Welcome to 'Trying To Conceive Over 35'

[alicatt]

Ali- I love your list of achievements for 2013!

1. Clear out the clutter in my house!--Nah.... Come work on my house instead Now THAT needs work!
2. Get back to the gym and continue on with my smoke free, gluten free healthy lifestyle!--Perfect Healthy new beginnings
3. Make a baby! -- Perking, perking...Very soon now!
4. Get the TCS Technical Team Lead position at work!--Already in the bag!
5. Meet a man! --That will happen without your even trying!
Hope your champagne headache is better now....No such luck for me as I am breastfeeding I worried about it. I bought a bottle of dh's favorite white wine but we skipped it. He knew I couldn't have it so he skipped it too -awww...lol I did get a sip of his Mexcian beer however, lol. Big partier, huh?!

Never- I hope you get time to rest and kudos for trying to get your dh more active!

Phil- can't wait to meet that gorgeous new girl!

Babywhisperer- how was your New Year welcoming? Did you celebrate?

TwoToGo, Angel, Babydust, Terri, Samsfan, FirstTry--all of you wonderful ladies- Hope you have the best year ever!!!

AFM- Crazy day- I have been trying to get on here and read all your posts but keep getting dragged away as soon as I sit in front of the computer Babes is crying or needs changed or the dd's are fighting, or on and on....Anywho I have to get to the store before they close today to shop for dinner. Have no clue what tp make I'll figure it out. Will post more soon when I get a chance lol!

I'm only a senior TCS analyst right now, my goal this year is to mentor the team and if I do that well then this time next year I am hoping for the Team/Technical lead position.

My list is a daunting one, but I'll git 'er done!

Sorry your DD's are taking all of your time! I'm thinking of ordering in GF pizza for dinner tonight. What about make your own pizza? We used to do that as kids. Mom would buy some English muffins and split them in half. Then get some pizza sauce or spaghetti sauce, mozzarella, green pepper, pepperoni, mushrooms or whatever else you and the family like and voila! They each make their own pizza, pop them in the oven for 10-15 mins and voila! Dinner!

 

[AngelSerenity]

Coy - I hope you get to the store in time!

So what are everybody else's resolutions?



I'm in a dilemma ladies, a silly one and I just need to talk about it to think out the best approach. I havent even told my DH I've got the all clear to TTC again and I just don't know what to do about it either. I'll probably be redundant by April, or fingers crossed just started a new job so the timing to TTC isnt great. He has been on a 3-day week since last May. But at 38 1/2 (DH is 43) I don't have the luxury to put it off for 6months to a year either. I'm just scared of telling DH and us having a big heated debate over the issue. He also said to me that we were having only one more try at this and that's it so I've already decided if we get another BFP in 2013 I'm not telling him for a while . He could be the type also to be an insensitive a**hole over the issue, can't they all, even though he does want more children so I just dont know what to do . I really need to approach it soon because if this is AF ovulation time will be in a fortnight!


I know I need to tell him obviously but I just don't know the best way to do it to get the results I need


The option of not telling him isn't really feasible as my DH likes to vary the 'homerun' during , if you know what I mean!!!!!!


Any advice ladies?

 

[alicatt]

Coy - I hope you get to the store in time!

So what are everybody else's resolutions?



I'm in a dilemma ladies, a silly one and I just need to talk about it to think out the best approach. I havent even told my DH I've got the all clear to TTC again and I just don't know what to do about it either. I'll probably be redundant by April, or fingers crossed just started a new job so the timing to TTC isnt great. He has been on a 3-day week since last May. But at 38 1/2 (DH is 43) I don't have the luxury to put it off for 6months to a year either. I'm just scared of telling DH and us having a big heated debate over the issue. He also said to me that we were having only one more try at this and that's it so I've already decided if we get another BFP in 2013 I'm not telling him for a while . He could be the type also to be an insensitive a**hole over the issue, can't they all, even though he does want more children so I just dont know what to do . I really need to approach it soon because if this is AF ovulation time will be in a fortnight!


I know I need to tell him obviously but I just don't know the best way to do it to get the results I need


The option of not telling him isn't really feasible as my DH likes to vary the 'homerun' during , if you know what I mean!!!!!!


Any advice ladies?

Angel.. I'm probably not the best person to give advice on marriage.. lol But if it were me I would broach the subject with him as rationally as possible. Only giving this one more shot is not realistic. It may take a few more tries as you suffer from RPL. That is something I have been researching lately and am going to ask my FS about testing me for it. There are a few things you can try if your Dr is willing: intralipids by infusion, neupogen, dexamethasone, and loxenox. All aid in RPL. The intralipids is like a vitamin and nutrient boost for your immune system and is not really a drug. It takes about 2 hours to administer and lasts for a month. The others are drugs that either thin your blood or boost it with white blood cells. So you might want to discuss this at your next appt.
As for waiting or not, I wouldn't, that is the one lesson I have learned during this whole process.. we have to jump on our fertility now and everything else will just happen.

 

[AngelSerenity]

Thanks Ali, they dont seem to do intralipids here where I am but I am on a good protocol now for TTC and for when I get my next BFP which includes a pile of high dose vitamins and minerals and blood thinners so I'm praying we are now all good to go from that perspective now.

Thanks for the support re not waiting, I sometimes think I'm mad with our work situation but at the end of the day what is worse that can happen? We'll be redundant and possibly lose the house as we are in negative equity, and even bankrupt, but I could have another rainbow which I just have to focus on!!!!!!

I dont think it would come to that, I really need to start investigating all these options more now to prepare just in case x


Now, to the complexities, or is that simplicities, of the male brain..........

 

[alicatt]

Thanks Ali, they dont seem to do intralipids here where I am but I am on a good protocol now for TTC and for when I get my next BFP which includes a pile of high dose vitamins and minerals and blood thinners so I'm praying we are now all good to go from that perspective now.

Thanks for the support re not waiting, I sometimes think I'm mad with our work situation but at the end of the day what is worse that can happen? We'll be redundant and possibly lose the house as we are in negative equity, and even bankrupt, but I could have another rainbow which I just have to focus on!!!!!!

I dont think it would come to that, I really need to start investigating all these options more now to prepare just in case x


Now, to the complexities, or is that simplicities, of the male brain..........

As I said.. your fertility is fleeting at our age.. but new job opportunities will crop up when you least expect it. I am sure the economy is just as horrible there as it is there, but I managed to find a new job, and while it was for less money than I was used to, it has paid off, I'm now in the position to make even more money come my next review. I'm almost back to where I was when the economy took a crap, and by next year I should be sitting pretty again. I'm sure that you and your DH will find better paying jobs, especially once you have another mouth to feed. When push comes to shove, those of us with the determination will prevail. So keep on trying, and as for your DH, he may be looking out for you, as he probably doesn't want to see you go through MC after MC again. So if you talk to him and let him know that another means more to you than the sadness of going through another possible MC again, he will hopefully agree and you can keep trying. As you said, you are on a protocol now that should improve your chances of having the bean stick. So tell him that you were given the all clear and get to make it happen!

 

[never_give_up]

Thanks Ali I think you're right, dh will only exercise when it's a sport. We are going to Barbados theh 18th Feb for 12 days so he will be doing watersports and alot of swimming then. After the trip might be a good time to join the gym since he will have already done some cardio

Angel I agree with Ali. By telling your dh that you are ready to start ttcing again (and that you are emotionally ready for it) this will make a big difference to how he feels and reacts. He must hate seeing you go through the pain of miscarriages. Very well said by the way Ali. Have you ever thought of having an advice column? You have a great way of explaining things

 

[alicatt]

Thanks Ali I think you're right, dh will only exercise when it's a sport. We are going to Barbados theh 18th Feb for 12 days so he will be doing watersports and alot of swimming then. After the trip might be a good time to join the gym since he will have already done some cardio

Angel I agree with Ali. By telling your dh that you are ready to start ttcing again (and that you are emotionally ready for it) this will make a big difference to how he feels and reacts. He must hate seeing you go through the pain of miscarriages. Very well said by the way Ali. Have you ever thought of having an advice column? You have a great way of explaining things

HEHE.. I'm great at giving advice to others, not great at dealing with my own issues. If I were, I would be married with 3.4 kids and be a size 6! Oh well, we all have your crosses to bear. I'm finally motivated to deal with some of my issues, and I hope that I will make a dent in them this year. That is why New Years is always such a wonderful time. You have the entire year ahead of you to make good choices and accomplish your goals!

I am envious! I wish I was going to Barbados! I haven't been back since I was 10! I bet it has changed a lot since I was a girl. My grandparents used to have a house in Rockley (I think). We used to go visit them when I was little for spring break. Where did you live when you lived there? I have wonderful memories of my times there. Some day I will go back!

If your DH likes watersports, then maybe you can join a gym where there is a pool? Do you scuba dive? Maybe you could enroll in a scuba course when you get back? That would get you out and exercising and having fun at the same time!

 

[never_give_up]

I moved to Barbados when I was 10 years old. We had just returned to Canada after living in South Korea for 4 years. I am Canadian but didn't live there long My parents and I lived on the west coast. St Peter and then when I started working I moved to St James near the university of the west indies. You stayed near dh's favorite beach in Barbados. He likes the waves. I used to scuba dive when I was a teenager and dh too but we just stick to snorkelling to as we would have to become re-certified after so many years of not scuba diving. In Maryland we are 3 hours from Ocean city and the water is too cold for me

 

[Philomena]

Today might be the day. Will update as soon as I can. Send me and Babes good birthing energy, ladies!

 

[alicatt]

Today might be the day. Will update as soon as I can. Send me and Babes good birthing energy, ladies!

YAy Phil! I hope everything goes well!

 

[never_give_up]

So excited for you Phil! Thinking of you

I got a positive opk today Yay! I was testing with FMU and read that it was best to test later when LH rises so tested at midday. I should have asked you ladies! DH woke me up to babydance at 2am. Must be all the maca I've been putting in his smoothies

 

[alicatt]

So excited for you Phil! Thinking of you

I got a positive opk today Yay! I was testing with FMU and read that it was best to test later when LH rises so tested at midday. I should have asked you ladies! DH woke me up to babydance at 2am. Must be all the maca I've been putting in his smoothies

YAY! So happy you are surging, and that your DH must have known and you guys hit the window perfectly! YAY!


Any News Phil? Can't wait to hear the news!

 

[alin3boys]

Happy new year everyone

phil so excited that baby maybe on the way (its my sisters birthday today)

ali new year goals sound good lol

never give up great news your surging i always test at 2 pm and 6pm

my new year resolutions
1 : Get my house finished,carpets throughout are all ordered and payed for,new sofa and bathroom suite paid for just need hubby to finish putting walls up and deco before everything goes in.

2: get pg (hubby brought in a load of pg tests on new years day lol about 50 so will keep me going for about a week pmsl).
.
3: spend more alone time with hubby odd night away (preferably around ov time lol

4. have days out as a family.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Phil! Any news yet???! I can't wait! Sending loads of good baby energy your way...

 

[Grey Eyes]

My new years resolutions:

1) Lose 10 pounds and get a six-pack (abs)so I can fit my bikini this summer

2) Get a tan!

3) Get a job -aaargh!- once Aeryn is not so boob-needy

4) MOVE

5) Teach Kat to read

6) Learn kata from dh
Lol, none of these are in order of importance of course and just roughly off the top of my head......we'll see what I can get done...

 

[Philomena]

Hi Ladies.... ok, so not really any news yet.... in early labour.... STILL in early labour.... every time I lay down it slows down.... I thought today was going to be the day, now it looks like I just get to enjoy the experience of boring, boring early labour.... contractions irregular and I can still talk through them and do stuff.... but I am SO BORED!! I just want her to get here already!!
*grin*
Will update when I can!
phil.

 

[Grey Eyes]

Hi Ladies.... ok, so not really any news yet.... in early labour.... STILL in early labour.... every time I lay down it slows down.... I thought today was going to be the day, now it looks like I just get to enjoy the experience of boring, boring early labour.... contractions irregular and I can still talk through them and do stuff.... but I am SO BORED!! I just want her to get here already!!
*grin*
Will update when I can!
phil.

Squat! That's what I did and she started to pop right out

 

[Samsfan]

Hey Ladies--- Philomena!!! Philomena!!!! Philomenia!!!! Rooting for you!!!

I caught a stomach flu... Terrible achy body...Chills...Haven't eaten all day. I went to work and came home early. Slept all day and my husband took me to my first acupuncture appointment What a way to start a new year!!! Stinks

Acupuncture went well. Felt a little better after the session. I don't know if it was the session or the motrin I took. My stomach was killing me and I've been extremely bloated.

Well ladies.. I hope this goes away soon..so I feel healthy enough to take on my hurdles.

Also...the puppies aren't mine.. They are labs. I have one of my own. I love the picture because its so symbolic of fertility... something I wish for everyone on this board!!!!! I can stare at them all day too!!!!!

 

[TerriLou]

Hello ladies, I'm 40 and have been ttc #1 for about 9 months. Very regular 28 day cycle ovulating around day 14, but nothing so far. I haven't told anyone in real life so I thought i would come here and see if it's a good substitution. I was using the CBE monitor but stopped last month because I swear it made me crazy! I'd get the thumbs up from it and it was like I was possessed "DH in me NOW!" I'm usually pretty reasonable and stress free but the whole TTC is really stressful and making me nuts. I've tried to relax and if it happens great, if not, that's ok too, but that is hard to do after I've actually thought about what our child might be like. Anyway, before I get too chatty, I just wanted to say hi and thanks for being out there.

Welcome Peacenik, you'll find some lovely ladies to chat to on here, if you need a rant or just a little bit of support, you've found the right place.

I'm 37 and have been trying for about 2 years. My cycles are very irregular, some have been about 30 days, but then, others nearer 60 or even 90. Our Doctors here won't look at anything infertility wise until you have been trying for 2 years. I had a miscarriage in 2011, so they count it from that cycle, which is really frustrating. All they say is "Well, it happened, so it'll happen again!"

Fingers crossed for you, here's hoping 2013 is our year for everyone in this forum.

Terri - I'm going to disagree and say your doctor has told you balls . In normal circumstances the NHS dont usually investigate until 2 years, but if you are in the over 35+ category they should see you after 6 months or a year maximum if unsuccessful in conceiving. Get onto them and complain. I've seen this in print somewhere, try googling it for the health trust you are in. xo

Thanks Angel, I thought this, which is why last time I went, I stamped my feet, TBH, I nearly burst out crying. He did bring up all his rules on his computer and it did say despite age on there, so maybe our area is different. Its very frustrating, but we have the ball rolling now, we get the results of DHs SA on 21st, thats the first date both of us and the Doctor could make. We will then be discussing what next. I will again be demanding they look at things because its 'doing my head in'. Its so upsetting having such long cycles and then have them ending in a BFN! We will get there, I'm certainly not giving up.

I was looking at a Fostering website yesterday as my friend is a Foster carer, kind of hoping that if I start looking at another way, something will happen for us, but I don't really think I could do fostering, I know its a great thing for people to do and it is needed so much, but I've seen what my friend is like when she has to hand them back. She had twins that were 3 years old for about 6 months and had to give them back in October, she was heartbroken. I don't know if I could put us through that. Besides, we want one of our own.

How are you Angel? I see your temp went down again yesterday, did she arrive? If it is going to be AF, I hope she hurries up for you. Its the worse time, when you know she's on her way, but takes her wicked time about it.

 

[TerriLou]

Phil, I'm so excited, it may be early labour, but you know she will be here soon. I hope you're not in too much discomfort.

There is a programme on telly over here called "One Born Every Minute" Don't know if you guys over the pond will get it, but its amazing. When Ian 'hears' that I'm watching it, he can't understand why I want to put myself through it, all he can hear is Women in pain. I told him it would be worth everything just to be able to bring up something we have made. He smiles, but still can't watch it. He has already told me that he doesn't think he could be there when I give birth as he couldn't bare to see me in pain. I think he'd be sitting outside the room. I have a feeling it'd be his Mum with me. Knowing her, she'll come and stay with us when its nearly time. Good job we get on really well eh?