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[ByAnyMeans]

Hi ladies,

Am checking in again, I guess I'm not doing so so much these days, then I have pages and pages of posts to get through and I feel bad for not being a part of things.

But to be honest, it's all getting to me. To those who don't know me, I've been through 3 IUIs and 2 IVFs, I turn 42 soon, and we've been trying naturally for the past few months after the March IVF.

I drink an awful-tasting TCM tea every morning and every evening, suffer somewhat painful acupuncture once a week, and this stuff is not super-expensive but not cheap either. Gave up my beloved tea, my one vice (due to the caffeine), take 10 pills of vitamins each day (I never did in the past) Vit C, Vit E, CoQ10, Royal Jelly, Fish Oil, 3 DHEA 25mg tabs, 2 folic acid tabs.

The DHEA is beginning to wreak havoc on my face, pimples everywhere and I almost never got those before, and my hair is thinning. I'm on my 3rd month of that treatment. From all I've read it takes 3-6 months of this, I hope I can continue.

I'm in the middle of a TWW and find myself not even really expecting anything to happen - not a loss of hope, but a lack of it. Babies and pregnant women are everywhere and I can't avoid them and DH tries to distract me every time we're around them but he can't really. I get emotional sometimes and he' usually there to help.

Oh, I'm sorry for the rant but I feel I can do this here and I just need to somewhere. I don't want to mess up the otherwise positive vibe as good things seem to be happening with the good ladies here.

It's really nice to be reading some of the success stories here like Crystal, Grey Eyes and Ali and Jess, and I'm sure I'm missing some. Have not seen a post from Marathongirl in awhile. There are new ladies here and I'm still catching up on their situations, so my apologies up front. Good luck tiatammy and AngelSerenity. I haven't heard from Crystal in a while so will reach out to her. Shannon/Georgia Belle, you may want to look into the Paleo diet, it claims to really help with PCOS - if interested I can post links on it.

Ok back to bed, it's 4:30am here.....

Alex

 

[AngelSerenity]

Alex, sorry you're going through a tough time at the moment. I hope it's only a blip and you a bit more positive again in a few days. Do you mind if I ask, do you normally get a bit low during your 2WW? I know I do but it differs so it could surprise you this cycle what could happen.

I dont know much about the DHEA stuff, hopefully some others can give a bit of advice.

xoxo

 

[Grey Eyes]

ByAnyMean (are you Alex btw??) TWW can be a bitch! Sorry to be so blunt, but that's the sum of it. As far as the DHEA- you have to take it for three months total or three more months? As far as the vitamins....can you get justa simple prenatal combination like here in the States? That'd be so much simpler. Not sure about the CoQ10 I have heard great things but not sure in ttc. I don't know too much about accupuncture

Even the IUI's are not a guarentee- they do increase your chances but not an absolute iykwim? It is hard not to lose all hope and sometimes giving your mind and/or bodya break from it all is just what you need. This is the time you get prego, right? Usually that's how it works

What has doc said about your dh's ? Good to go? Then if you have strong eggs (I ama ssuming you do or they wouldn't even attempt IUI) then it's justa matter of timing

Hang in there! You are a tough and awesome lady! We got your back!

 

[ByAnyMeans]

Thank you AngelSerenity and Coy. And Desperado167 for the PMs. Yes, I'm Alex.

And sorry for being such a downer. To answer the question about eggs, the doc and the embryologist has said the problem has been my egg quality. That's why we started me on the super supplements and TCM, as that's maybe all we can do medically.

While DHEA has worked miracles for some, it won't work for everyone every time.

I will post DH's SA separately - the SE said his was not a problem, I do wonder if it could be better. He takes a number of supplements too and he feels they make a big difference.

 

[ByAnyMeans]

Just a clarification - our IUI/IVF SE is not a proponent of DHEA, he referred us to another doctor, we haven't been, just taking DHEA shipped into Singapore from the States. DHEA is not sold OTC in Singapore, needs a prescription, and is hard to find and not many doctors seem familiar with it as a treatment.

So this is basically Google and Forum diagnosis and self-treatment.

Not sure what else one can do with 'poor quality eggs'.

...the doc and the embryologist has said the problem has been my egg quality. That's why we started me on the super supplements and TCM, as that's maybe all we can do medically.

 

[FirstTry]

grey eyes my sentiments exactly who can resist to post a possible bfp pic lol

ali you better get posting them pics lol

HAHA! OK! OK! OK! You are all going to think I'm insane for even thinking this is a but it is there, I can see it! Well at least I could when I initially took the test, now I am having trouble seeing it. ARGH! I really think I need to wait until tomorrow or Monday.

Hey Ali: Any news today? Though I planned to wait till 11dpo for my first test, I realized that it would be awesome to have such news on Fathers Day, so I just tested. The internet strip was not positive. It's only 9dpo, so I'll try again in 2 days.

Anyway, I'm looking fwd to hearing how your testing goes when you wake up (it's 6am Eastern, so I'll assume all you ladies in the US are sleeping!)

 

[alicatt]

Thank you AngelSerenity and Coy. And Desperado167 for the PMs. Yes, I'm Alex.

And sorry for being such a downer. To answer the question about eggs, the doc and the embryologist has said the problem has been my egg quality. That's why we started me on the super supplements and TCM, as that's maybe all we can do medically.

While DHEA has worked miracles for some, it won't work for everyone every time.

I will post DH's SA separately - the SE said his was not a problem, I do wonder if it could be better. He takes a number of supplements too and he feels they make a big difference.

Best of luck Alex, my name is Alexandra so we share the same name!! People just call me Ali. HEHE.

We all know how difficult this is, and we are here for you when you are sad or when you are happy. Here is praying that the DHEA helps and your egg quality improves!!!

 

[alicatt]

grey eyes my sentiments exactly who can resist to post a possible bfp pic lol

ali you better get posting them pics lol

HAHA! OK! OK! OK! You are all going to think I'm insane for even thinking this is a but it is there, I can see it! Well at least I could when I initially took the test, now I am having trouble seeing it. ARGH! I really think I need to wait until tomorrow or Monday.

Hey Ali: Any news today? Though I planned to wait till 11dpo for my first test, I realized that it would be awesome to have such news on Fathers Day, so I just tested. The internet strip was not positive. It's only 9dpo, so I'll try again in 2 days.

Anyway, I'm looking fwd to hearing how your testing goes when you wake up (it's 6am Eastern, so I'll assume all you ladies in the US are sleeping!)

I'm up now! My body doesn't seem to let me sleep in anymore, I used to be able to sleep until noon! Oh well, I got up, did the POAS, but today it is totally blank. Nothing there at all, no matter how I look at it, it is I also temped, and my temps are staying fairly consistent around 98.1 so that is good! As you said, it is only 9DPO so it is early! I will probably test tomorrow, because I can!! HEHE Plus I'm addicted to POAS

Here is hoping that we both get a this week!!!!

 

[AngelSerenity]

Hey Ali and FirstTry, fingers crossed for ya! Like you say it's only 9 DPO...

xo

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- temps at basal body of 98.1 defo point a finger at bfp! You are 9 dpo and still soaring well above your cover line! Looks like a "bfp: to me! Let's wait and see. Try fmu tomorrow? Oh, jsut so you know, if you are using IC's it can take an addition 2-3 days to register a bfp...if you have a early response (go get one!!!! lol) test that helps find out by 10-11 dpo usually....(I am drumming my fingers) But getting the bfn on IC's right now is good, showing you the hcg shot is GOOONNNE! lol!

 

[FirstTry]

Ali- temps at basal body of 98.1 defo point a finger at bfp! You are 9 dpo and still soaring well above your cover line! Looks like a "bfp: to me! Let's wait and see. Try fmu tomorrow? Oh, jsut so you know, if you are using IC's it can take an addition 2-3 days to register a bfp...if you have a early response (go get one!!!! lol) test that helps find out by 10-11 dpo usually....(I am drumming my fingers) But getting the bfn on IC's right now is good, showing you the hcg shot is GOOONNNE! lol!

Hi Coy. It is Coy, right? What's an IC?

And thank you for always being encouraging

 

[alicatt]

Ali- temps at basal body of 98.1 defo point a finger at bfp! You are 9 dpo and still soaring well above your cover line! Looks like a "bfp: to me! Let's wait and see. Try fmu tomorrow? Oh, jsut so you know, if you are using IC's it can take an addition 2-3 days to register a bfp...if you have a early response (go get one!!!! lol) test that helps find out by 10-11 dpo usually....(I am drumming my fingers) But getting the bfn on IC's right now is good, showing you the hcg shot is GOOONNNE! lol!

Thanks! I was actually looking at some graph that showed that Target Brand was the most likely to give a at 9dpo at 24%, I have no idea how accurate this was, but it was definitely interesting!

I did go buy a 3-pack of FRER and a 2-pack of Walmart Brand early response, and I have 1 CBE Digital too! Oh and 3 ICs left. LOL! I have enough HPTs to test all of us

I will test again tomorrow, I'm not overly confident that this month worked, my tummy feels like AF is brewing. There is still hope, I have heard that women were positive AF was coming, and they still got so who knows? I will know for sure by Friday afternoon, as my FS has me scheduled for a BETA test that morning, and they get the results back that day. So if I don't have a by then, I will know either way by Friday afternoon.

Oh, and I was thinking of baby names that would go with your girls names, and I thought of Imogene? It is unique and strong, and still feminine.

 

[alicatt]

Ali- temps at basal body of 98.1 defo point a finger at bfp! You are 9 dpo and still soaring well above your cover line! Looks like a "bfp: to me! Let's wait and see. Try fmu tomorrow? Oh, jsut so you know, if you are using IC's it can take an addition 2-3 days to register a bfp...if you have a early response (go get one!!!! lol) test that helps find out by 10-11 dpo usually....(I am drumming my fingers) But getting the bfn on IC's right now is good, showing you the hcg shot is GOOONNNE! lol!

Hi Coy. It is Coy, right? What's an IC?

And thank you for always being encouraging

IC is an internet cheapie (pregnancy test). They are little test strips and there are some concerns that while they say they are super sensitive, they may not work properly and give false negatives. The ones I bought are supposed to test down to 10 mIU, and First Response Early Result (FRER) test to 20 mIU, and then others don't even pick up HCG until 50 mIU. So it all depends on the test you take! I use the IC's when its still early, and then will start with the more expensive ones once I know it is close to the time to test.

So we are in the week of decision! I will know by the end of the week if my IUI was successful. Sending you lots of sticky baby dust

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- temps at basal body of 98.1 defo point a finger at bfp! You are 9 dpo and still soaring well above your cover line! Looks like a "bfp: to me! Let's wait and see. Try fmu tomorrow? Oh, jsut so you know, if you are using IC's it can take an addition 2-3 days to register a bfp...if you have a early response (go get one!!!! lol) test that helps find out by 10-11 dpo usually....(I am drumming my fingers) But getting the bfn on IC's right now is good, showing you the hcg shot is GOOONNNE! lol!

Hi Coy. It is Coy, right? What's an IC?

And thank you for always being encouraging

Internet Cheapie...just as Ali said And yes, I am Coy. What;s your "handle" aside from FirstTry?? (if you don't mind- no pressure on bnb)

 

[Grey Eyes]

Yay! FRER! FMU FMU (chant) lol! Hoping you get your bfp this month Ali- if not, my fingers are still crossed for the next round

Today was hot and uneventful .. I sort of took the day off without planning to? Didn't do my major assignment in school as it is due tomorrow I better hit it in the morning!

And Imogene is cute, dh and I have been discussing options....

 

[TerriLou]

Hey Ladies,

When I tested last year, ICs showed negative, even when the Clearblue digital showed positive 3-4 weeks. The FRER showed positive the day after the Clearblue. I think they're are all different for different people.

I am now 4dpo and my temperature has dipped a tiny bit this morning, but I'm not going to look too much into it and get my hopes up as I do this too much. Do loads of symptom spotting too as I've had cramps for the last 2 days and my boobs started hurting yesterday.

Last time I got my BFP, my boobs hurt for the first time ever, then since, they have hurt every cycle, but I can't remember how soon after ovulation they start hurting.

One of my friends is pregnant at the moment and it would be so good if we could be pregnant at the same time - always hopeful. I'm determined not to test until 11dpo this time. It is so tempting isn't it?

Hope to see some pics of some positive test really soon.

Tracey

 

[FirstTry]

Ali- temps at basal body of 98.1 defo point a finger at bfp! You are 9 dpo and still soaring well above your cover line! Looks like a "bfp: to me! Let's wait and see. Try fmu tomorrow? Oh, jsut so you know, if you are using IC's it can take an addition 2-3 days to register a bfp...if you have a early response (go get one!!!! lol) test that helps find out by 10-11 dpo usually....(I am drumming my fingers) But getting the bfn on IC's right now is good, showing you the hcg shot is GOOONNNE! lol!

Hi Coy. It is Coy, right? What's an IC?

And thank you for always being encouraging

Internet Cheapie...just as Ali said And yes, I am Coy. What;s your "handle" aside from FirstTry?? (if you don't mind- no pressure on bnb)

I'm Apple. Nice to meet you.

I have a question for all of you ladies. Looking at my chart this morning (see my signature below), it's starting to look tri-phasic. What do you think?

Plus, yesterday, I had tender BBs, a symptom I had hoped for last month, but never happened.

I tested with an IC yesterday and no dice. I'm holding off until tomorrow to test again because I hate seeing BFNs. I would wait even longer, but DH has his SA appointment tomorrow and I'd LOVE to be able to cancel it!

 

[AngelSerenity]

Hi FirstTry, I do think it's going triphasic too and good luck!

Ali - happy to hear temps are staying up as well

Terri - the 2ww is such a killer! Not long to go though so keep treading those floor boards. I'm not charting this month but yes do agree that it can become obsessive lol

Oh this could be an exciting month on here

Intersting to hear about the ICs, i didnt know that... AF due today, think it's happening and hope it appears soon so I can get back on the TTC madness

Coy - Tis freezing here, want to swap?

 

[alin3boys]

ali ~ still have everything crossed for you hun

first try ~ i agree get testing lol,fingers crossed hun

Terri ~ 2ww is draging for me too this month im 6dp and due to test on 24th,good luck hun

coy ~ its just nice here,i have always got my 1st bfp on cheapies from local pound
store

afm ~ cd19,6dpo felling hungry all the time tiny bit of spotting when went to bed last night but nothing today,headache as gone at last (ty mikey for sleeping)my temps seemed to have dropped last few days but back up a little bit today but generally lower than normally are

 

[jm1355]

Good Morning Ladies!! How is everyone this morning?

Ali? do we have a BFP yet?

Coy, how are you doing? How is the "room"?

Alin, I'm so glad your headache is gone! Those are almost dibilitating when they carry on for so long.

FirstTry...or Apple? I love Apple! Too cute... How are you today?

Where is Tia? haven't heard from you in a bit...

Angel and Phil...how was your weekend?

AFM...Yall already know I stay away frm the computer over the weekends so I don't get a chance to keep up with yall on Saturday and Sunday. Father's day was fun! Went to my parents' home and my BF parents' home. Food everywhere!!
AF showed up on Friday, but since I am still interviewing for this job, I didn't mind...much. There was still a small part of me that wished for my BFP this month...