Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[AngelSerenity]

Sam , if it is indeed AF inwards to a new cycle

 

[alicatt]

Ladies. Its over. I had a significant dip this morning. . the witch must be coming.

And i also realized i didnt get my drugs for ivf.

You won't need them until day 2-3 of your cycle. If you got them from Freedom Pharmacy they can ship overnight, so you can get them delivered tomorrow. Are you sure they weren't shipped to your FS Office? Mine automatically get shipped there unless I ask them to be shipped to me. I think its because they always ask for someone to sign for them, and I'm not always at home to receive them. Just a thought.

Hang in there! It will all work out as it is supposed to. That is one thing that I keep telling myself.

 

[jm1355]

Ladies. Its over. I had a significant dip this morning. . the witch must be coming.

And i also realized i didnt get my drugs for ivf.

But couldn't that dip be implantation? It seems that I read somewhere that your temp could dip during implantation. This would be the perfect time for it...right?

 

[alicatt]

Ladies. Its over. I had a significant dip this morning. . the witch must be coming.

And i also realized i didnt get my drugs for ivf.

But couldn't that dip be implantation? It seems that I read somewhere that your temp could dip during implantation. This would be the perfect time for it...right?

It is possible, but I think implantation dips happen a little earlier? Like around 5-7 DPO. Could be a late implanter!! That could also account for the cramping too. We have a motto here, it ain't over until the fat lady sings.. in this case the fat lady is AF!!

 

[TerriLou]

Hey Ladies, I hope everyone is doing ok. Welcome again to newbies, every time I leave it a few days, someone new joins in. You've come to join a really great, helpful bunch of ladies. This is a great Forum.

Well, I'm not a happy bunny today, been crying most of the afternoon. The FS basically told me I'm too fat to conceive. He told me in a really nice way, explaining how its PCOSs fault. Where a previous doctor had said I more than likely had it, but the scan was inconclusive and they gave me the benefit of the doubt, the FS said he had just looked at my scan and I definitely have it. He has suggested, due to my size and failure at losing weight, that I go for weightloss surgery, which should mean that I can get to a healthier weight soon. I'm devastated!!!

I know I am morbidly obese, but I've been trying so hard to lose weight and it has been coming off slowly, then I have one of my binges, which takes me back about 3 or 4 weeks. FS is referring me back to my Doctor with a letter letting them know of his recommendations, then they'll send me off to a Hospital about 30 miles away to go for a consultation.

DH and I spoke about weightloss surgery a few years ago, but I threw it out, thinking I could do this on my own, now I don't know, it seems like its going to be my only chance of getting pregnant. I'm so upset, I feel like I've wasted a couple of years as the Doctors wouldn't do anything until we had been trying that long, and now it looks like I've got to go under the knife.

Sorry, I had to vent and now I've made myself cry again. I'm going off again now to get a cuddle off DH. I'll be back soon though. xx

 

[jm1355]

Hey Ladies, I hope everyone is doing ok. Welcome again to newbies, every time I leave it a few days, someone new joins in. You've come to join a really great, helpful bunch of ladies. This is a great Forum.

Well, I'm not a happy bunny today, been crying most of the afternoon. The FS basically told me I'm too fat to conceive. He told me in a really nice way, explaining how its PCOSs fault. Where a previous doctor had said I more than likely had it, but the scan was inconclusive and they gave me the benefit of the doubt, the FS said he had just looked at my scan and I definitely have it. He has suggested, due to my size and failure at losing weight, that I go for weightloss surgery, which should mean that I can get to a healthier weight soon. I'm devastated!!!

I know I am morbidly obese, but I've been trying so hard to lose weight and it has been coming off slowly, then I have one of my binges, which takes me back about 3 or 4 weeks. FS is referring me back to my Doctor with a letter letting them know of his recommendations, then they'll send me off to a Hospital about 30 miles away to go for a consultation.

DH and I spoke about weightloss surgery a few years ago, but I threw it out, thinking I could do this on my own, now I don't know, it seems like its going to be my only chance of getting pregnant. I'm so upset, I feel like I've wasted a couple of years as the Doctors wouldn't do anything until we had been trying that long, and now it looks like I've got to go under the knife.

Sorry, I had to vent and now I've made myself cry again. I'm going off again now to get a cuddle off DH. I'll be back soon though. xx

Oh Terri! I am so sorry. I was a personal trainer for many years and I worked primarily with obese candidates. I would love to help you lose weight. Let me know what your ultimate decision is and we can get to work on something for you immediately!!

 

[Philomena]

Hey Ladies, I hope everyone is doing ok. Welcome again to newbies, every time I leave it a few days, someone new joins in. You've come to join a really great, helpful bunch of ladies. This is a great Forum.

Well, I'm not a happy bunny today, been crying most of the afternoon. The FS basically told me I'm too fat to conceive. He told me in a really nice way, explaining how its PCOSs fault. Where a previous doctor had said I more than likely had it, but the scan was inconclusive and they gave me the benefit of the doubt, the FS said he had just looked at my scan and I definitely have it. He has suggested, due to my size and failure at losing weight, that I go for weightloss surgery, which should mean that I can get to a healthier weight soon. I'm devastated!!!

I know I am morbidly obese, but I've been trying so hard to lose weight and it has been coming off slowly, then I have one of my binges, which takes me back about 3 or 4 weeks. FS is referring me back to my Doctor with a letter letting them know of his recommendations, then they'll send me off to a Hospital about 30 miles away to go for a consultation.

DH and I spoke about weightloss surgery a few years ago, but I threw it out, thinking I could do this on my own, now I don't know, it seems like its going to be my only chance of getting pregnant. I'm so upset, I feel like I've wasted a couple of years as the Doctors wouldn't do anything until we had been trying that long, and now it looks like I've got to go under the knife.

Sorry, I had to vent and now I've made myself cry again. I'm going off again now to get a cuddle off DH. I'll be back soon though. xx

Oh Terri! I am so sorry. I was a personal trainer for many years and I worked primarily with obese candidates. I would love to help you lose weight. Let me know what your ultimate decision is and we can get to work on something for you immediately!!

Jess, I would be interested in that, too! I still have about 100 lbs to lose myself....
phil.

 

[Philomena]

Hey Ladies, I hope everyone is doing ok. Welcome again to newbies, every time I leave it a few days, someone new joins in. You've come to join a really great, helpful bunch of ladies. This is a great Forum.

Well, I'm not a happy bunny today, been crying most of the afternoon. The FS basically told me I'm too fat to conceive. He told me in a really nice way, explaining how its PCOSs fault. Where a previous doctor had said I more than likely had it, but the scan was inconclusive and they gave me the benefit of the doubt, the FS said he had just looked at my scan and I definitely have it. He has suggested, due to my size and failure at losing weight, that I go for weightloss surgery, which should mean that I can get to a healthier weight soon. I'm devastated!!!

I know I am morbidly obese, but I've been trying so hard to lose weight and it has been coming off slowly, then I have one of my binges, which takes me back about 3 or 4 weeks. FS is referring me back to my Doctor with a letter letting them know of his recommendations, then they'll send me off to a Hospital about 30 miles away to go for a consultation.

DH and I spoke about weightloss surgery a few years ago, but I threw it out, thinking I could do this on my own, now I don't know, it seems like its going to be my only chance of getting pregnant. I'm so upset, I feel like I've wasted a couple of years as the Doctors wouldn't do anything until we had been trying that long, and now it looks like I've got to go under the knife.

Sorry, I had to vent and now I've made myself cry again. I'm going off again now to get a cuddle off DH. I'll be back soon though. xx

sending you and angels for strength and comfort....

 

[TerriLou]

Thanks Jess, I'm doing weight watchers at the moment, but because of my weight, I can have so many points that I really struggle to use them all, I'm usually quite a lot below what I should be having.

I have stopped doing my exercise lately, with all the snow and rubbish weather, I've stopped it. My friend hasn't been swimming for a few weeks either, so neither have I as I don't like to do stuff on my own.

I'm going to start walking again in the mornings before work as I haven't done that for a while. I live in the bottom of an old quarry, so theres a steep hill to get out of one side. I'll walk up there and back each morning, its about half a mile each way, not much I know, but its a lot more than I've done for a while. I want to take it gently for a while, haven't even been to Zumba for a bit, but I'll work back up to that again gradually.

I've been obsessing for so long about getting pregnant that losing weight hasn't been as much as a priority, they've got to switch over and hopefully, losing the weight and getting fitter will help.

The FS says that due to the PCOS, I need to try to avoid complex carbohydrates, so its looking like the Gluten free option may help.

Thanks again, I'll let you know what happens. It'll be about 3 weeks before I get an appointment with my Doctor, so I've got plenty of time to work stuff out. xx

 

[TerriLou]

Hey Ladies, I hope everyone is doing ok. Welcome again to newbies, every time I leave it a few days, someone new joins in. You've come to join a really great, helpful bunch of ladies. This is a great Forum.

Well, I'm not a happy bunny today, been crying most of the afternoon. The FS basically told me I'm too fat to conceive. He told me in a really nice way, explaining how its PCOSs fault. Where a previous doctor had said I more than likely had it, but the scan was inconclusive and they gave me the benefit of the doubt, the FS said he had just looked at my scan and I definitely have it. He has suggested, due to my size and failure at losing weight, that I go for weightloss surgery, which should mean that I can get to a healthier weight soon. I'm devastated!!!

I know I am morbidly obese, but I've been trying so hard to lose weight and it has been coming off slowly, then I have one of my binges, which takes me back about 3 or 4 weeks. FS is referring me back to my Doctor with a letter letting them know of his recommendations, then they'll send me off to a Hospital about 30 miles away to go for a consultation.

DH and I spoke about weightloss surgery a few years ago, but I threw it out, thinking I could do this on my own, now I don't know, it seems like its going to be my only chance of getting pregnant. I'm so upset, I feel like I've wasted a couple of years as the Doctors wouldn't do anything until we had been trying that long, and now it looks like I've got to go under the knife.

Sorry, I had to vent and now I've made myself cry again. I'm going off again now to get a cuddle off DH. I'll be back soon though. xx

sending you and angels for strength and comfort....

Thanks Phil, hope you and the baby are doing well. xx

 

[alicatt]

Thanks Jess, I'm doing weight watchers at the moment, but because of my weight, I can have so many points that I really struggle to use them all, I'm usually quite a lot below what I should be having.

I have stopped doing my exercise lately, with all the snow and rubbish weather, I've stopped it. My friend hasn't been swimming for a few weeks either, so neither have I as I don't like to do stuff on my own.

I'm going to start walking again in the mornings before work as I haven't done that for a while. I live in the bottom of an old quarry, so theres a steep hill to get out of one side. I'll walk up there and back each morning, its about half a mile each way, not much I know, but its a lot more than I've done for a while. I want to take it gently for a while, haven't even been to Zumba for a bit, but I'll work back up to that again gradually.

I've been obsessing for so long about getting pregnant that losing weight hasn't been as much as a priority, they've got to switch over and hopefully, losing the weight and getting fitter will help.

The FS says that due to the PCOS, I need to try to avoid complex carbohydrates, so its looking like the Gluten free option may help.

Thanks again, I'll let you know what happens. It'll be about 3 weeks before I get an appointment with my Doctor, so I've got plenty of time to work stuff out. xx

It is a struggle, and one that is not easily won. You know we will support you in whatever choices you make. If you do decide to continue working on your diet/exercise on your own. Let me know, I am very knowledgeable in what foods are good and bad (I'm just not very good at following my own advice ).

I did want to tell you about my OBGYN's advice she gave me 6 years ago now. She said that PCOS and Metabolic syndrome are caused by processed foods, things like cookies, cakes, bread, crackers, and other like foods. Over the years we have eaten too many of these items and have beaten our metabolism down. She said she has seen women overcome it, but it has taken a full year of eliminating the processed foods, and literally eliminating all high GI foods for a year. I have yet to be successful in doing this, but your story reminded me of what she said. Maybe this is the key to both of us getting pregnant?

You know we are always here!

 

[TerriLou]

Thanks Jess, I'm doing weight watchers at the moment, but because of my weight, I can have so many points that I really struggle to use them all, I'm usually quite a lot below what I should be having.

I have stopped doing my exercise lately, with all the snow and rubbish weather, I've stopped it. My friend hasn't been swimming for a few weeks either, so neither have I as I don't like to do stuff on my own.

I'm going to start walking again in the mornings before work as I haven't done that for a while. I live in the bottom of an old quarry, so theres a steep hill to get out of one side. I'll walk up there and back each morning, its about half a mile each way, not much I know, but its a lot more than I've done for a while. I want to take it gently for a while, haven't even been to Zumba for a bit, but I'll work back up to that again gradually.

I've been obsessing for so long about getting pregnant that losing weight hasn't been as much as a priority, they've got to switch over and hopefully, losing the weight and getting fitter will help.

The FS says that due to the PCOS, I need to try to avoid complex carbohydrates, so its looking like the Gluten free option may help.

Thanks again, I'll let you know what happens. It'll be about 3 weeks before I get an appointment with my Doctor, so I've got plenty of time to work stuff out. xx

It is a struggle, and one that is not easily won. You know we will support you in whatever choices you make. If you do decide to continue working on your diet/exercise on your own. Let me know, I am very knowledgeable in what foods are good and bad (I'm just not very good at following my own advice ).

I did want to tell you about my OBGYN's advice she gave me 6 years ago now. She said that PCOS and Metabolic syndrome are caused by processed foods, things like cookies, cakes, bread, crackers, and other like foods. Over the years we have eaten too many of these items and have beaten our metabolism down. She said she has seen women overcome it, but it has taken a full year of eliminating the processed foods, and literally eliminating all high GI foods for a year. I have yet to be successful in doing this, but your story reminded me of what she said. Maybe this is the key to both of us getting pregnant?

You know we are always here!

Thanks Ali, will be looking at GF and low GI, see what I can get out of them. xx

 

[alicatt]

Thanks Jess, I'm doing weight watchers at the moment, but because of my weight, I can have so many points that I really struggle to use them all, I'm usually quite a lot below what I should be having.

I have stopped doing my exercise lately, with all the snow and rubbish weather, I've stopped it. My friend hasn't been swimming for a few weeks either, so neither have I as I don't like to do stuff on my own.

I'm going to start walking again in the mornings before work as I haven't done that for a while. I live in the bottom of an old quarry, so theres a steep hill to get out of one side. I'll walk up there and back each morning, its about half a mile each way, not much I know, but its a lot more than I've done for a while. I want to take it gently for a while, haven't even been to Zumba for a bit, but I'll work back up to that again gradually.

I've been obsessing for so long about getting pregnant that losing weight hasn't been as much as a priority, they've got to switch over and hopefully, losing the weight and getting fitter will help.

The FS says that due to the PCOS, I need to try to avoid complex carbohydrates, so its looking like the Gluten free option may help.

Thanks again, I'll let you know what happens. It'll be about 3 weeks before I get an appointment with my Doctor, so I've got plenty of time to work stuff out. xx

It is a struggle, and one that is not easily won. You know we will support you in whatever choices you make. If you do decide to continue working on your diet/exercise on your own. Let me know, I am very knowledgeable in what foods are good and bad (I'm just not very good at following my own advice ).

I did want to tell you about my OBGYN's advice she gave me 6 years ago now. She said that PCOS and Metabolic syndrome are caused by processed foods, things like cookies, cakes, bread, crackers, and other like foods. Over the years we have eaten too many of these items and have beaten our metabolism down. She said she has seen women overcome it, but it has taken a full year of eliminating the processed foods, and literally eliminating all high GI foods for a year. I have yet to be successful in doing this, but your story reminded me of what she said. Maybe this is the key to both of us getting pregnant?

You know we are always here!

Thanks Ali, will be looking at GF and low GI, see what I can get out of them. xx

Yep.. Keep that chin up, getting yourself healthy either by diet/exercise or through surgery/diet/exercise is going to be in your favor for the future whether that future holds a baby or not. So do what you think is best for you!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi ladies

Terri, wow, you took a very hard hit as a woman- right in the emotional kisser! I gotta say you are one strong lady! You're still going strong after a punch like that--that says a lot for your fortitude, strength, and determination. I think you could consider the option of surgery- was FS talking something like a Gastric bypass? I have seen some ladies here locally that have had great results with that. But if you are worried or scared to go that route, good news is - you don't have to! You admit that any weight issues lay in the fact that you binge eat.

Most binge eating (especially in us women) is the result of emotions. My cousin is obese and a binge eater (she hides food like pudding cups, candy bars - I even found plates of pizza- under her bed, in her sock drawer, etc). My cousin was sexually abused by her father growing up and food was a comfort she sought and found- then it became her addiction. This is a peak-negative example of cause for binge eating, but stress, anxiety, poor self-image---these easily lead to seeking food for comfort. I think once you identify the cause for binge eating you'll be able to kick it- no sweat! Terri, you are such a strong person, maybe you take too much on for other people? I have a tendancy to do that to, so I know how it feels. You ARE losing weight- trick is to keep it off. I want you to feel great about yourself! You're beautiful, ambitious, intelligent, and strong and it's obvious your dh is totally smitten Weight can be managed, I know you can do it

I'd def take Jess up on that offer! Nothing like a tough personal trainer!

We are here for you, so feel free to rant all you want! we all have our rant days, in fact- I'm working on mine

 

[AngelSerenity]

Thanks Jess, I'm doing weight watchers at the moment, but because of my weight, I can have so many points that I really struggle to use them all, I'm usually quite a lot below what I should be having.

I have stopped doing my exercise lately, with all the snow and rubbish weather, I've stopped it. My friend hasn't been swimming for a few weeks either, so neither have I as I don't like to do stuff on my own.

I'm going to start walking again in the mornings before work as I haven't done that for a while. I live in the bottom of an old quarry, so theres a steep hill to get out of one side. I'll walk up there and back each morning, its about half a mile each way, not much I know, but its a lot more than I've done for a while. I want to take it gently for a while, haven't even been to Zumba for a bit, but I'll work back up to that again gradually.

I've been obsessing for so long about getting pregnant that losing weight hasn't been as much as a priority, they've got to switch over and hopefully, losing the weight and getting fitter will help.

The FS says that due to the PCOS, I need to try to avoid complex carbohydrates, so its looking like the Gluten free option may help.

Thanks again, I'll let you know what happens. It'll be about 3 weeks before I get an appointment with my Doctor, so I've got plenty of time to work stuff out. xx

Terri, please do not lose hope I too have PCOS although I am a thin PCOSer. Like most PCOSers I was told my a general gynae that I would probably never have a family and at that stage we had been trying for about 5 years. They prescribed Clomiid for me which did make me ovulate more although it didnt end in a BFP after 6 cycles. Have you tried this?

I then got off my back side and did my own research and went on a low-GI (not gluten free) non-dairy diet and my cycles reduced from 75-90+ days to 28-30 days. I also swear by Agnus Castus to help this process.There are loads of sites to support, soulcysters.com is great.

Obese ladies can get pregnant, you just need to be more careful and follow a good diet and exercise programme to reduce weight related risks. Like Jess I too am a sports professional so please please do keep positive. Yes, lose as much weight as you can as of course it will help and do that by whatever method you decide, diet or surgery, or both.

Do not let any doctor tell you your chances are over, I and many other PCOSers have went on to have a family and you can too

 

[AngelSerenity]

Ok resident FF gurus, I have a little puzzle for you

My body is being weird (again). I got a strong positive OPK on Tuesday evening but my temp on Tuesday and yesterday morning didnt dip so I was thinking that ovulation was still around the corner. I did another OPK last night and it was a fainter positive.

Well my temp rose today , so I'm well confused. My temp was 36.5 for 4 days including Tuesday, then 36.6 yesterday, and 36.7 today. I always get an ovulation dip, can anybody remember if you can ovulate without the dip? I think you just need to see a shift? If so, I think I then ovulated on Tuesday?

Tomorrow will hopefully tell, I'm only back TTC and going already


xo

 

[Grey Eyes]

Speaking of rants....

AFM

Ah, stressful days! I mentioned everyone except Aeryn and I are on antibiotics...well, I noticed after a week of antibiotic dh's lymphnodes were still swollen so I called his doc and made him go for a visit Well, in a nutshell his doc got all serious during the exam and said dh narrowly avoided death The gland that is infected are his parotid glands, one is totally blocked offf and could rupture! Doc was talking a week stay in hospital but dh and doc told him one more round of antibiotics...hopefully this works! Scary! Any stress levels are maxed right now..... Can I just say--women rock and rule! I'm glad I made him go...

TodayI missed bbt'ing again I'm terrible...anyway, got up, got dd's dressed, fed, and watching Whinnie the Pooh Now I have to go administer meds and vitamins. I worked my fanny off w/my weights too! We,, technically my arms and shoulders, but it felt good. Slammed 52 grams of protein and some coffee lol! I am determined to get flat and hard in other plcaes besides my chest lol! Then I'm gonna get a tan...

...speaking of tanning. This creeps me out-

What would you think? I walk in to a place of business. There is a tanning salon in the back room. Business owner is nowhere around but a note stating John is in charge. Well, John is a middle aged man with a mental handicap and a bent toward aggressivness but he's nowhere around. So I ring the bell, knock, holler...nothing. Then more customers come in, there's like 8 of us seeking assistance...nothing. Well, after 20 minutes or so a lady exits tha tanning area...30 seconds after her- here comes John struggling with is pants .

Is it just me, or does it seem like John was, er, peeping? EEeewwww! I won't tan there for sure!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Angel-

Well, your opk was positive on the 19th and your temp started to spike on the 20th--so I'm thinking you ov'd the night of the 19th or 20th? Bd times are good too!

Yay! 2WW

 

[Grey Eyes]

Jess- ooo I am getting curious! You must be like 4dpo or close, right? Did you decide to try a progesterone at all?

How's your workouts been with you're poor finger? Argh- keep it clean every day, and when do the stitches (those awesome stitches!!!) come out?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Sam- hm, I'd say def too early!! Give it a few days Fx'd!