as he has mobility problems. Last year I did some webcam (yes cam girl) work but I haven't done that in about 10 months now. Maybe I'll go back to it sometime, maybe not, but at the moment no I'm not working.
I'm currently working on playing piano (I'm working towards taking my Grade 5 exam later this year). Eventually, in a few years time, I'd like to be a piano tutor in my own home (or in the pupils' homes). Or maybe I'll even apply to work in a music college or something, we'll see. When the kids are a bit older.
I'm also writing - I have one self published ebook but it hasn't sold very well (only about 15 copies). But I might see if I can write a sequel. I live in hope that one day I'll be a "proper" published author, but that might just be a never achieved dream, we'll see.
5) Fiat Multipla. It has 6 full sized seats (3 in the back, 3 in the front).
We never planed to have 4 kids whilst on benefits. Never.
When I got pregnant with DD, I was in uni plus working part time at a commercial estate agents, and DH was working full time in an electronics shop (Maplin).
When I got pregnant with DS1, I was in uni, and DH was working full time as a first line I.T. support technician.
When I got pregnant with DS2, DH and I were both managing directors of our own online company (self employed) and were making quite a lot of money.
Unfortunately that all went pear shaped. The business went bust, and DH's mobility problems had increased so much that he couldn't manage without me, so he ended up on Disability Living Allowance.
Our finances were horrendous and we nearly lost the house. We had to sell up because we couldn't afford the mortgage.
That was it after that, we weren't going to have any more kids. Hell, we were put in a position of having to support 3 kids whilst on benefits. We had become a statistic. It was awful.
So you can imagine our utter dismay when 3 years later I fell pregnant again. Baby 4 wasn't planned, not even slightly. We had been careful. But after many tears we just decided to get on with it.
So here we are, 4 kids and on benefits. We're the very people the Daily Mail loves to bash! But we didn't start out this way, and hopefully we won't end up this way either.
DH is teaching himself 3D graphic art whilst he's stuck at home, in the hope that in a year or two he might be able to do some freelance work from home as a 3D graphic artist. His mobility might still be poor, but if he can work from home we can get off benefits and we can be seen as respectable again.
As for the kids themselves, I found that once we had the first two, the third and fourth just slotted right in without any problems. Granted we had to get a bigger car when number 4 came along, but that's all really.