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[TerriLou]

Hello lovely ladies, sorry about the burst water main and at such an inconvenient time too. I hope it and the gas pipe are started soon.

Ali, good idea to wait until Tuesday, what a lovely pressie, to get a bfp. I think that'll be too early for me, I'll be about 8 dpo. My boobs have been hurting for a while now and I've had some cramping today. We'll see. I'll still test on Christmas morning though, just in case.

Coy, you really did have the luck of the Irish with you, great bargain. Hope you are all doing well. Everyone else,

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ladeeeez! Getting ready for Christmas here and playing lol....Dd's want to finish our snowman but I think it is tooooo cold out, I am spoiled, heheheh. Anyway we 3 girls are off to xmas shop for a couple little neighbors of ours (across the way lol). Hope you are all having a fabulous day!!

Chantal I would LOVE a glass of red mmmm my favorite!!

 

[Philomena]

Hi Ladies!!
So I'm almost ready for Christmas! One more trip out today and then I can just sit back and wait.... I've developed a nasty cold, but other than being an inconvenience, there's no danger to babes, so I just have to wait it out!
So I went for the ultrasound on Thursday and Babes was just under 7 lbs then... everything looked good, healthy and normal, so I thought it would be a breeze with the obstetrician consult.... uh.... NOPE!!
So the first one I consulted with is on holidays, so I was consulting with her fill in.... very different experience!
She basically didn't care about the ultrasound results and wanted to sweep my membranes (it's a way to start labour) right then in her office! And BOOK an induction for my due date on Jan 3rd.....
I'm proud of myself because I didn't get upset.... I just stood my ground. I agreed to another ultrasound on my due date and another consult with the regular obstetrician. I also pointed out that this close to christmas, if I wanted the sweep done, I would wait until after christmas and let the midwives do it!
She wasn't happy, but what could she do? then she spent an inordinate amount of time talking about increased risk of stillbirth (the stats still put it at under 1%) and how being induced is no big deal....
here is my favourite quote at the moment!

Lovely blossoms open when they’re ready-
“Attending births is like growing roses. You have to marvel at the ones that
just open up and bloom at the first kiss of the sun, but you wouldn’t dream
of pulling open the petals of the tightly closed buds, and forcing them to
blossom to your time line. ” -Gloria Lemay

my computer is about to die.... so more later, lovely ladies!! hope this finds you all well!
-phil.

 

[alicatt]

Tracey - nice to hear from you!

Coy - so glad you are having fun and shopping!

Phil - yay for standing your ground! I'm sure babes will be just fine! You may want to see where she is at after Xmas and consider it then, but geesh not now! I tend to agree with you up to the point that she could be too big then birth will be difficult and you may end up with a c-section which would be way worse. For now it sounds like you made the right decision!

AFM - cramps are mostly gone, just little twinges and funky lower back pain like disks are being moved (not like AF pain) and a fullness in my uterus, it feels swollen! I still have funky smelling CM too! We went out and did all the food shopping for our meals, and are now taking a break before I deal with my bedroom. Then at 5:30 we'll go get my brother at the airport, his flight is delayed, and won't be here until 6ish. We'll have chili, salad and garlic bread for dinner, yum!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Phil- good girl for following your instincts!

Ali- um, chili, garlic bread, and salad? Girl now I am almost POSITIVE you're preggo!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

AFM- shopping trip went well. Quite breif, which is nice Oh and soooo cute, "Santa" was walking the isles at the store and greeted dd's very kindly and gave them candy canes, asked what they wanted for Christmas, etc......and most amazing and fun thing about it is "Santa" was a quite rotund mentally handicapped boy I know here in town, his mom was one of my employees He's such an awesome kid, and so kind. Cooolest thing- Kat's eyes were huge! lol.. She was pretty floored to meet Santa........and they never noticed he had dark brown skin Prejudice really is taught. I am happy So they mowed thru their candy canes and are bouncing now lol!

 

[Philomena]

Tracey - nice to hear from you!

Coy - so glad you are having fun and shopping!

Phil - yay for standing your ground! I'm sure babes will be just fine! You may want to see where she is at after Xmas and consider it then, but geesh not now! I tend to agree with you up to the point that she could be too big then birth will be difficult and you may end up with a c-section which would be way worse. For now it sounds like you made the right decision!

AFM - cramps are mostly gone, just little twinges and funky lower back pain like disks are being moved (not like AF pain) and a fullness in my uterus, it feels swollen! I still have funky smelling CM too! We went out and did all the food shopping for our meals, and are now taking a break before I deal with my bedroom. Then at 5:30 we'll go get my brother at the airport, his flight is delayed, and won't be here until 6ish. We'll have chili, salad and garlic bread for dinner, yum!

The size of the baby is to be considered, to be sure, but what cheezed me off with this doctor is that they are the ones who decided the ultrasound estimate was the criteria, so by THEIR criteria, I shouldn't have had to worry about anything. I'm not worried about the baby getting too big since that is more associated with undiagnosed and uncontrolled GD. With my sugars in total control, this baby won't be any bigger than she's supposed to be.... and what they consider too big is about 9lbs8oz or bigger and there's no way she's getting to be that size!! my last baby was 7lbs15oz which is normal and healthy, and I have every confidence this baby will be normal, too.... my fundus is still measuring spot on for gestation time and my 'feeling' is that things are just normal... AND with me eating healthier this pregnancy, I can't see her suddenly gaining 3lbs in the next week or so.... even if I do have a little Christmas Pudding on Tuesday! *grin*

This is the major problem with doctors like this one.... the stats are not divided into moms whose GD is well controlled and moms whose GD is UNcontrolled.... the thing that makes the babies bigger is the constant high blood sugars... the thing that increases the risk of the shoulder getting caught is the fat distribution of the babies who have gotten big due to being in an incessantly high blood sugar environment.... neither of those things apply to me.... my blood sugars are better controlled than most normal people's, I would even hazard to say.... I poke myself so many times a day, I'm almost at the point where I can tell by how I'm feeling, which number is going to show up on the meter when I check it!
The first obstetrician I consulted with had a good attitude... if things are still fine, and baby is a normal size and placenta looks healthy, then let babes choose her own birthdate... this last obstetrician just likes to do things by the book and so I was a number and a stat when she came in to talk to me.

Things may change in the next two weeks, and that's fine.... but no need to pull the trigger before this turkey is done cooking!!

 

[Philomena]

Phil- good girl for following your instincts!

Ali- um, chili, garlic bread, and salad? Girl now I am almost POSITIVE you're preggo!!

I'm with Ali! Maybe it's a Canadian thing, but I LOVE Chili, garlic bread and salad!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Phil- good girl for following your instincts!

Ali- um, chili, garlic bread, and salad? Girl now I am almost POSITIVE you're preggo!!

I'm with Ali! Maybe it's a Canadian thing, but I LOVE Chili, garlic bread and salad!!

Lol, I have to admit I haven't had chile since I moved from Alaska

Btw...do we get pics of the Jennifer-love-Hewitt eyelashes

 

[Grey Eyes]

....Best Christmas Ever to you Ladies--my Bnb Buddies!...

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[Grey Eyes]

I just noticed.....my ticker--"My baby girl is 1 month 4 weeks and 1 day old...isn't that 2 months? ...........

 

[alicatt]

Phil! sounds like you have it all taken care of! I totally agree with you! Can't wait until she arrives!

 

[never_give_up]

Merry Christmas ladies

Best wishes to you and your families. I am so after only 2 hours sleep last night but water and gas are back. Everyone enjoyed the feast I prepared so I am happy.
and for you all!


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[Samsfan]

Merry Christmas to all!!!!!!!!

Had 62 people over my house yesterday.... I'm wondering if that helped my stress levels.

Hope you all have a wonderful Christmas and receive great gifts.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Chantal- yikes you need rest!! glad you got your pipes repaired!

Samsfan- omg, that's toooo many visitors, lol! You need too!

Ali- 2 more days to

AFM- aargh, I hate to do it but am thinking of posting alate assignment to school. It is a crazy presentation on oceanic exploration and it is required to be hinged from one particluar site. I have scoured the crazy site and can't find a darn thing related to oceanix exploration :aargh: So as I only have 2 hours left in this school day and I really don't want to stay up til midnight (kids are all asleep!!!!Yay!) I think I'll dock the 10% and post late

 

[alicatt]

So I broke down and tested this morning.. used a IC, FRER and CBE (had all my bases covered). All 3 BFN. I'm 9dp5dt. I think the fat lady is singing. My only glimmer of hope is that the FRER had the faintest hint that maybe a line might appear. Or it could have been evap. I'm guessing evap since the other 2 didn't show anything. It was TMU though (third morning). So I just think by now it should show! I'm 14 DPO. I have to wait until Friday for my BETA. AHHHHHHHHHHH

 

[Babywhisperer]

Chantal- yikes you need rest!! glad you got your pipes repaired!

Samsfan- omg, that's toooo many visitors, lol! You need too!

Ali- 2 more days to

AFM- aargh, I hate to do it but am thinking of posting alate assignment to school. It is a crazy presentation on oceanic exploration and it is required to be hinged from one particluar site. I have scoured the crazy site and can't find a darn thing related to oceanix exploration :aargh: So as I only have 2 hours left in this school day and I really don't want to stay up til midnight (kids are all asleep!!!!Yay!) I think I'll dock the 10% and post late

It's not like you didn't try!! I'd attach a note saying the site was not a good resource and you couldn't find what you needed so it took much longer to research.

Merry Christmas ladies! I hope everyone enjoys their babies, babies-yet-to-be-born, and that everyone gets their BFPs, ASAP!

Afm, temps dropping, feeling some cramps so AF is on her way. If she shows up today I did ovi on the 14th not the 16th...but we'll see, the HSG has thrown everything off. Dh is still not going to stop Propecia unless a Dr tells him so we will make an appt with my RE when she gets back from her 2 week vacay. In the meantime I will try a Clomid/IUI cycle and when she gets back hopefully she can confer w/ a urologist and have the conversation w/ dh that he is not helping our IUI chances and is only pushing us towards the likelihood that IVF will be our only chance. And that process will put me under a lot of stress, side effects, be very costly, increase our chances for multiples, and potential health problems down the road...all so he can keep taking his meds. The good part is that what I have read is that propecia is out of your system in a matter of days. Research is mixed as far as it affecting fertility which doesn't help my argument w/ my attorney Dh. I am just scared of going thru IVF while working on a trading desk as it will be impossible to hide, and multiples make for a much tougher pregnancy of fatigue and ms in the 1st trimester sometimes longer. My friend who is prego w/ IVF twin boys was bedridden for 16 weeks. I am a commission sales person and don't have that luxury. I kno he is paranoid of going bald and very stubborn, but I hope he comes to the realization that stopping for 3 mos is best for all.

Please pray that Clomid/IUI works for us and I will continue to pray for all of you. We all deserve to be Mother's!

 

[Babywhisperer]

So I broke down and tested this morning.. used a IC, FRER and CBE (had all my bases covered). All 3 BFN. I'm 9dp5dt. I think the fat lady is singing. My only glimmer of hope is that the FRER had the faintest hint that maybe a line might appear. Or it could have been evap. I'm guessing evap since the other 2 didn't show anything. It was TMU though (third morning). So I just think by now it should show! I'm 14 DPO. I have to wait until Friday for my BETA. AHHHHHHHHHHH

Ali as you know some don't get a bfp until after their beta. Be patient and have faith. Can you post a pic of the test w/ a faint line? If you must keep testing, then wait until tomorrow with fmu. Stay positive babe, it will happen. If it doesn't happen have you thought of donor eggs? I told you guys my friend had multiple failed cycles and mc's and she switched RE groups, did donor eggs and is due in March w/ twins. Just an idea. Try to wait until after Christmas to test again so you can enjoy the holiday.

 

[alicatt]

So I broke down and tested this morning.. used a IC, FRER and CBE (had all my bases covered). All 3 BFN. I'm 9dp5dt. I think the fat lady is singing. My only glimmer of hope is that the FRER had the faintest hint that maybe a line might appear. Or it could have been evap. I'm guessing evap since the other 2 didn't show anything. It was TMU though (third morning). So I just think by now it should show! I'm 14 DPO. I have to wait until Friday for my BETA. AHHHHHHHHHHH

Ali as you know some don't get a bfp until after their beta. Be patient and have faith. Can you post a pic of the test w/ a faint line? If you must keep testing, then wait until tomorrow with fmu. Stay positive babe, it will happen. If it doesn't happen have you thought of donor eggs? I told you guys my friend had multiple failed cycles and mc's and she switched RE groups, did donor eggs and is due in March w/ twins. Just an idea. Try to wait until after Christmas to test again so you can enjoy the holiday.

Thanks BabyWhisperer - I still have the 4 frosties waiting for me, so this isn't the end yet. I don't think I will go the route of donor eggs, since I'm already using donor sperm! It seems kind of silly. I took a picture of the FRER and it isn't even showing up on the picture, so there isn't much point in posting it. I think I'll just wait until BETA now.

Sounds like your DH is a stubborn SOB (and I mean that in the kindest way). I agree with you that he needs to stop taking it for 3-6 months, his hair isn't going to fall out in that amount of time! My step brother did a hair transplant, they took hair from behind his ears and put it in the balding area, and now he has a full head of hair again. So even if he does, there are other means of dealing with it than putting really harmful chemicals in his body. Has he thought of the side effects of that stuff? I mean if it is altering his what else is it doing to his body? Yikes, I just don't want to think about that.

Merry Christmas!!!

 

[Babywhisperer]

So I broke down and tested this morning.. used a IC, FRER and CBE (had all my bases covered). All 3 BFN. I'm 9dp5dt. I think the fat lady is singing. My only glimmer of hope is that the FRER had the faintest hint that maybe a line might appear. Or it could have been evap. I'm guessing evap since the other 2 didn't show anything. It was TMU though (third morning). So I just think by now it should show! I'm 14 DPO. I have to wait until Friday for my BETA. AHHHHHHHHHHH

Ali as you know some don't get a bfp until after their beta. Be patient and have faith. Can you post a pic of the test w/ a faint line? If you must keep testing, then wait until tomorrow with fmu. Stay positive babe, it will happen. If it doesn't happen have you thought of donor eggs? I told you guys my friend had multiple failed cycles and mc's and she switched RE groups, did donor eggs and is due in March w/ twins. Just an idea. Try to wait until after Christmas to test again so you can enjoy the holiday.

Thanks BabyWhisperer - I still have the 4 frosties waiting for me, so this isn't the end yet. I don't think I will go the route of donor eggs, since I'm already using donor sperm! It seems kind of silly. I took a picture of the FRER and it isn't even showing up on the picture, so there isn't much point in posting it. I think I'll just wait until BETA now.

Sounds like your DH is a stubborn SOB (and I mean that in the kindest way). I agree with you that he needs to stop taking it for 3-6 months, his hair isn't going to fall out in that amount of time! My step brother did a hair transplant, they took hair from behind his ears and put it in the balding area, and now he has a full head of hair again. So even if he does, there are other means of dealing with it than putting really harmful chemicals in his body. Has he thought of the side effects of that stuff? I mean if it is altering his what else is it doing to his body? Yikes, I just don't want to think about that.

Merry Christmas!!!

He is very stubborn and won't listen until someone else echoes what I have said. He has hair, no bald spots, but according to him it is thinning. His Dad was bald and 2 of the 3 brothers are really losing their hair. We were at a party on Friday night and one of his friends told him he stopped taking it before they conceived b/c of what he read and his hair hasn't changed...the bad thing is, this guy has always had thin hair, so not the best person to say that to dh. He knows the side effects, but he'd rather take the risks than be bald. I don't know what it is, but I have hit a nerve here and he said he wakes up every morning seeing the difference and feeling older. He has a real fear of aging and I don't get it/ I am 2yrs older and don't obsess like he does. He hates his bday so much he gets depressed, that's why we are going to Vail for his bday this year. He wants kids, but he thinks the effect of the meds is so low he is willing to take the chance since we could have other random problems from something else...very poor argument, but one from a desperate and paranoid point of view. I hope the RE is very stern in her opinion of Propecia on morphology to dh and that he won't lose his hair in 3 mos. But if that's the case and he stops the meds he said if he loses his hair he will never forgive me. And I am sure he will be inspecting his head every day multiple times and if he sees so much as a follicle of difference he will go ballistic.