Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[jm1355]

Good afternoon my lovely BnB friends!

Ali...I'm sorry about your pup not feeling well. About this IVF vacation thing...it sounds iunteresting, but a lot more research would be required. There are a ton of websites that come up regarding the subject. Some of the European ones sound fantastic! Apparently it is a lot less expensive to travel abroad for certain medical procedures. But the US is the world's leader in medical research and advances...maybe that is why we are so darn expensive. It would be nice if you could talk to someone that actually took one of those IVF vacations and got a BFP. But I am still holding out hope that you are getting your BFP in a day or so!

Coy...I am so sorry to hear about the fight with your DH. That really stinks. And it makes it so hard, if not impossible, to sleep. All I can say is sometimes tensions build, stress comes to a head, and then BAM!! It all releases in one form or another. I am sure he did not mean those terrible things he said. He is probably struggling a bit...maybe feeling like he is not adequately providing for his family. When my BF's training business was just getting started he was making next to nothing...like $600 a month. Can you say NO MONEY ? It was hard on us but I was excited first that he was able to persue a career that he really enjoyed. And two, that, even though I was at a job I didn't like so much, it still paid enough for me to take care of the three of us. Tensions were always high during that time for us. And after he got more clients and now makes as much as I do, he told me that it was hard for him because in his mind a real man is supposed to provide for his family. I think we see things differently as women. We see it as a collective effort to provide. I am sure things will get better.
And what is up with the sexual predator!!! OMG!! That is horrible!! I am so glad you taught your girls what to do. Are the police going to question him or arrest him or burn him or something?!?!? I think they should him!!

Baby...I don't know about DH and his ex. I can't offer any real good advice because everyone's situation is different. But I can say do not allow yourself to be in a stressfull situation. Being under stress like that while TTC or during pregnancy is so not good for you.

TwoToGo...I am so glad you are smilking and remembering the goodness of God. The potential job opportunity could be one of his blessings. Thank him in advance and keep pressing!! I like the idea about making the kids plan the menu, budget, and shop. Life skills!!

AFM...well showed up today, as I suspected she would. I feel horrible. Between my headache (allergies I think), AF, , , , and cooking and my thesis...well, all I want to do is sleep! But that is the pitiful side of me and fortunately that side doesn't come out too often nor for too long.
SO the good news is, this month I will have my reproductive are checked for any blockages, BF will be open to whatever he needs to do, my so turns 16 on October 23, I am NOT competing this month, the literature review for my thesis is 99% complete, and I am just about done with the household chores (thanks to BF and DS).
So, I am not going to complain.

 

[jm1355]

Oh...this is my thesis work space...notice the web page on my laptop...

 

[Grey Eyes]

Oh...this is my thesis work space...notice the web page on my laptop...

K, I did notice the webpage but not before i noticed the mug...is that coffee with cream? OMG I could Soooo use a cup of that now! A nice hot quad shot with skim milk in it

Thanks Jess for all your words It helps. Dh and I rarely fight, and wow, you nailed the monetary number just about right, we are really skimming at the moment. When I worked we mae tons more as I was salaried but because of the salary the company worked me about 80-90 hours a week so I was never home. Plus because I made more than dh he was always reminding me how he provided for the first two years we were married or "carried my ass" as he put it lol! So while I was carrying everyone it was a big look back...since I got fired for being prego it has just basically been his money...I know because he is disabled and doesn't make a lot of money it creates a masculinity issue- guys are just that way. But it's still hard to swallow sometimes Guess I gotta get tougher and just noptsay anything to him about it. He does always come and apologize but there are times when a quick apology just doesn't measure up iykwim...

Re: the predator..yes, they are going to talk to him They didn't say anything about burning so maybe I should suggest it?... We have pulled the girls aside and told them how proud we are and that they id exactly the right thing. What a dinkus that guy is!

So you have decided not to compete? Have you had a piece of pizza yet? lol! Sow hen d you go in to have evrything checked as far as ovaries, tubes, etc?

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- thanks! I hope you had fun last night and didn't get down or anything...I notice you are leaning more toward a bfn at this point and am wondering if you got too many comments that led that direction? Brush it off, like the ladies said- there are tons of women that go way past 15dpo and still bfn then POP! There it is A nice So be positive Also I have read both sides as far as getting AF while on progesterone. SOme women do, some don't But I wouldn't stress. I just read ablog where a lady said she got the same A-like cramps just before she got her bfp on IVF

TwoToGo & BabyWhisperer- thanks for your encouragement! You ladies are all so awesome, I appreciate each of you!

Where in the world is Terri-Lou???

 

[jm1355]

Coy...

Ummm...yes, that would be a cup of java with fat free cream... Sooooo good! Lol! It is a cloudy, rainy day, and I didn't go to the gym today and I was up late working on my thesis. So I felt like a treat...since there is no ice cream in the house, coffee was the next best thing...
I decided not to compete this month. But there is a show in five weeks that is closer to home. It would be the perfect show for me because it would allow my friends and family to come see me. They always complain because typically my shows are out of town. Soooo, I am anticipating that show in five weeks. My BF and my trainer are both in favor of it. We shall see!!

 

[alicatt]

Afternoon Everyone!

Coy - so glad your DD's are safe, what a scare! I am proud of them too for doing exactly what they should do, scream and run! YAY! Still a frightening experience. I hope they nail his you know what to the wall!

Jess - yay on getting your thesis 99% done! You must be on knowing that you are so close to finishing. Even though AF did come, at least you are able to think positively and move on to the next cycle. If you are going to compete in 5 weeks will that mean you won't do much this cycle? Maybe wait and get back into the groove after that one is done?

TwoToGo & BabyWhisperer - as always you are so kind and helpful! I literally do not know what I would do without my BnB girls! I hope you are both having a relaxing Sunday, enjoying life!

AFM - well I had a very heartfelt phone call with my Mom, and we discussed all of what I have been thinking and worrying about and my biggest concern that there is no where to go if this cycle fails. I told her about the MedVacation and she was deadset against it, worried that I would disappear or end up with a horrible infection or they use the wrong sperm or well any number of scary outcomes. So then I discussed another thing I was researching when I was up at 5am this morning. That of how to improve my egg quality and get a better response. Providing I could do this again. There are several sites out there that discuss Maca, DHEA, and Royal Jelly, and how you need to take it for 3 months and during the third cycle you should have improved ovarian response. The idea here is that it takes 90 days for a follicle to mature from its infancy to a ripe follicle. So if you provide nutrients that are known to improve ovarian function and egg quality for those 90 days then you should have a better response to IVF. With that I need to get my to the gym and get back into shape, even mild to moderate exercised is said to improve ovarian function as it increases the blood flow to the ovaries. So, and here is the awesome news, my Mom said yes! She said do it, get some weight off, take the supplements that will improve your ovarian function and egg quality and lets do another cycle in December! OMG!! Now I have hope again! You have no idea what that means, to know that all is not over. Can I just say I have the best Mom in the whole world!

 

[twotogo]

Ali, I've also read that CoQ10 also helps the quality and health of the folicle - especially in those of us over 35.
So glad that you have another cycle to look forward to, but don't give up on this one.

 

[jm1355]

Awh Ali!! I just wanna give your mama a big 'ol !! That is awesome! As parents we really just want to see our children happy...

As for this cycle, well, since I actually paid for the FF VIP membership, I will absolutely still track my temps and symptoms. I will also still go have my tubes etc checked out for any potential blockages. Then, if I don't get my BFP, my BF will have his SA done in Novemvber. I don't know what happens after that.

 

[alicatt]

Thanks TwoToGo and Jess! I know, my Mom is awesome, and I have to remember she went through this exact same thing 40 years ago. She couldn't get pregnant either! My Dad had a low sperm count, but back then IVF wasn't even an option. You are right, I think she wants to see my happy, and she had the means to do so. That is why I'm a little less sad right now. At least I have something to prepare for, and look forward to!
So CoQ10 helps improve ovarian health too? I am also going to ask my FS what he thinks. I will wait until I get back from Canada and have had some time to put things in perspective and then I'm going to go talk with him and ask him what he thinks we should do, and if there are any supplements he would suggest. Waiting until December should allow me to do this under the radar at work so to speak, as I have a good amount of time off around the holidays. I think I get Dec 25th through Jan 3rd off, so if we can get the ER and ET done in that time period then that will be great! Plus my Mom will be staying with me so she can help out, YAY! So maybe things work in mysterious ways and happen for a reason? Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on God for forsaking me once again? Perhaps I was a little harsh with him last night. Bad Ali!

 

[jm1355]

Thanks TwoToGo and Jess! I know, my Mom is awesome, and I have to remember she went through this exact same thing 40 years ago. She couldn't get pregnant either! My Dad had a low sperm count, but back then IVF wasn't even an option. You are right, I think she wants to see my happy, and she had the means to do so. That is why I'm a little less sad right now. At least I have something to prepare for, and look forward to!
So CoQ10 helps improve ovarian health too? I am also going to ask my FS what he thinks. I will wait until I get back from Canada and have had some time to put things in perspective and then I'm going to go talk with him and ask him what he thinks we should do, and if there are any supplements he would suggest. Waiting until December should allow me to do this under the radar at work so to speak, as I have a good amount of time off around the holidays. I think I get Dec 25th through Jan 3rd off, so if we can get the ER and ET done in that time period then that will be great! Plus my Mom will be staying with me so she can help out, YAY! So maybe things work in mysterious ways and happen for a reason? Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on God for forsaking me once again? Perhaps I was a little harsh with him last night. Bad Ali!

God didn't forsake you... We have to remember it is all in His perfect timing...which doesn't always coincide with our imperfect timing...

 

[alicatt]

Thanks TwoToGo and Jess! I know, my Mom is awesome, and I have to remember she went through this exact same thing 40 years ago. She couldn't get pregnant either! My Dad had a low sperm count, but back then IVF wasn't even an option. You are right, I think she wants to see my happy, and she had the means to do so. That is why I'm a little less sad right now. At least I have something to prepare for, and look forward to!
So CoQ10 helps improve ovarian health too? I am also going to ask my FS what he thinks. I will wait until I get back from Canada and have had some time to put things in perspective and then I'm going to go talk with him and ask him what he thinks we should do, and if there are any supplements he would suggest. Waiting until December should allow me to do this under the radar at work so to speak, as I have a good amount of time off around the holidays. I think I get Dec 25th through Jan 3rd off, so if we can get the ER and ET done in that time period then that will be great! Plus my Mom will be staying with me so she can help out, YAY! So maybe things work in mysterious ways and happen for a reason? Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on God for forsaking me once again? Perhaps I was a little harsh with him last night. Bad Ali!

God didn't forsake you... We have to remember it is all in His perfect timing...which doesn't always coincide with our imperfect timing...

Well its kind of an ongoing anger I have with him, and this was just one more time I feel that he has not heard my pleas. All I have ever wanted in life was to find my person (the one I'm supposed to share my life with) and that has not happened. So in addition to not having that person, last night I was angry because it looked like he was going to deny my prayers for a baby too. I was in a woe is me kind of place, thinking I was destined to be alone. I am still a little sore about it, as I'm coming up on my 40th birthday and I'm still single So I think I just have to get over that hurdle, get these freaking hormones out of my body and regroup! The good news is that I'm heading to Canada on Thursday and I'll be with my family for Canadian Thanksgiving and my 40th B-day too!
Oh and my Mom did a wonderful thing for me too. She had been saving her engagement ring (the one from her marriage to my father) for my brother to give to his wife, but he is not going to get married. She had a conversation with him, and he agreed that it shouldn't sit in a box in a drawer, and that someone should be wearing it. So this summer while I was home she had me work with a top jeweler in Toronto to design a ring that I could wear everyday that didn't look like an engagement ring using the diamond in the setting. Well that is my 40th birthday gift! So that is something to look forward to as well! I can't wait to see it, and wear it, how special is that? Plus it was designed in kind of an eye, like the Egyptian eye. Which then has significance as it can be said that its my Dad watching over me. I must say I'm excited to have that bond with my Dad, as I miss him. He passed away when I was only 11 years old.
Again.. can I just say that I have the best family in the world? That is definitely something to be thankful for, and I think I better have another chat with the man upstairs, and apologize for being so angry last night.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Jess- O my gosh, that coffee sounds awesome lol! I am a horrible coffee addict, I grew up drinking it as a kid in Alaska straight black...When I'm not prego I have a cup or two every morning strong and black..I miss it lol! I do get half a cup every day or so. Sorry for stupid AF showing her face But glad you have a plan to move forward and your BF is on board with it all. Is he still shopping Tahoes?

Ali- Yay! I am glad you have a plan now just in case. I feel very positive that you will get your bfp this time around but just in case it is stress relieving to know you have another option, right? And your mom is gorgeous! What an awesome lady She loves you I can't wait for your Beta tomorrow, will you be at work all day long? Will your doc leave a msg or will you get the news at work? Oh, you mentioned being "a little less sad"...I don't want you to be sad at all! Sad sucks . Also, re: God...sometimes it does seem like He doesn't hear us but I do know one thing! I am so thankful that He hasn't given me half the things I have asked for in life! If that were the case I'd be in a totally different place right now with probably really bad people BUT I do know He gives us the good things...and you are asking for a very good thing! He understands your heart and your desire for a baby - this is a natural instinct that He placed in you. So honestly- I think He's an awesome giver ..Just gotta be patient! The ring sounds amazing, yes, it sounds like you have a great family that loves you very much! And on getting that special "just for you" other half. He's out there just takes the right moment in time is all. My dh and I knew right away that we wanted to get married (even though I can be a bee-otch and he can be a super jerk sometimes ) We got married the first 6 days we were together. You'll know it when it happens

TwoToGo- I have heard the same about CoQ10- it is a tremendous helper in many areas from what I have read!

BabyWhisper-

AFM: I had this image of myself eating warm gooey chocolate cake (I know I know...butt size matters...somewhere in this world ) and soaking in a warm tub...Half way there! I just pulled the cake out of the oven but still have a lot of work to do. I am seeing the end of the garage I am now moving things back IN and re-ordering stuff. Just gotta keep the girls oughtta there. And dh! He wants to save everything lol

 

[alicatt]

Jess- O my gosh, that coffee sounds awesome lol! I am a horrible coffee addict, I grew up drinking it as a kid in Alaska straight black...When I'm not prego I have a cup or two every morning strong and black..I miss it lol! I do get half a cup every day or so. Sorry for stupid AF showing her face But glad you have a plan to move forward and your BF is on board with it all. Is he still shopping Tahoes?

Ali- Yay! I am glad you have a plan now just in case. I feel very positive that you will get your bfp this time around but just in case it is stress relieving to know you have another option, right? And your mom is gorgeous! What an awesome lady She loves you I can't wait for your Beta tomorrow, will you be at work all day long? Will your doc leave a msg or will you get the news at work? Oh, you mentioned being "a little less sad"...I don't want you to be sad at all! Sad sucks . Also, re: God...sometimes it does seem like He doesn't hear us but I do know one thing! I am so thankful that He hasn't given me half the things I have asked for in life! If that were the case I'd be in a totally different place right now with probably really bad people BUT I do know He gives us the good things...and you are asking for a very good thing! He understands your heart and your desire for a baby - this is a natural instinct that He placed in you. So honestly- I think He's an awesome giver ..Just gotta be patient! The ring sounds amazing, yes, it sounds like you have a great family that loves you very much! And on getting that special "just for you" other half. He's out there just takes the right moment in time is all. My dh and I knew right away that we wanted to get married (even though I can be a bee-otch and he can be a super jerk sometimes ) We got married the first 6 days we were together. You'll know it when it happens

TwoToGo- I have heard the same about CoQ10- it is a tremendous helper in many areas from what I have read!

BabyWhisper-

AFM: I had this image of myself eating warm gooey chocolate cake (I know I know...butt size matters...somewhere in this world ) and soaking in a warm tub...Half way there! I just pulled the cake out of the oven but still have a lot of work to do. I am seeing the end of the garage I am now moving things back IN and re-ordering stuff. Just gotta keep the girls oughtta there. And dh! He wants to save everything lol

MMM.. chocolate cake sounds absolutely sinful! YUMMY! I would love to have some of that right now. I am doing much better now, still a little drained, from all the emotions I have been feeling the past few days. WOW, talk about emotional rollercoaster!

I'm glad you are done with the garage, YAY! Now you can concentrate on things like warm baths and walking to get that baby to shake loose!

Me, I'm going to do the same thing I think, maybe take a short nap, eat up the leftover pot stickers from last night, have a nice bath and get into bed and watch Revenge and the new show 666Park. Then hopefully I'll drift off to happy dreamland and wake up rested and ready for BETA tomorrow.

I will be at work when I find out the news, I figure if I'm really distraught I can always just leave early. I am hoping that I got most of the emotions out today and yesterday and I can make it through to the end of the day and then come home and treat myself to a glass of wine.

I still have lots to get done this week before I head to Canada, and immediately after I get back. The refinance of my house is almost complete, my eldest doggie needs to have a lump removed and while she is under they will clean her teeth, and I have to have those bad cells removed from my cervix. Whew! Crazy! I'm guessing that those things will happen upon my return. I've also decided that I am going to get back to my gym and get my exercising in. It is something I used to love, and I think I need to get back to it. Not sure if I mentioned it before but I have a 24hr fitness about 2 miles from my house with an indoor pool, yoga and pilates classes, spin classes, and all the cardio machines and weights you would ever want! The cost? $199 a year! So yes, I will be renewing that in November and getting my butt back there.

Now do do more research on the different things I can do to improve my egg quality.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Thanks TwoToGo and Jess! I know, my Mom is awesome, and I have to remember she went through this exact same thing 40 years ago. She couldn't get pregnant either! My Dad had a low sperm count, but back then IVF wasn't even an option. You are right, I think she wants to see my happy, and she had the means to do so. That is why I'm a little less sad right now. At least I have something to prepare for, and look forward to!
So CoQ10 helps improve ovarian health too? I am also going to ask my FS what he thinks. I will wait until I get back from Canada and have had some time to put things in perspective and then I'm going to go talk with him and ask him what he thinks we should do, and if there are any supplements he would suggest. Waiting until December should allow me to do this under the radar at work so to speak, as I have a good amount of time off around the holidays. I think I get Dec 25th through Jan 3rd off, so if we can get the ER and ET done in that time period then that will be great! Plus my Mom will be staying with me so she can help out, YAY! So maybe things work in mysterious ways and happen for a reason? Maybe I shouldn't be so hard on God for forsaking me once again? Perhaps I was a little harsh with him last night. Bad Ali!

God didn't forsake you... We have to remember it is all in His perfect timing...which doesn't always coincide with our imperfect timing...

Well its kind of an ongoing anger I have with him, and this was just one more time I feel that he has not heard my pleas. All I have ever wanted in life was to find my person (the one I'm supposed to share my life with) and that has not happened. So in addition to not having that person, last night I was angry because it looked like he was going to deny my prayers for a baby too. I was in a woe is me kind of place, thinking I was destined to be alone. I am still a little sore about it, as I'm coming up on my 40th birthday and I'm still single So I think I just have to get over that hurdle, get these freaking hormones out of my body and regroup! The good news is that I'm heading to Canada on Thursday and I'll be with my family for Canadian Thanksgiving and my 40th B-day too!
Oh and my Mom did a wonderful thing for me too. She had been saving her engagement ring (the one from her marriage to my father) for my brother to give to his wife, but he is not going to get married. She had a conversation with him, and he agreed that it shouldn't sit in a box in a drawer, and that someone should be wearing it. So this summer while I was home she had me work with a top jeweler in Toronto to design a ring that I could wear everyday that didn't look like an engagement ring using the diamond in the setting. Well that is my 40th birthday gift! So that is something to look forward to as well! I can't wait to see it, and wear it, how special is that? Plus it was designed in kind of an eye, like the Egyptian eye. Which then has significance as it can be said that its my Dad watching over me. I must say I'm excited to have that bond with my Dad, as I miss him. He passed away when I was only 11 years old.
Again.. can I just say that I have the best family in the world? That is definitely something to be thankful for, and I think I better have another chat with the man upstairs, and apologize for being so angry last night.

You just made me tear up What an amazing family you have.

Come here and have sit on my couch will ya? My friends in high school used to call me Mother (last name) or Dr (last name). It wasn't long ago that I was single, lonely and just been cheated on by my bf of almost a year. No one could understand why I was single. A tall, attractive, (used to be) in amazing shape, smart, funny, amazing job, own my own apt...but welcome to Manhattan. The greatest city is also the hardest city sometimes. There is opportunity right outside your door, but most people have "the grass is greener" complex big time. A guy could be dating a former model turned doctor, and he will still believe "well if that is what I have now, what is right around the corner?". Everyone is always looking for the better job, body, bonus, friends, summer share, person to date...it is truly a rat race.

I had NEVER been set up before and it felt forced to me, BUT a girl I met at a work function said she had someone for me to meet. I waved it off, but 3 months later we were at a work function at a DMB concert at Citifield and she broached the topic again. I was being hit on by a hot 24yr old trader named Matt, he looked like a younger and taller Mark Whalberg and I swooned. This girl turned to me, and I will never forget this "Sue, he's hot but impractical, he's 24. I want you to meet my friend next month at this concert at Jones Beach." This time I agreed. Little did I know she had the reputation as the Waspy Matchmaker. We went to the concert and boom, there he was. It was instant. 16mos later we were married. If you had told me that would happen a few months before, I'd say you were nuts.

You will meet the right person when the time is right. For me it was being comfortable in my skin, and really not looking for it. Set ups are awesome b/c people can vouch for who someone is vs. online dating...which people purport themselves to be someone other than who they really are 9 times out of ten.

I was watching Oprah one day when I was home sick and she had a bunch of these power-30-somethings on and this woman said that "if you were told that 100% guaranteed, you will find the person you are meant to be with and it is going to be amazing, but there is one catch. It will be when you are 43. This is 100% GUARANTEED. What would you do?" The people sat there and pondered this question. She finally spoke and said "you would live your life to the fullest knowing that it would happen. So go do that anyway. It's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when."

That sat with me for a long time. You are doing exactly what you should be doing for you. Sometimes we don't meet the one, b/c we aren't a fully cooked baked potato yet. We still need 15min. Everyone's 15min are different. Some people need to improve themselves and lose weight, or get over their hang ups, mine was trust obvi...whatever work needs to be done to allow for the room in your life for someone else. I have many friends that are 40 and over and have never been married...but all the time I hear about people around our age meeting someone and just knowing. They cut thru the BS and get married. It will happen, but you have to believe it.

Have faith that it is in the plan for you, maybe not on your time table.

 

[Babywhisperer]

Good afternoon my lovely BnB friends!

Ali...I'm sorry about your pup not feeling well. About this IVF vacation thing...it sounds iunteresting, but a lot more research would be required. There are a ton of websites that come up regarding the subject. Some of the European ones sound fantastic! Apparently it is a lot less expensive to travel abroad for certain medical procedures. But the US is the world's leader in medical research and advances...maybe that is why we are so darn expensive. It would be nice if you could talk to someone that actually took one of those IVF vacations and got a BFP. But I am still holding out hope that you are getting your BFP in a day or so!

Coy...I am so sorry to hear about the fight with your DH. That really stinks. And it makes it so hard, if not impossible, to sleep. All I can say is sometimes tensions build, stress comes to a head, and then BAM!! It all releases in one form or another. I am sure he did not mean those terrible things he said. He is probably struggling a bit...maybe feeling like he is not adequately providing for his family. When my BF's training business was just getting started he was making next to nothing...like $600 a month. Can you say NO MONEY ? It was hard on us but I was excited first that he was able to persue a career that he really enjoyed. And two, that, even though I was at a job I didn't like so much, it still paid enough for me to take care of the three of us. Tensions were always high during that time for us. And after he got more clients and now makes as much as I do, he told me that it was hard for him because in his mind a real man is supposed to provide for his family. I think we see things differently as women. We see it as a collective effort to provide. I am sure things will get better.
And what is up with the sexual predator!!! OMG!! That is horrible!! I am so glad you taught your girls what to do. Are the police going to question him or arrest him or burn him or something?!?!? I think they should him!!

Baby...I don't know about DH and his ex. I can't offer any real good advice because everyone's situation is different. But I can say do not allow yourself to be in a stressfull situation. Being under stress like that while TTC or during pregnancy is so not good for you.

TwoToGo...I am so glad you are smilking and remembering the goodness of God. The potential job opportunity could be one of his blessings. Thank him in advance and keep pressing!! I like the idea about making the kids plan the menu, budget, and shop. Life skills!!

AFM...well showed up today, as I suspected she would. I feel horrible. Between my headache (allergies I think), AF, , , , and cooking and my thesis...well, all I want to do is sleep! But that is the pitiful side of me and fortunately that side doesn't come out too often nor for too long.
SO the good news is, this month I will have my reproductive are checked for any blockages, BF will be open to whatever he needs to do, my so turns 16 on October 23, I am NOT competing this month, the literature review for my thesis is 99% complete, and I am just about done with the household chores (thanks to BF and DS).
So, I am not going to complain.

I know, I have been thinking about it here and there, but if I forbid him he will continue to resent me. So let's meet the girl and hope we are too busy soon enough to have time for her...apparently she can be seriously annoying and pushy so I don't see dh having much time for that considering how busy we both have been. We were supposed to go into the city today for his friend's bday party...turns out it was yesterday. We both read the email as Sunday b/c we were so busy this week. And seriously, it's not like they talk all the time. It's a couple of harmless texts every few weeks. I keep having to remind myself, he was with her for 6yrs on and off and sated people in between. He had every opportunity to settle down with her and he didn't. Whatever the reason was has not changed. She is still cray cray.

So new competition coming up? That's awesome, and even better now that you are almost done with your thesis. I wish you lived in NY so you could train my fat ass. Are you on FB? Sorry about AF, but that's good she showed since it means you are not so low in bf or nutrients from training to get it. You are an incredibly strong woman and I admire your resilience and faith. I'm happy you are getting checked out for possible obstacles, it's better to be informed.

You ladies are awesome. Whatever hardships you have had to overcome, it's made you better human beings. Your families are lucky to have you, just as were here on BNB. It's great to have a place to come and vent, talk, share advice without judgment. I wish there were women like you where I lived...unfortunately it's like the Real Housewives of Fantasyland. What do you mean you work? What do you mean you only rent a townhouse? What do you mean you don't belong to a country club? I swear, now I know why it takes 7 days to get a

 

[Babywhisperer]

Good afternoon my lovely BnB friends!

Ali...I'm sorry about your pup not feeling well. About this IVF vacation thing...it sounds iunteresting, but a lot more research would be required. There are a ton of websites that come up regarding the subject. Some of the European ones sound fantastic! Apparently it is a lot less expensive to travel abroad for certain medical procedures. But the US is the world's leader in medical research and advances...maybe that is why we are so darn expensive. It would be nice if you could talk to someone that actually took one of those IVF vacations and got a BFP. But I am still holding out hope that you are getting your BFP in a day or so!

Coy...I am so sorry to hear about the fight with your DH. That really stinks. And it makes it so hard, if not impossible, to sleep. All I can say is sometimes tensions build, stress comes to a head, and then BAM!! It all releases in one form or another. I am sure he did not mean those terrible things he said. He is probably struggling a bit...maybe feeling like he is not adequately providing for his family. When my BF's training business was just getting started he was making next to nothing...like $600 a month. Can you say NO MONEY ? It was hard on us but I was excited first that he was able to persue a career that he really enjoyed. And two, that, even though I was at a job I didn't like so much, it still paid enough for me to take care of the three of us. Tensions were always high during that time for us. And after he got more clients and now makes as much as I do, he told me that it was hard for him because in his mind a real man is supposed to provide for his family. I think we see things differently as women. We see it as a collective effort to provide. I am sure things will get better.
And what is up with the sexual predator!!! OMG!! That is horrible!! I am so glad you taught your girls what to do. Are the police going to question him or arrest him or burn him or something?!?!? I think they should him!!

Baby...I don't know about DH and his ex. I can't offer any real good advice because everyone's situation is different. But I can say do not allow yourself to be in a stressfull situation. Being under stress like that while TTC or during pregnancy is so not good for you.

TwoToGo...I am so glad you are smilking and remembering the goodness of God. The potential job opportunity could be one of his blessings. Thank him in advance and keep pressing!! I like the idea about making the kids plan the menu, budget, and shop. Life skills!!

AFM...well showed up today, as I suspected she would. I feel horrible. Between my headache (allergies I think), AF, , , , and cooking and my thesis...well, all I want to do is sleep! But that is the pitiful side of me and fortunately that side doesn't come out too often nor for too long.
SO the good news is, this month I will have my reproductive are checked for any blockages, BF will be open to whatever he needs to do, my so turns 16 on October 23, I am NOT competing this month, the literature review for my thesis is 99% complete, and I am just about done with the household chores (thanks to BF and DS).
So, I am not going to complain.

I know, I have been thinking about it here and there, but if I forbid him he will continue to resent me. So let's meet the girl and hope we are too busy soon enough to have time for her...apparently she can be seriously annoying and pushy so I don't see dh having much time for that considering how busy we both have been. We were supposed to go into the city today for his friend's bday party...turns out it was yesterday. We both read the email as Sunday b/c we were so busy this week. And seriously, it's not like they talk all the time. It's a couple of harmless texts every few weeks. I keep having to remind myself, he was with her for 6yrs on and off and sated people in between. He had every opportunity to settle down with her and he didn't. Whatever the reason was has not changed. She is still cray cray.

So new competition coming up? That's awesome, and even better now that you are almost done with your thesis. I wish you lived in NY so you could train my fat ass. Are you on FB? Sorry about AF, but that's good she showed since it means you are not so low in bf or nutrients from training to get it. You are an incredibly strong woman and I admire your resilience and faith. I'm happy you are getting checked out for possible obstacles, it's better to be informed.

You ladies are awesome. Whatever hardships you have had to overcome, it's made you better human beings. Your families are lucky to have you, just as were here on BNB. It's great to have a place to come and vent, talk, share advice without judgment. I wish there were women like you where I lived...unfortunately it's like the Real Housewives of Fantasyland. What do you mean you work? What do you mean you only rent a townhouse? What do you mean you don't belong to a country club? I swear, now I know why it takes 7 days to get a

I guess it was my turn to be online alone, sigh

 

[jm1355]

I am on FaceBook...

https://www.facebook.com/#!/jessica.c.marek

 

[Babywhisperer]

I am on FaceBook...

https://www.facebook.com/#!/jessica.c.marek

Just sent you a msg. I'd die for your figure!! Damn that took a lot of hard work. Pretty pretty lady!

 

[jm1355]

I am on FaceBook...

https://www.facebook.com/#!/jessica.c.marek

Just sent you a msg. I'd die for your figure!! Damn that took a lot of hard work. Pretty pretty lady!

Thanks...I tracked my time at the gym for two months and it averages out to about 3 hours a day at the gym...everyday! Lol! I'll be glad when I get a BFP so I have an excuse not to go!! If I didn't love to eat so much it wouldn't be a problem... Ha!

Maybe it is taking a while to come through...but I haven't received a message from you yet...

 

[Babywhisperer]

I am on FaceBook...

https://www.facebook.com/#!/jessica.c.marek

Just sent you a msg. I'd die for your figure!! Damn that took a lot of hard work. Pretty pretty lady!

Thanks...I tracked my time at the gym for two months and it averages out to about 3 hours a day at the gym...everyday! Lol! I'll be glad when I get a BFP so I have an excuse not to go!! If I didn't love to eat so much it wouldn't be a problem... Ha!

Maybe it is taking a while to come through...but I haven't received a message from you yet...

3hrs a day every day? That isn't over training? When I was in peak condition I couldn't do more than 5 b/c I'd get run down and get sick. Then again I probably didn't have the diet or sleep you did. I'm impressed as hell!