Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[tiatammy]

Greyeyes you are soo funny you have all the right words to say, you are sooo great with words, and really know how to make someone feel so much better, THANKYOU I hope all is well with you and your family. If I do concieve this month the baby will be due either around my birthday which is june 27th or the month of june, I hope this is it, and it works the first time, because it would be great, my first pregnancy before my daughter I miscarried and that baby was due on my birthday, wouldnt that be something if that were to happen again, and god giving me back my baby, I know may sound corny, but I believe in that stuff, and that would be the way I would look at it, as him giving me my child back to me. HUGS HUGS FRIENDS

You know, that is how I view this prenancy- as I had a mc in November and got prego justa couple months after I view it as God giving me my baby back It helps sometimes to view it that way

When is your due date? OOOH how I pray this clomid does it this month. HUGS HUGS FRIENDS

My due date is October 19th but in speaking with my doctor on the 10th he stated she could come anytime and that he would not be too concerned about it. She is in the head-down engaging positon with her hands in front of her face, her back is at my left side...and I feel this cervical pressure everytime I walk so gravity is helping Could be anyday I guess but not crossing my fingers anytime realllllly soon

I hope this is your month too! Sometimes it takes a repeat of clomid but it depends to on your reason for taking it-- was it decied that you were not ovulating or did you use clomid to regulate cycles? What did your doctor say about it?

Doc said I have some months I am ovulating, but not strong ovulation, and other months not ovulating at all. That was my due date with my daughter, but I had her on october the 6th.

 

[Philomena]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- I would think if he is willing to implant three then.... lol!
Well, here it is in my toughest language..what are the odds? If he implants 3 does he think only one will survive? What are the odds of all 3 surviving but losing one later? What about getting 3 healthy babies? I'd say none of us can really tell the odds. I know when I was a young girl I was planting crab apple trees with my dad and I asked him where in the yard he wanted them planted. He shrugged very casually and flipped his hand in the air and said "asnywhere you want to- it doesn't matter". I stared at him then said "Well...where do you want a big apple tree in your yard a few years from now?" He laughed and said he never looked at it that way- then he selected a nice little spot for all 4 trees. Mom has been making apple jam for decades now

You have to assume the possibility of all 3 sucessfully implanting will be high. But if you are worried about one failing to implant properly- I'd say do the 3. Manage the risk with reward and talk to your doc Me personally? Ilove a challenge. I would do all 3

 

[alicatt]

Ali.... best of luck for tomorrow, I hope everything goes smoothly. Things may seem hectic now but it will all be worth it. Keep positive, relax and smile

Coy.... Oh my goodness not long now, I hope you have your hospital bag packed just in case?

Tiatammy.... great to hear from you. We all need to take a break sometimes, this journey can be so very trying. I hope the Clomid works for you. I tried it for 6 cycles. I didnt have any major side effects apart from a little moodiness. It didnt work for us, i super ovulated but no rainbow. To be honest I think I was on the 'baby train' and I didnt relax enough so my advice would be RELAX


Jess, Twotogo, Terri, Babywhisperer

xoxo

Hi Angel,

Welcome back! I'm so sorry about the MC I see from your post that you are being treated for Hughes Syndrome? What is that? Is it the reason you have been having troubles? What did the RMC DR say? Forgive me if you already posted about that, as I've been skimming and not reading EVERYTHING that has happened the last few days. As I'm sure you can see I've been through he ringer lately
I am happy to see you here though, and I really do hope you are doing OK.

 

[alicatt]

Ali- I would think if he is willing to implant three then.... lol!
Well, here it is in my toughest language..what are the odds? If he implants 3 does he think only one will survive? What are the odds of all 3 surviving but losing one later? What about getting 3 healthy babies? I'd say none of us can really tell the odds. I know when I was a young girl I was planting crab apple trees with my dad and I asked him where in the yard he wanted them planted. He shrugged very casually and flipped his hand in the air and said "asnywhere you want to- it doesn't matter". I stared at him then said "Well...where do you want a big apple tree in your yard a few years from now?" He laughed and said he never looked at it that way- then he selected a nice little spot for all 4 trees. Mom has been making apple jam for decades now

You have to assume the possibility of all 3 sucessfully implanting will be high. But if you are worried about one failing to implant properly- I'd say do the 3. Manage the risk with reward and talk to your doc Me personally? Ilove a challenge. I would do all 3

I love a challenge too, but triplets would be quite a challenge! I will probably do as you suggest and implant 3, and if I have to, potentially do the selective reduction. I mean someone was telling me the other day that they implanted 3 but then 1 split and she ended up with quads (2 identical and the other 2 fraternal).

 

[tiatammy]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

Philomena thanks, I hope it happens, what cd did you take the clomid?

 

[alicatt]

Ali, Frost the extras (if you want another baby, or if it doesn't work first time round you have spares and don't have to go through this part of it all again) and implant 2-3..... don't worry about the rest of it all.... doesn't really matter about dpo or any of that, if you have to wait for the beta anyways, just take it right off your plate and breathe..... and don't worry about the cervical cells.... *any* cells which are abnormal have the possibility of being pre-cancerous.... but nothing drastic will happen with them in the next few months or your doctors wouldn't be going ahead with the IVF....
Breathe Girl!!! You are in the final stretch!!!
phil.

Thanks! I'm definitely trying to be focused and not freak out too much! I guess part of me is delirious because I have so many, and I'm sure the estrogen of 5000 is not helping matters at all. I can't focus on anything! You guys are so awesome, at least I have a place to freak out and you all know just the right things to say.

BTW.. Did I say anything to you about your baby name? If not, I meant to. I LOVE IT!!! It is absolutely beautiful. It is unique and so beautiful as it falls off my lips. I will probably have to go with Catherine, and call her Cate if I have a girl. I'm the 2nd generation of Catherine (my Mom is a Catherine too), she named me Catherine but I use my middle name Alexandra. So I think I will follow in the tradition and her first name will be Catherine, and we'll come up with a unique middle name. Plus I like spelling Cate with a C, like Cate Blanchett. HUGS

 

[Philomena]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

Philomena thanks, I hope it happens, what cd did you take the clomid?

Hi Tiatammy,
I think I took it from cd5-9, but I can't say for absolute certainty.... that was 6 months ago!!

 

[Philomena]

Ali, Catherine, or Cate is a great name... it was totally off the list for us for two reasons.... 1. my DH's sister is a Cathy (and he has 3 sisters in total.... can't show any favouritism) and 2. my DH has a cRaZy ex named Kate....... so it was a no go for me even though I love the name Kate/Cate (I'm a bit of a royal watcher, too, so Kate Middleton is a fave.... )

Yeah, I love the name Saria and it means princess..... I love that DD#1 picked it out and she's so proud and stoked about it.... she's been telling all her friends.... it's really sweet to see her get right into it - at 15 she's been pretty blah, though supportive... until now....*grin* NOW she's excited all the time!!

 

[tiatammy]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

Philomena thanks, I hope it happens, what cd did you take the clomid?

Hi Tiatammy,
I think I took it from cd5-9, but I can't say for absolute certainty.... that was 6 months ago!!

How long were your cycles? I have a 26 day cycles. and did you use opks with the clomid? and what was your bedding times? I mean like did you bed before your positive opk and after? I hope you dont mind me asking, I just really want it to work.

 

[jm1355]

Everyone! I hope y'all are having a fantastic day!!

Ali...I'm thinking about you and praying for you.

 

[Philomena]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

Philomena thanks, I hope it happens, what cd did you take the clomid?

Hi Tiatammy,
I think I took it from cd5-9, but I can't say for absolute certainty.... that was 6 months ago!!

How long were your cycles? I have a 26 day cycles. and did you use opks with the clomid? and what was your bedding times? I mean like did you bed before your positive opk and after? I hope you dont mind me asking, I just really want it to work.

I don't mind the questions at all! that's what we are here for- to help and support each other through these journeys!
I did use OPK's.... I actually went a little OPK crazy and did the line ones AND the happy face ones. The day I surged, both my face ones caught it but not all of the line ones caught it.
Previous to my last cycle we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility- so we had done all the tests, and they didn't know "why" we weren't getting pregnant. My cycles were 26 days, my hormone levels seemed to be fine, my tubes were open (well, one for sure, the other probably) and DH's sperm was 'RockStar'.... so why weren't we getting preggers? Nobody could tell us. So we opted for IUI since I was 40 then (I'm 41 now)....
I did the clomid to help our chances, and OD'd on the OPK's because I didn't want to miss the surge. I started to really surge around 11am and I was so happy to see the happy face, I can't even tell you.... no lines to interpret, it was so easy! I called the dr's office and we were in the next day.... DH had his appt in the morning... then they do a 'scrub and shine' on the swimmers and I went in the afternoon for the IUI..... So essentially, I got the surge and the next day the swimmer's were put in..... we didn't bd before or after because of DH's work schedule, but, for us, it didn't seem to matter.
I know OPK's can be expensive, but I decided that missing the surge wasn't an option and from my experience, I can say that the cheaper ones are not always accurate at registering the opk.... the happy face ones are my favourite and I would use them again in a heartbeat.... it's worth the extra money, IMHO....

Sometimes I feel I missed out a little bit, because I never got any of the scans to determine follicles or how they were doing.... I guess my fertility clinic just doesn't do that for basic IUI..... ? But otherwise, it was straightforward and relatively stress free.....
hope that helps!!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Babywhisperer- hope the cramping has stopped. How long are your cycles usually? I am trying to get a figure on when you'll next ov....Oh, btw FF has a free portion to the charting that lets you put it basic temps, etc, that is what I used. Then I guess there is one you can pay for that bumps up some of yuor benefits.

My cycles are usually 25-28, this last one was 25. I will probably ovu on cd 11 or 12 like last time if I do ovu. Today is cd4, cramping stopped late yesterday. I am taking this cycle CoQ10, prenatals, baby aspirin, using opks, preseed, and started acupuncture yesterday...but not just for fertility. I have used acupuncture during times of stress and illness. Nothing relaxes me like being treated by this woman Ping Zhang. She is cleansing this week with 2 treatments to get out the effects of chelation I had from mercury toxicity, and Lyme treatment. She is trying to heal my thyroid as that is where advanced stage Lyme settles and effectively destroys the thyroid. In this I hope she brings up my energy and balances the hormones without having to take medications. She has helped me immensely in the past when I have been sick. She said she has to bring my energy up as my pulse is weak and indicates a problem. Once that is achieved I will be balanced and able to conceive. It's very interesting how Eastern medicine works. Once energy is balanced in the body, things work like they should. I was so deeply relaxed during and after treatment I felt like I was in a trance. She focused on flushing my system, and I swear I got up 6 times last night to pee and I didn't even drink that much liquid!

I will look into the FF charts tonight. Getting up so many times to pee has definitely thrown me off.

How is everyone today??

 

[tiatammy]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

Philomena thanks, I hope it happens, what cd did you take the clomid?

Hi Tiatammy,
I think I took it from cd5-9, but I can't say for absolute certainty.... that was 6 months ago!!

How long were your cycles? I have a 26 day cycles. and did you use opks with the clomid? and what was your bedding times? I mean like did you bed before your positive opk and after? I hope you dont mind me asking, I just really want it to work.

I don't mind the questions at all! that's what we are here for- to help and support each other through these journeys!
I did use OPK's.... I actually went a little OPK crazy and did the line ones AND the happy face ones. The day I surged, both my face ones caught it but not all of the line ones caught it.
Previous to my last cycle we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility- so we had done all the tests, and they didn't know "why" we weren't getting pregnant. My cycles were 26 days, my hormone levels seemed to be fine, my tubes were open (well, one for sure, the other probably) and DH's sperm was 'RockStar'.... so why weren't we getting preggers? Nobody could tell us. So we opted for IUI since I was 40 then (I'm 41 now)....
I did the clomid to help our chances, and OD'd on the OPK's because I didn't want to miss the surge. I started to really surge around 11am and I was so happy to see the happy face, I can't even tell you.... no lines to interpret, it was so easy! I called the dr's office and we were in the next day.... DH had his appt in the morning... then they do a 'scrub and shine' on the swimmers and I went in the afternoon for the IUI..... So essentially, I got the surge and the next day the swimmer's were put in..... we didn't bd before or after because of DH's work schedule, but, for us, it didn't seem to matter.
I know OPK's can be expensive, but I decided that missing the surge wasn't an option and from my experience, I can say that the cheaper ones are not always accurate at registering the opk.... the happy face ones are my favourite and I would use them again in a heartbeat.... it's worth the extra money, IMHO....

Sometimes I feel I missed out a little bit, because I never got any of the scans to determine follicles or how they were doing.... I guess my fertility clinic just doesn't do that for basic IUI..... ? But otherwise, it was straightforward and relatively stress free.....
hope that helps!!

That helped a whole lot, I am 41 now too, so I do hope this will help me, That is great that you were a 26 day cycle too, did you ovulate later or sooner on the clomid? doc says to start opks on cd13 beings I am on clomid cd 5-9 and should ovulate cd17. Did you see a temp change being on the clomid?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi ladies! Yay! A busy thread again I love reading all your posts.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Babywhisperer- I have a non-bnb question...as your dh is an attorney what would he say about a client (client is plaintiff and also a witness, me of course ) that is considered stoic? Is that bad or good? I mean, I can't cry at the drop of a hat, so if that's what they want... I can get mad though!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Ali, Frost the extras (if you want another baby, or if it doesn't work first time round you have spares and don't have to go through this part of it all again) and implant 2-3..... don't worry about the rest of it all.... doesn't really matter about dpo or any of that, if you have to wait for the beta anyways, just take it right off your plate and breathe..... and don't worry about the cervical cells.... *any* cells which are abnormal have the possibility of being pre-cancerous.... but nothing drastic will happen with them in the next few months or your doctors wouldn't be going ahead with the IVF....
Breathe Girl!!! You are in the final stretch!!!
phil.

Thanks! I'm definitely trying to be focused and not freak out too much! I guess part of me is delirious because I have so many, and I'm sure the estrogen of 5000 is not helping matters at all. I can't focus on anything! You guys are so awesome, at least I have a place to freak out and you all know just the right things to say.

BTW.. Did I say anything to you about your baby name? If not, I meant to. I LOVE IT!!! It is absolutely beautiful. It is unique and so beautiful as it falls off my lips. I will probably have to go with Catherine, and call her Cate if I have a girl. I'm the 2nd generation of Catherine (my Mom is a Catherine too), she named me Catherine but I use my middle name Alexandra. So I think I will follow in the tradition and her first name will be Catherine, and we'll come up with a unique middle name. Plus I like spelling Cate with a C, like Cate Blanchett. HUGS

If we are blessed with a dd at some point, Cate is on my short list after my grandmother Catherine!

How are you feeling girl? I agree with the others, relax, positively envision your H&H bfp! Everything else is gravy!! I'm praying for you!

 

[Philomena]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

Philomena thanks, I hope it happens, what cd did you take the clomid?

Hi Tiatammy,
I think I took it from cd5-9, but I can't say for absolute certainty.... that was 6 months ago!!

How long were your cycles? I have a 26 day cycles. and did you use opks with the clomid? and what was your bedding times? I mean like did you bed before your positive opk and after? I hope you dont mind me asking, I just really want it to work.

I don't mind the questions at all! that's what we are here for- to help and support each other through these journeys!
I did use OPK's.... I actually went a little OPK crazy and did the line ones AND the happy face ones. The day I surged, both my face ones caught it but not all of the line ones caught it.
Previous to my last cycle we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility- so we had done all the tests, and they didn't know "why" we weren't getting pregnant. My cycles were 26 days, my hormone levels seemed to be fine, my tubes were open (well, one for sure, the other probably) and DH's sperm was 'RockStar'.... so why weren't we getting preggers? Nobody could tell us. So we opted for IUI since I was 40 then (I'm 41 now)....
I did the clomid to help our chances, and OD'd on the OPK's because I didn't want to miss the surge. I started to really surge around 11am and I was so happy to see the happy face, I can't even tell you.... no lines to interpret, it was so easy! I called the dr's office and we were in the next day.... DH had his appt in the morning... then they do a 'scrub and shine' on the swimmers and I went in the afternoon for the IUI..... So essentially, I got the surge and the next day the swimmer's were put in..... we didn't bd before or after because of DH's work schedule, but, for us, it didn't seem to matter.
I know OPK's can be expensive, but I decided that missing the surge wasn't an option and from my experience, I can say that the cheaper ones are not always accurate at registering the opk.... the happy face ones are my favourite and I would use them again in a heartbeat.... it's worth the extra money, IMHO....

Sometimes I feel I missed out a little bit, because I never got any of the scans to determine follicles or how they were doing.... I guess my fertility clinic just doesn't do that for basic IUI..... ? But otherwise, it was straightforward and relatively stress free.....
hope that helps!!

That helped a whole lot, I am 41 now too, so I do hope this will help me, That is great that you were a 26 day cycle too, did you ovulate later or sooner on the clomid? doc says to start opks on cd13 beings I am on clomid cd 5-9 and should ovulate cd17. Did you see a temp change being on the clomid?

I wasn't temping on that cycle, but I did decide on my own to start watching the opk's from cd10 or 11-ish.... mostly because I think I used to ovulate around CD10 on my own.... the cycle with the clomid, I ovulated exactly on CD14 and I got my first, very faint, positive for a BFP on 9 DPIUI..... ( I started POAS at 7 DPIUI)
I know it's all expensive to use so many of the sticks... but I couldn't help it... I really wanted it to work and I wanted to be right on top of everything! It was a pain to POAS so many times, but honestly, I think I would do it the same again, because I did not want to miss the surge, and I did not want to miss the bfp....

 

[Babywhisperer]

Babywhisperer- I have a non-bnb question...as your dh is an attorney what would he say about a client (client is plaintiff and also a witness, me of course ) that is considered stoic? Is that bad or good? I mean, I can't cry at the drop of a hat, so if that's what they want... I can get mad though!

Stoic can be good in certain situations as you will be even keeled and appear stable. It can be bad sometimes when your attys want you to show deep emotion, to be moved, show duress or grief if that's what your situation calls for. I don't know enough of the context to help you determine if it's good or bad for their/your cause. Does that make sense?

 

[tiatammy]

Tiatammy,
Good luck with your clomid.... I was on for one round and got pregnant- but I was SO moody.... I didn't like how it made me feel.... I was uncomfortable in my skin.... but we kept saying that if it helped it would be worth it.... Its definitely worth trying! and it worked for me..... so it is possible for it to work in one cycle....
all the best....
phil.

Philomena thanks, I hope it happens, what cd did you take the clomid?

Hi Tiatammy,
I think I took it from cd5-9, but I can't say for absolute certainty.... that was 6 months ago!!

How long were your cycles? I have a 26 day cycles. and did you use opks with the clomid? and what was your bedding times? I mean like did you bed before your positive opk and after? I hope you dont mind me asking, I just really want it to work.

I don't mind the questions at all! that's what we are here for- to help and support each other through these journeys!
I did use OPK's.... I actually went a little OPK crazy and did the line ones AND the happy face ones. The day I surged, both my face ones caught it but not all of the line ones caught it.
Previous to my last cycle we were diagnosed with unexplained infertility- so we had done all the tests, and they didn't know "why" we weren't getting pregnant. My cycles were 26 days, my hormone levels seemed to be fine, my tubes were open (well, one for sure, the other probably) and DH's sperm was 'RockStar'.... so why weren't we getting preggers? Nobody could tell us. So we opted for IUI since I was 40 then (I'm 41 now)....
I did the clomid to help our chances, and OD'd on the OPK's because I didn't want to miss the surge. I started to really surge around 11am and I was so happy to see the happy face, I can't even tell you.... no lines to interpret, it was so easy! I called the dr's office and we were in the next day.... DH had his appt in the morning... then they do a 'scrub and shine' on the swimmers and I went in the afternoon for the IUI..... So essentially, I got the surge and the next day the swimmer's were put in..... we didn't bd before or after because of DH's work schedule, but, for us, it didn't seem to matter.
I know OPK's can be expensive, but I decided that missing the surge wasn't an option and from my experience, I can say that the cheaper ones are not always accurate at registering the opk.... the happy face ones are my favourite and I would use them again in a heartbeat.... it's worth the extra money, IMHO....

Sometimes I feel I missed out a little bit, because I never got any of the scans to determine follicles or how they were doing.... I guess my fertility clinic just doesn't do that for basic IUI..... ? But otherwise, it was straightforward and relatively stress free.....
hope that helps!!

That helped a whole lot, I am 41 now too, so I do hope this will help me, That is great that you were a 26 day cycle too, did you ovulate later or sooner on the clomid? doc says to start opks on cd13 beings I am on clomid cd 5-9 and should ovulate cd17. Did you see a temp change being on the clomid?

I wasn't temping on that cycle, but I did decide on my own to start watching the opk's from cd10 or 11-ish.... mostly because I think I used to ovulate around CD10 on my own.... the cycle with the clomid, I ovulated exactly on CD14 and I got my first, very faint, positive for a BFP on 9 DPIUI..... ( I started POAS at 7 DPIUI)
I know it's all expensive to use so many of the sticks... but I couldn't help it... I really wanted it to work and I wanted to be right on top of everything! It was a pain to POAS so many times, but honestly, I think I would do it the same again, because I did not want to miss the surge, and I did not want to miss the bfp....

That is how it is with me when I do ovulate it was anywhere between cd 10 to 12, doc said that my temp chart was showing some months with not so strong ovulation to no ovulation, but when I did it was cd 10,11,or 12, but he wants me to opk starting on cd 13, do you think I should start cd 10 just to be sure I dont miss it?