Alchemist
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Ok, so we had a real heart to heart. It has been decided that for us setting a TTC month date is virtually impossible as its a cycle that leads to us both feeling insecure. So we have abandoned that plan and so the next plan is to figure out how we can both get our needs met and then make plans to start trying.
He does want to start trying but he wants us to be in a more communicative place and closer emotionally. me setting a date, him being non comiital, me having insecurities and then getting upset with him is a cycle which has to stop. but he is going to have to start taking an interest in when we try and talk to me about it or we are going to have more problems......
I am still hoping it will be next month (wow it was next month???) but it may be only june. which isnt THAT bad but i will monitor him in the next month and if I see no improvement in his attitude and his willingness to share my pains and needs, then i will have to kick his lilly white ass a bit
so, all good again ( i am a bit sad but he has offered to deposit money into my bank account for a new car!!!!) so i will try focus on that for the next month and then we can start talking about a baby seat for the new car ha ha
He does want to start trying but he wants us to be in a more communicative place and closer emotionally. me setting a date, him being non comiital, me having insecurities and then getting upset with him is a cycle which has to stop. but he is going to have to start taking an interest in when we try and talk to me about it or we are going to have more problems......
I am still hoping it will be next month (wow it was next month???) but it may be only june. which isnt THAT bad but i will monitor him in the next month and if I see no improvement in his attitude and his willingness to share my pains and needs, then i will have to kick his lilly white ass a bit
so, all good again ( i am a bit sad but he has offered to deposit money into my bank account for a new car!!!!) so i will try focus on that for the next month and then we can start talking about a baby seat for the new car ha ha