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[Philomena]

Totally! I count me in as a Gluten Free Friend!!

 

[alicatt]

I'm feeling chatty tonight.. anyone around?

I finally had some energy today, and even took the doggies for a walk I'm contemplating hitting the gym tomorrow. I figure I'll work into it slowly, get a little bike ride in and then hit the pool and get 20 laps in. I used to do 30 km on the bike and 1.5 km in the pool when I was training for the sprint triathlon 2 years ago, then I injured my foot and couldn't complete the triathlon I realize that with my cycle starting soon, that I won't be able to do too much in the way of hard exercise, but maybe I can walk on the treadmill and swim? I'm going to start now, and will discuss things when I start stimming a few weeks. I know last month he didn't want me doing any exercise at all, and keeping pretty inactive towards the end of my stims and then during the 2 week wait. Even 2 days of bed rest right after transfer. Plus once my ovaries get all bloated and I have all those follicles I feel so monstrous it is uncomfortable to do much other than relax.

Oh, and on other news, my parents made the trek and are now in FL. They drove from Canada all the way south, and made it safely. That was a 1200 mile drive! I spoke to my Mom this afternoon, she sounded like she was exhausted, so I (with my stern voice) told her to get home and go to bed! LOL!

everyone!

 

[twotogo]

TwoToGo...Thanks for your reply! Wow! So, did you get pregnant the next month without the help of any other fertility treatments?

Hmmmm...if that happened to me that would be wonderful!!

My BF gets really tense whenever i talk about medical procedures. I thought it was because he really wasn't ready for a baby like he claimed he was. But it came out this week that he is actually afraid that the doctors will find out that I am not able to get pregnant. I really don't think that is the case and I will just have to do everything I can to calm his fears.

Thanks, again!

Jess, I did have help with other fertility treatments, but I had PCOS and had been on various forms of fertility drugs off and on for 6 years, so I really do think the hsg made the difference.

About the gluten... I had forgotten that it could cause infertility. I am gluten intolerant, and I have been a very bad girl the last few months. Well, consider me now gluten free! And sugar free! My blood sugar has been going a little wonky here lately. A is now my motivation for being good. So is losing a little weight. I think I would be happy to drop about 15-20 pounds.

 

[twotogo]

Coy - I agree with everything Jess said! Not only about the support you give, but also going on strike. I have done it, and it really does work. My DH and kids are now very helpful around the house for the most part. Actually, my daughter could probably run the house now singlehandedly (and do a better job than I).

AFM - I received a call from my doctor yesterday afternoon. She said there was increased density in the ducts under the areola in my left breast. She also said the radiologist wasn't concerned about the spot on my right breast. So, I have to go in Monday for another mammogram with more specific views, and I go in on Tuesday for an ultrasound of the area. So, we will just take it from there. Still not overly concerned. DH is being sweet about it and checking to make sure I'm okay mentally and emotionally with it all. I think he's surprised at how well I'm handling it.

My kids have a basketball tourney in Ft. Collins today, so we are leaving about 5:30 this morning to head out. It think it takes about 4 hours to get there. I woke up at 2:00 this morning, so I know my temp is WAYYY off. Need to get food in the cooler and some laundry done before we go. Have I mentioned lately how thankful I am for my washer?

Hope everyone has a great weekend!

 

[Babywhisperer]

Sorry ladies, I have some peeves I gotta get off my chest You can just ignore this post...

I think I am either getting a bit rundown or something, not sure at this point, but everything is getting on my nerves. I think because I am very driven person dh thinks I am infallible or something...I mean, when I had my mc in November I had to be rushed through to emergency surgery because of the hemorrhaging. When I got home that night dh expected me to cook dinner for everyone. That kinda hurt my feelings a bit as I thought he should have stepped up and done that. I know I put on the facade of "it's all okay" but that's for the benefit of the dd's....it's not really all okay, iykwim. Anyway, then I go through labor and I always push myself. I refuse the pain meds because they can be bad for baby but also because they slow progression...so I bite the bullet and push through hard and fast. Well, it is exhausting. We decided to spend the night in the hospital so I could rest but my youngest dd got homesick so dh said we should go home. Ends up 6 a.m. before I get to sleep. And because they chowed through all of the pre-made meals that I had set aside for after labor I had to get up early and cook for everyone- can't dh scramble an egg?! Aaargh! Anyways, that aside, I finally tell dh "you know, you have to change a diaper once in a while" as I have been doing all of it. So he tells me he is nervous as she is so tiny and will start changing diapers when she's bigger! So I'm doing it all. He does burp her once in a while and he watches her while she's sleeping. But I am doing all of the housecleaning, cooking, schooling of the dd's, doing my own school, I am doing ALL of the shopping, etc...he doesn't help me with any of it. He did go out and cut wood that one day but then I have to pack it all in the house and maintain the fire. I am getting pissed. I did finally come out and tell him that I can't do all of it and he needs to step up and do his share.

I know I can handle hard fast labor, I can handle surgery and I don't complain very often. I am not weak, I am strong. When I broke my ribs I kept doing hard labor too with no complaint although I was p'd that dh made me drive myself to the hospital! But that doesn't mean I'll take the world on for everyone just so they can sit back and watch movies all day. Sometimes I get sad because I feel like I do everything for the people I love and nothing is reciprocated.

Just like on Halloween- dh agreed he would take the dd's trick-or-treating so I could rest at home with babes- well he backed out last minute and he decided it'd be best if I go and he rest at home with babes Thanks for nothing, right?

I mean, I love my dh very much and I know he loves me and generally he is very supportive and encouraging in most things but when it comes to my physical stuff, well, he thinks I can split three ways and that I'm like superhuman or something....I know he has his own stuff to deal with but I get tired of thinking of everyone else all the time and putting myself out there literally and he doesn't do the same for me very often at all, especially when I really need it.
Ok, rant over, sorry

Your dh like my dh is spoiled!!! I did all the storm prep, firewood, batteries, candles, food, water, gas!!! He did nothing. I even waited in line for gas for 3hrs so he could use my car b/c he had less than an 1/8th of a tank b/c he was stubborn and didn't listen about filling up! I also had 2 gas tanks to fill for his brother! I had his whole family here b/c we were the only ones with power. I got everyone fed, showered, helped with their laundry, cleaned up after them and he did nothing. They know we will do it so they feel like they don't have to, and when we tell them to do something or help out they act like we are nags! It drives me nuts!!! We should all go on strike. I don't remember the last time dh saw the inside of a grocery store!

You do so much for everyone including us, dh better step up for you b/c it sets a bad example for dd's...they need to see him as a true partner so they know what to look for when they get older. You can vent anytime on here b/c we know how much you do, it's an amazing thing for your dd's...you make it all look possible!

Afm, woke up and got the witch! Not surprised. I am calling the Dr on Monday to see if I can get blood work done at NYU. He doesn't take insurance though and it costs $600 every time I go. He is very accommodating and is a high risk obgyn. He was referred to us by a close family friend who is an obgyn and he would only let my Dr deliver his daughters 3 kids. I just wonder if it's worth it. To get an appt with a Dr who takes insurance takes weeks here. I might look into the fertility team my friend went to since she had several mc's and tried for 3 years...she is the one who had ivf and is now due in Feb with twin boys.

Omg dh is dragging me to Benihana...I hope they are not open. Even if they make my food in the back with no butter or egg I always get sick afterwards. I miss eggs! I don't know what happened but out of the blue in the Fall last year I started getting sick after eating eggs. I can't even have a bite of mayo, tartar sauce, egg noodles...I may get tested again for high mercury since they say it causes egg allergies and I when they tested me a year ago I had 5x the amount of mercury than most people. I miss tuna! But hi mercury is bad for fertility.

Ok enough rambling about me.

Jess very happy to hear about the hsg. You will get your bfp soon, I can feel it.

Ali how is Zoe??

Babydust do you test again this month?? I think af is due next on the 30th if it's a 28dc. FX'd for you!!!

 

[alicatt]

Morning Ladies! You know, sometimes when I listen to you all rant about your DH's or BF's, I think maybe it is better to be alone? I know that they support you in other ways, and know that by no means would you want to be single, but sometimes I think wow.. at least I don't have to look after a man as well as myself, 2 dogs and maybe some babies too! I only say this in jest, but wow, they really do get spoiled!

OK so why don't you all go on strike this weekend Pamper yourself, do what you want to do and make DH do it all

AFM - I got my new iPhone 5 last night, so I got that loaded up with all my music and apps and it is all set! Only thing that bugs me is that it is a different size/shape than the iPhone 4, so I need to go buy a new protector, and it has a different plug which means it doesn't fit in any of my docking stations! That means I have to go and buy an adapter so I can charge it in my alarm clock/docking station at night, and another one to put it into the stereo. I'm sure the protector is going to be $30 or so, and the adapter I need is only available from Apple at the moment (others are starting to make it but its on back order) and its $30 per adapter. So I just spent $300 on a phone, and have to spend another $100 on accessories! Apple is a rip off when it comes to their accessories, why they have to be so expensive is beyond me. Maybe it is because they can! AHHH.

I'm going gluten free, can't wait! I remember feeling a whole lot better once I started eating gluten free. So I'm heading to the store here in a moment to get some GF foods, and then I'm going to get my hair done, and then it is off to bunco with the girls for girls night out!

The Vet called me this morning to tell me that Zoe's lump was not cancerous, it was just an immune response that went a little crazy (no idea what that means). So she is all set, and will have her stitches out next Friday. She is outside right now barking her head off at my neighbors that are out making a whole lot of noise working on their pool. She just jumped over a fallen branch like it was nothing, so I think she is on the mend!

BabyWhisperer - OMG $600 to see an OBGYN? That is well, unbelievable ! You could fly down here and see a specialist that was covered on your insurance and have a fun weekend for that! LOL. I really like my FS, he is kind of geeky looking, and when I first started seeing him he kind of talked down to me. Then once I started asking him very pointed questions he started opening up more and spoke to me like he would to another Dr, and I really like that. I want to be informed, I want to know his expert opinion on different protocols, and the pros/cons of them. I want to be able to make informed decisions. So now we understand each other. He even takes my insurance for the things that are covered by my insurance. I just have to pay out of pocket for the things that they don't cover. Which is most of it. If I were you I would skip the OBGYN and go right to a FS. He'll run all the right tests, and do all the right things, and then you know what you are dealing with. Most of that testing is covered by insurance, and depending on what your insurance is like, you may even get some $$ to put towards the treatments themselves. I'm on another board for IVFs, and some people here in the US have been given $10-12K lifetime to use towards infertility treatments. That would cover part of 1 IVF, so it is worth it to know 1) what is covered by your insurance, and 2) to find someone that takes your insurance. Just think, if you end up getting pregnant and choose to go see that Dr at NYU, you'll be paying $600 each time you have a check up, and I'd bet you would have anywhere from 20-30 checkups during your pregnancy. My insurance lets you search the provider directory for specalists, maybe you could do that and come up with a list of them in your area? Then call them Monday and see who can see you first? Get your blood work done, and HSG, and your DH should get an SA. Once that is done you will know what you are dealing with and may just need to try more, or if not, you can take your time then and seek out the right provider to move to the next step. on whatever you do!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi ladies!

Babywhisperer- nuts for AF showing up And yes- dh's sometimes get spoiled, I guess it's our fault for letting it happen? Doing too much maybe or just being too darn nice Wow for the 600 to see OBGYN! WOW! Spendy everywhere though, I don't have insurance now either so it's a no-go and better not get sick Odd, I never heard about mercury causing egg allergies. I am going to research it! I am afraid of mercury though so never eat fish or anything like that....

Ali- your comment "got sidetracked with Coy and her bad day" made me laugh hard! I do that, I side track myself too I am so happy Zoe has such great news! I bet you feel a ton better now without that stress hanging over you!

Ladies- thanks for letting me rant yesterday, I feel a lot better today and after finding myself crying because dh said he was going to bed last night my analytical mind convinced me it is largely due to the fall in hormones. I am thinking that is it as there is nothing remotely sad about dh going to sleep So today I am going to bear that in mind and try to focus differently. Exercise helps, and even though I am a bit limited right now, I can still work my arms and walk a lot Try to dredge some endorphins out of there somewhere! Ali- marriage can be a challenge but it is worth it - I really do have a great dh and he is a lot more supportive than I sometimes give him credit for. And I get incredibly bitchy sometimes and he doesn't say anything- I had to apologize for my bitchiness yesterday Men and women are different and sometimes those differences clash hard, but I have to remember to look above it, hard to do sometimes, but def worth it. Besides, my dh helps me make beautiful babies I will be cashing in on his "I'll wait till she's bigger" to change diapers promise. She'll just, um, make bigger loads then so he can have at it

Today I have to work on my course Final. Bleh. And shop groceries for the weekend. Meh.


Jess, TwoToGo, Alin, Babydust, Terri- all you newcomers--

 

[alicatt]

Coy, glad you are feeling better emotionally today! I am sure your hormones are all over the place right now. Still, you need your DH to help out in times when you are feeling overwhelmed. Maybe take a an hour each day for you!

I'm at the hair salon, getting my hair cut and colored. My grey needs to be hidden. What am I going to do when I'm pregnant? I'll have to use a henna based color I think, but they are only for dark hair and mine is light reddish brown. HMM.

I'm also worried because I think my period just got here, and they want it to be postponed until Nov 13! Yikes! What do I do?

 

[maggiemom1]

I figured I should get my FF chart up there too.. So I'm curious, why are my temps so low? Since I started temping this month, my temps are in the 96.6-97 degree range. Is this normal? Seems really low. This morning I was 96.17! The funny thing was that I felt warm, and comfortable. I was wrapped up in bed, and not cold at all. You'd think that if I was that cool I would want an extra blanket or something! Well not here in HOT sunny Florida, but how can I be that temp in the morning? Confused I am![/QUOTE]

Hi Ali! Silly girl that is what your basal body temperatures are supposed to look like Not laughing at you just laughing because I did the same thing when I started! Lol...see, when you rest your temp naturally goes down. Usually in the 96-97 range. You are supposed to be careful not to get up or anything when you temp as our bodies are very sensative and you will immediatly get a spikein temp Anyway, you will notice a pattern, for instance - 97.1, 97.2, 97.0, 97.2, - then when you ovulate you may see a 96.9 or something to indicate a brief drop in temp. Then after ovulation temp goes uuuppp- say, 97.6, 97.7, etc. And when your eggy implants you notice your temp will spike further at basal body level to something like 97.9- 98.1 etc. Crazy huh? But I have to tell you, when I started bbt'ing (basal body temping) I learned soooo much about how my body operates, I am so happy that I did this. Our temps give us for sure clues as to what's happening with our hormones. Pretty cool So far your temps look perfect In fact- I'd be using those opk's as I notice a temp dip today down to 96.2--possible Ov? Maybe tell your doc and have it checked?? I'm not sure...there are very ocassional fluke temps too (sorry, lol) [/QUOTE]

 

[maggiemom1]

I figured I should get my FF chart up there too.. So I'm curious, why are my temps so low? Since I started temping this month, my temps are in the 96.6-97 degree range. Is this normal? Seems really low. This morning I was 96.17! The funny thing was that I felt warm, and comfortable. I was wrapped up in bed, and not cold at all. You'd think that if I was that cool I would want an extra blanket or something! Well not here in HOT sunny Florida, but how can I be that temp in the morning? Confused I am!

Hi Ali! Silly girl that is what your basal body temperatures are supposed to look like Not laughing at you just laughing because I did the same thing when I started! Lol...see, when you rest your temp naturally goes down. Usually in the 96-97 range. You are supposed to be careful not to get up or anything when you temp as our bodies are very sensative and you will immediatly get a spikein temp Anyway, you will notice a pattern, for instance - 97.1, 97.2, 97.0, 97.2, - then when you ovulate you may see a 96.9 or something to indicate a brief drop in temp. Then after ovulation temp goes uuuppp- say, 97.6, 97.7, etc. And when your eggy implants you notice your temp will spike further at basal body level to something like 97.9- 98.1 etc. Crazy huh? But I have to tell you, when I started bbt'ing (basal body temping) I learned soooo much about how my body operates, I am so happy that I did this. Our temps give us for sure clues as to what's happening with our hormones. Pretty cool So far your temps look perfect In fact- I'd be using those opk's as I notice a temp dip today down to 96.2--possible Ov? Maybe tell your doc and have it checked?? I'm not sure...there are very ocassional fluke temps too (sorry, lol) [/QUOTE][/QUOTE]

 

[maggiemom1]

I so new to this, I was wondering ladies could you please look at my graph, im with duo fertility for 4 months, my cover line is 35, my last cycle lasted 2 days and since then my temps are climbing, It is now over 37.44. ttc for 3 years please need advice and duo is messing me around.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- thanks Re: your period. Are you bleeding like a normal flow? Then I'd call your doc and see what (s)he says. I am not sure what to do if they wanted to post-pone it until the 13th--that's 10 days away! This bcp that you are on....does it have like a five-day placebo pill included so that you DO get your period? ..........

Maggie- your chart looks like a post-ovulation chart...the way your temps are climbing def indicates that ovulation has occurred...maybe around CD7 or CD8, which would put you at 14DPO. Your temps are nice and high, have you tested with an hpt yet?

 

[alicatt]

Ali- thanks Re: your period. Are you bleeding like a normal flow? Then I'd call your doc and see what (s)he says. I am not sure what to do if they wanted to post-pone it until the 13th--that's 10 days away! This bcp that you are on....does it have like a five-day placebo pill included so that you DO get your period? ..........

Maggie- your chart looks like a post-ovulation chart...the way your temps are climbing def indicates that ovulation has occurred...maybe around CD7 or CD8, which would put you at 14DPO. Your temps are nice and high, have you tested with an hpt yet?

Yes it does come with those placebo pills, but I'm to ignore those and only take the normal ones. They told me to start on Oct 7th and keep taking them until Nov 13th (so that is more than the normal 24 days). I've had spotting almost the entire time actually, it seems to be a little more than yesterday but still spotting, it is more the feeling like AF is coming that I am feeling right now. This is when I should have had my period since it has been a month since it was here, and I am usually about 30 days. My last period started on Oct 4th, so yep, that was 30 days ago! Clockwork.. UGH. They did say, that if I started spotting to take 2 pills until it went away, so I think I will take 2 tonight.

Off in a few mins for bunco. Have a nice evening ladies!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Ali- awesome, I am glad you have an enforcement plan in place! Take the two definately...bunco tonight? Have some fun girl!!

 

[Grey Eyes]

Where is everyone? ..............

Well, I'm here so I'll chat!

Just got back from grocery shopping with my helper Kat We had fun. 'Course, we browsed the toys too just for fun....I am teaching my dd's to window shop While we did that T studied her math and got a grade of E for excellent! I am proud of her! That's about a 95% in correct answers, so pretty darned good Baking a lemon chicken for dinner, not sure what to have with it...salad? I am trying to lose this excess stuff from my belly! Although I am shrinking day by day. I am wearing jeans that are more than roomy now that I could not button yesterday so I am making progress My belly is still a bit swollen but tons smaller than it was. I tried my size 5 jeans - still won't button but I am determined! I usually wear a 0-2 in jean size but I am working hard to get back to it by mid December....let's see if I can do it

 

[alicatt]

Where is everyone? ..............

Well, I'm here so I'll chat!

Just got back from grocery shopping with my helper Kat We had fun. 'Course, we browsed the toys too just for fun....I am teaching my dd's to window shop While we did that T studied her math and got a grade of E for excellent! I am proud of her! That's about a 95% in correct answers, so pretty darned good Baking a lemon chicken for dinner, not sure what to have with it...salad? I am trying to lose this excess stuff from my belly! Although I am shrinking day by day. I am wearing jeans that are more than roomy now that I could not button yesterday so I am making progress My belly is still a bit swollen but tons smaller than it was. I tried my size 5 jeans - still won't button but I am determined! I usually wear a 0-2 in jean size but I am working hard to get back to it by mid December....let's see if I can do it

AHHHHH.. I understand your need to wear a size 0-2 jean again, but I'm a little jealous I wear a plus size 16 right now, what I wouldn't give to wear a regular 10, that is what I would like to be. I doubt I will get to that point before my next cycle, but I would like to lose 15-20 lbs this month. That is my goal!

I have been a pretty good girl today. No Gluten! and I just took the doggies for a walk! I decided to dress up a little today and I wore a dress, just a casual dress, then I went and got my hair done, and then went on to bunco, and had a great time! The girls know I'm trying to get pregnant, so they were all asking how that was going, I told them that I am taking the month off and starting again next cycle. It is sweet that they were asking! I also one the most buncos and came home with $20! They were funny though, they were like, why are you in a dress? I just said, I wanted to look and feel good today, and if I wear a new outfit or dress up a little I always feel like I have a bounce in my step, do you know what I mean?

I have a full day tomorrow, going to get my nails done, car washed, finish my laundry, complete my grocery shopping and hopefully clean the yard. Oh, and give Zach a bath! I can't give Zoe a bath yet, Vet asked that I wait until the stitches have come out before I bathe her.

I love you ladies!!!

 

[alicatt]

TwoToGo - I am not sure if I mentioned anything about your results. I did find this article that sounds like it might be what you have:

https://breastcancer.about.com/od/whenitsnotcancer/p/duct_ectasia.htm

If so, it is non-cancerous, and will likely clear up with anti-biotics. It is still important to make sure, but hopefully that is all it is!

 

[Grey Eyes]

O my heck ladies....Talk about needing support! WTF is it with me, I am wondering if I have a "Kick Me" sign on my backside or what....just got hit with a citation...someone is accusing me of something and say they have video...well I did not commit the alleged act and the video believe it or not actuaklly supports my innocence. The individual who is accusing me is a former competative manager and I am wondering if they caught wind that I won my case recently and just want to cause me grief? Whatever it is I have to fork out for an attorney again When it rains..yep, it pours. Like I need stresssssss!

...................... I could take a break ANYTIME God (my prayer).....

 

[maggiemom1]

Ali- thanks Re: your period. Are you bleeding like a normal flow? Then I'd call your doc and see what (s)he says. I am not sure what to do if they wanted to post-pone it until the 13th--that's 10 days away! This bcp that you are on....does it have like a five-day placebo pill included so that you DO get your period? ..........

Maggie- your chart looks like a post-ovulation chart...the way your temps are climbing def indicates that ovulation has occurred...maybe around CD7 or CD8, which would put you at 14DPO. Your temps are nice and high, have you tested with an hpt yet?

Thanlyou for replying grey eyes, I am with duo fertility and then told me to test on the day you said I ovulated, then my temps went higher and they told me it was a hormonal imbalance, I asked my doctor that day and she said my cycle is to regular to have a hormone imbalance, so I told duo fertility they then said do another test, I didnt thought I would wait until cycle was due,, but since duo have sent me nothing and my temps have got in the 37 range. highest my temp ever went after ovulation is 36. thankyou for reply just so confused spent nearly 500 pounds on support and getting nothing.xxxx

 

[twotogo]

TwoToGo - I am not sure if I mentioned anything about your results. I did find this article that sounds like it might be what you have:

https://breastcancer.about.com/od/whenitsnotcancer/p/duct_ectasia.htm

If so, it is non-cancerous, and will likely clear up with anti-biotics. It is still important to make sure, but hopefully that is all it is!

Thanks for the info, Ali! I'll keep you updated on what they find out.