Waiting to try no. 3 and feel a little weird

[ttc126]

Hello kitty I have some fitness goals to reach too before ttc again. I really need to strengthen my core as I'm having pelvic and back problems. I can imagine it will be pure torture to be pregnant with back issues already. We have plenty of time to reach our goals

My first was due end of Sept. I was SO hot and miserable going through summer! I much preferred being my biggest in winter with my January baby I'd ideally like to get pregnant with a Dec due date. With certain medical concerns I will most likely have to have baby at 37 weeks so it would be a Nov baby. Of course I wouldn't mind a summer baby either. Idk. I can't decide!!!!!!!

Catty oh my goodness you're a hero with an 11 month gap! I bet you'd do wonderfully with 3 but I do understand the apprehension....

 

[hello_kitty]

Catty - a 2 and 3 year age gap sounds very nice if you have another. You survived with an 11 month age gap lol I think you will do very well if you decide to add another!

ttc226 - Ideally, I would like to be 16 weeks pregnant at the start of the summer. At the time, I would've just entered second tri so not heavily pregnant but big enough to get to wear summer maternity clothes. I think if we fall pregnant in Feb, I will end up with a delivery date of sometime in November?

I have a lot to lose, but the pounds take sooo long to go down, adn sometimes dont even budge.

I saw this video on facebook, dont know if any of you ladies have came across it but its so cute and makes me miss being pregnant even more! https://www.facebook.com/TheMotherish/videos/892764090769314/

 

[hello_kitty]

Yesterday I was at the mall with my kids and walked past the maternity section inside a department store (dont know if anyone if familiar with Macys, its popular in the US).

OMG...I gotta say they have came out with super cute maternity clothing. I fell in love with a specific tank top, it was so freakin trendy I almost snatched it for myself (to wear in my third pregnancy of course) but I came to my senses and that would be a stupid buy. Maternity clothing just keeps getting better every year. I was still pregnant last summer, but they didnt have any of the styles that they have now. Its so great that maternity clothes have gotten so cute and trendy and no longer awkward to wear.

Cant wait to be pregnant again...

 

[HAKing]

Yesterday I was at the mall with my kids and walked past the maternity section inside a department store (dont know if anyone if familiar with Macys, its popular in the US).

OMG...I gotta say they have came out with super cute maternity clothing. I fell in love with a specific tank top, it was so freakin trendy I almost snatched it for myself (to wear in my third pregnancy of course) but I came to my senses and that would be a stupid buy. Maternity clothing just keeps getting better every year. I was still pregnant last summer, but they didnt have any of the styles that they have now. Its so great that maternity clothes have gotten so cute and trendy and no longer awkward to wear.

Cant wait to be pregnant again...

Ahh, I could have wrote this post myself. I love looking at maternity clothes online or passing by in store but can never bring myself to buy anything.

I too can't wait to be pregnant again and wear all the cute clothes

 

[hello_kitty]

I just found out my adopted sister is 15 weeks pregnant with her 6th child, and I may sound mean for saying this but I am not happy for her because she is an unfit parent and shouldnt have had any in the first place.

 

[catty]

how long are use thinking of waiting and do you have reasons for waiting or just dont feel ready just yet?
my house is already a childs wonderland, toys, crafts, heaps of garden toys etc so I wouldnt actually be worried so much about the baby years. Im more worried for when there a bit older and its £13 each to get in the carnivals plus food plus treats. at xmas they will start wanting expensive things and holidays will be so much dearer. thing is we arent struggling financially so should our children not getring luxuries really be a deciding factor?!?!

 

[ttc126]

hello_kitty, I'm so sorry So difficult to deal with feelings like that....

catty, I have wondered the same as you! Paying for clothes and everything as they get older would get a lot more expensive.... we probably couldn't afford vacations...But like you said, that's not necessarily a reason to not have more.

 

[hello_kitty]

ttc126 - I just feel bad for her kids thats all.

catty - I am waiting because I want to lose weight but the primary reason is being dh wants to visit his family from overseas next year which will not happen if I dont lose enough weight. Sounds shallow but his parents are asians (I am too) and the people over there are mostly petite, I dont want to be uncomfortable being the only "big one" and getting weird looks. My mom went over there and she is chubby and people gave her a hard time. I am stressing out though, because we are 6 months away and no improvement with the weight loss yet despite me eating right.

 

[hello_kitty]

Ughh why am I so stressed out about having to deal with people when I am pregnant with no. 3? My mom keep giving me side remarks about the possibility of having another boy, she's like "are you gonna have anymore or are you done" and I told her "no, Im not done, I am hoping for a girl next" and she's like "what if you dont get a girl adn they're all boys"...

Gosh she needs to mind her own business. If she keeps interfering with my baby business, she wont even know I am having a baby until the baby is here.

 

[HAKing]

Ughh why am I so stressed out about having to deal with people when I am pregnant with no. 3? My mom keep giving me side remarks about the possibility of having another boy, she's like "are you gonna have anymore or are you done" and I told her "no, Im not done, I am hoping for a girl next" and she's like "what if you dont get a girl adn they're all boys"...

Gosh she needs to mind her own business. If she keeps interfering with my baby business, she wont even know I am having a baby until the baby is here.

What a bummer that you're getting pressured about baby #3 and whether it's a boy or girl. My MIL are really wants us to have a girl next as there are no girls in the family and she says I'm her last shot at a girl since no one else is having anymore.

She isn't really being pushy about it but I do feel some pressure from her and feel like I will have let her down with a boy.

Your mom just needs to understand and be happy with whatever the sex of her next grandchild is. I hope she stops bugging you.

 

[hello_kitty]

Ughh why am I so stressed out about having to deal with people when I am pregnant with no. 3? My mom keep giving me side remarks about the possibility of having another boy, she's like "are you gonna have anymore or are you done" and I told her "no, Im not done, I am hoping for a girl next" and she's like "what if you dont get a girl adn they're all boys"...

Gosh she needs to mind her own business. If she keeps interfering with my baby business, she wont even know I am having a baby until the baby is here.

What a bummer that you're getting pressured about baby #3 and whether it's a boy or girl. My MIL are really wants us to have a girl next as there are no girls in the family and she says I'm her last shot at a girl since no one else is having anymore.

She isn't really being pushy about it but I do feel some pressure from her and feel like I will have let her down with a boy.

Your mom just needs to understand and be happy with whatever the sex of her next grandchild is. I hope she stops bugging you.

She has a lot of grandkids, since my 2 sisters each has 6. She has her mix of boys and girls as grandkids. She's simply picking on me as if I have a choice for it to be a girl next. To be honest, I wouldnt really care if our next is another boy.

 

[HAKing]

I hope she leaves you alone soon! We are really hoping for s girl next. We are stopping at 3 so it's our last shot.

 

[hello_kitty]

How is everyone doing? OMG it is that time of the month again! I always get broody whenever I am in my fertile window. Does anyone experience the same thing? Its not practical atm to get pregnant, we have even decided to push our ttc plans out til April/May of next year as the soonest date and up to 6-7 years at the latest.

This broodiness is an ongoing issue though and I need to find a way to overcome this because I am willing to bet I will be broody for life. If I cave in to this broodiness and end up with another, I will experience the same exact feelings a few years down the road.

But the having to wait 6-7 years for baby no. 3 just scares me. Of course our lives will be better, but the age gap is huge and what do I do with the baby gear that I have now? Should I get rid of it?

 

[HAKing]

Hello kitty, yes I can relate on feeling broody. It sucks knowing we are waiting and nothing will come of it right now.

Why have you guys decided to move ttc date? If you don't mind me asking.

Everyone around me is pregnant now or having babies and it's just killing me. And I just found out a lady who takes her 9 y/o to our daycare is pregnant with twins. And since our daycare can only take 3 babies under 2 I'm not sure she will be able to take our baby. I talked to dh about it and he said we will just figure it out. We really don't wanna wait much longer than we are already planning to.

 

[hello_kitty]

we might move the date so i can finish school. My husband wants to try next year though, so im not sure. we'll see then.

i dont know it kinda wore off on me. There are times where i cant wait to be pregnant but also times when i feel like i shouldn't rush it cuz after baby no.3 i will never get to be pregnant again.

i know how you feel though. My sister is pregnant with a GIRL giving her 3 of each! how lucky is that? and not saying this out of jealousy or anything, i swear because ive felt this way for a long time. she can barely afford them but is so blessed with a mix of genders whereas the people who actually can provide for their kids cant get what they want.

 

[HAKing]

A big reason we are waiting is because it's going to be our last as well and I want to be able to enjoy my pregnancy as much as possible without working on the house or chasing around two little boys.

Part of me is sad knowing we are going to be done, but I think more because I'll never carry another baby not so much that I feel like our family is incomplete.

I wouldn't say no to #4 but dh said he he doesn't want a 4th purely because of financial reasons. I'm fine with it, he is happy with 2 I wanted 4 originally so we settled on 3.

What are you going to school for?

 

[hello_kitty]

HAKing - I just looked at your ticker and your youngest is over 2 years old. By the time you try again youngest will be almost 2.5. By the time baby is here your now baby will be close to 3...imo thats a really nice age gap. I wish I could come to terms of when I really want to try. When I created this thread, I was absolutely certain we would try in February, and then it got pushed to April/May (which I dont really mind) and now with the thoughts of finishing school, I am considering at least 6 years to try. I will be done with everything in 5 years, but need to work for 1 year after that if I want a job stability.

I love my current job though and I get paid pretty well, even for part time but what I ultimately want is a career not a "job" if you get what I mean. Oh well, I may continue working like I am now until we are done having kids and then go back to school.

Husband said he wants to try next year though and I do to if it werent for the school issue. He likes the idea of our oldest starting pre school by the time new baby is here and no.2 soon to follow leaving me home with just the baby. He can take care of the baby while I go to school on campus.

Another big reason I want wait is I want to extend the parenting years. If I wait 5-6 years, during that waiting time I will know that I have another baby to look forward to down the road. If have one next year, and its a girl, I am officially done and no more babies...I am going to get teary eyed when I pack and give away baby stuff.

Negotiation is always fun isnt it? I'm glad youre hubby is open to 3 though. My husband only wants 3, and if we get a girl next he is dead set on being finished but if its a boy, he is willing to try for a 4th since a part of him really yearns for that daddy's girl.

He kinda gave me an option if I wanted to wait 5 years to have another. I was concerned about the age gap and he said if I really wanted to wait that long, he would be willing to have 2 more regardless of gender so that they can play together like the two we have now and that would also satisfy my wishes. If it were you what would you choose?

This is going to sound crazy, thats why I dont really like to tell people since they will discourage me. I know they are just telling it like it is though, so I dont blame them. Unfortunately, I am the type who wants it all but in reality that cant happen thus my consideration for waiting. I want to go to PA school.

I have a ton of baby supplies laying around though from ds2, I hate the idea of giving it up and rebuying once I have another although having another baby is a bigger deal that what all of those things costs. I have a breastfeeding set that I got unopened, breastmilk storage bags, breastfeeding supplements that expire in 1.5 years, not to mention all the clothes that I would have to get rid of since 6 years is a long time.

 

[Missy08]

Hey everyone! Stalking this thread. DH & I are currently WTT (I think)....I am sooo torn on whether or not we are going to go for #3 or not. I feel like someone is still missing in our family. We currently have 2 girls (6 years and 2 years) so I would like to try again for a boy (but would also be overjoyed with 3 girls). The decision to have 1 then #2 was so easy but I'm so torn on this one. Some days, I think, "No way!" Then others day I'm ready to start TTC right away Hahahaha. I am home with my girls now (running an in home daycare) so I would love the opportunity to be able to be home with this baby...them all the practical things ring in my mind, like finances, would we need a bigger car, someone would have to share rooms, etc., etc.

Ugh, I don't know! The thought of never having another baby also makes me sooo sad. How did you guys all decide?

 

[HAKing]

HAKing - I just looked at your ticker and your youngest is over 2 years old. By the time you try again youngest will be almost 2.5. By the time baby is here your now baby will be close to 3...imo thats a really nice age gap. I wish I could come to terms of when I really want to try. When I created this thread, I was absolutely certain we would try in February, and then it got pushed to April/May (which I dont really mind) and now with the thoughts of finishing school, I am considering at least 6 years to try. I will be done with everything in 5 years, but need to work for 1 year after that if I want a job stability.

Negotiation is always fun isnt it? I'm glad youre hubby is open to 3 though. My husband only wants 3, and if we get a girl next he is dead set on being finished but if its a boy, he is willing to try for a 4th since a part of him really yearns for that daddy's girl.

He kinda gave me an option if I wanted to wait 5 years to have another. I was concerned about the age gap and he said if I really wanted to wait that long, he would be willing to have 2 more regardless of gender so that they can play together like the two we have now and that would also satisfy my wishes. If it were you what would you choose?

I think if I had to choose I would have another baby next year. Only because I would like to have all 3 as close together as possible. I already am dying for a baby.

I do like that my boys are older now and having a baby again will be easier. When I had ds2 my first was only 20 months old. He was still so much of a baby. Now both my boys will be able to understand that mommy is having a baby.

Hey everyone! Stalking this thread. DH & I are currently WTT (I think)....I am sooo torn on whether or not we are going to go for #3 or not. I feel like someone is still missing in our family. We currently have 2 girls (6 years and 2 years) so I would like to try again for a boy (but would also be overjoyed with 3 girls). The decision to have 1 then #2 was so easy but I'm so torn on this one. Some days, I think, "No way!" Then others day I'm ready to start TTC right away Hahahaha. I am home with my girls now (running an in home daycare) so I would love the opportunity to be able to be home with this baby...them all the practical things ring in my mind, like finances, would we need a bigger car, someone would have to share rooms, etc., etc.

Ugh, I don't know! The thought of never having another baby also makes me sooo sad. How did you guys all decide?

Hi missy :wave:

My dh only wanted two but when he saw how sad I was that ds2 was a boy he agreed to try once more for a girl. He is thrilled with 2 boys but would love a girl too.

When buying our current house we bought a 4 bedroom knowing we planned for 3 and last year bought a larger car. All if that stuff really factored in with our decision too. It's a huge financial decision.

I agree #2 was an easy decision. We started trying rather quickly after #1 but the thought of 3 financially is a huge decision. But I do know I won't feel complete with only 2, regardless of the sex if #3.

When would you try again if you decided to have a 3rd?

 

[Missy08]

If we did decide to try for #3 if would probably be within the next couple of years. We did just buy a house and it is 4 bedrooms but we converted the lower level (with 4th bedroom) to the daycare center so I could be at home. All the other bedrooms are upstairs and 2 of the kids would have to share which I guess isn't a huge deal...I don't know this just a huge decision and we keep going back and forth...I do know, tho, that if we did decide to go for #3 we wouldn't regret it...