Welcome to Trying To Conceive #1

[Jb777]

It is driving me nuts because we started trying right after we got married and I was pretty sure I was ovulating during that period but no baby And even after we got home after my period still no baby I have read all the tips on how to get pregnant fast but none seems to be different then what I am already doing. My cervix seems to also always be sitting low I am not sure why thats is. Also how soft is the cervix when your ovulating? Is the whole thing soft like your lips or will there be hard areas still on your cervix?

 

[Claudieness]

This is great! I have been looking every where online about how to get pregnant and what your mucus looks like when your ovulating and what your cervix feels like. I have been going crazy I think I need to stop trying so hard and just let nature take its course. Thank you

I am pretty new to all this and am still picking up the lingo, plus have never really spoken to anyone about the symptoms, I know from reading up that you get 'egg white discharge' when you ovulate, which I did get!
I read stuff about Clomids too (dunce didn't know what it was) Have you heard of them? It's medication to help women who can't ovulate naturally on their own.
Have you seen any signs yourself of your ovulation hun?
It's easy to get obsessive.. I know I am already and haven't been playing the TTC game long..
But I have also heard taking it easy and just waiting for it to come can be better, as you're less stressed
Best of luck to you xxxx

 

[fitmommy]

Welcome Jessica!

 

[Claudieness]

I just heard today that a work colleague of mine is 11 weeks pregnant, I've watched 5 people be pregnant and then go (Understandable, I work in childcare and I'm sure the girls get sick of looking after other people's kids and want their own!) and It's been hard for me; So now that my fiance has finally agreed he's as ready as he'll ever be, I just want it so much...

 

[HippyDip]

Hippy dip,

We are in a very similar situation. This is only our second month, but we're on a time crunch too. Of course I chart this month and so far no O. This cd17.... I'm only on month 2 and already feeling frustrated.

hlight,
I started using opks last month and I'm at cd15 today. I haven't had a clear positive yet At about cd5 I had a faint positive, but I'm just very despondent about the whole thing. I'm not getting my hopes up cos seeing another negative at the end of this cycle will be crushing. I completely understand your frustration, and if your like me this whole journey started out with such hope and positivity.......[/QUOTE]

Cd 19 and still no sign of ovulation...
It's funny because you spend so much time trying to prevent pregnancy, but then you try and it doesn't happen. I guess I just have been frustrated this month because it started off weird and my temps have been all over the map. I'm trying to be positive and look at it as a learning experience.... It could be a weird month or I'm a late ovulator. I guess it's better to learn sooner [/QUOTE]

Thats something I still can't get my head around......like WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING.....the amount of hormones I've subjected myself to preventing pregnancy through the years!!! Implanon, Depo Provera, Yasmin and I'm the sort of person that would be hard pressed to take a paracetamol. who would blame my system for being out've whack!!!! Oh how I would love to give my former self a slap across the head!!!! lol I'm just going with the flow for the rest of this cycle. I've stopped using opk's and we're just bd every other day cos I'm driving myself a little mad with the whole thing.
I've never recorded temps but is it poss you could have ovulated..... with your temps being all over the place it may not have been obvious?!?

 

[Hpe_1]

Just thought I would post. I'm very new to all of this and the lingo so bare with me please. But we just started to really try this month but have been off birth control since July. I'm currently in the 2WW Dpo 7. Just like to see other with the same feelings and thoughts as me!

 

[ttcbabyisom]

Sorry for being mia lately! After last cycle's s let down, i went into a funk and during that same time, they let a load of people go at work and i was scared to death of getting fired. I did not lose my job and have since been reassigned and have been very sad and depressed about it. As of today, I'm starting to feel better but all of that stress has kept my mind off the baby-making for a bit but I think might also have messed up my cycle. My chart is all over the place right now. My temp would indicate a possible early O this cycle but i had a positive OPK yesterday and a very faint one today. I'm not supposed to O until tomorrow...having O cramps today so hopefully things are on track. If not, not sure we did it the right days but i think we've done it enough this month to catch the eggy so FINGERS CROSSED! I'll go back through all of the posts I've missed to catch up but I hope EVERYONE is doing well and I can't wait to hear about any new BFP's since I've been mia.

 

[preg_pilot]

Sorry for being mia lately! After last cycle's s let down, i went into a funk and during that same time, they let a load of people go at work and i was scared to death of getting fired. I did not lose my job and have since been reassigned and have been very sad and depressed about it. As of today, I'm starting to feel better but all of that stress has kept my mind off the baby-making for a bit but I think might also have messed up my cycle. My chart is all over the place right now. My temp would indicate a possible early O this cycle but i had a positive OPK yesterday and a very faint one today. I'm not supposed to O until tomorrow...having O cramps today so hopefully things are on track. If not, not sure we did it the right days but i think we've done it enough this month to catch the eggy so FINGERS CROSSED! I'll go back through all of the posts I've missed to catch up but I hope EVERYONE is doing well and I can't wait to hear about any new BFP's since I've been mia.

Fingers crossed

 

[Cabby]

Hi guys,

Welcome to the newbies and hope everyone is well- sorry for those the witch got this month (me included!)

Just wanted to post really as we saw the consultant at FS clinic yesterday and I'm feeling really down about it all! Nothing went wrong really but I've got to have a laprascopy and I'm TERRIFIED!!! The thought of it is making me want to cry!! I know I've got to have it though but I really don't want to!! Has anyone else had it done? I need some reassurance!!

When we went yesterday, he took a 'post-coital sample' and found that the sperm werent swimming but he put it down to the fact i wasn't ovulating and said 'it should all be fine'! This doesn't seem good enough to me?! I want him to check when I am ovulating! What if my mucus is killing the sperm and stopping them swim?! He won't check again and instead wants to do the horrible laprascopy! NOOOOOOO!!!

Another thing that i think is dead weird is that a few hours after i got back from him prodding around up there i came on my period! I'm only on day 19!! My cycles are really regular and have only ever ranged from one 26- one 31, the majority of times by cycle length is 27! What do u think that's about?! Should I be worried?

Ah I just feel horrible right now- HELP xx

 

[hlight]

Hippy dip,

We are in a very similar situation. This is only our second month, but we're on a time crunch too. Of course I chart this month and so far no O. This cd17.... I'm only on month 2 and already feeling frustrated.

hlight,
I started using opks last month and I'm at cd15 today. I haven't had a clear positive yet At about cd5 I had a faint positive, but I'm just very despondent about the whole thing. I'm not getting my hopes up cos seeing another negative at the end of this cycle will be crushing. I completely understand your frustration, and if your like me this whole journey started out with such hope and positivity.......

Cd 19 and still no sign of ovulation...
It's funny because you spend so much time trying to prevent pregnancy, but then you try and it doesn't happen. I guess I just have been frustrated this month because it started off weird and my temps have been all over the map. I'm trying to be positive and look at it as a learning experience.... It could be a weird month or I'm a late ovulator. I guess it's better to learn sooner [/QUOTE]

Thats something I still can't get my head around......like WHAT THE HELL WAS I THINKING.....the amount of hormones I've subjected myself to preventing pregnancy through the years!!! Implanon, Depo Provera, Yasmin and I'm the sort of person that would be hard pressed to take a paracetamol. who would blame my system for being out've whack!!!! Oh how I would love to give my former self a slap across the head!!!! lol I'm just going with the flow for the rest of this cycle. I've stopped using opk's and we're just bd every other day cos I'm driving myself a little mad with the whole thing.
I've never recorded temps but is it poss you could have ovulated..... with your temps being all over the place it may not have been obvious?!?[/QUOTE]

Since I'm new to this I decided to chart on fertilityfriend.com. According to them, ovulation had not been detected and now I'm on cd 21! I only saw what I thought to be "egg white like" fluid one day, which was cd 14. I got a positive opk on cd 17, but my temp is still low. It's so confusing! I thought this would help... Hahaha

 

[NelliNell]

Hi Ladies!

Just wanted to introduce myself to the board. I originally joined in December (but only lurked) after trying to conceive #1 for three months prior. After a BFN in January, DH and I decided to just let go and relax, stop charting, counting, symptom watching etc. So instead of trying to conceive, I consider myself to be “open and hoping to conceive”. I’m still mindful of my cycle and ovulation day since I can feel when I ovulate, but have let go of the anxiety of it all.

Now I’m back on the site actively, in hopes of meeting new people and sharing experiences. I ovulated yesterday, so today is 1 dpo....did BD yesterday so we shall see what happens.

I wish all of you ladies the best of luck and wonderful journeys. Hope to chat soon

 

[fitmommy]

Sorry for being mia lately! After last cycle's s let down, i went into a funk and during that same time, they let a load of people go at work and i was scared to death of getting fired. I did not lose my job and have since been reassigned and have been very sad and depressed about it. As of today, I'm starting to feel better but all of that stress has kept my mind off the baby-making for a bit but I think might also have messed up my cycle. My chart is all over the place right now. My temp would indicate a possible early O this cycle but i had a positive OPK yesterday and a very faint one today. I'm not supposed to O until tomorrow...having O cramps today so hopefully things are on track. If not, not sure we did it the right days but i think we've done it enough this month to catch the eggy so FINGERS CROSSED! I'll go back through all of the posts I've missed to catch up but I hope EVERYONE is doing well and I can't wait to hear about any new BFP's since I've been mia.

Thanks for checking in. Missed you! So sorry about the insecurities with your job, not an easy thing to go through for sure. However, maybe getting your mind off the baby making for a while was beneficial. Wait and see....sometimes it's when we least expect it. So stay positive, praying for you!

Fit

 

[amcole85]

Hey everyone,

I am now 5dpo and was wondering if that is too early to have breast tenderness? If anyone has an idea please let me know.

Thank you

 

[baby0]

yes that is a massive sign as all my pregnancies first sign was bruised to touch boobs so G,L

 

[La_Chiquis]

Hello Everyone!

Wanted to introduce myself, this is my first time posting here on BabyandBump, but I've been lurking quite some time. These forums have definitely helped me stay sane during those long post-ovulation waits!

I have been TTC for ~7months with no luck thus far. I am 24, have endometriosis, decent sized cysts on both ovaries, and to top it off my husband is 17 years older than I am and suffers from some ED problems, but I am still hopeful and have faith that one day our dream of having a family will come true.

This forum definitely makes me feel less alone in my struggles. Nice to meet all of you and good luck to everyone!

 

[jpiper]

I'm just coming out of the shadows too La_Chiquis I'm so happy to have found a forum like this - I have a lot to learn and TTC is much much tougher emotionally than I had ever anticipated.

 

[Claudieness]

Hello La_Chiquis and jpiper,
Hope you do find this forum as helpful and supportive as I have so far
I'll be 24 this month too, and think it's a good age to try for the first little one!

La_Chiquis, I hope your 7th month of TTC isn't getting you too down, keep that faith and positivity and I send some fairydust your way! I take it you've been to a GP and specialist for your diagnosis? Did they tell you it is possible to conceive if you continue trying? Really hope you are successful this month!

jpiper, I took a look on similar forums and then this one for a few weeks too, and finally found the courage to start posting and joining in a few days ago!
From my brief experience the ladies on here are full of so many interesting stories, such hope and genuine care for eachother
What's your story, if you don't mind sharing?

Good luck both of you, and everyone else! xxxx

 

[jpiper]

Thanks Claudieness!
The support on here is awesome with the emotional stress TTC brings! I really wasn't prepared for it...I have irregular cycles so I am using opks. We're on our 5th cycle and I'm a few months away from 35...so I know the stress of all these elements can't help my cause!

 

[Claudieness]

Thanks Claudieness!
The support on here is awesome with the emotional stress TTC brings! I really wasn't prepared for it...I have irregular cycles so I am using opks. We're on our 5th cycle and I'm a few months away from 35...so I know the stress of all these elements can't help my cause!

I never had very regular cycles either, and that especially got messed up whilst I was on Implanon for over 2 years.
What contraception were you using?
I had AF the day after I had my Implanon removed. I used an app to work out when I should be ovulating, and think it was pretty accurate as I had the symptoms.
I have however also invested in Opks and first step strips.
I'm such a fool though, as I've not been able to hold off and have done TWO tests already! Even though I know I can't till the 7th!
Good luck sweetie! xxx

 

[La_Chiquis]

Thanks Claudiness and hello JPiper!

I haven't seen an endometriosis specialist as my medical coverage limits me somewhat but I am definitely looking for a different doctor as my current gynecologist immediately brushes me off when I attempt to discuss my fertility concerns. In her opinion, at 24, I am too young to even want to conceive and so she's not very helpful, just judgemental.

I am very fortunate to not suffer very much pain from my endo, but I do believe the cysts it's caused are making my cycles longer (average 37 days, sometimes up to 42) and I don't think I am ovulating every month. I haven't tried monitoring body temps. or anything beyond tracking my cycles, and being informed and aware of ovulation symptoms. I really hope things work themselves out naturally as I REALLY don't want to take BCPs or drugs to inhibit estrogen!

TTC is so emotionally draining but everyone tells me to think positive, and so I tell myself "WHEN I have a baby..." instead of "IF I have a baby...". Once again good luck to everyone this month!