silverbell
Adopted Little Pink :)
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Hey everybody.
We're 1 failed DIVF away from going ahead with adoption and I've been reading more about it.
I know it can be a long process and I just wondered if there is anything I can do now that would help if we do start the adoption process? My husband has some credit card debt and I read somewhere yesterday that this is the sort of thing questioned at a Panel. Also after the DIVF we won't have any real savings to speak of ... will this be another black mark?
The one thing that's really worrying me is that my DH has zero experience with children and my only experience has been with my younger brother who was born when I was 11. We've had no child contact other than that and I'm worried that will look bad.
Furthermore, this may sound a bit strange to most but we have no real friends that we meet up with etc. We're both very much in love and spend all our spare time together - we've never been much for friends and although I have a lot of online friends, I don't have any friends offline where I live (and am perfectly happy with this). I'm worried this will look bad to a Panel with regards to a local support network? But at the same time I'm not really sure how to change this, as this is my nature. We spend a lot of time together.
It's sad that you don't have to think about any of these things if you manage to TTC naturally, but I just wondered if there was anything we could be doing now that might help us further down the line with the adoption process, either in relation to the above or if there's anything else I'm missing.
We're 1 failed DIVF away from going ahead with adoption and I've been reading more about it.
I know it can be a long process and I just wondered if there is anything I can do now that would help if we do start the adoption process? My husband has some credit card debt and I read somewhere yesterday that this is the sort of thing questioned at a Panel. Also after the DIVF we won't have any real savings to speak of ... will this be another black mark?
The one thing that's really worrying me is that my DH has zero experience with children and my only experience has been with my younger brother who was born when I was 11. We've had no child contact other than that and I'm worried that will look bad.
Furthermore, this may sound a bit strange to most but we have no real friends that we meet up with etc. We're both very much in love and spend all our spare time together - we've never been much for friends and although I have a lot of online friends, I don't have any friends offline where I live (and am perfectly happy with this). I'm worried this will look bad to a Panel with regards to a local support network? But at the same time I'm not really sure how to change this, as this is my nature. We spend a lot of time together.
It's sad that you don't have to think about any of these things if you manage to TTC naturally, but I just wondered if there was anything we could be doing now that might help us further down the line with the adoption process, either in relation to the above or if there's anything else I'm missing.