Aidan's Mummy
Mummy to Aidan and Oliver
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as many of you know im 16 and expecting my lil boy in 7 weeks
well im entitled to all the benifits in the uk that every mum gets. So i wasnt worried about buying nappies, clothes for Aidan and anything he needs really
well im living with my mum and dad and they said they would support me and there would be no need to get my own house with the council.
Anyway dad told me today that all the benifits i get for aidan have to go to him becasue they are having to support me and OH and it costs alot. Well im really gratefull to him for supporting us but he gets child benifits for both me and OH cos we are still in full time eductaion
and that money isnt for me and OH anyway its for aidan and everything he needs. So i said this to my dad and my dad was like we have to pay for the extra shopping somehow.
say what?? i mean they wouldnt have to buy anything for aidan i will pay for everything he needs out of the benifits i get.
and then he turned round and goes we have a certain amount of money in the bank for rent and when that goes im not going into my savings to pay for the house so i will put myself on the streets and give the house up.
at this point i nearly started to cry i mean it wouldnt just be him that he was putting on the street it would be me mum, OH, and Aidan all together.
I just dont get why he didnt say this when i first got pregnant and i was offered a house, not leave it 7 weeks before my bloody due date and have me panicking about what we are going to do.
I asked if mum knew of his plans and he said no. So should i mention it to her
im really grateful for what he does for us but i really need that moeny to buy things for Aidan cos as you all know babies are expensive.
God am i being selfish for being upset??
Any advice girls
xx
as many of you know im 16 and expecting my lil boy in 7 weeks
well im entitled to all the benifits in the uk that every mum gets. So i wasnt worried about buying nappies, clothes for Aidan and anything he needs really
well im living with my mum and dad and they said they would support me and there would be no need to get my own house with the council.
Anyway dad told me today that all the benifits i get for aidan have to go to him becasue they are having to support me and OH and it costs alot. Well im really gratefull to him for supporting us but he gets child benifits for both me and OH cos we are still in full time eductaion
and that money isnt for me and OH anyway its for aidan and everything he needs. So i said this to my dad and my dad was like we have to pay for the extra shopping somehow.
say what?? i mean they wouldnt have to buy anything for aidan i will pay for everything he needs out of the benifits i get.
and then he turned round and goes we have a certain amount of money in the bank for rent and when that goes im not going into my savings to pay for the house so i will put myself on the streets and give the house up.
at this point i nearly started to cry i mean it wouldnt just be him that he was putting on the street it would be me mum, OH, and Aidan all together.
I just dont get why he didnt say this when i first got pregnant and i was offered a house, not leave it 7 weeks before my bloody due date and have me panicking about what we are going to do.
I asked if mum knew of his plans and he said no. So should i mention it to her
im really grateful for what he does for us but i really need that moeny to buy things for Aidan cos as you all know babies are expensive.
God am i being selfish for being upset??
Any advice girls
xx