Hi all
I've been here a while but don't really post. I've been waiting to try for about two years. Initially I was counting down to marriage, and then several promotions at work meant we delayed our date further. We married in Aug 2013, had that as our date and then moved it to Jan 2014, then May 2014, and now we're probably looking at end of 2015/16.Well, we were...
Husband went on a stag do and admitted paying for TWO erotic private dances in a strip club in Eastern Europe. I don't mind him going in to strip clubs, as that happens on stag dos, but he knew the private dances crosses the boundary for me as he's done it before and I was really, really upset. It was about 2 years ago and the stag's Dad paid for all the boys to have a private dance. I was upset for a while and he was sorry and said he would never do it again but as it was paid for for him, and everyone did it, I got over it.
However, here we are again. This time, it was OUR money. Our shared earnings. And he had TWO private dances and also completely ignored my texts for the entire night when they were there, which he never does as I suffer from anxiety and always presume bad things have happened if I don't hear from him.
It was just him and a naked woman in a room. And then he clearly loved it so much he went back for more with someone else.
He says he was very drunk and felt terrible the next day. He claims to not really remember it. However, he was sober enough to put his pin code into the machine.
The first dance shows £50 coming out of the account, and the second one £500. He says the bank are looking into the £500 as fraud... however, for all I know, he could have paid for a few extras.
This was a week ago. I left and spent the night at a friends. I am back home now but I am devastated. This is betrayal for me and everytime I look at him I see a naked woman all over him and him loving it, and i don't want him anywhere near me.
I feel like this could have ruined our marriage. He knew I was hurt before and he did it again twice. I have taken all the wedding pictures down in the house. I feel inadequate, disrespected, disgusted and that my world is falling apart.
I do not know how to move on from this. Obviously I do probably love him deep down but at the moment I feel hate and no physical attraction at all and I am worried I never will again....
The thought of this pig being the father of my children also disgusts me.
Before, we had the perfect marriage everyone was jealous of. I can't believe he has had such little regard for my feelings and am wondering how he really feels about me.
He says he is sorry and will do anything to keep me but I keep thinking if he cared that much, he wouldn't have done it and ignored me for the whole night.
I am torturing myself by watching video of private strip dances online and the more I read/watch the more I feel like I will never recover.
Help please! I'm in bits.
I've been here a while but don't really post. I've been waiting to try for about two years. Initially I was counting down to marriage, and then several promotions at work meant we delayed our date further. We married in Aug 2013, had that as our date and then moved it to Jan 2014, then May 2014, and now we're probably looking at end of 2015/16.Well, we were...
Husband went on a stag do and admitted paying for TWO erotic private dances in a strip club in Eastern Europe. I don't mind him going in to strip clubs, as that happens on stag dos, but he knew the private dances crosses the boundary for me as he's done it before and I was really, really upset. It was about 2 years ago and the stag's Dad paid for all the boys to have a private dance. I was upset for a while and he was sorry and said he would never do it again but as it was paid for for him, and everyone did it, I got over it.
However, here we are again. This time, it was OUR money. Our shared earnings. And he had TWO private dances and also completely ignored my texts for the entire night when they were there, which he never does as I suffer from anxiety and always presume bad things have happened if I don't hear from him.
It was just him and a naked woman in a room. And then he clearly loved it so much he went back for more with someone else.
He says he was very drunk and felt terrible the next day. He claims to not really remember it. However, he was sober enough to put his pin code into the machine.
The first dance shows £50 coming out of the account, and the second one £500. He says the bank are looking into the £500 as fraud... however, for all I know, he could have paid for a few extras.
This was a week ago. I left and spent the night at a friends. I am back home now but I am devastated. This is betrayal for me and everytime I look at him I see a naked woman all over him and him loving it, and i don't want him anywhere near me.
I feel like this could have ruined our marriage. He knew I was hurt before and he did it again twice. I have taken all the wedding pictures down in the house. I feel inadequate, disrespected, disgusted and that my world is falling apart.
I do not know how to move on from this. Obviously I do probably love him deep down but at the moment I feel hate and no physical attraction at all and I am worried I never will again....
The thought of this pig being the father of my children also disgusts me.
Before, we had the perfect marriage everyone was jealous of. I can't believe he has had such little regard for my feelings and am wondering how he really feels about me.
He says he is sorry and will do anything to keep me but I keep thinking if he cared that much, he wouldn't have done it and ignored me for the whole night.
I am torturing myself by watching video of private strip dances online and the more I read/watch the more I feel like I will never recover.
Help please! I'm in bits.