Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[TerriLou]

AF arrived

Oh no, sorry about that Samsfan, I reckon mine is getting pretty close too. Grrrrrrr!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Angel- I think 12 dpo and 98.6 F is awesome! I'd say if you don't get AF to test in the morning with fmu and frer if you have one.

Phil- I understand wanting to have babes NOW! It will be amazing when you meet her

Ali- I think you have an awesome plan. Maybe this time around cover every possible avenue just like you have highlighted in your post. When is your next appointment with your doc?

Babywhisperer- How are you?

Terri- I have been browsing your chart...are you going to test soon?

Samsfan- yay for Monday!
Where is Alin and TwoToGo and Babydust?

AFM- dh is freaking out over my chart (but he shouldn't lol) and now he is telling me to go out and buy a frer First time EVER he has suggested it! I wonder if he is being "guy-sneaky" and trying to get me preggo....Not sure how possible that is while breastfeeding though

 

[TerriLou]

Angel, I did test with an IC this morning, but I was expecting a BFN with one of them. It was kind of just for the sake of it really. When I got my BFP last time, it didn't show as positive on an IC until about 15 or 16 dpo. The CBD was the first to show on 12dpo and then the FRER on 14. I am going to wait now until New Years Day and test then if AF hasn't shown up.

 

[AngelSerenity]

Ali, low dose aspirin, one daily while ttc and then during pregnancy is also thought to help with the uterine wall to thicken it and also implantation issues.

As it has no contra-indications most gps / fs will recommend as there's no harm trying it.

I've been taking it since around august, self-prescribed first then my gp ordered it for me xo

 

[AngelSerenity]

Coy my understanding of bf is it can delay AF but it is definitely not to be trusted as a contraceptive. I bf for 13 months, 4 dedicated bf then combined as I was back at work (pumping twice a day in the office lol). Anyway i'd say it is possible especially as your chart indicates you possibly ovulated. I thought bf would delay this.


My thinking surrounds you can have an AF without ovulating but I don't think vice versa is possible?

Oh excited for you, not sure if you're excited, scared or both?


Yeah I think if my temp is high in the morning i'll cave and use a frer. I went out and bought a couple just in case!


Terri hugs re the test, I think my body's just teasing as well xo

 

[Grey Eyes]

Angel- thanks! I tested with evening urine bfn but early yet. Maybe wait a few days and then test but not expecting it. If i get a bfp I will thank God for being good--then I'll pass out

 

[Grey Eyes]

AFM- I left a note to my follks about Aeryn and my mother responds sharply that she is hurt beyond words and angry, angry, angry that we have "block their phone number". Apparently whenever she called she would get a reply that their number had been blocked
Yeah.
Then I tell her we can't block her phone number because we never had her number. To which she haughtily responds "THAT'S because I NEVER got a phone!!" LOL!

If she doesn't have phone how could I block her number?!!

I honestly think she's gone crazy lol! Family. Aaargh!

 

[alicatt]

Angel.. I have been taking baby aspirin and it has thinned my blood so much! I tend to bleed more now when I cut myself, it's gross! I feel like a hemophiliac! LOL!

Samsfan.. I did take CoQ10 for my last cycle and I think it helped a lot. The assisted hatching thing is a bone of contention with me at the moment. Two times now my Dr has pushed me to day 5 blastocysts since I've had such great response. and had so many embryos. Most women our age (37+) don't have 7+ embryos going strong at day 3. That is when they do assisted hatching. But they freeze at day 5. So basically they only do day 3 transfer and assisted hatching if your embryos are of poor quality at day 3. If you have lots of high quality embryos they push things to blastocyst and at that point the shell is supposed to be thin enough to hatch on its own. My FA said that it would hatch. I'm totally going to bring it up with him again when I have my WTF appointment.

AFM.. feeling really sad tonight. My brother can be a total asshat sometimes. He was using my computer and the background wallpaper is set to rotate through my pictures. Well it landed on my original donor and he asked me who it was. So I told him and he got all bent out of shape and told me I would be a terrible mother and that by bringing this child into the world I was damaging him or her. I asked him why he felt that I would be a bad mother and he said I was doing things all wrong and that I'm only thinking about myself. Of course I burst into tears and lost it. After a while I simply asked if he would be an uncle to my child, would you teach him/her how to fish? Drive the boat? Learn to paddle a canoe? He flat out said NO. You bring this child into the world you are on you'd own. Needless to say I'm gutted. I don't ask for much from him, and I'm literally torn to shreds with his utter lack of understanding, and negativity. He leaves tomorrow and at this point I'm so saddened that I'm not sure I will even go to the airport in the morning. I may not agree with his lifestyle decisions but I am always there for him, 110% of the time. Why is he being such a jackass? I'm still bawling my eyes out. Well I'm going to bed, enough of my feeling sorry for myself. If he doesn't want to be part if my child's life than he won't be part of my life. Good riddance.

 

[alicatt]

AFM- I left a note to my follks about Aeryn and my mother responds sharply that she is hurt beyond words and angry, angry, angry that we have "block their phone number". Apparently whenever she called she would get a reply that their number had been blocked
Yeah.
Then I tell her we can't block her phone number because we never had her number. To which she haughtily responds "THAT'S because I NEVER got a phone!!" LOL!

If she doesn't have phone how could I block her number?!!

I honestly think she's gone crazy lol! Family. Aaargh!

Geesh! Your mother and my brother can get together! She sounds like a piece of work! I just hope she gets off her high horse and decides to welcome her grandbaby! Why can't our families stop thinking about themselves for more than 2 seconds and simply be happy? It literally boggles my mind why people are so self centered! I don't blame you for keeping her at arms length from your children, I would too! Looks like I'm going to be doing the same thing here. I am ready to disown my brother right now.

OK, I'm emotionally drained, time to take some Tylenol and go to bed!

Night Coy

 

[Philomena]

Ah yes.... Coy and Ali, I'm right there with you.... I've pretty much written off all of my in-laws....
We didn't even get a phone call to wish us a merry christmas this year... my DH was up in Edmonton with his sister and dad for the holiday, which suited me fine.... I wasn't about to travel 3 hours away from my care providers this close to my due date!
The worst part is that DH came home with presents.... 2 baby gifts for Babes, a t-shirt from BC for Babes, one little trinket for me and NOTHING for my DD#1.....
not even a card!! She doesn't care, and we weren't expecting anything from any of them, but seriously??? it's the principal of it all.... I don't care to get anything... if they were going to give out a trinket, it should have been to her, NOT me!! Talk about an angry Mama Bear!!!!

Last year they showered us in gifts.... this year, only my father in law came through with something for my daughter and me (card and $$)... and the rest of them... *see above*.... sheesh.... SO the only one getting a call when Babes comes is going to be my father in law....

what is it with family?? My DD#1 is an innocent in all this and they've chosen to treat her this way?? Thank goodness she is old enough to understand and wise enough to recognize bad behaviour when she sees it....

ok, rant over.... and just to update.... I'm still preggers!

 

[Samsfan]

Ali- I just went over my information and you are right - no assisted hatching w/ 5 day blasts. However, they are monitored and they will override w/ an assisted hatch if they are slow on it.

Ignore your brother - he seems a lil ignorant right now.

Oh my tummy is upset... see you guys tomorrow

 

[AngelSerenity]

Ali - I can't believe the insensitivity of your brother! . Does he not realise that yes if you were in a loving relationship your situation may be different? Plus it's not like you are somebody who is having 6 kids and not giving a crap about them which unfortunately we know happens! Oh I'm infuriated for you, I'm even struggling to see it from his perspective which I normally try to do. Ok, I get he maybe thinks what you are doing may be a little 'out there' in his books, but like how many women trap men or use them in one-night stands or flings to secretly get pregnant? At least what you are doing is the responsible and healthy option!





Phil and Coy - big hugs to you as well girls. Families can be so shit, why can't people just respect each other? It really saddens me. I have a SIL who is a complete weirdo which has resulted in the whole family now steering clear of her since last summer (after a plethora of incidents over the past 12 years we all said enough was enough). My brother is stuck in the middle so we havent made a rift, just gently made it clear we know she doesnt like any of us so we won't be involving her. MY mum think she is jealous as we have all got off our backsides and made something of our lives. This may sound harsh but believe me she is nuts, she even used her 4 year daughter to say to my 2 year old niece you're not allowed to play in our garden . In a house they rent for basically nothing off my parents! The only people it is really hurting is both her children and my brother and my parents as they rarely see them now . Such a crappy situation.



Samsfan - I hope you're feeling better soon


Terri - has AF arrived?


I think AF is on it's way for me. My temp was higher this morning so I used a FRER and as expected got a . I'm feeling a little more bloated and heavy now. DH and I took advantage of the extra day without the and had a bit of Sunday which I think has helped things start as I've started spotting a bit.

I havent even told him I've got the all clear yet to TTC, I'm not sure when I'm going to bring that one up.


Speak tonight hopefully xo

 

[TerriLou]

Ali, I am so sorry your Brother is being ignorant, I can't believe he can't even try to see the situation from where you are. He should be supporting you in this, isn't that what Brothers do???

Coy, you Mum was probably calling from a number that was withheld. We block unknown numbers, so if she called us, she would get that message. Otherwise, er, how can you block a number you don't even know? Doh!!!

Angel, yep, she arrived this morning, right on queue, I think she was also helped along by a little bedroom activity last night. I can't say I'm really disappointed, I mean, it would have been great if it was a BFP, but I really didn't think it would be this time round. My crosshairs even disappeared on FF when I put this morning's temperature in.

Oh well, onto the next cycle!

 

[Samsfan]

Hello everyone!!!
PHILOMENA---- anything yet??????


ALICATT------ Can't imagine how you are feeling... Sending HUGS yours way!!!!!!

GREYEYES--- Ignore family... She's having a weird moment.

TERRILOU- JOIN THE AF CLUB... UGGGHH

ANGEL- HOPE YOU DON'T HAVE TO JOIN THE AF CLUB



I'm getting a little overwhelmed thinking about going through any of this.

So you all know AF arrived yesterday... runs last night... sorry TMI.... I worked out all week.. ate decent and this morning stepped on the scale to find I gained 2 lbs!!!!!!!S@!T I'm hoping its a false number because of AF and not some hormonal surge --body playing tricks on me. Figure that working out all week religiously would have helped my numbers for the week. I need to get real serious ... but I'm feeling a little emotional about myself and this baby making. It seems to be consuming me...or maybe its AF side effects getting me nuts! I really don't want to go through IVF, Alicatt your a strong person going through all this...All of you are!

Hope everyone has a good day

 

[Philomena]

Good morning, everyone!
I woke up at 4 and couldn't get back to sleep for a little bit.... then I totally zonked out and have had some crazy dreams! Like a row of oak trees and one was on fire... I went inside a hotel because I needed to 'check in' for a conference or something and I reported the tree on fire, but nobody seemed to care. Then I was trying to find my room and needed to get a bottle of caramel syrup to put on top of some sort of sweet dessert square, and kept getting held up by others trying to find THEIR rooms..... crazy dreams!! ....now it's 10am Calgary time and I'm pouting because I slept in past my game start time! My favourite football team (soccer for my U.S. friends) is Liverpool and I've woken up in time to catch the second half, but it's 3-0 for my team and I've missed all these amazing goals!! Ah, well, at least the score is in our favour!!

It's the only sport I watch on TV, and one day I hope to get to see them in person....

So I'm still as I was! Babes hasn't shown herself yet..... I'll be sure to let you guys know first!!

today would be a good day to go into labour- my two favourite midwives are working, my doula is available, my best friend is off work, and it's sunny outside!

Time to finish watching the game!!

phil.

 

[Philomena]

to all the ladies who have been visited by the .... I send you some for the next try!!

I know how disheartening it is to see her even when you know you've taken the month off from trying.... We tried for quite awhile before being diagnosed with unexplained infertility and I think we just got lucky with the IUI.... so chin up ladies! Time for a little bit of wine, ice cream, or other treat to imbibe.... I used to throw everything out the window while AF was active.... in terms of diet ..... that was my time to drink, eat whatever I wanted and make merry!!


Here's some extra for you all....

 

[Grey Eyes]

Samsfan--it's AF's complimentary 2 lbs , it'll go away I promise! came knocking on my door last night too.

Babywhisperer- hey lady! Thinking about you

Terri- wth is it with FF taking our crosshairs away? Looks like we both ov'd then when we get AF they strip us lol! Mine disappeared this morning too

Angel- wow you sil (?) does sound a bit nuts...I guess we all have one, right? Sheesh! It looks like we are all sharing cycles this month btw Glad you got the okay to TTC...I wonder what'd happen if you DIDN't tell dh yet....men sometimes feel like a deer in the headlights if they know they are being targeted

Phil- where's that baby?! She'll be here soon- guaranteed Wow, yeah I'd be p'd for your DD#1 also! They just totally excluded her - I am guessing because she is not your dh's dd and you ARE being included because you are carrying dh's baby. CRAZY! Anyway I'd just totally go crazy with dh's bank acct and get ger something SWEET LOL! Oh and thanks for all the -your preggers wish holds alot of power! So I am blocking it from my direction for a little while at least!!!! But to all ya'll O and tell me more about this blessing you went to???

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- omg what a nut your brother is being! I mean seriously?

I gots my a$$ stompin' boots on today so he better run! I'm going to speak candidly when I say he has no right to speak that way. What does he expect....you'll get married to some dude on a white horse, move into a shiny castle, and live it rich for all happy eternity? You should tell him "most little girls give that dream up in their pre-teens" ahem, no saying he's a little girl (but not saying he's NOT either - ok, jk...lol)...But I know you would make a fabulous mother! Your mom obviously thinks so too. You are very intelligent, successful (hello- promotion!?!), beautiful...you name it. And you sure know how to love folks and that is 99.9% of being a mom
My theory: I think your brother said what he did for any one (or possibly all) of the following:

1) He's sterile?
2) Worried about never being a dad
3) Jealous of your success compared to his..?
4) Money issues (worried mom'll share too much w/you)?
5) Liked the guy you recently dumped

I am betting it's #2 but

Here's my advice. Let him know he stepped over the line and his input is not appreciated. I would personally NOT see him off- let him know you are tough and that comes w/tough love. He needs to nkow right off that WHEN you get preggo that baby is your 100% priority...and he can eat his opinion for breakfast.
from me and on your bro My AF showed up today along with her sack'o'hormones so I am fit to do it

Yes, I think your brother and my mom should go ghave beers together...nah, forget that. I think we should send'em out on the boat together and we'll go have beers together! When I got married and got preggo w/dd#1 my brother spoke much the same way...I was told by the whole family I had no busines getting married before my older sister (hello?!) and that I'd make a rotten mom because I'm too tough and cynical. Heheh Yeah, huh? lol

 

[alicatt]

Thanks ladies! All is much better today! My brother came to me and apologized for his behavior. He said he was in a bad mood and said things he didn't mean. He then intimated Taft he is sad he won't be a father. For many reasons he shouldn't be a dad. Although he is awesome with kids. He just doesn't have the discipline necessary, or responsibility necessary to be a parent. He is very selfish and rarely thinks of others. Or when he does he feels like he should get extra praise for doing so. He also shared a dream he had last night where he dreamed of his ex-girlfriend and she came back into his life and wanted to have kids with him. So I think you hit the nail on the head with #2! I told him it takes a village to raise a child and that he can take as big a role or as small a role as he wants. That I want him to be in our lives. So I think things are OK. Not perfect, but at least we are on the same page.
He is in the air right now heading back to Canada. I did drive him to the airport and he did give me a big hug!

So AF arrived in full force this morning and boy oh boy is it heavy! YIKES! It seems like we all got it today or yesterday? So odd!

I was lamenting on how I'm not going to be able to take advantage of the IVF meds this month. A lot of women get pregnant naturally following IVF as the meds are still in our system. Then I remembered I have the of my second choice still. What do you think about doing an IUI using that ??

I really want to wait a month or 2 before using my , either that or I find some strapping young man to come visit me when I'm fertile in about 12-16 days!

 

[Philomena]

Thanks ladies! All is much better today! My brother came to me and apologized for his behavior. He said he was in a bad mood and said things he didn't mean. He then intimated Taft he is sad he won't be a father. For many reasons he shouldn't be a dad. Although he is awesome with kids. He just doesn't have the discipline necessary, or responsibility necessary to be a parent. He is very selfish and rarely thinks of others. Or when he does he feels like he should get extra praise for doing so. He also shared a dream he had last night where he dreamed of his ex-girlfriend and she came back into his life and wanted to have kids with him. So I think you hit the nail on the head with #2! I told him it takes a village to raise a child and that he can take as big a role or as small a role as he wants. That I want him to be in our lives. So I think things are OK. Not perfect, but at least we are on the same page.
He is in the air right now heading back to Canada. I did drive him to the airport and he did give me a big hug!

So AF arrived in full force this morning and boy oh boy is it heavy! YIKES! It seems like we all got it today or yesterday? So odd!

I was lamenting on how I'm not going to be able to take advantage of the IVF meds this month. A lot of women get pregnant naturally following IVF as the meds are still in our system. Then I remembered I have the of my second choice still. What do you think about doing an IUI using that ??

I really want to wait a month or 2 before using my , either that or I find some strapping young man to come visit me when I'm fertile in about 12-16 days!

I vote for strapping young man or IUI!!! If it's the strapping young man, then I'll want DETAILS!!! *wink*