Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- wait. I think I may be confused. What do you mean you are using donor eggs? You mentioned that you are going in for egg retrieval, so...doesn't that mean you will be using your own eggs? wonder if you meant donor sperm? Oh, and I meant to ask (sorry for all the questions!) when they do the transfer you said you thought it was much like an IUI- basically shoot it in there and off you go...but do they shoot it into your uterus? I am thinking that would make more sense...
Re: tuna. I love tuna just plain and salted on crackers or on bread. But the mercury has me concerned as I am told by my doc not to eat it when prego...Plus, I grew up in Alaska and we had a fish camp where we worked literally hundreds if not thousands of fish a day and that's all mom cooked. You read my recipes from mom and gramma right? Yeah. Anyway, fish= LOL!

I was wondering about Angel and Terri last night too

Oops.. silly me I meant donor sperm! I'm using my own eggs! That is why I have 30 follicles!

Well I'm hoping that my follicles have grown but to be honest, I haven't had any symptoms today or yesterday.

IUI is insertion of the sperm into the uterus, the embryo transfer is similar, they insert the embryos into the uterus. I think the only difference is that when they put the embryos up there they use a bigger catheter.

I'm watching the movie.. the ides of march.. interesting!!

O thought so !! (re: ER, Donor Sperm etc) Will you be using the same gentleman donor sperm or a differnt, er, gentleman? Not sure how many the gold pro donated,s o wasn't positive if that is the same choice this time around?

 

[Grey Eyes]

OMG, according to my ticker only 41 days to go Eeek!

I am super tired tonight and am contemplating skipping my usual shower....maybe get up early for it, sad I have to plan that stuff, right? I am at that point where even showering is like a tough job! Ah, and putting my shoes on. I grunt and groan and try these weird angles...dh laughs but always offers to tie my shoes for me lol! Oh, and when scrambling eggs for breakfast the other day I accidentally got some on the floor...and rather than fight to bend over and clean it I stared at it for several moments trying to decide if it was worth it or should I actually leave it there on the floor?!! (I cleaned it).

 

[Grey Eyes]

Terri, Alin, Angel-- Where are you all? ....................

 

[alicatt]

Coy.. same donor.. but guess what? When I went to purchase it they only had 1 vial left! Back in June they had 50! WTF? Where did the rest go? They gave me the last vial of washed sperm and then I had to get one that was unwashed. Of course I was in a panic because the FS had requested 2 vials of washed, but when I explained the situation he asked the embryologist and she said one of each was fine. I can't figure out why they even need 2. I mean each vial has a minimum of 25M sperm and I'm pretty sure I won't produce that many eggs!

My heart is beating really fast.. pulse was 105! I can't figure it out.. hope it goes away!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Babywhisperer-

" If you have sex when you know your about to ovulate and it's your 3 most fertile days, what prevents you from getting that bfp?" Great question! You may have posed it without really asking for an answer but I got some thoughts I always have something to add, right? lol. Hm. I thought about this too while dh and I were trying to conceive.
One reason could be diet. Blocked tubes? Confused swimmers Hostile cervical mucus. Uterine lining preventing implantation?
I do know that caffeine is detrimental to conception: apparently the fallopian tubes "flex" to encourage the newly fertilized egg to travel up the tube and into the uterus for implantation. Caffeine impedes or paralyzes the fallopian tube preventing it from flexing or squeezing the egg on its journey.
Also on the hostile cm portion: preseed is supposed to help a lot, I never used it but I have heard many swear by it! As far as uterine lining: Ali has discussed the benefit of taking baby aspirin pre-ov and I think post-ov? to aid in the thickening and she always has a triple lining
Oh, and we have all talked a lot about position, e.g., staying on your back during and supporting your hips to tilt upward, especially after, that way the are aided on their journey through the cervix. Prop up for 20 minutes or so. Anywho, just sopme thoughts. What all have you tried, just basic timing? Often that is all you need Fx'd!

This is great food for thought. I had an ultrasound back in Feb and March when I had a uterine polyp removed with a D&C. He said everything looked good and the uterus would be smooth after the procedure which would help implantation... I drink 1 cup of coffee a day so maybe I should stop. I am going to try and find preseed and try baby aspirin. I have been lying on my back and even propped myself up for 20min after.

I am also thinking of using acupuncture and my friend swears by it. I might need to drop 15lbs too and get back to the gym. It's beautiful here today, waiting for hubs to wake up for the beach! Hope everyone is doing great!

 

[Babywhisperer]

CD26 and as my gut was telling me AF got me early, was expecting it Wed but symptoms kicked up and pointed towards an early arrival. I checked cm and it was pink then getting redder. I will use opks again next cycle, baby aspirin and preseed. Thankful I didn't have to wait until Wed for af!

 

[Philomena]

Hey everyone,
just popping on to say hi! this baby has started to get really huge! I'm sure since last week it's doubled in size!
Hope things are going well for all of you.... I read up every few days just to see how you all are....
Ali, you are doing great!! I'm on pins and needles waiting for your bfp, girl!! I know you have everything under control and I look forward to your posts!!! they keep me sane!!
Jess, it might be time to get your guy in for an assessment!! at least then it's either something to deal with, or something to cross off the list....
Coy, you need to slow down, woman!! I get tired just reading what you do in a day!
I went to my monthly book club and this month, aside from discussing the book, we had a busy bee night... everyone brought a project to work on. I was taking a break from my projects, and when they asked what I was working on, I said, well, I'm growing a human being 24/7!! I'm just going to do some more of that! well, it got a laugh, as lame a joke as it was!
I have my 6th month checkup this week and then on the 26th I'm going in for a 3-D ultrasound. They didn't have that technology with my last baby (16 years ago!) so I'm very excited to make use of it! I am thrilled to be able to see the baby's face!!
Also, it might help DH start to realize this is all for real. He told me the other day that sometimes he just has no feeling toward the baby, no emotions for it.... which I know is normal... I told him it's normal for some men to not get emotionally invested until they see the baby in person. I think the 3-D picture will go a long way towards helping make it real for him.
We have also decided to take this month off from each other. I can't remember if I told you all that before....
he would come home from work and my blood pressure would go up just thinking it was time for him to walk in the door. He would try and take his cues from me about what he should say and do, and that was doing my head in. I just needed him to figure his own stuff out, to do his own work and we were in a rut.... nothing productive was getting done....
so he's staying with good friends while he starts wading through all the addiction stuff.... it's been very enlightening for us both. For example, we were chatting after a marriage counselling appt and it suddenly occurred to me that when he found out his mom had cancer was the same year he started gambling.... I asked him about it and he hadn't thought of it before, but could see a possible correlation.... I suggested it went back even further than that, and he agrees that he needs to figure out 'why' he escapes into his addictions (they never happen in ones... he's also addicted to video games, and porn *grimace*)
I did a meditation course last weekend and it was so very good for me.... the best thing I got out of it, is that I can choose to be helpful and compassionate about DH's gambling etc, but I don't have to get involved in the drama of it. It was a big switch for me. I was able to let go of the anger, and was pleasantly surprised to discover that I can be compassionate towards him now.... my heart doesn't race, and I can have deep discussions about important things without getting invested in his drama.... this is a new thing for me.... and a very good thing for the baby....
He told me this week that even though he pushed to get married, and said he wanted a baby, he's not certain that he was being truthful - with himself, or with me.... I recognize that he's been lying to himself as much, if not more, as he was to me... it's part of the addiction. He said he doesn't know if he'd rather be that single guy, living in a downtown condo again.... I have no anger about this. I told him, at least this is honest.... honesty is so much better than living a lie. I suggested to him, that figuring all this out, how he feels and what he wants, is what this month apart is all about. I told him that whatever he discovers about what he wants/feels is going to be fine... as long as it's honest. I am actually ok. I've been a single mom before, and I can do it again. If he chooses to be involved or not, if he chooses to go back to condo living.... whatever.... I've decided that I can't control him, or what he wants for his life, or his journey.... I can only control me, and I recognize that my priorities are my children and the life I can provide for them. In that way, I've always been a mama bear and I don't see that changing anytime now. So I've had to let go of the dream I had when I married DH because it was all an illusion anyways.... whether it turns into something real now, is up for debate... I'm open to waiting to see how it all pans out, but I know that my children and I will be ok in the end regardless.... totally ok. The universe (God) has a way of making things work out for the best, and I know that this dream ending is already the best for all of us.... if his house of cards hadn't come crashing down, there would be no opportunity for honesty in this relationship and that's good for all of us, no matter how it turns out in the end.

So that's me in a nutshell.... thanks for letting me vent, ladies!!
Phil.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Phil- thank you for sharing your thoughts! Wow, this is a lot for one woman to deal with, my heart goes out to you. I knwo I could not handle it even half as well and calmly as you are. I think I would be angry and rebellious and vengeful. But you are taking it so in stride, I think having your baby to care for and protect is a lot of it maybe? I am sorry that everything has come crashing down and that yuor dh isn't as supportive and giving as he should be. Yes, I say should be because that is what you deserve. SO, if that is not possible with this dh then I commend you for recognizing it early and moving on confidently You are such a motivated, strong, and reliable lady- your baby is so lucky to have such a great and dedicated mom!!

When you get that gorgeous 3-D image post it here! I wanna see your little gem!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- the high pulse rate is concerning, please call your doc or go to emergency to verify that everything is okay. This could be a reaction to some medication? Possibly even allergic maybe? Either way please be careful! I know you have been under a lto fo stress lately and maybe that is it?

How did the hair color and day pf pampering go? You sooo deserve it! Take me with you!!!! lol!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Lol, I just noticed by our images it states if we are Active BnB Members....some of us have "Active BnB Member", "Chat happy"...Mine lists "BnB Addict"... LOL! Ok, ok, ok, I am on here alot. Sheesh! lol

 

[AngelSerenity]

Girls, sorry for the selfish quick post. I just wanted to let you know my beta is really low and I think a MC is looming again, I started spotting this morning.

I'll be back once I've sorted my head out a bit, good luck to everybody, I really mean it.

xoxo

 

[jm1355]

Lol, I just noticed by our images it states if we are Active BnB Members....some of us have "Active BnB Member", "Chat happy"...Mine lists "BnB Addict"... LOL! Ok, ok, ok, I am on here alot. Sheesh! lol

Coy...I love that you are a BnB addict...sometimes I log on just to read about what is going on in your world. How are you feeling today?

 

[jm1355]

Girls, sorry for the selfish quick post. I just wanted to let you know my beta is really low and I think a MC is looming again, I started spotting this morning.

I'll be back once I've sorted my head out a bit, good luck to everybody, I really mean it.

xoxo

Angel...I am hoping and praying for the best for you.

 

[alicatt]

Girls, sorry for the selfish quick post. I just wanted to let you know my beta is really low and I think a MC is looming again, I started spotting this morning.

I'll be back once I've sorted my head out a bit, good luck to everybody, I really mean it.

xoxo

Angel, so sorry to hear. Did you talk to your RMC about this? I hope they have some answers for you, or at least are ready and willing to run some tests to find out why this happens?

 

[jm1355]

Ok...so it is my turn to vent a little!! I am soooooo ready for a new job. I work with this girl that is constantly complaining about me taking a few extra minutes on my lunch because I go run and then shower in the locker rooms in the basement. Yes, I do take about 5-10 minutes extra just about everyday.

BUT first of all, I don't take any other breaks. This girl is a smoker and goes down for a 15 minute cigarette break at least 3 times a day. On top of that, she gets to work on time about 1% of the time...and that is a very cushioned estimate!!

For example, today, she is already over an hour late. Yet she will come in, take her cigarette breaks, AND take an hour lunch AND leave at her normal time!!

And do you think I go running over to my boss to say anything? Nooooooo...although sometimes I want to! She comes in here late, and always seems to have some sort of drama that is her reason for being late. I try my best to just her and her wicked ways.

She used to be nice to me because I would lend her money from time to time or I would help her with her son. But once I stopped doing that, she stopped being nice. I think she thinks it hurts me for her to be mean like that ...all it really does it hurt her.

My boss told me not to worry about it because she doesn't care that I take that time. I am her most reliable employee!


This girl is a piece of work!!! But I just keep reminding myself that I don't plan on being here much longer.

 

[alicatt]

Lol, I just noticed by our images it states if we are Active BnB Members....some of us have "Active BnB Member", "Chat happy"...Mine lists "BnB Addict"... LOL! Ok, ok, ok, I am on here alot. Sheesh! lol

Coy...I love that you are a BnB addict...sometimes I log on just to read about what is going on in your world. How are you feeling today?

I'm just a Chat Happy BnB Member.. hehe. I really love having you all to chat with

 

[alicatt]

Morning All,

So sorry I've been MIA for a day or 2. I just simply didn't have the energy. I still don't, but I'm forcing myself to work today. I'm exhausted and feel like I didn't get any sleep at all, even though I got almost 8 hours. Which is usually more than enough! Plus I slept several hours extra yesterday. ARGH.

Went to the Dr's yesterday and again this morning. My estrogen is rising, it was 1957 yesterday, and probably higher today. Unfortunately my eggs are just not growing as fast as I want them to! ARGH. This morning they were between 17-13mm in size. He felt that some were actually bigger than the 13, but because there were so many they were squeezing each other. So he said he didn't think we'd do the retrieval until Friday. Double ARGH. That is the one day this week that I can't take off work! It also means that the transfer will be on Monday which is also not the greatest day for me to have to take off work. I'm hoping that they do a big surge tonight and we trigger tomorrow night, and then do the retrieval on Thursday, and then the transfer on Sunday.
Oh, and the urine culture I had done came back for some strange micro organism called myco ureaplasma. Apparently it is something that is quite common, and not normally tested. However it is an issue when trying to get pregnant, as it can cause a miscarriage. So now I have to take doxycycline for the next 14 days. YAY! It also could be the reason why I have had issues with needing to pee and the urge coming on suddenly!

 

[jm1355]

Morning All,

So sorry I've been MIA for a day or 2. I just simply didn't have the energy. I still don't, but I'm forcing myself to work today. I'm exhausted and feel like I didn't get any sleep at all, even though I got almost 8 hours. Which is usually more than enough! Plus I slept several hours extra yesterday. ARGH.

Went to the Dr's yesterday and again this morning. My estrogen is rising, it was 1957 yesterday, and probably higher today. Unfortunately my eggs are just not growing as fast as I want them to! ARGH. This morning they were between 17-13mm in size. He felt that some were actually bigger than the 13, but because there were so many they were squeezing each other. So he said he didn't think we'd do the retrieval until Friday. Double ARGH. That is the one day this week that I can't take off work! It also means that the transfer will be on Monday which is also not the greatest day for me to have to take off work. I'm hoping that they do a big surge tonight and we trigger tomorrow night, and then do the retrieval on Thursday, and then the transfer on Sunday. !!!
Oh, and the urine culture I had done came back for some strange micro organism called myco ureaplasma. Apparently it is something that is quite common, and not normally tested. However it is an issue when trying to get pregnant, as it can cause a miscarriage. So now I have to take doxycycline for the next 14 days. YAY! It also could be the reason why I have had issues with needing to pee and the urge coming on suddenly!

We are absolutely going to have to have a party...a HUGE party...when you get your !!!

 

[Philomena]

Girls, sorry for the selfish quick post. I just wanted to let you know my beta is really low and I think a MC is looming again, I started spotting this morning.

I'll be back once I've sorted my head out a bit, good luck to everybody, I really mean it.

xoxo

sending good thoughts your way, Angel.... so sorry to hear....

 

[Philomena]

Ok...so it is my turn to vent a little!! I am soooooo ready for a new job. I work with this girl that is constantly complaining about me taking a few extra minutes on my lunch because I go run and then shower in the locker rooms in the basement. Yes, I do take about 5-10 minutes extra just about everyday.

BUT first of all, I don't take any other breaks. This girl is a smoker and goes down for a 15 minute cigarette break at least 3 times a day. On top of that, she gets to work on time about 1% of the time...and that is a very cushioned estimate!!

For example, today, she is already over an hour late. Yet she will come in, take her cigarette breaks, AND take an hour lunch AND leave at her normal time!!

And do you think I go running over to my boss to say anything? Nooooooo...although sometimes I want to! She comes in here late, and always seems to have some sort of drama that is her reason for being late. I try my best to just her and her wicked ways.

She used to be nice to me because I would lend her money from time to time or I would help her with her son. But once I stopped doing that, she stopped being nice. I think she thinks it hurts me for her to be mean like that ...all it really does it hurt her.

My boss told me not to worry about it because she doesn't care that I take that time. I am her most reliable employee!


This girl is a piece of work!!! But I just keep reminding myself that I don't plan on being here much longer.

She's probably just jealous..... how high school of her! chances she will be out the door before you..... your boss seems to know what's going on and they rarely put up with drama queens for long.