Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[melly2]

Thanks Melly! for you to get your bfp too!

Thank you...things will happen in time. In the meantime, I will live vicariously through all of you. What a great a week already!!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Good morning ladies!

Ali you have a positive hpt! Don't worry about how dark it is. You are pregnant! I remember it darkening like every 2 days. You are only 11 dpo so seeing a positive this early is awesome!
Guess what?. . . You, Babywhisperer and I just might be pregnancy buddies! Still no this morning and my breasts are sore and they haven't been at all this cycle. I wondered if progesterone was delaying af, so I did a and after 2 mins ! I have been bawling and reading my bible verses since 6am this morning! Dh had to leave at 5:45 to go to the data center to fix something so he has no idea

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Omg this is so friggin amazing I think my mind just exploded!!! What's the theory of hanging out with women and cycles be mount the same!!! Congrats girl! How many dpo are you? Do you have progesterone to take? If not I have almost 2 boxes of endometrin and if the ob tells me to stop tomorrow I can send them to you. How are you feeling??? This is so awesome!

Ali, don't expect tests to darken every day. Tomorrow the change will be visible. Just rest and relax. You are preggers!!!

So note to everyone, get busy this is contagious!!!!!!

 

[never_give_up]

Thanks Babywhisperer! I am either 13 or 14 dpo if I go by my usual ovulation. I wasn't opking consistently but was having negatives till the 5th. I had alot of ewcm and O pain on the 7th (cycle day 17). We only bd'd on 5th and 8th May. I am having a beta tomorrow morning. I made a card for dh and will put it in the mailbox after the postman has passed. He always checks the mail when he gets home. I had ordered all the refills of progesterone from ivfs and paid out of pocket so I have 2 boxes and am using it now. You are so sweet for offering to send me yours! Ob wouldn't prescribe it last time because she didn't think it was a viable pregnancy but maybe she will this time since she has already been my ob through the last miscarriage.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hey ladies! omg whast an amazing thread this morning!!In the words of my grampa--Thunder!!! lol

Ali- the lines are definately darker than yesterday. Yesterday they were clear but these lines are more defined- and at 11dpo you are still early yet!

Chantal- OMG, all I can say is Wow! I can't believe it! You two don't waste any time and you are definitely blessed girl I am sooOOoo happy for you!

Babywhisperer- how are you feeling? Any new symptoms? Complaints/discomforts? Hungry all the time? heheheh

Sams- aye,aye,aye! Just felt like saying that I am so glad to see your post this morning, you're awesome!

Melly- I had to laugh at your "living vicariously" comment. Too funny

Phil! nice to "see" you again, how's that bebe??

 

[alicatt]

Ladies..

This is turning into a wonderful week...

I am so happy to see the BFPs here. Mine, Never's Angel and BabyWhisperer. We are truly a blessed thread right now, so anyone wanting to get a BFP get busy (like BabyWhisperer) mentioned!

AFM.. Vladimir sent me an email this morning, he's been checking the IVF board for my progress each morning, and since I slept in and then went to the Dr's he didn't see my posts and got worried. He is so sweet! So he is going to be here on Thursday and we'll spend the weekend shopping for baby clothes, furniture, and all the other baby things he will need! He crossed into his 3rd trimester today, so he is in the tail end of his pregnancy.

I've been having symptoms since the weekend:
* vivid dreams
* fatigue
* moodiness, anxiety, emotional rollercoaster
* flutters or bubbles in my belly
* a tightening in my uterus feels like a ball made of elastic bands and every once in a while the bands expand
* can't sleep on my side with my top leg hiked up, it was really uncomfortable since Saturday, too much pressure on my belly
* can't wear tight clothes, my belly keeps pushing against it and its uncomfortable
* discomfort driving behind a diesel truck expelling the noxious fumes, that just makes me feel horrid

Now I just need my BETA today and tomorrow to come back with decent numbers. I wouldn't expect them to be too high at this point, I'm thinking somewhere around 20-40 since the tests are so faint. That is fine with me. Just as long as they are doubling and doing what they are supposed to do!

 

[never_give_up]

Ali! Vladimir and you shopping for baby things. Have you told him about your bfp?He will be sooo excited!

You ladies were right about the d & c. It must have cleared out the endo! Grey Eyes didn't you get pregnant 2 months after yours too? Just hope my egg hasn't let more than one sperm win! It was a 1-2 % chance that is happened before so praying it doesn't happen again.

 

[alicatt]

OK as if this day couldn't get any better.....

 

[alin3boys]

OMG I cant believe it 4 bfps I am so happy for you all CONGRATS GIRLS

 

[alicatt]

OMG I cant believe it 4 bfps I am so happy for you all CONGRATS GIRLS

Thanks Alin! We are so very happy it is amazing! I'm still in shock but good shock! I hope you are next in line!

 

[melly2]

OK as if this day couldn't get any better.....

This is all so great! I love seeing good news....and lots of it!!

 

[AngelSerenity]

Good morning ladies!

Ali you have a positive hpt! Don't worry about how dark it is. You are pregnant! I remember it darkening like every 2 days. You are only 11 dpo so seeing a positive this early is awesome!
Guess what?. . . You, Babywhisperer and I just might be pregnancy buddies! Still no this morning and my breasts are sore and they haven't been at all this cycle. I wondered if progesterone was delaying af, so I did a and after 2 mins ! I have been bawling and reading my bible verses since 6am this morning! Dh had to leave at 5:45 to go to the data center to fix something so he has no idea

https://i42.tinypic.com/33eo4dx.jpg

Chantal I immediately burst into tears of joy when I saw this!

I am SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[AngelSerenity]

Ali.... I agree with the others, stop panicking about tests. A tip I learnt the hard way was to stop doing HPTs after a BFP. It is such a crude method, tests vary, urine concentration varies etc. You ARE pregnant!!!! The rest unfortunately is mainly up to mother nature, the most important thing for you, and Chantal , to do now is to try and relax, get on any planned protocols and say a few little prayers .


Chantal, I have 4 boxes of progesterone, you might as well have them as I have just finished it. PM me your address and they should be with you in a week or so by snail mail


Coy... how are you? I bet your next for a BFP


Babywhisperer.... perfect timing for your symptoms, good luck!


Melly... sending you loads of


Alin... I hope you are well?


Sams and Phil


AFM... crappy day, work is good though. I cant take anymore tension or arguing with DH, it probably is related to hormones. He asked why I was in a mood with him! He just doesnt get it, drinking 3 nights last week which he said was his business as I was away, and then he has the cheek to ask to pay for the house groceries through our joint account as he basically spent all his money on drink. His priorities are so up the left.

I told him that I want to end things as cant take anymore and he didnt take it well. So far we have had 2 major tantrums and storming out of the house and of course everything is my fault, 'I'm the most unloving ungrateful bitch he has ever met and he wishes he never married me.' I only ever go near him when I want a baby , and now I've got what I want.... hmmmm so of course it's all my fault!?! I dont even feel much at the moment, is that wrong?

 

[alicatt]

Angel - I'm sure you are just numb now. Don't let him get to you, he is angry and is taking it out on you, when he should be looking in the mirror. He needs to get a hold of his drinking and deal with it, and realize that it isn't healthy. You are doing all the right things. So don't let it get you down! Just keep looking out for you, your son and baby to be. Big

 

[AngelSerenity]

It's now four outbursts and I am now regarded as the one being selfish as I dont even want to consider marriage counselling, which has just entered his head tonight. I can't even face tha marriage counselling at this point in time, is this really selfish? I think we are beyond repair and I know his sister has told him to try and use this as an attempt to smooth things over as I think he has been going over there when he is leaving the house. He is angry but being angry at me and forcing me to go to counselling after me trying for 7 years to sort things out (which included counselling 3 years ago which lasted one session) and he thinks it is going to solve everything? I am resenting him more and more as he just keeps yelling on . You know when you think you have passed the point of no return? I think I have as much as it kills me to realise it. My head is a mess and yes Ali numb. At the moment I dont want to be with him as I hate the tension and arguing and as he will not calm down and accept my point of view I dont see the point.....


And he used the line I'll be telling our son it was all your fault that you gave up on our marriage tonight, what a hurtful and spiteful thing to do

 

[Babywhisperer]

It's now four outbursts and I am now regarded as the one being selfish as I dont even want to consider marriage counselling, which has just entered his head tonight. I can't even face tha marriage counselling at this point in time, is this really selfish? I think we are beyond repair and I know his sister has told him to try and use this as an attempt to smooth things over as I think he has been going over there when he is leaving the house. He is angry but being angry at me and forcing me to go to counselling after me trying for 7 years to sort things out (which included counselling 3 years ago which lasted one session) and he thinks it is going to solve everything? I am resenting him more and more as he just keeps yelling on . You know when you think you have passed the point of no return? I think I have as much as it kills me to realise it. My head is a mess and yes Ali numb. At the moment I dont want to be with him as I hate the tension and arguing and as he will not calm down and accept my point of view I dont see the point.....


And he used the line I'll be telling our son it was all your fault that you gave up on our marriage tonight, what a hurtful and spiteful thing to do

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I don't think he means what he says, he's just trying evertything in desperation...guilt, blaming others for his mistakes, deluding himself that he's fine...all classic symptoms of a substance abuse problem and possibly narcissistic personality disorder. He needs to be held accountable. I know you feel past the point of no return, but at the very least having a 3rd party tell him how his actions and lifestyle pattern are to blame and the fact you tried, will help give you support from a professional and family.

I have a brother-in-law very much like this. I'm so sorry. I know it's hard to keeping standing behind the horse only to get kicked. We are here for you. Xo

 

[Samsfan]

Chantal. OMG. Im so excited for you!!!! This is such a blessing. Being with you throughout this process gives me more faith in God. This is so amazing! Praise the Lord! God is good! So happy for you.

Ali. Waiting for the results of your Beta!!!

Coy. Hi!!!

Im done in the dumps, but dredging along

 

[Samsfan]

Hahah. Meant down in the dumps...maybe I should be done with them too

 

[alicatt]

Hahah. Meant down in the dumps...maybe I should be done with them too

Yes! I think you should be done with being down in the dumps!
Why don't you go see your FS? Have you had the WTF appt? I found that having a plan helped me get out of the dumps! Ir if you aren't sure about doing IVF again then maybe meet with an adoption agency? Moving forward helped me reconcile the past and helped me a bunch

 

[never_give_up]

Good morning ladies!

Thank-you Sam I know exactly how you feel. I have been down for 8 weeks and I thought it was a symptom of the fibro but this morning I jumped out of bed at 6am eager to go for my beta despite the pain in my hands. The mind is so much stronger than the body. Ali is right you should go to your wtf appointment. Going to the OB 2 weeks ago for discussion about chromosome test result really helped me. When she said it wasn't an age issue and it could have happened to a younger person that gave me hope. Especially when she said that she looked forward to seeing me when I am pregnant again. I said "well it took 3 years to get pregnant naturally.." She replied "Well it can happen!" Sam you and our dh should try naturally while waiting to decide on ivf or adoption. We were waiting for donor egg consult. Your fertility chart looks great for you Sam. Your bfp is next!

 

[melly2]

How are all my pregnant girls doing this morning?!?!