Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[alicatt]

Ok...so it is my turn to vent a little!! I am soooooo ready for a new job. I work with this girl that is constantly complaining about me taking a few extra minutes on my lunch because I go run and then shower in the locker rooms in the basement. Yes, I do take about 5-10 minutes extra just about everyday.

BUT first of all, I don't take any other breaks. This girl is a smoker and goes down for a 15 minute cigarette break at least 3 times a day. On top of that, she gets to work on time about 1% of the time...and that is a very cushioned estimate!!

For example, today, she is already over an hour late. Yet she will come in, take her cigarette breaks, AND take an hour lunch AND leave at her normal time!!

And do you think I go running over to my boss to say anything? Nooooooo...although sometimes I want to! She comes in here late, and always seems to have some sort of drama that is her reason for being late. I try my best to just her and her wicked ways.

She used to be nice to me because I would lend her money from time to time or I would help her with her son. But once I stopped doing that, she stopped being nice. I think she thinks it hurts me for her to be mean like that ...all it really does it hurt her.

My boss told me not to worry about it because she doesn't care that I take that time. I am her most reliable employee!


This girl is a piece of work!!! But I just keep reminding myself that I don't plan on being here much longer.

Geesh, some people are just plain annoying. I'm glad you boss sees through it and knows that you are consistent. I guess she just needs to live in a drama world. Me, I'd rather live as drama free as possible

 

[Grey Eyes]

Angel- I am sorry if you are mc'ing I know how that feels. I agree with Ali though-- have you talked to your doc about it?? Did (s)he agree to progesterone supps? Keep us updated and know we are praying for you!

Jess- nutty woman anyways! I hate having co-workers like that. She is jealous of you and wants to point out what she views as a problem to distract the boss from her own issues. Short-timer is what I'd call her....As long as you confirm everything with your boss about your schedule you should be fine What kind of work do you do? As a former employer I can whole-heartedly agree with Phil- a boss doesn't put up with drama queens for very long (referencing your co-worker of course )

Ali- I hear you on the feeling tired! Best thing to do is rest-up the best you can when you can I have my fx'd that those eggs will grow for ya before the looming FRIDAY! Crazy life, huh? It never does exactly what we think it should...but I am confident (and I speak from experience ) that God has it all under control. Have you talked to your boss about the days you may need and why it's so important? Oh, and glad your doc is being so thorough and caught the myco ureaplasma in time. I love your "Yay!" comment Poor lady having to take all these meds--all worth it, just keep reminding yourself of that!

Phil- how are you today? I bet you are getting excited about your pregnancy now and showing obviously by now too I can't wait to see bump pics lady! (hint hint)....

AFM- aargh, babes is getting brutal with me now lol, she is kicking the literal hell out of me on an hourly basis! I couldn't get to sleep last night until wee hours of the morning. She wants to lay a certain way and I think she is getting cramped because she puts her feet against the uterine wall (right down by my groin and hip believe it or not) and streeettttches HARD! Ouch! Anyway, dh tried rubbing my belly and she loved that and got all still...soon as he fell asleep and his hand slid away BAM BAM again! Once she fell asleep it was Kat's turn to come waking me up with a very cheery "I just wanted to hug you" and tried to climb in my bed. So OFF we went to her room again. Next one (45 minutes later) was "I forgot to kiss you" and tried to climb in my bed. Finally at about 330 this morning she crashed. Me too I made at least 5 trips to the bathroom LOL! Crazy, right?

And on top of that-- in my school we are working in online teams. Each team members contributes a certain portion to our assignments, posts it to our Team Forum, one of us puts it all together and submits it to our instructor. Well, the assignment was due no later than 3 pm Sunday afternoon, with a very stern reminder by our instructor not to be late. So this one team member posts in our team forum that she is going to visit her husband in jail and will submit her portion of the assignment by 8 pm Sunday night. Then she tells us all to wait for her and she'll submit to our instructor Monday. That would fail the team! So I email her and tell her that won't work, etc, no response. So I go ahead and have to complete her portion, compile, and submit on time for the team. Good one me, right? Not so! She is mad as hell and yelling at me (cyber yelling ) and complaining to the instructor that I am not a team player and that I dictate and that she really did do her own work and had it done on time just chose not to submit it because the rest of the team couldn't submit their portions until later in the week So she said it was all our fault and that we needed to "get our a$$es in gear for next week. Again- So she is telling everyone what a badguy I am

Sorry for the rant, lol! I am not angry at her just amazed!! She called me a dictator!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Oh, I forgot to mention- I have a doctor's appointment this afternoon, dh and all of us will be going I prefer when we all go, especially so dh can be my protector . I hope doc doesn't want to check my cervix or anything I am either old fashioned or very modest (modest I think...) because I didn't mind my female MW doing that at all, at least not so much, but when it comes to this doctor I always tell him "I'd prefer not too" and I think he gets it...last pap he did he had a female nurse with us and he stared at the ceiling and talked baseball Anyway, I'd prefer him to not poke around down there at all til babes is crowning and at that point keep his eyes averted lol, I realize it is all very clinical but it's my clinical stuff iykwim? Am I sill or what?

 

[Philomena]

Hi Coy,
I'm feeling good these days. But I feel HUGE! I don't look all cute and bumpy like you did in your photos!! I was overweight when I got pregnant and although I've only gained 6 lbs thus far, I feel massive!! I will see if I can get a decent pic for you guys, though.... *smile*
So there has been a change on the name front.... I told my mum about wanting to name the baby Nesta and she's all like "like NESTEA??" I rolled my eyes and she's like "well, better coming from me now than from the kids in school".... so the search was on again....
well, nothing was sounding right.... then my dd#1 says "you should name her something from the Legend of Zelda games, mum"..... I was getting frustrated at not having a name yet, (I had her name picked by this far along) .... so I finally caved and said "ok, send me 4 or 5 names you think will work and I'll see.... no promises"
Well, if I didn't see two names off the bat that I liked! I was so surprised because I had been so skeptical!
So after some discussion we have all decided NOW that this baby will be Saria (SAW-ree-a) Sage.....
and I love this name. More than any other name we came across. It just feels right... it means Princess, it's a lovely feminine name which is not hugely popular. I like unique names, and Sage was at the top of my list too....
I use sage when I smudge and it has a special place for me in my spirituality, so it has great meaning for me.
So ..... Saria Sage is what it is. You should have seen, dd#1 was over the moon!! She kept finding things that fit with the name... "oh mom, it's perfect! Saria in the game is a forest dweller and the baby's room is a woodland theme!..... oh, and Saria in the game IS a sage! she's a good character and everyone loves her!..... And Saria just goes so well with Sage, mum!"
She's so ecstatic that she's chosen the name..... what a great way to include her in all this. I think she's already bonding with her sister and it makes it that much more special to know she picked the name! I like the name, it feels right, and when I think about how over the top happy dd#1 is about it, how can I do anything BUT acknowledge that THIS IS the name now....
I told my mum this morning, and she's like "oh, I'll have to think about that one" but regardless of what she comes back with, this is the name. That's how I know this is the name- it doesn't matter what anyone else says about it.
So I've been taking a page from Coy's book lately.... yesterday I started washing all the pillows in the house on the Sanitize and anti-bacterial settings on the washer and dryer... and I went and picked up a bunch of matching bins and boxes to totally re-organize my pantry. I've gone through my walk in closet and pulled all the clothes I haven't worn in years to give to a local Single Mom's exchange at a church down the street. My dd got into the swing and has gone through all her clothes, too! I went through one linen cupboard and tidied and reorganized it with the help of cheapie bins from Ikea and I'm looking forward to doing the same with all our other cupboards and under the sink areas!!
My F-I-L is coming with one of DH's Sisters October 1st to stay for a few days, and so I need to get as much of this finished by then as possible.
So off to do some dishes, then shower and get ready to take dd to a dr appt this aft!
Hope this finds everyone well today....
phil.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Phil-

Saria Sage is an absolutely gorgeous name! I adore the name Sage anyway but combined with Saria it seems even cooler! In fact Sage is a name that dh and I considered but I told him we have a Katana Kyrra and a Teagen Trinity-- if this baby's initials don't match she'll feel left out So we went with Aeryn Alexa (pronounced Air-ee-un). We were going to go with Augusta which I really liked because of the meaning and it is so strong but dh and I both worried folks would call her "Auggie" and that's just not right lol! Btw, just as an aside, we smudge with sage too! It is a sort of spiritual thing we do dh learned from his Oglala Lakota gramma...love the smell of it too But I love the name choice and even more special because you and dd thought it up together Lol at your mom's response! She'll have to think about it, huh? You are so strong and determined I can't see anyone getting past you

Wow, sounds like you are working hard to get ready! I have been busy preparing for and undergoing depositions this week, plus other junk, now have one assignment to finish for school but tomorrow I am freeeeee! So will either finish the closet or the garage?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Nuts! So this assignment I have with my school dictates I need to interview someone involved in human services, e.g., counseling of some sort. So the lady from the victims advocacy agrees to the interview but says she'll have to do it today. No problem. So we agree upon a time and I call her at the agreed upon schedule and she hangs up on me!! Two minutes later I get an email from her stating she feels she is the wrong person to talk to. Is it fair for me to state that she is sucking up community-needed grant money yet doesn't know a durn thing about what is required of her? becasue I spoke to the other agent from that office and she told me "I don't really know anything...." And they are getting paid to be victims advocates!~ I sure hope nobody needs an advocate anytime soon

 

[Grey Eyes]

...Where is everyone?..........

 

[Grey Eyes]

...Well, I'll post anywhooo just in case one of my buddies pops on here (I really am an addict, aren't I? )

Here's my day: so I leave a msg. with 2 other counseling agencies for my interview, and one is looking good for tomrorrow FX'd! It'll be a day late but ...

Then I get a call from my daughters online school teahcer saying we have to drive nearly 200 miles to get her tested! And on top of that we are talking such supreme advance notice as day after tomorrow! Not happening. Especially in late pregnancy and in my cruddy car LOL! So they were kind enough to excuse us and schedule her for the spring testing Huge stress relief at this point!

Doctors appointment went excellent! I didn't even gain a pound this time YAY!! My BP was perfect, urine perfect (tmi), etc, and babes heartbeat was (while sleeping) 130 bpm, so- perfect! Plus- and here's the biggy- she is head down and beginning the engagement process!! And doc told me anytime now is okay as far as going into labor! So no stress there. I am so glad that she is head down, that explains all the pressure lately

 

[Babywhisperer]

...Well, I'll post anywhooo just in case one of my buddies pops on here (I really am an addict, aren't I? )

Here's my day: so I leave a msg. with 2 other counseling agencies for my interview, and one is looking good for tomrorrow FX'd! It'll be a day late but ...

Then I get a call from my daughters online school teahcer saying we have to drive nearly 200 miles to get her tested! And on top of that we are talking such supreme advance notice as day after tomorrow! Not happening. Especially in late pregnancy and in my cruddy car LOL! So they were kind enough to excuse us and schedule her for the spring testing Huge stress relief at this point!

Doctors appointment went excellent! I didn't even gain a pound this time YAY!! My BP was perfect, urine perfect (tmi), etc, and babes heartbeat was (while sleeping) 130 bpm, so- perfect! Plus- and here's the biggy- she is head down and beginning the engagement process!! And doc told me anytime now is okay as far as going into labor! So no stress there. I am so glad that she is head down, that explains all the pressure lately

Glad you don't have to drive 200 miles just yet. All great news from the Dr, that's awesome! Now don't stress but don't start hanging wallpaper while ironing and doing dishes...slooooooow down!

As far as you're getting hung up on...it sounds like people are afraid to get exposed for how little they know or they are lazy...or worse, both. It amazes me how inept people in these positions can sometimes be, but that's usually (not always) the case with grant funded and low wage paying jobs. I am sometimes not the most cool and diplomatic person so I would have lost it in many of the sitches you have been involved with lately...esp the person trying to get you in trouble for doing her work and getting it on time. My hubs is a lawyer and even he hates getting into an argument with me..I would have sent a group email out including to the teacher, and ask how you could have better handled the fact that she was not going to be able to hand in her assignment on time, but she told you last minute, and include copies of her communicating when she'd be unavailable and when she would turn hers in....you know, this way you can handle it "better" if this should happen again. That's what we call a CYA, Cover Your Ass...assign blame where it is due while asking for help in handling it better in the future...exposes the culprit pretty nicely. I am very direct, some find it refreshing, some are intimidated, but you will always know where you stand...no time for games and bs.

Head down already is a relief. I was breech, or as my brother says, I backed out

Ali how are you doing girl?

Jess have you flexed your biceps at this office twit?

AFM, cramp-tastic. CD2 and I have ordered preseed, started taking baby aspirin and will start temping down yonder when the flow eases up tomorrow.

Speaking of tomorrow, it's a day that brings me such grief and deep sadness. We lost 50 people from my town on 9/11, 4 from my block. Fighter jets have been practicing their security measures all weekend. I hate going into work on a day like tomorrow, and I can't even bear to watch any of the footage anymore. I know too much, have seen too much. I hope we all pray for those who were lost, those who have been killed in the war, those separated from their families due to active duty, and the families affected by the worst day in our history. Life is precious and short. God bless you wonderful ladies and your families!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Babywhisperer- I am sad to hear how much you endured during the 9/11, and sad that each year these memories resurface for you I hope you will dh near and be okay! Glad you will start temping too, will you be keeping a chart? I like your view of CYA, I am very much that way...good thing is our team forum is open and under constants urveillance by our instructor so he is aware of everything she has posted

Oh, I love your brothers comment "backed out" LOL! Made me laugh!

 

[FirstTry]

Girls, sorry for the selfish quick post. I just wanted to let you know my beta is really low and I think a MC is looming again, I started spotting this morning.

I'll be back once I've sorted my head out a bit, good luck to everybody, I really mean it.

xoxo

I am soooooo sorry to hear this, Angel. My thoughts are with you. I cannot imagine how difficult that is.

 

[alicatt]

Morning..
Going to keep this brief as I have to head into my Dr's appt any minute.

I feel for you BabyWhisperer - 9/11 is a day that still haunts me. I didn't lose anyone, but I know many who did. It just sits as a day that I will never forget, and reminds me how much I love America, and believe wholeheartedly for what this country stands for. I just hope that we all remember the day and those that we lost and be thankful for what this country stands for.

I'm frustrated with my Dr, I think he is dragging my week out so that he doesn't have to do the ER or ET over the weekend. Which is killing me because now I have to take Fri/Mon off! My boss knows what I'm going through and is totally supportive. I told my co-worker he can kiss my ass, I can't take his shifts this week and I told him why. I said I am speding 20K to get pregnant here, and you and your last minute trip home is not going to derail that. That shut him up! :hehe: The issue is that we are short staffed and there isn't anyone else that can take my shift on Friday (noon-9pm). If I were working the normal 9-5 that day I could take it off, no problem. We need to have coverage between 5-9pm, so I am going to suggest to my boss that I do those hours as an 'on call' person, and just answer the phone if it rings. That way I won't be working, but if a customer calls I'll help them out. Then I'll take Monday off for the ET, since they are making me take valium for that procedure! As I said, if the ER was on Thursday I could take the day off, and then the ET would be on Sunday and I wouldn't have to take an extra day off work. GRR. Maybe when I go in this morning I'll find out that my follicles are HUGE and he has to trigger me today

I'll check in later.. to everyone!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Babywhisperer- I am sad to hear how much you endured during the 9/11, and sad that each year these memories resurface for you I hope you will dh near and be okay! Glad you will start temping too, will you be keeping a chart? I like your view of CYA, I am very much that way...good thing is our team forum is open and under constants urveillance by our instructor so he is aware of everything she has posted

Oh, I love your brothers comment "backed out" LOL! Made me laugh!

Thanks hun. I will be keeping a chart on FF, need to get a subscription today.

My brother is a smartass, but God do I love him. He was on the floor of the NYSE on 9/11 and is now an iron worker rebuilding the Freedom Tower. Crazy amount of pride for what he does every day.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Morning..
Going to keep this brief as I have to head into my Dr's appt any minute.

I feel for you BabyWhisperer - 9/11 is a day that still haunts me. I didn't lose anyone, but I know many who did. It just sits as a day that I will never forget, and reminds me how much I love America, and believe wholeheartedly for what this country stands for. I just hope that we all remember the day and those that we lost and be thankful for what this country stands for.

I'm frustrated with my Dr, I think he is dragging my week out so that he doesn't have to do the ER or ET over the weekend. Which is killing me because now I have to take Fri/Mon off! My boss knows what I'm going through and is totally supportive. I told my co-worker he can kiss my ass, I can't take his shifts this week and I told him why. I said I am speding 20K to get pregnant here, and you and your last minute trip home is not going to derail that. That shut him up! :hehe: The issue is that we are short staffed and there isn't anyone else that can take my shift on Friday (noon-9pm). If I were working the normal 9-5 that day I could take it off, no problem. We need to have coverage between 5-9pm, so I am going to suggest to my boss that I do those hours as an 'on call' person, and just answer the phone if it rings. That way I won't be working, but if a customer calls I'll help them out. Then I'll take Monday off for the ET, since they are making me take valium for that procedure! As I said, if the ER was on Thursday I could take the day off, and then the ET would be on Sunday and I wouldn't have to take an extra day off work. GRR. Maybe when I go in this morning I'll find out that my follicles are HUGE and he has to trigger me today

I'll check in later.. to everyone!

FX'd that they are huge and can do this asap!!! You have been like crazy!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- wow, the people around you sound like the poeple around me! WTF right?! lol...I sure hope you spell it out to your doc in plain language and manage to get A thursday ER and Sund ET...If not then I am glad your boss is workign with you. As an employer I know ya can't "wool'em around" but it sounds like you are being straight-up with your boss and he is appreciative. That counts for a lot. I hope you come back on today with fab news and bursting follies Ready for retrieval!

AFM- I am currently hiding in my office I spent the last two nights up until 4 am with my silly 3 year old. We have these long talks and I make her sit in the living room if she refuses to sleep. No cuddling in mom's bed lol...They get a half-to an hour cuddle time with papa and I every night then it's time to say their prayers and go to sleep. Then Kat tries to demand even more time. Can't do, don't have it Poor little thing, oh well, that is life. Anyways, I am exhausted and she is being super sweet and nice today lol...I got up late this morning (still only got about 4 hours) and shopepd groceries as I forgot yesterday then banged out breakfast for everyone. Oatmeal and ham n'eggs....right now the girls are singing like little drunkards at the table and pounding their empty milk glasses into the surface KIDS! lol. Thus- I am hiding Soon I will venture out, kick them outside to play and relax with a cup of tea and some toast.


Did I post after my doc appt yesterday? If not- in a nutshell babes is headdown and ready tog o Doc is not concerned if she comes early Great position,w eight is good (didn't even gaina pound, yay!) although I am measuring small 33 cm instead of 35 but doc said measuring at this stage can be unreliable and I seem to have small babies Anywhooo....

Good morning to you all and I look froward to hearing from you and seeing what my buddies are up to today!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Alin, Terri, Jess, you're MIA

 

[Grey Eyes]

I have been getting some pretty strong Braxton Hicks lately...that's what I am guessing they are anyway, but they are cramping hard enough to be painful and now the muscles along the top of my uterus are killing me! It hurts to laugh or cough now lol Now that my doc has told me what position she is in I can recognize certain things...today I felt her head and she has her hands up by her face playing around And of course, there is never any doubt where those pointy sharp strong little feet are at!! Dh is getting excited thinking she'll come early

 

[Babywhisperer]

I have been getting some pretty strong Braxton Hicks lately...that's what I am guessing they are anyway, but they are cramping hard enough to be painful and now the muscles along the top of my uterus are killing me! It hurts to laugh or cough now lol Now that my doc has told me what position she is in I can recognize certain things...today I felt her head and she has her hands up by her face playing around And of course, there is never any doubt where those pointy sharp strong little feet are at!! Dh is getting excited thinking she'll come early

Can we start a pool as to when you'll go?

 

[Grey Eyes]

I have been getting some pretty strong Braxton Hicks lately...that's what I am guessing they are anyway, but they are cramping hard enough to be painful and now the muscles along the top of my uterus are killing me! It hurts to laugh or cough now lol Now that my doc has told me what position she is in I can recognize certain things...today I felt her head and she has her hands up by her face playing around And of course, there is never any doubt where those pointy sharp strong little feet are at!! Dh is getting excited thinking she'll come early

Can we start a pool as to when you'll go?

LOL! That'd be fun Who knows with my body? The first dd was 3 weeks early the next that many late! I hope this one doesn't keep us waiting

 

[Grey Eyes]

Babywhisperer- hope the cramping has stopped. How long are your cycles usually? I am trying to get a figure on when you'll next ov....Oh, btw FF has a free portion to the charting that lets you put it basic temps, etc, that is what I used. Then I guess there is one you can pay for that bumps up some of yuor benefits.